01/13/2025
MY RESPONSE TO MY BROTHER UCHECHUKWU ASOGWA’S COMMENT ON MY BELOVED WIFE’S POST - DR. BARR. KINGSLEY ASOGWA.
@ Asogwa Uchechukwu, first and most importantly, my very dear wife NEVER brought any family issue to social media and will NEVER do so under my watch as her dear husband. MY WIFE’S CROWN CAN NEVER BE TAKEN AWAY BY ANY SOCIAL MEDIA DRAGGING OR IRRESPONSIBILITY, EVEN IF THOSE INVOLVED ARE OVER ONE MILLION IN NUMBER. SHE HAS MY ABSOLUTE SUPPORT. I STAND GIDIGBA BEHIND MY WIFE AND HER DETRACTORS KNOW VERY WELL WHAT THIS SUPPORT MEANS. I have no control of anyone’s freedom of expression over social media platforms, but in the words of Julius Caesar:
“Caesar shall forth. The things that threatened me
Ne'er looked but on my back; when they shall see
The face of Caesar, they are vanishèd.”
Bro, I think you know me very well. You know, I have never been a coward and can never be one in my marriage. I grew up as a strong man, remain a strong man and no one can boldly deny this fact. Do you think that I can fold my hands and watch my wife deride my mother through content creating? Do you think that if my mother is at risk or is huřt in any way by any content created by my wife that the only right person to defend my mother out of 5 children is my youngest sister? Today, 99 percent of my mother’s existence is based on my financial support. When I say my financial support, I mean, financial support from me and my wife. This cannot be challenged by anyone. It stands to reason that if my mother is in trouble, I should be the first to put up a defence for her as I bear the greatest burden with respect to her welfare. Our silence is not cowardice. You should know who I am. However, it is important to let you know that in every family including yours, the reality is that there is always a struggle by family members to control their son/brother to ensure that his wife “the stranger” remains a “stranger” and completely banished from major family decisions. If you resist this attempt by family members to ostracize your wife from the mainstream, the consequences will include what is currently going on, which is triggered by clear frustrations arising from failure of the family to absolutely control their son/brother, and the deep-seated hatred against the “stranger” who now controls their son/brother.
However, when you strongly stand with your wife and reject all attempts to make her a “stranger” in her own home, the frustrations can go beyond facebook vilification to other stuffs like ‘ogbugbu madu.’
Brother, we know the facts. I will be the greatest fool to watch my wife create a content of any kind with any money sent to my mother. You can go back and watch the video of the said content again. The video refers to the person my wife gave money who never showed gratitude, but the person tarnishing the image of my wife because of her “control” frustrations, clearly stated that my mother showed gratitude to my wife regarding whatever money was alleged to have been sent to my mother. How then did the same person relate my wife’s video of someone who never showed gratitude to her, to my mother who actually showed gratitude to her? This is a big question that will clear your eyes from any confusion. My wife should rather be daft to create a content about someone who showed gratitude as someone who never showed gratitude. The fact remains that my wife’s video was clearly as shown in the video about someone who didn’t show gratitude, not about my mother who showed gratitude and who has never failed to show gratitude to us for anything coming from us. In the first place, my wife has never given my mother money directly. It’s me that regularly gives my mother money either from my pay check or from my wife’s pay check. Whether or not my mother showed gratitude to my wife separately is immaterial as the gratitude she shows to me also extends to my wife, as both of us are ABSOLUTELY ONE.
Too, we are making heavy weather over just N100,000. Did my wife demand the same gratitude either from my mother or the person damaging my wife’s name on Facebook when my wife surrendered her paycheck from which she sent my mother N1000,000.00? Why is the person talking about gratitude for just N100,000 not making any reference to the bigger one - the N1000,000.00? It is because she wants the public to see my wife as a “wicked” person. She loves her mom more than everyone. Let her tender on facebook deposit slips she used in sending monies to her mother that she loves so much, and for each deposit slip she presents bearing my mother’s name as recipient, my wife will present 5 deposit slips, and we will count it with the help of facebook users and know who truly loves her mother more than the other. Yes ooo. I love this “wicked” wife so much and she remains my boss anytime, any day. Anyone can hug a transformer.
He who wears the shoes knows best where it pinches. I know the major PROBLEM and I know the major SOLUTION. Bro, the major problem is my failure to make my wife a “stranger” in her own home. Na today, e start? While every woman wants to be a central figure and call the shots in their husbands’ homes, women generally will never allow their fellow women married to their own family by their own brother to wield the same authority they are wielding in their respective husbands’ homes. This gives rise to such expressions like, “who is she to come into our family to dictate to us?” “Is her family better than ours, that she should come here to do big madam to us?” “She has blindfolded our brother with charms?” “You see that money that brother gave us yesterday, it was his wife that told him to reduce it,” “it is only what his wife tells him that he hears,” “don’t you see he no longer listens to us,” “his wife controls him,” etc.
As I said, I also know the solution but will NEVER provide the solution in my life under any circumstance. Dr. Kingsley Asogwa will CONTINUE, I say boldly, will CONTINUE to TRULY LOVE his wife forever and ever and will NEVER make her a “stranger” in her own home. Anyone is free to express her deep-seated anger on social media or any other platform because I have refused to make my wife a slave in her home.
If by any chance, I serve my dear wife a divorce letter today, I have provided that SOLUTION and the next minute, what you will start hearing is “brother ime agaa?” from every corner. It is quite understandable that anyone who gets frustrated fighting to ensure my wife becomes irrelevant in decision making in her own home can brazenly behave anyhow in an attempt to relieve herself from congealed pain, anger and agony. Okay, let me ask you, if I divorce my wife today, will the person who have chosen the irresponsible path of condemning the person of my wife on Facebook be happy or angry? They are many extending far beyond our immediate family to our extended family and it will be celebration everywhere if I divorce my wife today. The pain in every heart is about nothing but my exceptional love for my wife.
I know what marriage means based on my christian upbringing. I don’t know what others think marriage is, but I know what marriage means. NO ONE BORN BY A WOMAN IN MY FAMILY HAVE THE CAPACITY TO REDUCE MY WIFE TO A SECOND FIDDLE IN HER ONLY HOME. YOU CANNOT CALL THE SHOTS IN THAT MY COUNTRY HOME AT OHODO FROM YOUR HUSBAND’s HOME AT IBAGWA OR ENUGU EZIKE OR ELSEWHERE. IF ANYONE WANTS TO TRY, THE PERSON CAN READILY PREDICT THE CONSEQUENCES. NNEKA MY WIFE IS THE MADAM OF THAT HOME AND MUST ALWAYS, ALWAYS AND ALWAYS CALL THE SHOTS. SHE IS THE BOSS AND ANYONE IS FREE TO RANT FOREVER ON SOCIAL MEDIA OR ELSEWHERE. MENE AGBACHAA OSO ECHEKIA MILES.
Finally, I enjoy the ride as it CONTINUES to strengthen the bond of love and oneness between me and my AMAZING WIFE, NNEKIN.
Much ado about nothing. In fact, let me grab my lovely baby and find a place to enjoy with her now. Let’s go baby!
