Family & Friends Forever

17/12/2023

Don't take a grown up man as a project thinking you can fix or mend him. Stop being stupid & delusional.
Focus on improving yourself, on improving your health, your fitness, your studies, your finances, your connection with parents, siblings & of course most importantly with Almighty & His religion.

A man is not the reason of your existence, ALMIGHTY is.
Let people who want to come in a PURE way come & those who want to leave, leave...

If someone isn't making an effort to be in your life, don't make an effort to keep them in your life.
If someone isn't trying to make you a priority, don't degrade & belittle yourself by being his eye candy.
If someone is keeping you a secret, don't waste a second discussing him with others or thinking about him.

There are a lot of pious & strong amazing men who will approach your father, who will marry you, who will assist, pamper & spoil you because of their love & fear of Almighty, give you finances, a safe place & your pious progeny.

Don't run behind a boy & expect him to magically change into a knight in shining Armour.
Focus on yourself, do not overlook red flags.

What's meant to be will come to pass.
Life is too short to have takeaways & run behind boys who don't care.

May the Almighty fill our lives with good people & true men who are stable, loyal, honest, God fearing & committed.
Oh Almighty protect our young beautiful daughters & sisters... 🌸

17/12/2023

Psychology says, If you aren't happy single, you won’t be happy taken. Happiness comes from within, not from people... 🌸

17/12/2023

Apologizing doesn't always mean you are wrong. At times you do it because you value the relationship & love the person more than your pride... 🌸

17/12/2023

Don't get upset with people or situations. Both are powerless without your reaction... 🌸

17/12/2023

People who talk a lot about the lives of other people are those that have nothing interesting to tell about their own... 🌸

17/12/2023

To educate yourself for the feeling of gratitude means to take nothing for granted, but to always seek out & value the kindness that stands behind the action. Nothing that is done for you is a matter of course. Everything originates in a will for it... 🌸

17/12/2023

16/12/2023

Someone:
My husband loves his mistress & not me. Why does he want me to stay with him?

Let me explain:
I bought a laptop bag four years ago.

It was made with good material & served the purpose for which I bought it...

Now, after three years, it is still in good condition. Its colour hasn't faded, and its material hasn't lost its strength. So, there was no point for me to look for another one...

While scrolling through my social media one day, I came across a beautiful laptop bag. It was stylish, sleek, and beautiful...

And even though my old bag was in perfect condition, I couldn't resist for long & ended up buying that new bag...

Now that I have my new bag, I didn't discard my old one; I kept it too.

My new bag is stylish & beautiful, but it is delicate & fragile, and it requires careful handling. In contrast, my old one was sturdy & durable...

Now, for meetings & gatherings, I carry my new bag, but for traveling, I use my old one...

Also, I am aware that my new bag won't survive for long, and I will have to return to my old bag once the new one becomes unusable.

Now, my story is entirely unrelated to the question asked, but what I'm trying to convey is that the human mind is complex & calculative...

It engages in a whole lot of calculation even for things as small & simple as a bag.

So, when it comes to maintaining or ending relationships, it doubles its calculations, though it may not always come up with the correct answer...

Now, the question arises: Why do you want to stay with a husband who has a mistress? What calculations has your mind gone through...? 🌸

16/12/2023

Don't give your all if your all is seen as nothing... 🌸

16/12/2023

Be Thankful & Appreciate what you have you won't believe how many people wish they had what you have... 🌸

