08/01/2025
This year, learn to say no comfortably. There is no harm in helping people, just not at your own detriment. Learn to pause first and think about a person's ask instead of agreeing compulsively. The thing about being someone that people can count on when they need help is that to some extent, it turns them dependent to you, causing a cycle where you always have to always put off your plans for them.
Nothing wrong with helping people because no man is an island, but to some extent, the help should also be reciprocated. Ask yourself this, will or does this person come through for me when I also need help the most? If not, help only when you can, but if it's gonna disrupt your plans, pass.
And also, with this philosophy, make sure that you too are self-sufficient, or atleast learn to.
Learn to go to war alone KING!
Personally, I always figure it out, I don't like bothering people cause I don't like being bothered, but an observation on self-analysis, although I don't like bothering people, I've always went over board for other people which held me back for a long time.
I'm trying to fix that. Hero complex killed and buried.