Flo's Insipirational Corner

28/06/2024

25/06/2024

WHY I DON’T REACT TO EVERYTHING.

I’m 'Slowly' Learning That I Don’t Have To React To 'Everything' That Bothers Me.

I’m slowly learning that I don’t have to hurt those who hurt me.

I’m slowly learning that maybe the 'ultimate' sign of maturity is walking away instead of getting even.

I’m slowly learning that the energy it takes to react to every bad thing that happens to me drains me and stops me from seeing the other good side of things in life.

I’m slowly learning that I’m not going to be everyone’s cup of tea and I won’t be able to get everyone to treat me the way I want to be treated 'and that’s okay.'

I’m slowly learning that trying so hard to ‘win’ Everyone is just a 'waste' of time and energy and it fills me with 'nothing' but emptiness.

I’m slowly learning that not reacting doesn’t mean I’m okay with things, it just means I’m choosing to 'rise' above it.

I’m choosing to take the 'lesson' it has served and learn from it I’m choosing to be 'the bigger' person.

I’m choosing my 'peace of mind' because that’s what I 'truly' need. I don’t need more drama. I don’t need people making me feel like I’m not good enough. I don’t need fights and arguments and 'fake' connections. I’m slowly learning that sometimes 'not' saying anything at all says everything.'

I’m slowly learning that reacting to things that upset me gives someone else power over 'my' emotions.

I can’t control what others do but i can control how i respond, how i handle it, how i perceive it and 'how much of it' i want to take personally. I’m slowly learning that most of the time, these situations say nothing about me and a lot about the other person.

I’m slowly learning that even if I react, it won’t change anything, it won’t make people suddenly love and respect me, it won’t magically change their minds.

Sometimes it’s better to just let things be, let people go, 'don’t' fight for closure, 'don’t' ask for explanations, 'don’t' chase answers and 'don’t' expect people to understand me.
Love Lead.
to Learn...

12/06/2024

Look at how far you've come! You never gave up, you cried, but you kept going. You took some losses and always remained focused on the winning. Most people don't know what you've been through and that is okay, you do, and you are walking in your purpose already. I don't know whom I'm talking to, but I want to promise you that your life is gonna be better than ever before. I'm so proud of you 👊
has your back
will make it 💯....... 🤗🥰

Love 💖 Lead

10/06/2024

ring 💍 on my finger
on a relationship/marriage tip...

WHAT EVERY WOMAN NEEDS TO KNOW.

1. Your biggest enemy is yourself. That enemy is the one who makes you overthink, develop a low self-esteem, make you emotionally unstable and give you ulcers. Love yourself from the inside first before you expect love from the outside

2. You are not in a relationship with a man until you both clearly state it. Don't get carried away by the idea of love with a man simply because he spends time with you or treats you special

3. If you are in a relationship or marriage, demanding your man to spend time with you will not make him do so. A man willingly spends time with you because you give him peace and he enjoys your company. Attract him the same way you peacefully and warmly attracted him when he was pursuing you

4. Mr. Right is the man who offers a conducive environment for you to be the best you. Choose your environment well

5. Your husband will never find you if you keep fooling around with other women's husbands

6. Mr. Right can also hurt you. The difference is that Mr. Right hurts when he hurts you, he apologises, owns up to his short comings and makes effort to love you better. Love is a learning process

7. Silent treatment will not solve anything. If your man hurts you, learn to speak your hurt and teach him to love you better. The best couples have mastered the art of conflict resolution

8. Most men don't mind being corrected. What they do mind is the tone with which you correct them. The world has been harsh towards women for years, but tone down your defensive mode and learn to communicate effectively with respect and love. You two don't have to fight and argue to look like you are addressing issues

9. A man who is not serious about you will avoid accountability, will operate in grey areas and will hide you. You will never go far with him. Serious men like being kept accountable, they take pride in what they commit to and are not afraid of responsibilities

10. Getting pregnant for a man will not make him serious about you. Men are serious about a woman because they have a personal vision that includes her

11. If you are not a woman who knows herself, relationships and marriages will bring you drama. Your self awareness is your personal responsibility.

