A Mixed Life Mom

16/04/2024

✨ MONDAY MINDSET RESET✨

Today is the new day and new start to be than yesterday. The beginning of every week, whether it starts on a Sunday, Monday, or even Wednesday, what’s important is how you (re)set your mind and step out of your comfort zone(s).

How’s the start of your week?
💙 Tell me in the comments how’s your new week is going.

🥰 Follow to learn and grow 🌱.

🫶🏽 Share this with a mom who is looking for an encouraging mom community that challenges them to be better than yesterday.

✌🏾+💞

11/04/2024

Make it a great day!

05/04/2024

Morning Thought:

“We are made wise not from the recollection of our past, but by responsibility for our future.” –George Bernard Shaw
✌🏾+💞

29/02/2024

📚 The Book on Mental Toughness by Andy Frisella (AF) 📚

This is my current read as I’m on Day 45 of the 75 Hard program (as of today 🥰). Here are some quotes from AF that hopefully helps you today:

♠️ “Everyday is a win or a loss.”

♠️ “What you think about, dream about, talk about and focus on will become your life.”

♠️ “Real success is not defined by what you accomplish. It is defined by how you are helping others accomplish.”

♠️ “Dream so big everyone thinks you’re crazy, no matter what they think about it. The only person that limits you stares back at you in the mirror every single day.”

♠️ “Instead of thinking how hard your journey is, think how great your story will be.”

♠️ “Be brave enough to go after what you really want. Be strong enough to pick people up and bring them with you.”

… one of my favs …

♠️ “You have to do this with 0 compromise. That’s because it requires mental toughness and discipline to do so. You have to think of it differently. Saying no to things that won’t help you progress in life is the same thing as saying yes to the things that will help you progress your life.”

Everyday is a new beginning. A new start to dominate and go after your dreams.

Are you willing to put in the work?

✌🏾+💞

03/02/2024

Day 20/75: “Trust the timing of your life.” –Unknown

Every morning is a treat going for a walk, run, or hike with this guy. He came into our family unexpectedly yet he has been THE best blessing on my journey as a mother, wife, and my daily growth. 🌱

Know that things that happen in life has its own timing and so do you. Pay attention to what comes before you — question it, wrestle with it, learn from it, and share it with others (within reason).

We do not get to choose what happen in our lives, but we do have control over how we allow them to impact us. It’s important to know that as you try to become a better version of yourselves, it takes time.

Progress take time … and guess what? You must learn to trust it.

I hope you do.
Always remember to keep your head up, your 💙 open, and to always do better than your best.

Follow more content on more motherhood, mindset, and moving in forward motion encouragement. ✨

29/01/2024

This quote says it all.

Learn to trust yourself, you already know what you’ve decided.

Something to think about.

28/01/2024

Eliminate the mindset of can’t — because you can do anything.
-Toni Horton

It starts with a willing mind to want to become your very best.

What you tell yourself if what you can (and will) become.

Be careful what you tell it.

Always rememebr to keep your head up, your 💙 open, and to always do better than your best.

20/01/2024

Day 5/75: “Begin doing what you want to do now. We have only this moment, sparkling like a star in our hand, and melting like a snowflake.” –Marie Ray

To anyone that is a bit stuck with figuring out what to do or jump into what they’ve always wanted, today is the day to get started.

Don’t think too much, just do.

Always rememebr to keep yiur head up, your 💙 open, and to always do better than your best.

17/01/2024

Day 2/75: Lesson: Get rid of the things in your life that no longer serve you. This is a hard thing for many (I can attest to this as well 🙋🏽‍♀️), but in order to grow you must get away and remove what is stopping your growth from your life.

When fire 🔥 is covered or stomped out, it losing its flame. It is no longer blazing bright as it’s naturally meant to do. It needs to get rid of what is hindering its ability to perform its function.

The same can be said for you. You need to get rid of what is holding you back or down to perform your function, which your ability to shine bright ✨. Some things may include: material possessions, people (that are not being a positive impact to your growth and theirs), negative self-talk, or even something as simple as unopened emails in your inbox 📧.

Now this is not to be all whimsical with shining brightly, this is to remind you to look around you and see what is causing your diminished growth … what do you need to cut from your season of life?

Whatever it is, do so because that one thing (or person) is one decision away from stepping into your greatness.

