Hope Ogunka (2024)

07/02/2024

Good evening, please, share my story.

I am a 29 years old woman. I've been married to my husband for 3 years. We have a child. Honestly, l do not know why my husband finds it difficult to tell me things. If he is going through anything and l ask him what the problem is, he always says that he is okay. This habit of his is not new to me. Before we got married, he'd prefer to tell outsiders things. I'd hear about it from people. I am always the last person to know these things. I told my mom about it, she said he was going to change. I thought he would. This is our third year in marriage and he hasn't changed. Recently, he got a promotion at his work place, l got to know from his sister. This is really heartbreaking. I don't know if l should talk to his parents about it.

06/02/2024

Greetings to you wonderful Lady.

Greetings to you my wonderful Hot fm family.

I am a 27years old lady, my relationship of 5years now is at the Verge of setting down as husband and wife but right now, l am confused.

I am a Pentecostal member and I don't mind marrying from any church at all except any WHITE GARMENT church.

Initially, from the first day of our relationship I have know my man as not been a member of any white garment church not until last year he attended one of them called Sabbath by Invitation. Since then till now he has been going there and I when I asked him his reasons for going there, he told me that the church helped him in bringing some solutions to his challenges and problems and that he has been seeing the hand of God in his life and that he has chosen to be member there and nothing can stop him from attending the church.

Now, he told me that his wife cannot attend another church whilst he attends a different one. Now he has been asking if am ready to follow him to his church before he will proceed with the traditional rites.

Presently, l am confused on what to do.

We love each other so much but in the other way round, my spirit don't like the doctrine of the WHITE GARMENT church and I find it difficult to accept the church because my spirit doesn't accept their doctrine.

House what's ur say on this , please advice me.

24/01/2024

Good evening, please, share my story.

I am a 30 year old man. I am currently dating a 25 year old girl. We've been dating for a year now. I want to get married to her, the problem I have with her is that she talks too much. She finds it hard to keep secrets. Recently, l told her something which was supposed to be a secret, l was shocked when l heard it from another person. I told her about it, she said she can't remember saying anything like that. I know she did, maybe she can't remember. But she is the only one l had that conversation with. This behavior is really worrisome. Please, how do I go about this?

22/01/2024

Good evening, please, share my story.

I am a 34-year-old man, and I have been married to my wife for 4 years. Our marriage is blessed with two beautiful children. On the eve of our wedding, my wife told me that she didn't want to get married again. When I asked her why, she quickly said she was joking. We got married the next day. I didn't think deeply about what she said, but recent events have made me think otherwise. I discovered that my wife is in a relationship with her boss. Someone mentioned it to me before, but I ignored it. I am yet to tell my wife what I discovered, and I am losing peace. Please, how can I solve this problem?

16/01/2024

Good evening, please, share my story.

I am a young man. This year, l'll be 35 years old. Since when l was thirty, my mom keeps rejecting the women that l want to marry. My dad is late, so l can't talk to him to talk to her.

I am really tired. I've asked her why she keeps rejecting the women? she always says they are not good enough for me. Last year, l brought another woman to her, the same thing happened. I want to marry this lady... before l brought her to my mom, l ensured that she had all the qualities my mom needed in a daughter in-law. But that was not enough. She still rejected her. I am 35 not 25. A friend of mine told me to get the lady pregnant maybe my mom can finally give her consent.

This is really annoying. Please, what should l do?

15/01/2024

Good evening, please share my story.

I am a 26 years old lady. I am the first child out of three girls. When l gained admission into the university, my dad died. It was difficult for my mom to put us through school. I was ready to stop going to school, but a close friend to my dad said he was going to sponsor my education. I had double mind about it, but my mom approved of it. After I graduated, the man came to tell my mom that he wants to get married to me. He has never been married. He is in his mid forties. I've told my mom that l can't get married to the man. I am grateful that he saw me through school, but l can't marry someone because he saw me through school.

The man is seriously insisting that l get married to him. Please, what should l do?

10/01/2024

Good evening, please, read my story.

I am a 26 years old lady. When l was 21, l was dating a man who was in his mid thirties, our relationship was beautiful until he was disturbing me about marriage. I refused to get married to him at that time not because l did not love him, but because l was schooling and didn't want to get married yet. He called off the relationship. He got married to another lady. The marriage didn't last for too long. Recently, we reconnected and he is asking me if l can still get married to him. In all honesty, after we broke up, l didn't date anyone because l was scared and unsure. Yes, l know that l may still have a soft spot for him, but l don't know if it is a great idea to get married to someone that broke up with me when l was younger, only to come back years later to say that he wants us to get married.

