13/09/2025
Adult Play, Marriage & Balance
Brethren, let us not deceive ourselves. The children you rejoice over did not drop from heaven simply because you looked at your husband or wife. They came because you played the adult play. That alone should humble every “Sister Holier-than-thou” and “Brother More-righteous-than-all.”
The Bible says: “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled…” (Hebrews 13:4). Meaning, intimacy between husband and wife is not sin. But the same Word also says: “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” (Amos 3:3).
Here lies the problem:
Some husbands want to explore.
Some wives want it conservative.
Without agreement, the so-called “spice” becomes conflict.
So what is the wisdom?
👉 If there is no agreement, remove the spice and eat your food plain.
👉 If you want spice, then come together, communicate, and agree.
The Apostle Paul said: “Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.” (1 Corinthians 7:3). This means neither partner should lord over the other. Love must guide, respect must balance, and Christ must remain at the center.
Remember: intimacy is not a license to lust like the heathen, nor to devour one another without thought. It is a covenant act, a ministry between two who became one flesh (Genesis 2:24).
If you lack communication in the bedroom, there will be cold conflict in the living room. But when you both seek balance, guided by the Word and by love, your marriage will flourish.
— SisPhilomina ✍️