12. If you do know yourself and you get married to a man who doesn't know himself, he will frustrate you. Be careful in him being lost he doesn't make you lose you. When marriages go bad, the repercussions are heaviest on the woman....

13. Just because you have a relationship with God or you marry someone who has a relationship with God does not mean your marriage will work. You two have to learn to relate with each other, not just with God.

14. There are good men in this world, just like there are good women in this world. You will not encounter those good men if you keep entertaining the wrong ones and frequenting where the wrong ones dwell...

15. During dating, if you want to see the calibre of man you are getting to know, put off s*x and see if he will stay, if he is interested for more than just s*x. Be careful, some men will tell you all kinds of promises to get you to bed. They are just curious about how s*xing you feels like, not interested to grow with you. Once they s*x you, the curiosity goes, especially after you get pregnant.

16. Relationships/marriages don't always end or struggle because of the man, sometimes you are the problem. Learn to be honest and objective to see your wrong. If you two work together, your love will grow stronger.

17. An insecure man will fight everything that is good about you; from your success, your career, your beauty, your personality, your education and he will blame you for his own issues. He is the problem, not you. Don't dim your light for a man whose identity is in darkness

18. If you have a good man, don't exaggerate the wrong he has done today to the point that you forget how good he has been to you. Don't make him feel unappreciated because he didn't do as you wanted him to today. Keep your perspective and don't overreact

19. Don't be that woman who has been so damaged by wrong men that when the good man comes along you push him away

20. Before you go and share your issues with your man to your friends, share them with him. The solution lies between you two. If he is stubborn or you two still disagree, then share with someone he can be accountable to, like a true friend or a counsellor, if it gets worse, involve both your parents

21. Disagreement or a bad day in your relationship or marriage doesn't mean it is breaking apart. Keep calm. Don't panic

22. No matter how much your husband loves you, he might not see your dreams or even support you that much. You have to learn to defend and nurture your dreams even if he doesn't get it

22. Complaining and nagging will never give you the desired results, it will only push your man away from you and make him tolerate you instead of enjoy you. If you want to inspire him to do more for and with you, appreciate him, have pleasant conversations with him, be easy to talk to

23. If you don't learn how to say no, people and the world will use you and dump you....
Selah...

24. Remember, there is more to life than marriage, s*x and having children. You are a blessing with so much to accomplish and pursue as an individual

25. Don't be hard on yourself. Pat yourself on the back for how far you have come
🙏
Class dismissed 🥂

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07/06/2024

Until you value yourself, you won't value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it. So start by valuing yourself.

04/06/2024

ring on my finger

THE 12 RULES THAT WILL BETTER YOUR MARRIAGE

How can two walk together unless they agree? The truth is, many marriages get ruined because of misunderstandings. Misunderstandings are brought about by a lack of agreement on how to handle the issues that affect each marriage. Failing to agree will lead to the husband and wife interpreting things differently leading to feelings of hurt, insensitivity, rejection, intolerance and indifference.

Agree with your spouse on the do's and don'ts. Have these rules.

1. S*X RULES
Agree that you can have s*x in whichever way and position, but also agree on what you will not try out. For example; no a**l s*x, or no ma********on when you have each other, or no po*******hy use, or no inflicting pain or no making love when she is on monthly periods and if he is h***y then, how will she pleasure him? Each couple is different. Agree on what are the limits

2. PHONE RULES
Agree on how to handle the phone. For example, no chatting with others past 11pm for that is intimate time, no secrecy, no need to walk away when someone calls, inform your spouse about who has called

3. MONEY RULES
Agree on how to use money. Will you have a joint bank account? What percentage can each use without the requirement of notifying the other? Who pays for what bills? Saving. Investing. No giving money to in-laws without joint consent

4. COMING HOME RULES
What should you do in case you're coming home late? Make a phone call? How late is too late to come home? Your spouse doesn't mind you coming home late as long as it is agreed. Marriage is not about selfish you but you two as partners

5. SOCIAL RULES
Agree you will make effort to introduce each other to your friends. Agree on how close friends of the opposite gender can get. Agree on which friends to keep. Agree on how often friends can visit. Your home shouldn't be invaded by friends. There needs to be boundaries