09/01/2024

Good evening, please, read my story.

I am a 27 years old lady. I've been dating a guy for 3 years. Last year, he broke up with me without any tangible reason. Since the breakup, l have not gotten my self. He created a vacuum. I feel empty. Recently, a man who was asking me out when l was dating my ex boyfriend re-surfaced.

He has been telling me that he wants to get married to me and he has been telling me that he loves me so much. I am finding it very difficult to believe him. I've been in four different relationships that failed. I am scared of going into a new one.

Please, what should l do?

09/01/2024

Hi, beautiful people.

Evening Showers is back on-air!!!

Who missed me?

A piece of advice for 2024.

Please, stay away from any relationship that will cause you pain.

You deserve to be with the people that genuinely love you. You deserve it. And, do not forget to love yourself.

18/12/2023

Good evening, please, share my story.

I am a 26 years old lady. I have been dating a 30 years old man for more than a year now. Five months ago, he said he wanted to take things seriously with me. I was happy. I love him. No one has ever showed me love like the way he did. Two months ago, he started to disturb me to have s*x with him. We had the s*x. Few weeks after, his behavior changed, he stopped talking to me as he used to, he stopped caring as he used to. Our discussions reduced. He stopped calling often. Two weeks ago, he reached out to me to tell me that he doesn't love me anymore and l should move on with my life.

Like, why would he say that? I can't believe he would do that to me. I am confused, sad and depressed. I don't know how to process this hurt.

Please, help me.

12/12/2023

Good evening, please, share my story.

I am a 27-year-old woman and I am dating a 35-year-old man. We dated for three months before he moved to another state.

For the past two years, I have been in a long-distance relationship with my partner, and it has been difficult at times.

Anytime, l tell him that l want come to his place, he always declines with no tangible reason. He doesn't visit me as well. I am really worried. I love my partner, but I'm starting to feel like our relationship is missing something. I know long-distance relationships can work, but I'm not sure if this one is sustainable in the long run.

What should I do?

11/12/2023

Good evening, please, share my story.

I am a 26 years old woman. I am dating a 42 years old man. We have been dating for more than a year now. The problem is he doesn't want me to have friends. He says friends are distractions. I spoke to my sister about it and she said it's a red flag. I know that l love this guy, but the fact that he wants to be the only one in my life is a big problem for me. Honestly, l want to call the relationship a quit, but l don't know how to go about it. He recently lost someone really close to him and l don't know how he is going to process the heartbreak.

Please, what should l do?

06/12/2023

Good evening, please, share my story.

I am a 38 years old married man. I work with a construction company. My work is very hectic. I am married to a 30 years old woman. We have two children. My wife works in a bank. The problem is my wife does not have time for the family. She's always about her work. The home front is not organized, she doesn't cook meals, she hardly sweeps the house. I do most of the chores despite my tight schedule. Though my wife suggested we get a live in help to assist in taking care of the home which l am not comfortable with. I am considering telling her to quit her job and find something else to do, because l am getting fed up.

Please, how can we solve the problem?

05/12/2023

Good evening, please, share my story.

I am a 24 years old lady. I am currently in my final year. I am dating a guy who is 29 years old. Our relationship is more than six months. The problem is my boyfriend is currently asking me to have s*x with him, l've told him on different occasions that l can't have s*x with him because it's against my values, he is not having it. He keeps insisting and l keep resisting. I recently had a conversation with a friend. I told her my challenge and she said l should do what my boyfriend wants. That men know when women love them when they have s*x with them. Honestly, l am confused? My confusion is not that l do not know what l want. My confusion is centered on the fact that the man l love wants me to do something that l am not comfortable with. Does he really loves me?

Please, family, help me out.

04/12/2023

Good evening, please, share my story.

I am a 28 years old lady. I am currently in a relationship with a guy of 34yrs. We've dated for more than a year. l am supposed to meet with his family this December for our introduction.

I cheated on my boyfriend. And l just realized that l am pregnant. Honestly, l feel really terrible. I told my boyfriend that we should break up because l don't know how to tell him what l did. He said he can't let me go. He went ahead to state that our relationship is one of the best he has had. I don't know what to do, if l tell him, it's going to break him. I don't know if l should just ghost him. This is difficult.

Please, what should l do?

29/11/2023

Good evening, please share my story.

