07/02/2024
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A Holy Mess Podcast! I help you heal from the trauma and drama of life. I am obsessed with redemption & iced tea.
I love Jesus, my family & the tribe I get to walk through life with. :)
27/01/2024
Life is about progress, not perfection. It's okay not to have everything figured out. We must give ourselves permission to grow, learn, and evolve.
Life's beauty lies in its imperfections and the mess. So let's embrace the mess together! Next week, my coaching program begins, and I'd love for you to join us.
This program is something I've been designing over the last decade as I've journeyed with God and found joy again.
Reach out if you have questions, or sign up now. I can't wait to see you there!
https://buff.ly/47vzdBj
26/01/2024
I've struggled with depression and anxiety since day one, and a whole host of trauma and drama I'm working through.
I'm learning to build a beautiful life, thrive within it, and laugh about it.
I have this community of people in my life to help empower and equip me, and that's what this is all about."
To learn more about this community, check out The Feel Better Journey Coaching Program. https://buff.ly/47vzdBj
Much love,
Dani
23/01/2024
None of us can ‘squeeze’ through life without walking through hard things. And I have found that, in some way, these hard things define some part of us.
I once heard that “hard things either make you bitter or better.”
We all have stories, and I believe the most beautiful people in this world are those who embrace their stories and find a way to accept and live at peace in their lives.
There is no ‘refund policy’ on any part of our lives. Trust me, I have sometimes looked high and low for a refund! 😂
FYI—there is no exchange policy either. If you're looking to dig deeper into your journey, I invite you to join our upcoming round of The Feel Better Journey coaching program, where you will learn more about how I navigate the challenges in life and how you can do the same as you thrive. You are not alone! https://buff.ly/47vzdBj
22/01/2024
Hey friends! There are a lot of new faces, so I want to introduce myself and welcome you!
Life can be a wild ride, filled with its fair share of heartache, self-doubt, and that persistent feeling of not measuring up, but we are in this together and have an awesome community to invite you into.
Hi, I'm Dani, and I'm on this journey with you. I've been in recovery for 13 years on my own journey of healing.
I love Jesus and cuss a little (so you've been warned). 🚨🤣
We have a podcast, weekly emails you can subscribe to, and even a group coaching program.
Join us in living an authentic life. Let's dive into the chaos, savor the moments, and discover the beauty in the brokenness together. Let's goooooo!
15/01/2024
This poem by Mario de Andrade (San Paolo 1893–1945) has stuck with me!
I read it in Episode 124 and wrote it out for you on the blog. I hope it blesses you today and as you move forward into this year. https://buff.ly/3HgOHOZ
I counted my years and found that I have less time to live from here on than I have lived up to now.
I feel like that child who won a packet of sweets: he ate the first with pleasure, but when he realized that there were few left, he began to enjoy them intensely.
I no longer have time for endless meetings where statutes, rules, procedures and internal regulations are discussed, knowing that nothing will be achieved.
I no longer have time to support the absurd people who, despite their chronological age, haven't grown up.
My time is too short:
I want the essence,
my soul is in a hurry.
I don't have many sweets
in the package anymore.
I want to live next to human people,
very human,
who know how to laugh at their mistakes,
and who are not inflated by their triumphs,
and who take on their responsibilities.
Thus human dignity is defended and we move towards truth and honesty.
It is the essential that makes life worth living.
I want to surround myself with people who know how to touch hearts, people who have been taught by the hard blows of life to grow with gentle touches of the soul.
Yes, I'm in a hurry, I'm in a hurry to live with the intensity that only maturity can give.
I don't intend to waste any of the leftover sweets.
I am sure they will be delicious, much more than what I have eaten so far.
My goal is to reach the end satisfied
and at peace with my loved ones
and my conscience.
We have two lives.
And the second begins when you realize you only have one.
15/01/2024
Hey friend! Friday was my birthday! I won’t bore you with the top 44 things I’ve learned in the last 44 years… who has time for that? 😂
Here’s one thing I’ve learned over the last year, though—no matter what 💩 storm comes our way—we can and will get through it! And that’s not some Christian cliche like “just pray about it.”
We may feel like a square peg in a round hole. BUTTT, we belong here in this world. YOU BELONG here.
And I’m so glad our paths have crossed, and you’re part of this community.