6. INFORMATION RULES
Agree to notify each other where you are, even if with just a simple text. Agree on the need to tell each other your individual schedule of the day. Keep your spouse in the know

7. TEMPER RULES
Agree on what to do when you both get mad at each other. Do you give yourself space? Withdraw for some minutes? Do you deal with the issue quickly? No going to sleep mad at each other. Conflict resolution

8. CHORE RULES
Agree on who does what in the house. This will prevent any of you from feeling like they are doing too much

9. SOCIAL MEDIA RULES
Agree on the do's and don'ts of social media. For example, no being Facebook friends with your ex, no commenting suggestively on other people's post, no indecent behaviour, no airing domestic issues on social media

10. WORK RULES
Agree on limits of work. For example, no coming home with work, what to do when your careers conflict? What to do when you have different working hours? When to take leave or off days?

11. PARENTHOOD RULES
Agree on how to discipline the children, who does what, who goes for Parents' days in school, do you take turns? What kind of food will the children eat?

12. INDIVIDUAL SPACE RULES
Agree that sometimes each of you will want some alone time, to work or to meditate or just relax. Agree on how to notify your spouse when you want a few minutes to yourself. Your spouse will give you room if you need it

Agreeing on these key issues brings about order, peace and unity; both of you will know how to navigate and behave.

If your marriage is chaotic because of lack of order. It's not too late to have a conversation leading to the agreement on these issues.

Make your marriage simple

𝑭𝒐𝒍𝒍𝒐𝒘𝒆𝒓𝒔. Abel Tinashe
Solidarity Munyewu

03/06/2024

Don't over think period , you will let doubt , fear and negative energy affect you cause of overthinking focus on doing what needs to be done period!.
Wake up , pray, grind hard and let success be your portion...
't over think

Love Lead 💖
Abel Tinashe
Amanda Hazel Chiwara
Minister Hope
Blessing Deve
Tari Nzo

29/05/2024

“The most powerful thing you can do right now is be patient while the universe unfolds things for you”

24/05/2024

your cup

Love Lead

21/05/2024

on my finger
ADVICE TO THOSE FALLING IN LOVE

1. When you fall in love, make sure it's with somebody who treats you exactly how you deserve to be treated. It's crucial to be with someone who respects you, values your feelings, and understands your worth. A healthy relationship is built on mutual respect and kindness. Ensuring that you are treated well is fundamental to your emotional well-being and happiness.

2. Love somebody who wants to know everything about you, from your favorite color to your childhood memories, and how you managed to survive all those years. True love involves a deep curiosity about each other. When someone cares to learn about your likes, dislikes, and past experiences, it shows their genuine interest in you as a person. This understanding forms a strong emotional connection and fosters intimacy.

3. Love somebody who can make you laugh, who kisses your forehead, and who notices all your flaws but chooses to see past them. Laughter is an essential part of a joyful relationship. A partner who can bring joy into your life and makes you feel cherished by small gestures like a forehead kiss is invaluable. Moreover, someone who accepts your imperfections and loves you regardless is showing unconditional love and support.

4. Love somebody who listens to whatever is on your mind, who protects you, and always reminds you how blessed they are to have found you. Effective communication is the cornerstone of any relationship. A partner who listens attentively and provides a sense of security contributes to a stable and comforting relationship. Expressing gratitude and acknowledging each other’s presence reinforces the bond.

5. Love somebody who you can't stay mad at for more than an hour because you miss speaking to them, who knows every freckle on your face, every stretch mark on your thighs, every scar, and every tear.
Being with someone who you can't stay angry with for long indicates a deep emotional connection and a strong desire to resolve conflicts. When a partner knows the intimate details of your body and your struggles, it shows a profound level of acceptance and love.

6. Love somebody with whom you can plan your future, and most importantly, love somebody who is God-fearing. Planning a future together signifies a serious commitment and shared goals. Having a partner who is God-fearing (or shares your core values and beliefs) ensures that you both have a moral and ethical foundation that can guide your relationship through difficult times.

