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SOFT SKILLS & EQ
āTo get ahead, you have to get alongā.
Your ability to exercise self-control, develop self-awareness, empathise and get along with other people is integral to āsuccessā.
š¤·š»āāļøWhat is success? Is it simply winning/losing - or is it more nuanced than that? Of course it is!
š¾Tim Henman is this weeks DTMTS guest. He reached four Wimbledon semi-finals, losing to the Champion each time. He was ranked number four in the world. Yet there is a narrative in some parts that he is a āclassic British loserā. Itās ridiculous! How many people become the fourth best in the world at their job?
š¤Henman was not tipped for big things as a junior, and raised the bar for British tennis on a big way. His success helped seed the ground for the success that @andymurray enjoyed in 2013 and 2016.
šFor Tim, success means maximising your potential. I wouldnāt argue. The āchokerā narrative shows how fickle approval is too. Pinning our well-being on what other people think (or we think they think!) is a fools errand. Far better to find intrinsic self-worth, which is in there waiting to be (re)discovered!
š„I loved chatting to Tim. We actually go way back! Quite a funny story actually how - have a listen. Link in bio šš
šāāļøSiobhan-Marie OāConnor swam the third fastest time in history at the Rio Olympics (second really, as one of the quicker two was wearing a speedy shiny suit).
š„²Last week, she announced her retirement ages just 25 to focus on her health. She has the painful, debilitating and potentially very serious condition ulcerative colitis. A key path on her journey has been acceptance, something we all have to embrace sooner or laterā¦ š
POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS š¤
Lots of people extol the benefits of using positive affirmations to boost your self worth. The idea being that if you say statements like āI am lovableā enough, eventually you will start genuinely believing it.
The evidence doesnāt back it up, however. Dr Russ Harris is one of the worldās leading Acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) trainers - have a listen. Full episode in bio.
ANXIETY š±
Anxiety is normal. More than that, it is necessary. Itās not the feelings themselves that cause problems, but our desire to get rid of them.
Allow Dr. Russ Harris to explain šāŗļø
THE RUMINATOR
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āHe travels through time thinking about potential outcomes to certain scenariosā
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Loved chatting to Clarke Carlisle - aka āBritainās brainiest (ex)footballerā - for this weekās DTMTS. Heās had well publicised mental health issues - including five attempts on his own life - but has now learnt so much he helps other people struggling with their mr tsk health. We talked about the danger of avoiding uncomfortable emotions - which can lead to addictions of various kinds including overthinking. We talked about how we form self-limiting beliefs in childhood which can run our lives from the shadows of left unexamined, the difference between responding and reacting abs learning not to automatically identify with thoughts that pop in our heads. Clarke is very funny and full of wisdom, really enjoyed this ep,
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#mentalhealth #football #Terminator #ruminator #overthinking #addiction #DTMTS
LETTING GO
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So many of us want to feel in control and to know how things are going to turn out. But the reality is we donāt know what is going to happen five minutes from now, let alone in six months or a year. The challenge then is to let go of trying to control outcomes, to instead adopt an attitude of exploration.
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Sport is such a great example of this. You have to show up and put the work in but then you have to let go and see what happens. In @goldiesayers case that meant literally and metaphorically! Do the work, then let go and see what happens. Get comfortable with uncertainty.
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#Olympics #DTMTS #javelin #surrender #letgo #explore #control
Weāve all heard it before. āItās all about winning trophies.ā Is it though?
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Why do we choose to play sport to begin with? Because itās fun. Because we lose ourself in the activity. The same is true of music, dancing and a plethora of other activities some of which arenāt suitable for posting here.
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We all love the experience of losing ourself. Conversely, when people āfreezeā or āchokeā, they typically feels heightened sense of self-consciousness. Less self good, more self bad!
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#DTMTS #winning #losing #flow #happiness #freedom #peace #sport #music