As a birthday present to my community—I am hosting a FREE workshop on Sunday, January 21st, at 2 pm PST called Thrive Under Pressure.
At this workshop, we will discuss how to thrive when life feels hard and how to move forward when you’re feeling stuck, exhausted by life, or struggling with anxiety.
I’d love for you to join us at the workshop, and I hope the time encourages you.
Sign up for the FREE virtual workshop now, and I'll see you there!
https://buff.ly/4aVdDcl
So much love,
-Dani
15/01/2024
In Episode 124, I announced that I'm offering a free virtual workshop titled Thrive Under Pressure: Learn to Thrive When Life Feels Hard.
During this online event, I will talk about ways to move forward when you’re feeling stuck, exhausted by life, or struggling with anxiety.
I'm so excited to offer bonuses and even a chance at a scholarship to my coaching program for those who attend the event live!
RSVP now, and I will see you there! https://buff.ly/4aVdDcl
13/01/2024
I love how, in his poem, Mario de Andrade expresses his desire to live a full and beautiful life based on authenticity and peace. Life is too short to be stuck, and I'm here to walk this journey with you. Join us for a free workshop on Sunday, January 21st, and read more of this amazing poem on the blog or listen to Episode 124. https://buff.ly/3HgOHOZ
13/01/2024
In Episode 124, I read a blessing and announce that I'm hosting a free virtual workshop on Sunday, January 21st. Join me as we talk through how to learn to thrive when life feels hard.
Together we will talk through how to move forward when you’re feeling stuck, exhausted by life, or struggling with anxiety. You can be a fly on a wall and listen in, or submit questions to me during the event - your choice!
And there will be bonuses and a chance at a scholarship for my coaching program for those who attend the event live, in real-time. So sign up now, and I will see you there! https://buff.ly/4aVdDcl
13/01/2024
New Episodes! Check out Episode 124 for a blessing and an upcoming event and Episode 123 about what to do when we try to help those who are hurting, and it gets tough. https://buff.ly/4b8MFhR
12/01/2024
It's my birthday! I'm inviting you to a free virtual workshop called Thrive Under Pressure. If your life looks pretty good on the outside, but you're on the struggle bus internally, join us! I know some of us feel stuck, exhausted by life, or are constantly struggling with anxiety. I'm hoping the time we spend together will help encourage you and give you some tactical tools to help you thrive. I'm sharing more of my journey and story and would love to see you there.
https://buff.ly/4aVdDcl
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11/01/2024
Holy moly, can the humans we love drive us nutty at times? In Episode 123, I share a quick story from my life and a turnaround tactic I use when I’m on the struggle bus. I talk briefly about my struggle with codependency—a very human struggle that most of us sensitive beings struggle with at times. There are two vital questions I find myself asking time and time again to help me thrive during rough moments: What do I control right now, in this moment? And what can make this moment better? I hope this episode blesses you! https://buff.ly/48KqWdT
10/01/2024
In my program, The Feel Better Journey, we unpack several concepts to find meaning and purpose in our lives and ultimately feel better! We don't just talk about these concepts in the program; we apply and practice them. That's why it works.
The program aims to help empower us all to thrive through life, not just 'survive' life.
In Episode 122, I thought I would share one of those concepts—we take time to unpack it more in the program—but I hope no matter where you are, these thoughts and concepts can help you on your journey.
The concept/framework we are talking about is 'THAW,' and it can help us all feel better in our day-to-day lives. https://buff.ly/48Hdqrq
09/01/2024
I focus on surrounding myself with real, raw, and authentic people; it makes a difference in my energy, perspective, and ability to help others.-Dani
Learn more in Episode 121 of A Holy Mess Podcast. https://buff.ly/4agG2t2
08/01/2024
Most of my friends are authentic. Honestly, it's just how I roll now. Read more on our blog for Episode 121, where we talk about Brennan Manning's Quote: “In every encounter, we either give life or we drain it, there is no equal exchange.” https://buff.ly/3S3wsmd
07/01/2024
I heard this quote a few weeks ago—and I can't stop thinking about it— "Life's a concert, not a museum."
For so long, I suffered under the 'museum' belief about my life—don't get me wrong, I love some museums, but if I had a choice between going to a concert OR a museum, I'd probably choose a concert.
Actually, I'd probably skip both, stay home with a fire, and watch Netflix. But me being a homebody is not my point! 🤣
I want my life to be a concert—where all the keys and notes play together to make one beautiful symphony. And I'm sure you do too!
