12/25/2025
Iâm just gonna go ahead and say the thing.
Sticking with the facts will make your life (and recovery from OCD) so much better.
I know it.
You know it.
Hereâs the thing. Facts are objectively true statements that could hold up in a court of law, that no one would bat an eye at. Theyâre just.. that. Facts. Statements of truth.
Drama is everything that happens after that fact.
It goes a little like this.
Fact: âI had an intrusive thought of hitting someone with my car.â
Drama: âOh my God, what does that mean about me? Does that mean I actually did it? I donât want to have those thoughts anymore. Theyâre so scary. I canât handle these thoughts. I just want them to go away!!!â
Letâs try another one.
Fact: âI am mad at my partner.â
Drama: âDoes this mean something about my relationship? About them as a person? Does this mean this person isnât actually for me? I canât handle not knowing that for sure. I donât want to spend time with someone who I donât know is 100% for me. Where would that get me in life? I have to figure this out.â
Or another.
Fact: âMy heart is beating really quickly right now.â
Drama: âOHHHHH no, this canât be happening, not again. This feeling sucks so bad, I need to get out of this, okay, maybe Iâll try some of that deep breathing I read about online. *tries* UGHHH itâs not working, itâs not working, okay what do I do!? I need this to stop, let me go online and see what could be happening.â
Do you see how we play with fire here? Do you see how we canât just leave well enough alone? Do you see how we take this normal, every day intrusive thought, idea, doubt, what if, obsession, and then make this big juicy dramatic emotional narrative about it?
So instead of getting lost in the juicy details - stick with the facts. And thatâs it.
DM me or comment the word CYCLE so you donât have to keep getting swept up in the emotional charge of it all. No emotional charge, no need to do a compulsion, and ⊠you get your life back.
Because you donât need to keep ritualizing to keep yourself safe.
You can just stick with the facts.
DM