16/12/2023

A man was sick & tired
of going to work every day
while his wife stayed home.
He wanted her to see
what he went through so he prayed:
'Dear Lord:
I go to work every day & put
in 8 hours while my wife
merely stays at home.
I want her to know what
I go through
So, please allow her body to
switch with mine for a day.
God, in his infinite wisdom,
granted the man's wish.
The next morning, sure enough,
the man awoke as a woman...
he arose, cooked breakfast
for his mate,
awakened the kids,
set out their school clothes,
fed them breakfast,
packed their lunches,
drove them to school,
came home & picked
up the dry cleaning,
took it to the cleaners
& stopped at the bank
to make a deposit,
went grocery shopping,
then drove home to put
away the groceries,
aid the bills & balanced
the check book.
He cleaned the cat's litter box
& bathed the dog..
Then it was already 1 PM
& he hurried to make the beds,
do the laundry, vacuum,
dust, sweep & mop
the kitchen floor,
ran to the school to pick up
the kids & got into an argument
with them on the way home,
set out milk & cookies &
got the kids organized to do
their homework.
Then set up the ironing board
& watched TV while he
did the ironing.
At 4:30 he began peeling
potatoes & washing
vegetables for salad,
breaded the chops
& snapped
fresh beans for supper.
After supper,
he cleaned the kitchen,
ran the dishwasher,
folded laundry,
bathed the kids & put
them to bed.
At 9 PM he was exhausted
and, though his daily chores
weren't finished, he went to
bed where he was expected to
make love, which he managed
to get through without complaint.
The next morning, he awoke
& immediately knelt by the
bed & said: -
Lord, I don't know what
I was thinking.
I was so wrong to envy my
wife's being able to stay
home all day
Please, Oh! Please,
let us trade back.. Amen!'
The Lord, in his infinite wisdom, replied:
"My son, I feel you have
learned your lesson &
I will be happy to change
things back to the way
they were.
But you'll have to wait
nine months, though.
You got pregnant last night"

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15/12/2023

You will see your family members' true colours when your parents pass away... 🌸

15/12/2023

The less we look with our eyes- the more we will see with our hearts... 🌸

15/12/2023

Sometimes tears are the sign of joy...
and smile is the sign of unspoken pain... 🌸

15/12/2023

Lesson.. I learned from my DaD...
To Fully Understand a Women.. U Need To be Man of Self... In Order To Respect Her Worth... Just Take Note... Is What He Always... Said.. Just Take Note... and Her WORTH Will Show... Then my Son ... Then YoU Appreciate... With All YoU Have... Appreciate.. Her.. 🌸

15/12/2023

It's a painful process, but do not let anyone treat you like you are nothing, you have to value yourself, because they don't value you, walk away, distance yourself, block, delete, ignore, become a ghost, do whatever you need to do, to heal, move on & never look back... 🌸

15/12/2023

Stop chasing people. If they block you, cut off contact, ignore you, let them go... Let those who naturally gravitate to you enjoy your energy. We spend so much time begging for those who wouldn’t blink twice at the thought of you. Cherish those who are there by choice, and not there because you chased them everytime they decided to escape... 🌸

15/12/2023

Some people only love the benefits of you, they care nothing about you, Next time someone tells you they love you, watch their actions & ignore their words... 🌸

15/12/2023

ignore me once... and you won’t hear from me again. promise you that...🙄

15/12/2023

“you sleep a lot” thanks I'm trying to ignore my problems... 🌸

09/12/2023

You deserves a special day, for being who you are & bringing joy & happiness in every way.
I pray that ALMIGHTY hold you by the Right hand & lead you safely to your next level, your prayers will be answered with overflowing happiness this day & forever, His grace, mercy & favour descend as we celebrate you for another year. I wish you all the very best in life. Wishing you a Happy Birthday, Long Life with sound health & prosperity always...
Happiest of birthdays to you 🌸

09/12/2023

On this day three months ago we saw my mother for the last time as we closed her blessed face & carried her gently out of the house to her final resting place. On these days that mark the day of the month, your mind time warps you to the moments as it happened. You relive the experience with a sinking heart. Walking away from a loved one moments after you bury them leaving them alone knowing they were at your side all the time is the most painful experience. Walking into the house after you come from the cemetery without the one you buried looking at the faces of family as they know you came back without mummy leaving her behind is indescribable. It leaves a mark on your heart forever.

I have been in meditation & contemplation for the last few months as I try to piece life together again. The only life I knew was with my mother in it. There was no other formula for me. Like I had once said, “My mother taught me everything but not how to live without her...”

She left us & the life lessons learnt from her life & passing along with death itself is a Lesson we can all heed to.

I have indeed learnt more in the last months through deep personal contemplation than I have ever learned before...

