Parenting Unique Kids

12/05/2024

Hello friends !

Mike used to be my neighbour, when Chevy, Brooke and I lived in Langley.
A nicer guy, you won’t find.
But what you don’t know is, Mike completely turned his life around at 40, after years of addiction.
In the time that he has been sober he has gotten married, became a father to a darling baby boy, and now here he is auditioning for a once in a lifetime opportunity.
Mike is a real example of what happens when you decide you are worth it.
If ANYONE deserves this fairy tale ending, it’s Mike.
Besides …. He is an AMAZING artist.
Please watch, like, comment, share, anything ❤️

Lemme know what you thank!Thanks for the support!

12/03/2024

My old neighbour !
Please like and comment !!!!

~ Connie

Lemme know what you thank!Thanks for the support!

11/28/2024

11/25/2024

How many times have you been telling a friend/coworker/teacher/FAMILY member about your child’s sensitivity to stimuli, their big emotions and their over-reactions… and as you’re explaining you can SEE them thinking “sounds like excuses” while they nod their heads and say “uh huh… wow”.. and in that moment you give up.
Not on your child of course, but on trying to explain the ‘why’ behind certain behaviours .
You can FEEL that they don’t ( believe ) understand, and they never will.

And in that moment you feel SO alone.

I know it’s not just me…..

10/14/2024

( aka Autism, Level One ) is associated with a high level of frustration, and outbursts ( aka meltdowns).
More often than not, this comes from not feeling understood, and/or misunderstanding someone else.

The BEST thing, and I say this with experience, the VERY BEST thing you can do for your child with Asperger’s/Autism is to teach them anger management skills AS SOON AS YOU CAN.

A child having a meltdown is one thing. It’s hard enough on everyone, especially the child, however society looks down their nose even further when an adult has a meltdown.

They are often accused of being ‘mental’ or ‘a druggie’ which can compound their frustration and lead to visits to psyche wards and prison cells.

I’m not telling you this to scare you, I’m telling you this because it’s the absolute truth.

Therapies such as occupational and ABA can help in these areas, but start young.

Read up on how to calm your aspie child, how to make them feel safe and back in control of their emotions.

I promise you, it is the most important thing you can help them with. x.

10/09/2024

Instead of saying, "i know what it feels like", let's say "i cannot imagine your heartbreak".
instead of saying, "you're strong, you'll get through this, let's say " you'll hurt, and I'll be here.
instead of saying, "you look like you're doing well, let's say, "how are you holding up today?"
instead of saying, "healing takes time", let's say "healing has no timeline".
instead of saying, "everything happens for a reason, let's say "this must feel so terribly senseless right now".
and when there are no words to say at all, you don't need to try and find some. love speaks in silences too.
~ 'words' by Ullie Kaye Poetry
~ Art by Jennifer Yoswa

10/06/2024

I’d say this applies to me, as in the parental/children relationship.
I’m not at ease when anything is troubling my kids.
On the other side, the slightest bit of good news and/or good moods can make my whole day.

One thing I know.
If they aren’t happy, I’m not.
I don’t even know how to find what MY ‘happy’ is anymore.

This can’t be healthy, and puts too much pressure on them, I’m sure.
😔

10/04/2024

Meltdowns are a medical emergency.
They are not tantrums.
They are absolute loss of control, and INTENSE fear.
Consequences can be devestating to themselves, property, and others.
I repeat: THEY ARE NOT IN CONTROL IN THOSE MOMENTS.

10/03/2024

IED ( Intermittent Explosive Disorder ) is a childhood rage disorder.
It is a mental health disorder in which children have SHORT periods of intense, UNEXPECTED anger and violent behavior.

These feelings seem to come out of nowhere, and the child feels they have no control over their rage.

This can be a symptom of ADHD, as well as Asperger's Syndrome, or it can be it's own diagnosis in which the child will outgrow.

If it is a symptom of ADHD or Asperger's, these periods of intense anger will carry through to adulthood, and these individuals need a care plan to help them manage big emotions when they arise.

This is why we cannot keep brushing Asperger's under the rug as some 'quirky - slightly - inconvenient' IdEnTiTy....

These individuals need support.

Yesterday.....

10/02/2024

10/01/2024

Asperger’s should never have been crammed into the diagnosis.

This happened because a bunch of activists ( self diagnosed grifters, really )put so much pressure about being ‘OfFeNdEd’ by the term, that the powers that be with regards to the DSM ( Diagnostic Statistics Manual ) actually removed the diagnosis of Asperger’s and those individuals are now considered Level 1 or ‘high functioning’ autism.

Asperger’s is different.
Usually high IQ, low executive function.
Quick to be overwhelmed and often misunderstood, which leads to rage, and often violent meltdowns.

So….. Eff you, all you grifter ‘advocates’ - you know who you are - you self diagnosed in your 20’s, marketing yourself through social media and telling people what language to use and when to use it, while selling your subscriptions, your ‘books’ etc… you make me sick.

Do you know what happened when you whined and boycotted and had Asperger’s removed because you thought he WaS a nAzIiiiii??? 🙄

You made it SO. MUCH. HARDER. FOR. SO. MANY. PEOPLE. AND. THEIR. FAMILIES.

Not enough support and understanding is there for these people.

Many end up in prison or psyche wards because they are misunderstood.

So… WAY TO GO 👏👏👏👏

Hope your conscience allows you to sleep at night, knowing you’ve steamrolled right over people who GENUINELY need help and support.

I will be posting more on Asperger’s and I will call it that when I do, because while it shares so many aspects of autism, and it is a form of autism, it has its very own unique distinction, and these individuals are falling through the cracks HARD.

10/01/2024

Blue 🎃’s are fine.
That is all.
🧩