Parenting Unique Kids

02/23/2025

Parenting Unique Kids

02/12/2025

My son, Chevy, whose passion is music, has written and produced a song for his beloved dog, Nelly. 🥰

02/09/2025

Parenting Unique Kids

01/29/2025

I was just off work, and the first thing my son wanted was to go to the store, there was something he needed.
‘I’ll be quick Mom’.

The last thing I felt like doing was going to a store.
I had a lot to do.

But in the car we go.

I stayed in the car, and he went in to get his item ‘real quick’.

I watched through that window, my beautiful son staring at something for the longest time, arms hanging straight down at his sides, his beautiful mind analyzing every angle of every outcome of every decision.

I went in a couple times to ask how it was going, reminded him the dogs needed to go out.

In the end, I surrendered to the outcome.
I sat in the car and watched as he struggled with his decision.

Then it hit me.

He’s not struggling - I AM.

He’s taking his time to make a decision.
He’s weighing every option in his head, pros and cons, the butterfly effect one purchase might have over another … he’s taking his time, and he’s ENJOYING THE PROCESS.

He’s not the one struggling.

I’m struggling to find the patience I KNOW I need to afford him. I’m struggling not to rush him.

He came out to the car with his purchase.
He stopped and looked in the window before he got in, and the look broke my heart … it was a look of expectation …expecting me to be mad. Frustrated. Annoyed.

He knew he’d taken a long time… after the fact.
During the process he’s so hyper focused, I’m not sure he notices anything else to be honest.

But he knows afterward exactly how long that took, and he’s expecting me to not be happy about it.

I looked back into his beautiful big brown eyes and smiled….and he got in the car.

‘So what did you end up getting’? 😊

His eyes lit up and he talked animatedly about his purchase.

How different that could have gone, had I reacted like the jerk I’ve been at times in the past..

Instead we had a really nice drive home.

He teaches me everyday.

Not just about , but he literally makes me a better person, one with much more , and I’m working on the part every day.

Parenting Unique Kids

01/29/2025

01/26/2025

A massive fraud in the US Federal entitlement programs are being uncovered as we speak.
Guess what it is?
Disability for Autism and ADHD.

Ahh… finally, the disability grifters get called out for what they are. -a chameleon whose profile changes with the trends, has collected disability for years, and made money through social media. Then, GASP , suddenly her 41 year old husband is as well! Imagine that. They don’t work, tour the country in a luxury RV, smoke a lot of w**d, and laugh at the rest of you.
I make an example of her from my personal experience, but there are THOUSANDS just like her, doing the same thing.
Proclaimed ‘experts’ of a disability they don’t even have.

I’ve been saying for YEARS this is detrimental to people with REAL autism, severe or otherwise.

It makes programs and funding so much harder, with longer wait times. Some won’t even apply for disability because it’s nearly impossible THANKS TO THE FAKERS. How sick is that?????? Very.

But you know what’s worse ?
The mockery they’ve made of our children, and our loved ones.

For years, they have been the ‘face of autism’.

They should be criminally charged.

Never has a system been so grotesquely manipulated and controlled by social media bandwagon ‘influencers’.

Good riddance.

01/19/2025

I’ve heard everyone of these, and SO much worse. I’ve had so called say the most disgusting, cruel things. One said that I shlould ‘unalive’ myself, he would better off without me.
A group of them got together under the influence of ‘Neurodivergent Rebel’ actually reached out to my son to encourage him to go ‘no contact’. ‘THEY’ would be his family and his support.
I call that grooming the vulnerable. And by vulnerable, I mean any adolescent or youth who is struggling in any way.
It’s nothing less that a cult.
These people who pretend to be 1. Autistic and 2. Fighting for autistic rights are the biggest self -serving, self-righteous hate group in the world of advocacy.

They sadly have no real clue what autism is.

They think it’s their ‘identity’, but it’s not.
And in their wake of absolute nonsense, they have caused incredible harm, and compromised the safety of people with a real autism diagnosis, and the families that love them ( and that they love back - sorry you freaks and weirdos but our kids love us. Saying they would better off without the love and support of their family is on the top of the list of hateful things that promotes.

01/07/2025

Asperger’s and the Rage Cycle.

When we realize rage experienced by someone with Asperger’s ( aka Level One ASD or high functioning ASD ) is comparable to a seizure, we begin to understand the lack of control, and the need for early intervention therapy, such as Aba.

It is cruel to deny coping skills to children, who then become adults, and the ‘system’ is not kind to.

Many times a person who has had an ‘episode’ wont recall it afterward - like a seizure.

Please don’t deny a child therapy because some green haired loon on the internet says it’s abusive.

It’s abusive to not equip individuals with tools and coping mechanisms.

The ‘rage stage’ ( meltdown ) will occur if anger is not internalized in the rumbling phase ( frustration ) and may turn into aggression ( self harm, harm to others and property ).
The ‘recovery stage ends the rage cycle.
At this point, the child ( or adult ) will usually withdraw, become physically exhausted, may feel sad and/or ashamed-embarrassed, or in some cases won't remember what happened.

01/07/2025

An ‘event’ can spiral REALLY quickly.

If you can, walk away.

If you can’t, go ‘grey rock’, as any output, even calm and caring can trigger.
Remember, their brains are being assaulted by input already, and the outburst is frustration and anxiety based.

Once the event is over, then you can discuss calmly what happened, why, and what can be done different for next time.

01/06/2025

01/06/2025

In nature, toxic creatures ( self identifying ‘autists’ )will develop bright colours to warn others of their poison ( misinformation ).

01/04/2025

Autism.
Therapies help, words don’t.

To label a complete loss of control, combined with an assault of the senses, and sheer terror a ‘meltdown’ , is to call a burning building ‘warm’.

When we understand that a ‘meltdown’ brought on by the characteristics of an autism diagnosis is a medical emergency, only then can we appreciate the need for therapies that help a child recognize and redirect their big emotions.

I am so SICK and TIRED of self diagnosed adults describing their meltdowns on Tik Tok, or even here, because it is so misleading and, I’ll say it, insulting, to those who really experience this total loss of control.

( who are not usually autistic- I know, ironic right ? ) will tell parents ‘ ABA is abuse!! It’s dog training!!!! Listen to aUtIsTiC adults instead !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Dear - your self indulgent preaching does not help the child who thinks nothing of running into traffic. Do you know what does though? Therapies ( INCLUDING ABA )

Your arrogant demands to be heard does absolutely nothing for the child banging their head against the wall over and over in the throes of no control.
Do you know what does though? Therapies.

Your idiotic screams to stop research, avoid therapies, and just ‘accept’ autism does nothing for the child whose senses are overwrought, whose confusion is vast, whose terror is visible, who doesn’t know how to feel what they are feeling and turn it into something that feels safe and constructive, instead of harming themselves or others.
Do you know what does though ? Therapies.

So.. you morons that keep yelling loud enough to ensure funding keeps getting cut for therapies, and therapists are fewer because of the abuse they get from you fools…. it is ON YOU that autistic children suffer unnecessarily.

You don’t really ‘fight for autistic rights’ at all.

If you did, you’d recognize that therapies help, and words don’t.

~ Connie

12/31/2024

Autism is a disability.
The world will never be 💯 understanding. Equip your child with every resource available, including Aba. Give them the best chance to be treated with respect.

12/31/2024

I don’t banter with the echo chamber that is
Fair warning- I WILL DELETE BS.
Sorry, not sorry~Connie.