Follow for more motherhood and mindset words of encouragement.

15/01/2024

𝗗𝗔𝗬 1/75: Today is a new day, a blessing at that. Worked out at the YMCA, feeling good, reset my mind and 💙. Spend time with the family, get some writing and research done, and read my new book for the remaining of this month – 𝗠𝗲𝗱𝗶𝘁𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀 𝗯𝘆 𝗠𝗮𝗿𝗰𝘂𝘀 𝗔𝘂𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗶𝘂𝘀.

02/01/2024

Today is the first day of the rest of your life. –Unknown

2024 is to be lived like any other day, with intention and becoming your very best. I’m not sure what tomorrow holds, but today is a new day to show up and put in my best effort.

Every New Year’s many are trying to figure things out. Whether if it’s health, finances, career, business, relationships, or mental improvement it can be a lot. It can make one not want to even begin the journey.

Here’s the thing, everything starts with a single step. It doesn’t have to be perfect, heck it doesn’t if have to be far … it just needs to be a single movement forward. You may take a step backwards if the stability is off or you may fall along the way, just know by taking the moment to improve says wonders.

As the first day of the year comes to a close, please remember that today is the only day in your life that determines what your future will become. Tomorrow will do and be the same and the next day and the next day after that.

What do you have to lose? Take that first step. You never know where it’ll take you.

#2024

18/12/2023

📚 READING = GROWTH 📚

Those who know me know how obsessed I am with children’s books. Books in general is a gateway to imagination filled with so much magic. Children’s books on the other hand are a great way, as an adult, to get in touch with said imagination and to also revisit who you are and what you want to accomplish in this journey called life.

The following children’s books are one (of many) favs:

📚𝗗𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗺: 𝗔 𝗧𝗮𝗹𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝗪𝗼𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗿, 𝗪𝗶𝘀𝗵𝗲𝘀, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗪𝗶𝘀𝗵𝗲𝘀 𝗯𝘆 𝗦𝘂𝘀𝗮𝗻 𝗩. 𝗕𝗼𝘀𝗮𝗸

📚 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗱𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗱𝗼 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗮𝗻 𝗶𝗱𝗲𝗮? 𝗯𝘆 𝗞𝗼𝗯𝗶 𝗬𝗮𝗺𝗮𝗱𝗮

Recently, I found these books among many books we own in our home and I was a bit afraid to open the pages. Before I started to read I already knew that I was holding back on fulfilling some dreams and not sharing ideas I’ve held on to for about two years. 😔

You see we live one life and must remember that sometimes we don’t get a second chance. We fear what others would think or say and not go after the dreams we’ve always wanted to achieve because of fear.
It was a reminder that it’s important to have a child-like heart 💞 and remember how driven we were to achieve those dreams … even if we failed trying. 😅

My hope for you today is to take a moment and think hard about the dreams you want to go after. Commit, make a plan, and work towards it. Don’t waste another day wishing and wanting … figure out a way - small steps to start - and go after it.

Your future self is waiting to meet you.

Drop a 📚 if you’re working on your dream(s) and share your favorite children’s book.

09/12/2023

“Are you alive or just breathing?“

Somedays you may feel alive and other days you’re just trying to survive. Regardless of where you are, know that it only takes a moment toward working on becoming your best.

It’s one day at a time.

I believe in you.

08/12/2023

YOU ARE STRONGER THAN YOU THINK!

When you’re at your weakest is where your strength becomes stronger. This could not be more real when life challenges you in ways that you never knew you could get through.

In spring 2021, that’s when I challenged myself to start becoming “better than my very best.” This is when the came into my life and kicked my 🍑 after two failed attempts. 🫣

It was what was needed to drag myself from the bottomless pit of emotional and mental despair and become the wife, mom, and woman I knew I could become.

Here’s the thing, when you feel you’re at your lowest that’s where your strength hides deep within you. It takes a bit of nudging and digging to find it, but it’s there.

As the new year approaches, know that you can make the changes you need to become who you want to become. It ain’t easy, motivation will be a challenge, but it is possible.

Keep moving forward and know you’re stronger than you think. You got this!

06/12/2023

📚 BOOK COMPLETED! 📚

First book done and many more to go. I am officially done with this book, which is bittersweet. 😢

As part of the 75 Hard program you are to read personal development books that are to help you learn and grow into a new version of you.