7. And lastly, don't forget to make them feel loved in return. Love is a two-way street. It's important to reciprocate the love and appreciation your partner shows you. Mutual effort and affection are necessary to maintain a healthy and fulfilling relationship.
Love Lead

Lovénéss Kativhu Christina Muchenje Mai Tino Solidarity Munyewu Gerald Gwarimbo Tari Nzo Abel Tinashe

20/05/2024

The best ingredient for a great life is to offer Kindness freely and without Keeping score and let the universe sort out the rest.❤️‍🔥🌻💯

29/04/2024

This is your life, not meant to be lived for someone else. People may try to argue about your choices; instead of engaging, remain quiet. It's your life—simply live it your way.

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04/03/2024

Relationship Advice....

04/03/2024

Never ever forget why you started... When you are feeling low, drained, stressed or about to give up just remember why you started... Revive yourself go back and pick up the energy you need to go forward. Positive vibes
't give up
motivation
the energy...

Minister Hope
Blessing Deve Official

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18/02/2024

BLESSINGS. ....

26/07/2023

Queen wear that crown 👑 the best you know how .. Do not ever change for anyone or anything...
God has your back ..
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17/07/2023

Every woman I know has, at one point or another,
sobbed in the shower
cried in the car
swallowed down tears in the supermarket
and broken down in the bathroom.

And then she has dried her eyes, lifted her head, taken a deep breath and carried on.

She has walked into work
or in through the front door
or into the store or the coffee shop or the hair salon.
And she has smiled and chatted to people so that no one would know she’d been crying.

And I’m not reminding us of this to say
“look how strong we are to pull ourselves together when we are falling apart”.
Although that still stands.

I’m reminding us how easy it is to paint on a brave face so that other people are none the wiser.

So whilst it might not have been you sitting in the car park crying this morning, it might have been that woman who sits three desks down from you.

Whilst it might not have been you sobbing in the shower before getting the kids ready for school this morning, it might have been their teacher. Or another parent on the school run.

Whilst you might have gotten round the supermarket without being on the verge of tears today, it might not be the same for the person working the till. Or the person behind you in the queue.

Everyone wears their brave face in public.

And we’ll never really know just how many people around us have pulled themselves together with the thinnest of threads each morning. How many people are ready to fall apart again at any point.

But compassion strengthens those threads.

Compassion is powerful.
Because even when no one can see it,
even when no one can hear it…
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Kind to one another
Love Lead 💖..
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03/07/2023

You want to be Successful then understand it demands work....

1. Hard Work

Don't believe in luck, believe in hard work.
Stop trying to rush the process or searching for a shortcut.

There is none.

2. Patience

If you are losing the patience, you are losing the battle.

First nothing happens, then it happens slowly and suddenly all at once.

Most people give up at stage one.

3. Sacrifice

If you don't sacrifice for what you want, then what you want becomes the sacrifice.

Everything has its price. The question is: Are you ready to pay it for the life you desire?

4. Consistency

Consistency is what transforms average into excellence.
Without consistency, you will never achieve greater success.

5. Discipline

Motivation gets you going, but discipline keeps you growing.

There will be days when you don't “feel” like doing it.
You have to push through those days regardless of how you feel.

6. Self Confidence
Confidence is, I'll be fine if they don't like me.
Work is hard but....
Success is sweet
Love yourself it's important 💕
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23/06/2023

You are wonderful
You are unique!

14/06/2023

Money Matters

06/06/2023

Solidarity Munyewu
Tari Nzo
Rosemary Musesengwa
Lovénéss Kativhu
Amanda Hazel Chiwara
Trudy Jaricha
Blessing Deve
Minister Hope
Pauline Naphazi Mutyanda
Jennet Vimbai Kupara Mapani

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE....

Enough money within her control to move out...
And rent a place of her own
even if she never wants to
or needs to...
Something perfect to wear if the employer
or date of her dreams wants to See Her in an hour...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE...
A youth she's content to leave behind....
A past juicy enough that she's looking forward to
retelling it in her Old Age....