The only issue is that sometimes it's hard to embrace that it will all work together somehow for us. In Episode 120, we talk about just that.
I hope this episode encourages you. https://buff.ly/4aKPsO2
06/01/2024
Sometimes, hopelessness manifests in self-sabotage. The Holiday Season we just experienced can trigger hopelessness that may haunt or exhaust us after the actual holiday. If we feel stuck, it can be grief or hopelessness, and we can acknowledge it and find ways to grow around it. Check out Episode 119 for more and let me know if you can relate. https://buff.ly/47m99cB
05/01/2024
I know for so long, I waited, and waiteddddd for an apology from those that hurt me.
I thought, "If only _____ apologizes and sees the error in their way and how deeply they hurt me, THEN I would feel better!"
And the reality is most of us are still waiting for that heartfelt apology most of the time. And what a journey that can be! But the great news is that your destiny isn't just to continue to suffer because you've never received that apology. But oh boy, would that apology be nice or what?
So, how do we find healing without an apology? Or sometimes even worse, the half--a$$ apology that's no help at all. haha. 🤣
But there's hope! I promise. We don't have to live captive to the wounds others have inflicted on us. Or even that we've inflicted on ourselves. 🫶🏼
https://buff.ly/3H2yGvY
04/01/2024
🎧 Are you feeling distant from God, The Holy Spirit, or Jesus? Listen to Episode 117, where I share a few helpful questions to ask yourself. https://buff.ly/47nqLUX
03/01/2024
I've found that no matter how 'pretty and put together' our life looks on the outside--We all deal with internal angst about the difficult things in life. https://buff.ly/3NPa3qB
I hope this episode encourages you a bit as you continue showing up the best you can in your life. ✨
21/12/2023
Ruin is a gift. Ruin is the road to transformation. - Author Elizabeth Gilbert.
Throughout my journey, I've encountered anxiety, depression, addiction, betrayal, and various life challenges. I've wrestled with situations that once seemed to define and disqualify me from experiencing hope, joy, and purpose. But when I started recovery and this transformative inner work, I discovered that no matter what ruins or wreckage life has thrown us, we still have more purpose. Be encouraged today that it is through our brokenness that God transforms and shapes us. I talk more about this in Episode 116. https://buff.ly/3RyQuUa
20/12/2023
How are you caring for yourself this season? I know the world is on fire, which can be triggering and difficult to navigate. I'm not saying we should bury our heads in the sand. However, I am saying that YOU get to care for yourself through it all. https://buff.ly/484gGxf
20/12/2023
Finding moments of stillness and self-reflection is essential in a world buzzing with noise, emotional triggers, and constant movement.✨ https://buff.ly/3RwHWgJ
20/12/2023
Psalm 34 holds so much wisdom for us all. As someone who feels all the feels daily, I've realized the need to 'practice joy,' and lately, I've been obsessed with it. And this song, called JOY by Andy Grammar, is so good. 🥰 I've been dancing for days, which brings me joy!
Psalm 34:18 "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit."
I hope this verse and truth bless you. https://buff.ly/3GOmAX4
19/12/2023
It is easy to feel isolated in our struggles, especially in a world moving 1000 miles per hour. We often think we're the only ones grappling with particular issues, keeping them hidden. But the truth is, many of us share these challenges, even if we're hesitant to admit it! We all carry this weight in our unique ways.
In Episode 112 of A Holy Mess Podcast, we talk about how many of us carry private pain – those deep, hidden struggles that we find challenging to share with others, even our closest friends. Listen In. https://buff.ly/48klb6k
13/12/2023
“In every encounter, we either give life or we drain it, there is no equal exchange.” Brennan Manning.
Most of my friends are authentic. Honestly, it's just how I roll now. I don't have the energy or time for BS anymore. Life’s too short and valuable to waste it on NOT being me. And most of my friends feel the same way, thankfully. And BTW--the world NEEDS YOU to be YOU too!
Join our listening community for A Holy Mess Podcast to hear more, and check out Episode 121, where I talk more about this quote. -Dani https://buff.ly/4agG2t2
13/12/2023
“In every encounter, we either give life or we drain it. There is no neutral exchange.” - Brennan Manning.
