Flo's Insipirational Corner

12/01/2026

A few days ago, I had a conversation with a very young man—first year at university. Somewhere in the middle of our discussion, he asked a question I know lives quietly in the hearts of many single Christians.

He asked, “When is the right time to start dating seriously?”

And honestly, it’s a valid question.
Men ask it. Women ask it.
And Scripture, interestingly, does not give us an age. There is no verse that says, “At 18 you may date,” or “At 25 you must court.” So this is not about numbers.
It’s about readiness.
Here is the principle the Holy Spirit has consistently brought me back to:
You have no business talking about marriage when someone else is still responsible for your life.
The Bible says, “For this reason, a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife.”
That word leave matters.
Leaving speaks of independence, responsibility, and capacity.
It speaks of the ability to stand on your own—emotionally, financially, spiritually.
If you cannot yet take care of yourself, that is a clear signal that you are not ready to take responsibility for another person’s life.
And this is where we must be honest—especially in the church.
It has become normal to see teenagers and students saying, “This is my boyfriend,” “This is my girlfriend,” while their parents are paying school fees, providing food, shelter, and direction. Yet futures are being planned with someone else’s child.
That is not wisdom.
That is emotion without preparation.
Let me be clear: maturity is not the same for everyone. Some people grow faster emotionally—and that’s true. But emotions alone are not readiness.
If you are in a season where your primary assignment is to learn, to grow, to build skill, character, discipline, and direction—then that is your focus. Especially if you are still fully dependent on parents or guardians.
Even for university students: if you have just entered and someone else is carrying the full weight of your life, this is not the season to make promises you cannot sustain.
Dating with marriage in mind carries weight:
Emotional responsibility
Financial responsibility
Spiritual leadership
Accountability
If you are not ready to carry that weight, you are not late.
You are simply not ready.
And that is okay.
There is wisdom in waiting until you can stand.
Until you can make decisions without running back home.
Until you are becoming the kind of person who can build, lead, and sustain a family—not just desire one.
Love is beautiful.
Marriage is honorable.
But timing matters.
Don’t rush into seasons you have not been prepared for.
Do the work now—so that when love finds you, you are not learning responsibility inside the relationship.
Preparation is never wasted.

20/10/2025

When a strong woman puts pressure on a weak man, he doesn’t rise he runs.
He runs to a woman who won’t challenge him, who won’t hold him accountable,
who makes him feel like a “man” without requiring him to actually be one.

Strong women demand emotional maturity, communication, and growth.
Weak men see that as criticism instead of care.
They confuse accountability with control and mistake comfort for compatibility.

So when faced with a woman who pushes him to evolve,
he retreats to someone who validates his ego instead of healing his wounds.
It’s not that she’s “too much” it’s that he’s too little for the version of love she offers.

A strong woman doesn’t break a man; she reveals his strength or his weakness.
If he’s real, he’ll level up.
If he’s fragile, he’ll look for validation in places that don’t require effort or depth.

Let him go.
Because a man who runs from growth will always settle for comfort over connection.
And a woman who knows her worth will never chase a man hiding from his own potential.

I said what I said.
Class dismissed 😇

13/09/2025

Public speaking is more than standing on stage and delivering words, it is an art of influence.

Yet, many of the most powerful rules are never mentioned in classrooms or textbooks.

1. The audience doesn’t remember everything you say, they remember how you made them feel.

2. Silence is not weakness. A well-timed pause is more powerful than rushing through words.

3. Your body speaks louder than your voice. Posture, eye contact, and movement often carry your message before your words do.

4. Vulnerability connects deeper than perfection. Sharing your struggles can make your speech unforgettable.

5. Energy is transferable. If you’re dull, the room will be dull; if you’re alive, the room will be alive.

6. Simplicity wins. The simpler your words, the stronger your impact.

7. Every speech is a performance of service. It’s not about you; it’s about what you deposit in your listeners.

These rules are rarely taught, but they separate ordinary speakers from unforgettable ones. When you understand and apply them, you’ll not only speak, you’ll transform every room you step into.

class 😇 dismissed

11/09/2025

This is deep 🤔....

11/09/2025

Until you have mastered being silent while being slandered, you're not ready yet. It's hard but it's achievable!
You don't always have to react 🤣 to every gossip n slandering, sometimes silence is best....

05/09/2025

People will talk no matter what you do.

You could be the kindest, most generous person, and someone will still find a reason to tear you down. Why? Because their words are a reflection of them, not you. People will always have something to say, especially when they can't reach you anymore.

So, how do you handle it? You don't. Let them talk. Let them waste their time and energy while you focus on leveling up. Their opinions don't pay your bills, don't build your dreams, and don't define your worth.

You're not here to please everyone, you're here to live your life unapologetically. So, keep your head high, keep moving forward, and let their negativity roll off your back. You're too busy growing to look back.

21/08/2025

Deep

21/08/2025

🤔 food for thought

21/08/2025

12/08/2025

Food for thought...

25/07/2025

We don't run from resistance we thrive with resilience....
Coaching class dismissed... 😇

24/07/2025

😇 positive vibes