Out And About With Friends
NO.6...😭😭😭😭
From Despair to Deliverance: A Testimony of God’s Faithfulness
When DBS barred me, it felt like the end of the road. They made it clear it was an indefinite decision, with only a slim chance to appeal. The weight of it all pushed me into a deep depression, and my mind was consumed with worry and despair. But in the midst of it, God sustained me.
I started dedicating time to prayer, lifting my burdens to the Lord. I leaned on the support of friends who encouraged me and covered me in prayer. Their words gave me hope and reminded me of God’s power.
Realizing that every job here in the UK required a DBS check—be it enhanced or standard—I faced the harsh reality that no company would employ someone on the barred list. Determined not to give up, I decided to start my own cleaning business to create a way forward.
Despite my doubts, I appealed to the Upper Tribunal. But honestly, the letter I received from DBS made it seem like their decision was final and irreversible. The hearings went back and forth, and the case was adjourned to February.
Then, out of nowhere, on the 8th of October, I received a letter from DBS stating I had been removed from the barred list. I was speechless. Tell me—if this isn’t God’s doing, then what is?
NO.5...De..pres..sion state😭
I found an email waiting for me. I had been terminated.
Accused and Betrayed
The company accused me of sleeping during my shifts, based on CCTV footage. They didn’t consider the context—they didn’t see my restless pacing, my trips to the toilet, or my efforts to power through illness. What’s worse, they didn’t bother to ask for my side of the story.
I accepted the termination, knowing deep down the job wasn’t right for me. But the nightmare wasn’t over. Hours later, I received another email informing me that I had been referred to LADO (Local Authority Designated Officer) and the DBS (Disclosure and Barring Service) for a supposed breach of safeguarding.
A Fight for My Name
This email shook me to my core. The allegations threatened not only my reputation but also my livelihood. I was consumed by fear and regret—how had I let things get to this point?
No 4 Awareness???🤔😪
The Second Night—Disaster Strikes
Despite feeling unwell, I returned the next night after taking medication. Again, I was left alone with no guidance. My discomfort worsened—I felt sick, threw up multiple times, and struggled to stay upright. Yet, I managed to complete my shift.
The next morning, utterly drained, I planned to call in sick after a brief nap. But when I woke up....the story unfolds....
NO.3 Extremely Shocking
My Greatest Challenge of 2024: A Journey Through Pain, Courage, and Lessons Learned**
On my first night, things took a turn. I arrived at 9:30 PM and received a brief handover before my colleague left, leaving me alone. I was shocked—this was my first shift, and I hadn’t shadowed anyone, which is standard practice in most workplaces. Feeling unprepared, I focused on following instructions: reading care plans and signing documents.
By midnight, exhaustion crept in. I felt dizzy, disoriented, and restless. To cope, I walked around the premises, trying to stay awake. The CCTV cameras everywhere made me uneasy, but I ignored my discomfort and pushed through. Around 12:30 AM, I returned to the office, sat down, and lifted my legs onto another chair to relax. My body was shutting down, but I didn’t know who to contact or how to ask for help.
That night dragged on painfully. I battled dizziness and a sense of isolation, unsure of what to do or who to turn to. When morning finally came, I was relieved to see a staff member arrive to take over. I went home, physically and mentally drained.
This experience left me shaken. It was a wake-up call about the importance of asking questions, setting boundaries, and prioritizing my well-being. I walked into a situation unprepared, placing my trust in a system that failed to provide adequate support.
This ordeal taught me resilience, courage, and the need to value my mental and physical health above everything else. It’s a reminder that no job is worth sacrificing your peace, safety, or dignity.
No.2 : will shock you😭
The warning signs were there, but I didn’t question them. On Saturday, 14th January 2024, I was invited to the premises to be introduced to the children I’d be supporting. To my surprise, neither child was present. I was informed that one had been missing for two days, with police involved, and the other was visiting grandparents. The situation felt unsettling, but I brushed it aside.
Instead of meeting the children, I was handed two enormous care plan files to read. I barely skimmed through them before a senior staff member asked if I could start work the very next day, Sunday, 15th January. Though I hadn’t met the children or fully understood their needs, I agreed without hesitation—a mistake I deeply regret.
On my first night, things felt off. The house was filled with CCTV cameras, creating a sense of discomfort and surveillance. But I convinced myself to stay focused on the job. After a quick handover, the colleague on duty left me alone—a shocking violation of standard practice. Normally, new staff undergo at least three days of shadow shifts to familiarize themselves with the environment and individuals they’ll be supporting.
Instead, I was left to figure everything out on my own. I was told to “just read and sign everything” before my shift ended—a vague, impersonal instruction that left me uneasy.
This experience taught me the importance of asking questions, setting boundaries, and valuing my well-being. I ignored my instincts, and it led me into a situation that could have spiraled into something far worse.
If there’s one thing I hope you take away from my story, it’s this: Always trust your gut. Never hesitate to ask questions or walk away from a situation that feels wrong. No job is worth compromising your safety, peace of mind, or sense of self.
NO.1 ; My Greatest Challenge of 2024: A Life-Changing Lesson
I want to share with you an emotional and eye-opening experience from this year—one of the toughest and most transformative moments of my life.
As you all know, life in England, especially on a minimum wage, often pushes us to juggle multiple jobs just to make ends meet. I have a primary role as a mental health support worker, which I truly enjoy, but it’s no secret that one job alone can’t sustain a comfortable life here. Earlier this year, I left a part-time job that didn’t feel right for me, setting off on a new job hunt.
Eventually, I came across a waking night support worker position, assisting vulnerable young people aged 16 and 17. The pay seemed promising—nearly £1,200 on top of my main job—and I felt optimistic. After acing the interview, I was thrilled to be offered the role. But little did I know, this decision would lead me into one of the darkest, most overwhelming chapters of my life.
Shocking
Life in the diaspora is a bittersweet journey. For parents, it means juggling the weight of work and the deep ache of being apart from their little ones. These children, full of love and longing, only see both mum and dad together once a year. The joy on their faces during this christmas speaks louder than words, but it also reveals the silent pain of distance.
It’s not easy raising children while striving to build a better future far from home. The sacrifices are immense, but so is the hope.
**#DiasporaLife #ParentingSacrifices #DistanceAndLove #FamilyFirst #SilentStruggles**
This is a gift a friend gave me as a Christmas gift. 🎄 The Bible says, *"A friend loves at all times."*
My dearest Mrs. Alabi, your love and kindness mean the world to me. I pray God surrounds you with people who uplift and cherish you, just as you do for me.
You are a rare treasure, a blessing I’m so grateful for. Your friendship has shown me the true meaning of selfless love, and I’m proud to call you my friend.
May God bless you, guide you, and fill your life with joy and greatness. Thank you for being YOU. You are deeply loved.
#TrueFriendship #BlessedToHaveYou #ChristmasLove #GratefulHeart #FriendshipGoals
Unbelievable😳Watch till the end
Good morning, beautiful people! 🌟 Yesterday, our Christmas continued with a heartfelt moment after dinner. Sitting with the kids, we asked questions to remind them that Christmas isn’t just about food or gifts, but about Christ’s coming to the world. 🎄✨ Lend me your ears and hearts as the story unfolds—watch the video now!
Waking Up In The Morning Is Indeed A Blessing🙏🏾💯🤎💪🏾
