CounsellingWorx

10/07/2024

We’re talking lots about Mental Health these days which is great but what would it
Look like if we were encouraged from a young age to become Mentally Fit?

Malcolm spent some time exploring this question with John Borland - we know we’re biased, but it really is worth a listen!

The John Borland podcast is available at all your usual podcast places!!

13/01/2024

That thing you need to do…do that thing.

10/01/2024

We have had a number of calls this week from parents asking how best to support those affected by the tragic loss of Cam and Dave Walsh at the weekend...and feel it's important that we respond in some way.

We were so sad to hear about the tragic accident at the weekend. Our paths crossed with both Cam and Dave on a number of occasions through our son's involvement in local football so we are aware and share the pain being felt by the local community right now.

Grief hits us all in different ways and it's so important to allow it to be expressed and not hidden away.

As qualified youth workers and therapists we are keen to ensure that young people especially affected find the right outlet to process their grief.

It is those closest to young people that can play the most important role in the early days as they navigate their way through what is very likely their first experience of the deep hurt associated with losing someone so close.

Shock, being unusually quiet, strong expressions of emotion, crying (sometimes over something insignificant) confusion, disbelief, insecurity, loss of sleep, changes in appetite or other 'normal' behaviours, wanting to be close to those they feel safe with are completely normal responses.

Giving young people the space to talk, to meet with friends to express their grief in a safe environment, are all positive ways of encouraging them to work through how they feel.

If you are concerned about someone you love struggling with this loss and need to talk about how best to care for them, please call 01472 923048, leave a message and we will get back to you.

It is very unlikely that they require bereavement counselling at this early stage - unless this situation has triggered other experiences from the past that need addressing, but a reassuring call to help you respond to the person you care for, can help through these early weeks as you provide them the space and love they need to grieve the loss of their friend.

09/01/2024

The year ahead is going to be great for ‘Smiths’!!

Huge thanks for Andrew Smith Jordan Smith at A G Smith & Co for stepping up to being our first main sponsor for the year ahead.

Callum Smith and I will proudly wear the name ‘Smith’ on our 🇬🇧 Trisuits backed by the best Smiths in the accountancy world!!

08/01/2024

This is why we do what we do.

16/11/2023

It was Lovely to receive this testimonial from Mediation at Freedom speaks ltd this morning.

We were delighted to hear that Eva had passed her driving test!

Huge congratulations! 🥳

25/10/2023

Driving can be a real source of anxiety.

We’ve found something brilliant that we want to share with you!

Often it’s not driving that is the issue when we support clients with driving anxiety - its other drivers and the unpredictability of their actions and the fear of being in an accident.

Figuring out what you can control in such a situation is key to gaining the confidence to drive.

CARS of Grimsby LTD 01472 453622 have come up with this booklet that we think is a game changer - as it provides you everything you need to know/do.

We used them when our car got damaged (I’m not telling you which one of us was driving! 😜) and all they needed was a claim number - the rest was taken care of.

This booklet takes it a step further, giving you a list of what to do (useful when youve just had a shock!) and a sheet to collect/exchange details with the other driver and Cars’ number to talk you through what to do next.

On top of that, Cars help you with your insurance excess!?

If you’d like one of these booklets to put in your car - please send us a DM and we will get one (or more) out to you.

29/09/2023

Using art when working with a client in a depressive episode is extremely powerful as pictures paint a thousand words when the client has none.

24/08/2023

There is SO much more to come.

Today is a milestone and tomorrow is a new beginning.

23/08/2023

Sometimes its scary walking a path on your own, and its often the easier choice to go with the group, but choosing the "left" path often results in finding strengths and courage that were already there but waiting to be discovered.

12/05/2023

Belonging is so important, it give us a sense of security, inclusion, identity, feeling loved. Trying to fit in can result in anxiety, loss of identity, fluctuating self esteem because our sense of self is based on what people think of us rather than who we really are.

31/03/2023

Even those ‘on top of the world’ face real struggles.

You may never have heard of Chelsea Sodaro - but she is one extremely inspirational woman, with an amazing story.

https://www.nytimes.com/2023/03/30/sports/ironwoman-kona-chelsa-sodaro.html?smid=fb-nytimes&smtyp=cur&fbclid=IwAR3itDg3nNfDUmUoW_C5q_0CUo4Im2eY6q7ZLix1vWreX-qQvgAr860JikM

Sodaro thought her life had fallen into place when she won the Ironman world championship last October. Little did she know, it was about to fall apart.

29/03/2023

It is so easy to look to the future or the past and live, for the moment or remember the moment. What about living in the moment, there are poignant moments, relationships or people that are lost because we forget to "be where our feet are"

15/03/2023

yesterday was 19 years since my mum died. This loss has transformed my life for the worse but also for the better. My perspective for 19 years has always been to get to the end of the day and be able to say to myself "If I were not here tomorrow, would I be happy with how I have used today?" 80% of the time the answer is yes, Life is about enjoying the big moments, but also appreciating the small ones.

01/03/2023

We often wait in anticipation for the future "a new job, relationship, holiday, a new start" but what if we took time to appreciate our life right now? Right now could be the start of a new story and we miss the beginning.

23/02/2023

Having been to a family funeral this week, time is a precious commodity. We often wish we have more time- more time to spend with the people/person who matters, more time to spend doing things that make us happy and we certainly need to spend less time on the things we cant change.

How are we using the time we have?

08/02/2023

A lovely client made this for my counselling room and I absolutely love the message that this piece of art gives to every client who i work with
"By being yourself, you'll put something wonderful in the world that was not there before"
It has also made me smile on the days where I walk into the counselling room ready to work and i'm doubting whether I am good enough.