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE...
A set of screwdrivers,
a cordless drill, and a black lace bra...
One friend who always makes her laugh...
And one Who lets her cry...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE....
A good piece of furniture not previously owned
by anyone else in her Family...
Eight matching plates,
wine glasses with stems,
And a recipe for a meal that will make
her guests feel Honored...
A feeling of control over her destiny...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
How to fall in love without losing herself..
HOW TO QUIT A JOB,
BREAK UP WITH A LOVER,
AND CONFRONT A FRIEND WITHOUT
RUINING THE FRIENDSHIP...
When to try harder...
And WHEN TO WALK AWAY...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
That she can't change the length of her calves,
The width of her hips,
or the nature of her parents..
That her childhood may not have been perfect...
But it's over...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
What she would and wouldn't do for love or more...
How to live alone...
Even if she doesn't like it...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
Whom she can trust,
Whom she can't,
And why she shouldn't take it personally...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
Where to go...
Be it to her best friend's kitchen table...
Or a charming inn in the woods...
When her soul needs soothing...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
What she can and can't accomplish in a day...
A month...
And a year... ॐ

Written By: Pamela Redmond Satran

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06/06/2023

Healing you is essential

I refuse to allow my pain to create more pain in this world. So I will heal, whatever it takes.

23/05/2023

Ladies ladies ladies the sky ain't even the limit .... Don't limit yourself go beyond the Horizon..
Tari Nzo
Lovénéss Kativhu
Solidarity Munyewu
Trudy Jaricha
Minister Hope
Audrey Mbohwa Mutanga
Jane Samaringa Shambare
Jennet Vimbai Kupara Mapani
Nicola Sharon Jakarasi Kwaramba
Sharon Mafunga Wadesango
Tatenda Bingura Chinyere
Rosemary Musesengwa

15/05/2023

TO THE WOMAN WHO IS SLOWLY FADING AWAY...

To the woman who has lost her spark.
To the woman whose get up and go, has well and truly gone.
This is for you.
This is to remind you whose daughter you are.
This is to remind you, that you don’t have to be everything to everyone, every day.
You didn’t sign up for that.
Remember when you used to laugh? Sing? Throw caution to the wind?
Remember when you used to forgive yourself more quickly for not always being perfect.
You can get that back again.
You really can.
And that doesn’t have to mean letting people down or walking away.
It just means being kinder to you, feeling brave enough to say no sometimes.
Being brave enough to stop sometimes.
And rest.
It starts the moment you realise that you’re not quite who you used to be. Some of that is good, some of that is not.
There are parts of you that need to be brought back.
And if anyone in your life is not okay with that... they are not your people. Your people will be glad to see that spark starting to light up again.
So, if you have been slowly fading away my friend, this is the time to start saying yes to things that bring you joy and no to things that don’t.
It’s really pretty simple.

Donna Ashworth
From, To The Women: words to live by
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12/05/2023

To the women out there holding it down! I salute you...
May God give you strength to carry on when you feel weak...
May God give you resources when you have none ..
May he give you wisdom to raise those children alone....
Love ❤️ Lead.

To every female in the world.

This is for the woman who is healing from the trauma that nobody apologized for.

This is for the woman who was fired because she was late to work for the third time this month all because she had been awake for days up on end with her sick child.

This is for the single mom who doesn't know how she is going to afford winter clothes for her child because her child's father left as soon as he found out she was pregnant.

This is for the woman who has gone through multiple miscarriages and has tried for years without success but still shows up to all of her friend's baby showers.

This is for the woman who has a line of judging eyes at her and her children as she slides her welfare card across the counter at the grocery store.

This is for the woman that opens the door to the news of her husband being killed overseas three weeks before he was to return home.

This is for the woman that gives to her family every single day and just needs a small break from reality.

This is for the woman that puts on a smile every single day for people she doesn't know but as soon as she goes to bed, she falls asleep in a puddle of her own tears.

This is for the woman that heard the rumor about herself at church last Sunday.

This is for the woman who's partner punishes you for the mistakes made by the ones before you.

This is for the woman whose genetics will never allow her to look like the ones in the magazines.

This is for the woman that endures one broken relationship after another because there was no father around to teach her what love actually looked like.

This is for the woman raising a fatherless daughter and praying that history doesn't repeat itself.

This is for the woman falling asleep every night wondering if she still matters.

Let me tell you something:
Everything you do on a daily basis never goes unnoticed and I respect and admire you for who you truly are as a person.

You're heart is undeniably beautiful and your soul is as deep as the oceans depths, that carries so much magic that anyone would be blessed to experience such a rare phenomenon like the person reading this right now.