Here are some highlights learned from each chapter:

1️⃣ Have a clear vision 👓 by paying attention to the earliest vision you had for yourself. The clue is within that you yearn for.

2️⃣ Don’t ever think small; Plan A is the road less traveled. 🛣️

3️⃣ Make your vision real by working your 🍑 off.

4️⃣ See it. Believe it. Explain it. Achieve it.

5️⃣ Change your perspective as needed by looking for the positive and good. Failure will happen, learn how to adjust your sails. ⛵️

6️⃣ Keep your mouth shut and listen to others that have words of wisdom toward your future growth. 🤐

7️⃣ Mirrors are meant to be broken to truly see what you’re capable of achieving. 🪞

If you have a moment, do take sometime to read it. It’s a read that is well appreciated and can change your view of yourself and the world around you.

Until next time…

03/12/2023

Here’s to another day to be your very best! Focus on one thing to strengthen than 50 million things at once. 😅

You got this!

📸:

21/11/2023

🧨 WHAT IS 75 HARD? 🧨

3 words.

Mental toughness program.

It will test you and reveal what you’re capable of becoming.

No one can truly tell you what it is like until you experience yourself.

It’s a difficult road but we’ll worth the growth.

Who knows what you may become?

21/11/2023

"We all make choices, but in the end our choices make us.” –Unknown

This picture was taken in 2021 when I decided to attempt to do for the third time. I was upset at everything … literally everything, but was more upset at myself.

I wasn’t who I wanted to be. 😔

You see when you start a journey to change within your mind, body and even your spirit is working against you. I knew a change was needed because I want to become the person I wanted to look up to when I was a child.

Little did I know this journey would be THE best decision made which taught me how to be better for myself and in turn for others. It also helped to heal within (and still working through the ups and downs).

Now I’m doing the again but with a different purpose. It’s NOT about what I look like on the outside, but showing others what happens on the inside. This is NOT for kuddos or recognition of any kind.

It’s hard 💩 having to work on self and making it even harder to share with others which puts you in an uncomfortable place. There’s something within that compels me daily to share and I’m leaning into it…All of it! 😬

Stay tuned with more to come. I look forward to this journey with you.

Always keep your head up, your 💙 open, and always do better than your best. - Tam B.

18/11/2023

Courage = pushing through the fear

It’s never easy or comfortable, yet it’s the lesson we sometimes need toward becoming out very best.

I hope and pray you take that step toward courage whatever it may be.

17/11/2023

Today is one of those days where you want to give up, but the fighter 🥊 in you says, “Keep pushing through.”

13/11/2023

Running mornings with this guy…Scoob! 🐕

4:50 am wake-up times before headed out for 5:00 am training for the next 1/2 marathon. It’s colder 🥶 and darker now 😳 so he comes with.

So well trained that I don’t need a leash. He keeps up or maybe the other way around 😆, but he keeps me company.

More to share on this running and other physical fun in the works. More importantly to encourage you to be your best self.

Always remember to keep your head up, your 💙 open, and to always do better than your best.

Until next time ✌🏾…

12/11/2023

10/08/2023

Every morning my routine consists of thanking God for another day of life and being grateful for what I can do (even if I may feel a bit hesitant of not feeling capable).

Another part of my morning routine is reading my morning quote, which I use the As a die-hard quote lover ☺️, it really puts things into perspective and a reminder to look beyond self to be a better wife, mom, family meme er, and friend. It also provides mental and physical challenges needed to be my best.

Today’s quote was needed and I wanted to share this with you:

Do that which you fear to do and the fear will die.
-Ralph Waldo Emerson

Whatever fear you’re experiencing at this time, know it will go away bit-by-bit because if facing it head on and your blessings will come. It’s not an easy task, but we’ll worth it when you decide to go for it.

always remember to keep your head, your heart open, and to always do better than your best.

📝:

10/08/2023

Today’s goal to run 3 miles and gauge my time when I did it. It was also practice to learn more about my heart rate zone (thanks for teaching me this 😉!) and understanding how high or low my heart rate can get.

As I continued to run, I noticed that my heart rate started to go over 165 bpm which was a bit high at times, but noticed when it did. Whenever I began to think about something negative and/or started to tell myself how much I couldn’t do something…my heart rate was zooming high. 😳

This run taught me a valuable lesson.

