The Work Of Men

10/11/2018

I've turned The Relationship Minute into a weekly podcast! We will be delivering new podcasts every couple of days.

The first podcast is called "Impact trumps Intention" and is available on Apple iTunes and in Google Music Play. Subscribe using your favourite podcasting app. The podcast is also available on Spotify and will be on iHeart Radio the first week of November. If a Alexa is your listening choice, just call up The Relationship Minute on your Echo.

Transcripts of the podcast are available on my website, www.relationshipexcellence.com under the RESOURCES tab. I am testing the transcript feature for the next five months. Your feedback is always welcome right on the website. If there's enough interest, I'll make transcripts a permanent feature.

I invite you to subscribe to the podcast. If you like what you hear, please spread the word. It's later than you think.

We start by focusing on the individuals in relationship. That growth and self-discovery forms the foundation in building a strong, connected couple.

03/02/2017

Accountability; It's an inside job.

I hear a lot these days about the need to hold people; politicians or children or people in power, accountable for their actions. Regrettably we cannot hold another person accountable. We can challenge them about their commitment to whatever it is they have declared that they would do. We cannot hold them accountable.

Accountability IS an inside job. We hold ourselves accountable. It’s like we have an internal account wherein we make deposits through our actions. Those actions become part of the fabric of whom we become and we accept responsibility for keeping our word about something, to ourselves. We build up credibility internally. We do this because it matters to us. While we all know we cannot make another person do anything, we do try to brow beat them into being accountable.. For instance, we can’t make someone recycle. We will decide to do so because it speaks to and is aligned with, an inner value we have. From there, we take action with ease.

If we were to recycle from a place of ‘should’ or to simply gain approval or to ‘look good’ in the eyes of others, we would eventually get sloppy with the activity. We would let ourselves off the hook so to speak when others weren’t looking.

“I believe half of what people say AND all of what they do” What we can do is hold people to their word. Challenge them about the impact of them not keeping their word. When we do this, we challenge the person around their sense of internal accountability. When we’re honest with others about the impact they have on us and the world around us, we hold the promise of making the world a better place instead of falling asleep at the wheel and yielding to others impact.

It is delightful to be around and in the presence of someone who does what they say they will do.

When we develop our internal accountability, if we chose too, around being our word, it translates to the outer world as people around us learn that we can be counted upon to do what we say we will do. Now that will make the world a better place, one person at a time.

12/28/2016

As the new year approaches I am inviting you to test out an experiment. For a month, give up hitting the 'Like' button on peoples posts. Instead, ask yourself what it is you truly 'Like' about the post? Then instead of hitting the 'Like' button write out a comment on the post, or not. It doesn't take much to hit the 'Like' button and it takes a lot to stop, slow down and think through a comment worthy of your time and the time of others to read it.

You will discover something really valuable. I'd love to hear what it is at the end of January 2017.

11/10/2016

last chance to attend The Power of knowing when NOT to compromise. www.torontomen.org

Toronto Men's Organization