05/02/2023
I so incredibly grateful me and Caiden and my husband went to go see his nana yesterday, before us arriving I was very scared, I was nervous, I wasn’t knowing what to expect, when someone says there in hospice it truly scares you, Like I said previous, after Sandy lost her son 3 yrs ago, she was never the same, before his passing, She was helping out with a lot, being there for him, helping him With literally everything, and then Brian also had me, I enjoyed him coming over to my house and hanging out and me going over there, but when he died, she secluded herself away from the world in her house! She wasn’t taking care of herself! She was completely lost! And heart broken, Sandy has two children, Brian being one, and his sister, you think after knowing what your mom just went through you would be there for her, but nope, she made everything worse for her, all she cared about was anything beneficial for her and that’s it! It completely broke my heart, Sandy has 3 grandchildren 2 by Brian’s sister and one by me and Brian, She was close with Caiden cause I let her be in his life and for that she was so happy, but she was broken cause she wanted to be a grandma to her granddaughters but nope never aloud! This poor woman literally drove herself over, her sons loss was to much to handle, mental health is so important,
When I tell you all Me and Sandy had a hard hard relationship, when I first met her back 2011 she hated me , she never gave me a chance cause I was married, and I had other kids, she was so mean to me, always would be disrespectful towards me and always put me down, but guess what I still respected her even though I wanted to lose my control, I still let her be apart of Caidens life, she was still picking him up all the time, she took my son and her son to the park literally every single weekend, she and me both took Brian to his chemo appts and she would hang out with Caiden while he was getting treatment, When I tell you she never had nothing nice to say about me, she didn’t like me but I still didn’t let that get in the way, all that mattered to me she was a great mom and grandmother, it took her a long time to actually see I was a good person and mom to Caiden, Brian would always tell her mom you need to give her a chance, she is a great person and she is my sons mom and my best friend, She finally came around and me and her got along great! And for that I was so thankful!!! She would always say I am so happy Caiden has you as a mom! I was like wow did she just say that, haha!
Me and Sandy had some conversations about Brian losing his strength, we knew once his cancer has spread all over including his Brain, we knew our time was getting less and less, Brian used to tell her , if something happened to me , I wanna make sure my son gets my things cause he knew his momma was going hoard everything and lose it, Well sad truth is, it wasn’t her, it was his own sister who robbed my son of his fathers things the same day his dad passed away in the hospital! I couldn’t believe it was happening, she even took things away that his mother wanted, and worse part is, she knows how it is to lose a father cause her and Brian lost there dad years before, It wasn’t about money, when his father died, I didn’t receive money, nothing! I didn’t get child support , I am the one that helped him at times when he was in need, When I told her what her daughter did, she couldn’t believe it, I asked for Caidens coins his FATHER SAVED FOR MY SON , not her! She has no rights to any of it!!! Caiden is 100% legally his next of Kin, so she doesn’t want to give them to me, why cause she doesn’t trust me? For what? And it has nothing to do with her in the first place, that miserable person said Caiden can contact her when he is 18, are you kidding me , I am like did I just hear this , Caidens father collected these coins cause he said at least if something happened to him his son will have something that meant a lot to him, so what I am going do , I am going do it the legal way, I am going going to file with the courts, cause I know I’m my heart this is what Caidens Dad would of wanted, I also want pictures of my son and his daddy that he was saving for me , and I never got them as well,
I send my prayers during this time for Caidens nana! I was so happy y’all that when I told her I loved her , she said it right back to me, that made my entire day!
Treat your parents with respect, love them and if u have any differences keep them aside!! They deserve love and Respect!