There is zero energy for BS in my relationships anymore as I surround myself with people who refresh me and truly give life. In Episode 121, I share more. Listen in for more about surrounding yourself with people who recharge you. -Dani ✨ https://buff.ly/4agG2t2
22/11/2023
What do kidney stones and the holidays have in common? Eventually, they will pass. The holidays may feel like a kidney stone, but this season will pass. I promise. 😆
But really, I’d like to commiserate how difficult the holidays can be as I'm starting to feel it... you too?🍗 🍽️ ✨🎄
In Episode 119, my counselor, Jim Beebe, and I candidly talk about how difficult this season can be for most of us. All the pressure and expectations of others make this time of year less than magical, not to mention the extra high expectations we pile on ourselves.
https://buff.ly/47m99cB
08/11/2023
13 years feels different.
It feels like I'm at home now in my sobriety.
13 hits different because 13 is how old I was when I had my first real drink. I should have known then. That drink felt so good, too good.
Most people don't have good stories about their first drink or their first 'drunk' — I do. I never felt more alive or confident or more at peace within myself. And at 13, how could I have known better? If I needed a substance to feel most 'like me,' maybe that was my first sign something was off.
I never felt more at home in my skin than when I drank a little.
I also never thought I was a drunk because I still had my house, my husband, my children, and even a thriving-ish career. Naive judgemental me thought all people with addiction issues were toothless, homeless, and watchless. Well, we almost lost our home because of a gambling investment that dissolved our nest egg and retirement two years before I hit bottom. But I've always been a gambler. Who knew that was a sign of my dis-ease?
Hindsight's always 20-20.
Being sober is not about just not drinking, although, for me, that's part of my solution.
Being sober means I get to feel it all, embrace it all, and LIVE it all.
Thirteen years in sobriety and now making a living helping people heal from their own harmful human experiences has been the most significant gift and the biggest challenge of my life.
Drinking and pill-popping was easier, but it only worked for a time.
In his book Man's Search for Meaning, Viktor Frankl wrote about finding purpose in our suffering as one of the ways to heal from our own suffering.
Since living Frankl's thesis for over a decade, I can attest that sometimes the only consolation prize from our suffering is to be of service to others in their suffering.
What I want to say to you, my friends, is:
Please don't give up on YOU.
Your story matters.
Your life matters.
YOU matter.
If you're medicating the dis-ease inside, stop judging yourself. That doesn't help. "Love covers a multitude of sins…"
No matter where you are or where the addicts in your life are today, know — you're not alone, and there's hope.
It’s not all on your shoulders to figure it out.
I have found that surrendering and letting go of the outcomes is the first step. And the hardest.
"Surrendering and letting go" felt like a foreign language I never learned before I took that step.
I remember repeating with a few expletives attached, "How?! How do I surrender and let go?!"
I guess the best way to sum it up is that it doesn't happen in an instant.
It's not just one prayer.
That's not something they tell you upfront.
And I don't know why.
That was the hidden magic in sobriety for me, the process of healing.
I kept wanting a magic pill.
Of course, I did!
I'm an addict.
But the good and bad news is there's no magic pill.
It's a one-day-at-a-time process. Not just an event.
Sometimes, I still wish addiction and this dis-ease wasn't an issue that I had to deal with. It's especially difficult when I see others suffering from the effects of addiction or other harmful coping skills.
But, the better, more healed part of me is grateful for the gift of my issues and all it's birthing in my life.
Addiction robbed me of so much.
And sobriety is the gift that keeps giving and returning it all to me, one day at a time.
Hitting bottom was the "gift" I never wanted to open, yet it's become the best gift I could've imagined.
I'm so grateful for:
My life
My Jesus
My family
My friends
My community near and far
And for any of you dear ones fighting the good fight, I stand with you. No judgment for your humanity and journey. Just love.
Whether your issues are attached to addiction or just another human struggle that most of us contend with, like trauma, grief, loss, betrayal, disappointment, shame, regret, self-hatred, etc... the list goes on and on.
The same issues that drove me to drink are driving me to heal now.
It's a beautiful exchange. And again, it's a process, not an event.
We all deserve a second shot, and I've been living mine one day at a time for 13 years. I still can't believe it sometimes.
They say, "Faith is believing in what we can't see."
But I have found that faith is also believing that what we can see is real.
Compassion is real.
Acceptance is real.
Community is real.
Hope is real.
Love is real.
You're real.