I have been married for five years now. I am a very empathetic woman, anytime my husband mentions that he does not have money, I take up full responsibilities. I sometimes send money to him so he won’t be stranded. Since January, my husband has been complaining that his company has refused to pay salary since February. I believed him, I have been the one taking care of the home since February.

With so much dismay and pain in my heart, I was going through my husband’s phone, I saw debit receipts he sent to this particular lady, he even sends her money to make her hair and nails, something he has not done for me for almost a decade now. No doubt, He is seeing this lady. Since this year, my husband has been telling me that there is no money and has been lying that they have not paid him at work.

I sent all the receipts to my phone, and also alerts of his salary. Honestly, I’m tempted to hurt him coz he has put me into so much pain to even have the guts to cheat on me. What do I do please. If I confront him, it will lead to him defending himself and if he does, I may loose it and hurt him. Don’t know what to do.

28/11/2023

Good evening, please, read my story.

I am a 35-year-old man who has been dating my girlfriend for over a year now. Despite her being very demanding, I always provide for her needs within my financial capacity and she does not complain about it. However, the problem lies in the fact that I am unable to fulfill all her needs, which leads her to cheat on me with multiple men.

Recently, I discovered that she was involved with a married man. When I confronted her about this, she showed no remorse for her actions and even suggested that we break up. It's incredibly painful for me because I love her deeply, and the thought of her leaving me breaks my heart, especially considering that our traditional wedding is around the corner.

I'm currently struggling to process my emotions, but I need to find a way to move on. Should I go and beg her to come back?

15/11/2023

Good evening.

Please, share my story.

I am a 33 years old lady. I run a catering business. My boyfriend is 35years old. Our relationship is 6years old. We were course mates in the university. We started dating after we graduated. I love him. In the course of our relationship, l've aborted two children for him. Each time l get pregnant, he'd say he is not ready to be a father. Then l'll be forced to remove the child.

Recently, l missed my period only to go to the hospital and my result showed that l was pregnant. I was angry. After my previous abortions, l told myself that l won't allow myself to get pregnant.

To cut the long story short, l told my boyfriend. And he did say that l should remove the baby. I told him l won't. He said if l want to keep the baby, l should know that he will not be responsible for the child's upkeep. I was shocked. I told him we should get married since he just recently got a promotion at his workplace and the pay can help us to start our family. He bluntly told me that he also has someone who is currently pregnant for him and he can't have two babies at the same time.

Since that conversation, I've not been myself. I am really heartbroken.

14/11/2023

Please, read my story.

I am a 29 years old lady. I am dating a 35 years old man. We have been dating for 6 months, and everything has been going really well. But recently, I've noticed that my partner seems to be getting more and more controlling. He wants to know where I am all the time, and he gets angry if I don't reply his texts or calls immediately even though it is not intentional plus my reasons are always valid. I'm starting to feel uncomfortable, and I'm not sure how to bring this up without making him feel attacked. I just want to feel like I have my own space and independence.

Is this a red flag?

13/11/2023

Good evening, please, share my story.

I am a 27 year old lady. I am dating a 38 year old man. Our relationship is almost four months.

Few weeks into the relationship, l asked my boyfriend if he would accept his ex when she comes back...maybe to ask for forgiveness or to get back together. His response shocked me: He said he can accept his ex back but it depends on how/why they broke up.

I said okay. I didn't want to think deep into what he said. Lately, the dreams l have been having has made me to think thoroughly about it. I have been having bad dreams about us and it is scary.

My boyfriend has shown me that he loves me so much and he really wants us to work, but l can't get past the ex conversation we had and the dream.

I don't know how to go about this. I am truly confused. I sincerely love him, but l am scared that his ex may want to come back and he will go back to her.

07/11/2023

Good evening, please, read my story.

I am a 28 year old lady. December will make it a year since l started dating my boyfriend. My boyfriend is 33 years old. I love him so much and he loves me as well. He always tells me that l am his answered prayers.

Few weeks ago, something happened, l followed my boyfriend to his maternal home only to discover that his cousin was my ex boyfriend. I was shocked and uncomfortable. My boyfriend sensed that something was wrong, but l told him that l am okay. On the other hand, his cousin acted like he has never seen me before.

Honestly, l don't know how to feel. Should l tell my boyfriend that his cousin was my ex boyfriend, will the knowledge of it lead to breakup?

Please, what should l do?

30/10/2023

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Good evening, please, share my story.