“You're stronger than you believe. Don't let your fear own you. Own yourself.” -Michelle Hodkin

I hope for today that you remember the strength you have within is there, you just have to exercise it like a muscle which is the strongest muscle you own…your mind 🧠. Learn how to leverage that and nothing will own your thoughts.

Always remember to keep your head up, your heart open, and to always do your best.

Until next time….

04/08/2023

My biggest regret could be summed up in one word, and that's procrastination. –Ron Cooper

💯 Real Talk: It took me months to break out of my introverted shell to share as much I have since the start of the month of August, my birthday month.

When you doubt yourself and believe that you have nothing of value to share, you may tend to blow things aside due to fear and/or straight up procrastination. Being in both camps hindered the growth needed.

You get to a point in your life where you know you need to live life in full abundance and not get attached to the outcomes. It’s hard AF but necessary because in this 1️⃣ life we all live, regret is the worst.

It’s important that we show up for ourselves always because we never know how that impact becomes a ripple effect for others as well (family, friends, strangers).

Always keep your head up, your heart open, and always do better than your best.

📝:

20/07/2023

You know what day it is? 𝗕𝗼𝗼𝗸𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗱 𝗧𝗵𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗱𝗮𝘆!

Did you know that research is my jam?

Well to be honest, I’m a researcher by education and practice. I am currently studying about fathers and fatherhood, but work with moms to help with mom mindset and self-communication. It’s a life mission and a topic I am very passionate about and a personal journey as well.

This week’s read I wanted to share is a book written by Dr. Michael Gurian 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗪𝗼𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗿 𝗼𝗳 𝗕𝗼𝘆𝘀.

I have not read this as of yet but I have heard many good things about it and adding it to my list of readings. As a mom of two active boys it is my hope for them to grow into strong men that stand for what they believe and hold value in who they are.

It’s hard raising children especially boys with what they may face as they grow up into. I am my sons’ guide and choose to teach them to make choices that are helping them to grow into well-rounded citizens of this earth, but more importantly to respect themselves and others.

I hope to have an update in the coming months because I am reading A LOT of books! 😅

📚:
📸: .lashaun.photos

15/07/2023

Since having Scoob as part of our family, there are so many things he has taught me just by going for our daily walks. It’s been over 25 years since I had a dog in my life and I cannot even begin to tell you the much needed extra healing needed on my motherhood journey he has given me. 😢

There are 🔟 things I’ve learned before he came into my life, but I will share the first which I’m working very hard on toward being a better mother, wife, and friend:

"𝗥𝗶𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗻𝗼 𝗹𝗼𝗻𝗴𝗲𝗿 𝘀𝗲𝗿𝘃𝗲𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂."

Let me tell you…this is HARD! 😩

I began this process with throwing away stuff in my home, which there is so much more to do but digging deeper it’s things that cloud your mind, body, and spirit. It could be thoughts, values you believed in and no longer do, people, food, … the list could go on and on.

In this stage of your journey, taking a look at what is dragging you down which may block you from becoming a better/more improved version of you. Only you know what that may be.

Remember, to keep your head up, your heart open, and always do better than your best.

Until next time…

13/07/2023

Recently I won a pair of Nike Zoom Pegasus 40 running shoes. Now before I begin sharing what this meant to me, but wanted to say (again many times over) 𝗧𝗛𝗔𝗡𝗞 𝗬𝗢𝗨! to for this!!! 🥰🥰🥰

I’ve been the most active during high school, college, and off and on when motherhood came into the arena. Life happens - most times beautiful, but let’s keep it 💯 it has some ‘suck-age’ (is that even a word 😅?).

Trying to stay active as a mom of 3 ain’t easy, but as a hiking and biking family we get outdoors. Fast forward today, I’ve been in a mental slump for sometime which is not good when you’re battling self daily 😔. I decided to put my name and a few others into the drawing and didn’t think anything of it.

When I found out I won, it was during 🍓 picking with my family I was not only surprised but knew it was a sign. For a long time I needed a boost of something to nudge my uncertain heart with the path I wanted to take that included being active.

There are some things in the making I cannot share at the moment, but winning these new kicks 👟 confirmed a lot of things for me, especially supporting moms with mom mindset by staying active with 💯 honesty of motherhood and it’s journey.

I do hope it impacts many. 🥰
🤩: (awesome Mama)
👟:
📸: .lashaun.photos