24/11/2024
Good evening my brother. The story may be long but re hloka di advice tsa lona. Anonymous will do.
I need advice from your followers, not for myself but for my brother. I’m really worried about him because he’s very quiet and calm, almost afraid to speak up, which makes him vulnerable.
I’ve tried talking to him, but nothing seems to help. My brother met this girl in 2011, and in 2012, she got pregnant and gave birth in October. This was her first child, and my brother found her without a child at first. Everything was fine, and the child got support from both parents. At the time, my brother was financially stable, though not wealthy.
Since my brother is quiet, the girl took advantage of him. She even brought other boyfriends into their home when he wasn’t around. In 2015, when the child was 3 years old, they broke up. There were also rumors that the child wasn’t his.
I told my brother to get a DNA test, but the girl refused and kept saying the child wasn’t his. In 2016, when the child was 4 and started preschool, my brother paid for everything. When he went to pay the school fees, he secretly took the child and did a DNA test. Thankfully, the test showed the child was his. The same year, the girl got pregnant again and gave birth in December to another child, but this one wasn’t my brother’s. Now she has two kids from different fathers.
Everything was fine for a while—my brother only took care of his daughter and didn’t get involved with the other child. But the problems started this year. The first child is now 12, and the second one is about to turn 8.
The girl doesn’t want my brother to physically see his daughter but insists he keeps supporting her financially. She only wants money, not clothes or other things for the child. When my brother asked why he can't see his daughter, she said, "I want my kids to have the same standard. If you come to get your daughter, you have to take them both. No one should be left behind."
Basically, she’s saying my brother should also take care of the second child, even though that child's father is alive, has a job, and is supporting his own children with his current wife. I’m even helping my brother financially now.
He doesn’t know I’m asking for advice, but I need help. In a situation where one child’s father is present and supporting the kid, but the second child’s father is absent, is the first father supposed to take care of the second child too?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated coz now ke shebile family yaka but i don't want to exclude him since ke nale yena fela as my brother💔ke kwa bohloko kudu thuso yengwe le engwe ka e amogela. My brother has been supporting his daughter without seeing her for a long time, and he prefers to handle this outside of court.