09/05/2023

Confidence Tari Nzo
Tatenda Bingura Chinyere
Trudy Jaricha
Alice Madzinga

08/05/2023

Ever asked yourself why should I fight for my marriage here is why..,...

"Where are you going?"

"I'll be back."

"But, we're right in
the middle of this.
You can't go now."

"I said, 'I'll be back.'
If it needs finishing,
we'll finish it then."

Early in our marriage -
and all the rest
of the way through -
when emotions got
a little too hot,
and words got
a little too prickly,
and my man and I
started to feel more
like enemies
than lovers,
my love
would walk out the door.

The first time -
as a brand new bride,
the closed door
and the sound of his truck
driving away
broke my heart -
wide and deep.

And I cried and cried and cried.

But, like he had said,
he came back.

He always came back.

His demeanor -
quiet.
His anger -
subdued.
His love -
undeniable
as he met me
with tears
and kisses
instead of anger
and words.

Years later,
with a cell phone
tucked in his pocket,
he didn't even make it home
before the tears fell,
and my phone rang,
and I strained to
understand
his muffled, sobbing voice.

And I soon realized,
first as my brand new husband -
and then all of the
rest of the way through,-
time spent high on a ridge
while bent low on his knees
before his God,
broke his heart -
wide and deep.

And he cried and cried and cried.

A few months after his funeral
while sharing a table and ice tea
with a friend,
he looked at me -
with a yearning in his eyes -
and asked,
"How did you all do it?"

Sensing there was more
to his question,
I waited.

“I mean - marriage.
Granted, I'm only
a few years into mine,
but . . . man.
I've faced a lot of challenges
in my lifetime.
A lot.
But, I've always, always
been able to
tackle whatever it is
and make it work.
But marriage -
I just can't seem to do anything with this."

"My man and God
did it," I answered.
"I was so insecure
and so unsure of myself.
I fought to be understood.
I fought to be heard.
I fought to be known.
I fought with all that I had.

But my man -
he fought for us.

He took our fight
out of the fight
and took it to God.

And alone
in his sanctuary,
the mountains he loved so much,
he fought
to understand,
to hear,
and to know God
in the midst of it.

He fought for us
with all he had.
Just like Jacob,
He wrestled with God
and God answered.

His limp?
A broken and contrite heart.

Thankfully,
over the years,
I learned to fight like my man.
The cry of my heart
began to match his.
It became less about
fighting for me
and more about
fighting for us
and God in us.

It all came down to this:
To let glorifying God
be our why."

And what I wish
I would have told this friend
as we sat together
talking that day is this:

When marriage is
more about
making us holy
than making us happy,
we find the happy
we are longing for.

"Where are you going?"

"I'll be back."

And in the returning,
we discovered the
holy in our matrimony.
In the reunion,
God was glorified
every single time.~❤️

©️ Stacy L. Sanchez

07/05/2023

Parenting diaries....

If a child misbehaves, it must be because the mom isn't enforcing the rules.

If a child’s watching an iPad, the mom must be lazy and not want to deal with her kid.

If a child’s in a whirlwind of tears after her mom yelled at her, her mom doesn’t have enough patience to be a mother.

If a child’s eating candy at the grocery store, his mom must spoil him.

If a child gets into her mother’s lipstick and puts it all over her face, her mother should have been watching.

It doesn't matter what happens. It must be because of the “bad mother.”

And it’s unfair. Moms love too much and try too hard for that narrative to be so overplayed.

Because the truth is,
maybe the mom, who wasn't "watching her kid," was on an important work call.
Maybe the mom with “no patience” was just having a bad day.
Maybe the mom “not enforcing the rules” really has a child with ADHD.
Maybe the “lazy” mom who gave her child an iPad just needed a thirty-minute break after being non-stop all day.

Motherhood’s hard.
And every day, we're faced with decisions on how to parent our children: from what to feed them to how to discipline them, etc.

And no two moms are ever going to parent exactly alike.
We're humans and individuals with different histories, temperaments, and different children to parent.

BOTTOM LINE: WE DON’T HAVE THE RIGHT TO MOM SHAME ANYONE, EVER.

SO DON’T.

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