And I love YOU in all your humanness.
I'm so grateful for today.
Cheers to 4,749 consecutive, one-day-at-a-time days.
So much love and gratitude,
Dani
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Sometimes, our private pain is rooted in unspoken grief. We might be mourning the loss of our envisioned life or dealing with personal challenges that we can't disclose to others. These unspoken burdens can weigh heavily on our hearts, affecting our ability to connect with loved ones and be present in our relationships. So how do we navigate this pain? Listen to Episode 112 for more. https://buff.ly/41xSj8D #grief #privatepain #mourning #burdens #christiancommunity
The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those crushed in spirit. ❤️🩹 Many of us know too well that despair is tough. Maybe we run from it for fear it will talk us out or overcome and preoccupy us. Finding a healthy Christian community and ways to allow yourself to feel and process truly is vital. Listen to Episode 113 for a soul-stirring conversation about life's highs and lows.
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“In every encounter, we either give life or we drain it. There is no neutral exchange.” - Brennan Manning. There is zero energy for BS in my relationships anymore as I surround myself with people who refresh me and truly give life. In Episode 121, I share more. Listen in for more about surrounding yourself with people who recharge you. -Dani ✨ https://buff.ly/4agG2t2
Life can be so tiring at times, ESPECIALLY when we have to deal with people who constantly find fault or nitpick and drain our energy. I feel your pain if you have some Dracula-like people in your life—thankfully, they don't suck your blood, but they do have a way of sucking the life right out of you! In Episode 121, I share a quote from Brennan Manning and hopefully a few helpful tips to empower you through it. You deserve healthy and empowering relationships in your life! #aholymesspodcast #danisumner #getyourenergyback #lifetransformationcoaching https://buff.ly/4agG2t2
What do kidney stones and the holidays have in common? Eventually, they will pass. The holidays may feel like a kidney stone, but this season will pass. I promise. 😆 But really, I’d like to commiserate how difficult the holidays can be as I'm starting to feel it... you too?🍗 🍽️ ✨🎄 In Episode 119, my counselor, Jim Beebe, and I candidly talk about how difficult this season can be for most of us. All the pressure and expectations of others make this time of year less than magical, not to mention the extra high expectations we pile on ourselves. https://buff.ly/47m99cB #holidays #holidayhumor #emotionalwellbeing #familytrauma #healing #anxiety #faith #expectations
If you're struggling with things you can't even put words to or aren't ready to share yet, I just want you to know it's okay and you're not alone. Listen to a short episode for encouragement. #healing #community #encouragement #lifewithJesus #faith #beencouragedtoday #christianlifecoaching
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This 🎉. If you’ve ever had a coach/teacher/someone in leadership beat you down for blowing it—That’s on them! 🤬🥵 I’m working through this very thing with some dear friends and students right now. This video from Bleacher Report shows that what Deion did in this moment is true leadership! And may YOU all know YOU’RE worthy of having someone believe and speak life into YOU like this! #leadership #empowerment #buildconfidence #jimmyhorn #deionsanders #bleacherreport #ivebeenthere #servantleadership
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Happy 16th Kenzi! I don’t even have words… ⠀ You’ve been a miracle and gift from the start! ⠀ You’re more than I could have prayed or dreamed for. ⠀ Your kindness and tenacity is like no other! —a rare combo, and a gift from God. ⠀ Great days ahead for you beautiful one!⠀ YOU are such a gift!!! ⠀ ⠀ 16 things to describe YOU:⠀ ⠀ You’re kind, generous(too generous🤣), hilarious, witty, fun, creative, smart, gorgeous, caring, tenacious, loving/easy to love, adventurous, thoughtful, cheerful, faithful, loyal & highly favored! ⠀ ⠀ WE LOVE YOU!!! 💞
Hey friends, Today we are talking with Therapist Hannah Warren! I am so excited about this episode! Hannah brings a wealth of experience and knowledge and her heart is so awesome. We talk about day-to-day functioning in life and her advice is so helpful! She unpacks her simple, yet profound way to navigate grief, loss, frustration and just day to day emotions like anger or sadness that come up! This content is gold! She talks about a simple tool she calls “The Highway” to help you navigate and evaluate where we are, and how to get where you want to go in whatever situation or emotion you are feeling. I’m telling you, it’s amazing! Love you guys! Dani 🙂
Amen. 💖🤗
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