I am a 29 years old lady. I am dating a man who is 41 years old. We are dating to get married. Our relationship is four months old. The problem is we don't spend quality time together. When l am with him, he is always pressing his phone, working on his laptop. We barely have conversations because he is always busy. Recently, l brought up the issue to him and he said he is aware and l should understand that it's his work. I love to go out, have fun, take pictures and do fun things with the one l love but l can't do it with my partner because he is always busy. I know we both love each other. But l am really not happy.

What should l do?

25/10/2023

Good afternoon, please read my story. I am a 27-year-old lady who has been in a relationship with my boyfriend for five years, with the intention of getting married. Every time a suitor approaches me for marriage, he pleads for me not to give them attention and instead give him a chance to improve as a man. This situation has persisted for all these years. When I inquire about when he plans to meet my family, he doesn't provide a specific time or year; all he mentions is that he needs money.

Recently, I informed him that I can't wait any longer. His reaction made me wonder: what? His response indicated that he wants to marry me out of pity, based on our five-year commitment, and he claimed he couldn't wait any longer. He even suggested that I marry someone else if there's no suitor presently.

At the moment, I'm emotionally drained, and I feel like I've innocently wasted my years, which could have been given to serious men in my life. Please advise me. 😭😭😭

23/10/2023

Greetings, beloved Hope Ogunka. How are you today?

I need advice from the family.

I have a male friend, and both of us are in our 40s and also separated from our previous marriages. He is serious about settling down with me, but my biggest FEARS are as follows:

1. He's not properly divorced.
2. He becomes physically aggressive and hits women carelessly when he's angry.

Due to these concerning behaviors, I've been experiencing a growing emotional distance from him, which he has also noticed and frequently complained about. I'm facing a difficult time making decisions. Thank you.

18/10/2023

Good evening, please, share my story.

I am a 29 years old lady. I am dating a man who is 41 years old. We are dating to get married. Our relationship is four months old. The problem is we don't spend quality time together. When l am with him, he is always pressing his phone, working on his laptop. We barely have conversations because he is always busy. Recently, l brought up the issue to him and he said he is aware and l should understand that it's his work. I love to go out, have fun, take pictures and do fun things with the one l love but l can't do it with my partner because he is always busy. I know we both love each other. But l am really not happy.

What should l do?

17/10/2023

Good evening, please, share my story.

I am a 27-year-old woman and I am dating a 35-year-old man. We dated for a month before he moved to another state.

For the past two years, I have been in a long-distance relationship with my partner, and it has been difficult at times.

We only get to see each other once every few months, and it's been hard to feel close when we're so far apart. I love my partner, but I'm starting to feel like our relationship is missing something. I know long-distance relationships can work, but I'm not sure if this one is sustainable in the long run.

What should I do?

11/10/2023

I am a 35 year old woman. I'll be 36 next month. Honestly, l am not happy. I feel like l have failed myself. I got pregnant at an early age. My child is not living with me. He is staying with my parents. The problem is, l am currently dating a man. I love him so much and he also loves me. He is not aware that l have a son. Recently, l asked him if he can marry a woman who has a child, he said no. Since the day l had that conversation with him, l have not been myself. I don't want to leave him.

Please, advice me.

02/10/2023

Good evening, please, share my story.

I am a 30-year-old woman running my own business. My partner and I got engaged in April after 3 years together. Initially, we planned to marry in September, but financial challenges have put our wedding plans on hold. The issue is that I am pregnant, and I haven't disclosed this to anyone.

I am unsure about what to do, but I am committed to having the child.

Please, what should l do?

13/09/2023

Good evening, please, share my story.

I am 26 years old lady. I was dating a guy for two years. Our relationship was inconsistent. So, both of us agreed to take a break from the relationship and work on ourselves.

Along the line, l met a new guy, we started discussing and one thing led to another, he asked me to be his girlfriend which l agreed to.

Recently, he reached out to me and asked me if we can date again. I told him that l was already in a new relationship.

So, he said he was going to stop talking to me. I feel bad that he wants to stop talking to me. He has always helped me to do stuffs. It beaks my heart that he wants to stop talking to me because l moved on. Am l over reacting?

23/08/2023

Good evening, please, share my story.

I am a 28 years old lady. I work in a bank. I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 years. On the first day of January we got engaged. After l said yes to him, he told me to move in with him which l accepted.

To cut the long story short, my husband to be has been mistreating me. He insults me anyhow, he talks to me anyhow plus when he is drunk, he creates a mess. l told my parents about it and they told me to call off the engagement.

I moved out of his place last three weeks only to discover that l am pregnant. I am yet to call off the engagement, nobody knows about the child yet.

Please, how do l handle this situation. Will he change?

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