We always speak of the day a loved one passes. The day of the funeral & how we handle or survive such a defining life occurrence. That day in my view is but the start of a journey. On the day everyone rallies & helps you see it through with their phenomenal & unprecedented support. Somewhat a natural instinct & goodness in all human beings to carry one through a day that you are never ready for despite the writing being on the wall.
You are never ready as the Almighty instills the concept of hope in the heart of which without you would not survive.

The days to follow is met with confusion, a severe pain in the chest & thoughts of longing, trying to understand & the realisation & rationalisation of what had just occurred in your life. It is in the days & weeks that follow that you go silent walking through the house envisioning where she once stood, cooked, laughed & spent her time dedicating her very existence to yours. Her cat comes up to you also seeking the lady who once fed & cared for her. You look at the kitchen & see where she stood for years feeding you through tiredness, illness & more.
You walk into the room where you once took it for granted that you could call “mummy” & soon realise there is no mummy to greet, smile at, or ask if there is anything needed from the store. There is no mummy to greet on your way to the office. No mummy to ask to Pray for you today because you are facing some of life’s challenges knowing that her consultation & prayer always made it better. You feel alone & exposed as if someone had taken your jacket of protection away whilst you brace the Katabatic winds of life’s Antarctica.

It is these days that follow that you hear the silence.
There is a silence in her clothing & in her belongings that is more silent than the most silent of silences.
Your tears slowly roll off your cheeks when you wander around the house asking “Mummy, where are you...”

What you would do to only hear her voice one more time. What you would do to see her just one more time. What you would do to smell her scent just one more time...

At times you hear her...
My mom would always ask me where my keys were when I entered the home as she knew of my track record of losing keys.
As I walk into the home now I hear her voice in my mind “Where are your keys,” after which I put the keys in a safe place...

It is in this period that you truly understand what a loved one meant to you & the role that they have played in your life.
You miss them to such a degree that there is a notion of a word beyond the word ‘emptiness’ that does not yet exist.
That non existent word describes the feeling.
No pen can encapsulate such emotion into a word...

You continually tell yourself “I will never see mummy again”. Those words you repeat for the brain does not easily comprehend them. You pray for her daily that the Almighty must elevate her status, place her in the gardens of paradise & illuminate her grave as you know she deserves it all for our mothers have dedicated a lifetime in the service of us, their children, hence fulfilling her responsibility given to her by the Almighty...

When I find myself praying daily, some solace fill my heart knowing that she is happy that she has received such prayer from me.
My heart feels at peace knowing she may be smiling receiving what her child had sent her.
I feel at peace knowing that she knows that I am thinking of her like she had thought of me every moment of her life.
It gives one a form of affirmation of “communication” knowing that they are being told of you & your salutations upon them. Knowing that your glad tidings reaches them through the grace of the Almighty...

My advice to you if you have your parents is to spend quality time with them. Quality time is not going to buy the bread at the store. It is not running an errand.
Those are things you are duty bound with.
Quality time is sitting in their company, putting your phone away, pouring a cup of tea & asking a simple question for starters... “Mummy, do you remember when we were in school”.
You may be pleasantly surprised at what you may hear & how fulfilled they feel. I am certain of how happy that makes them...

I pray that my mother reaches the highest stages of Paradise (Heaven), be placed in a garden of illumination & be forgiven...
I pray for all those that have passed away & that the Almighty forgives them & elevate their status.
I pray that I see my mother again one day when I am reunited with her.
I pray that one day all of us to be reunited with those whom we love ♥

09/12/2023

Grieving the loss of someone who is still alive is one of the most difficult experiences I have ever faced...

It's like feeling trapped in a hopeless situation, where despite all efforts, nothing seems to change.

I have given until I have nothing left to give...

Life's obstacles become even more challenging when there's emotional pain involved.

Sometimes we have to make room, by releasing what no longer allows personal growth...

Grief is a heavy emotion, and today, I am feeling it deeply... 🌸

09/12/2023

Hopelessness can be a temporary state brought on by the mind in reaction to emotional overwhelm.

Allowing one’s emotions to be as they truly are is the pathway to clarity.

On the other side of the emotional release is the connection to your heart, to others & to spirit...

which will always inform us of what to do, thereby transforming hopelessness into clarity & positive direction.

Anything we do to move through the emotions is a positive thing.

Of course it's scary to go there on one's own.

I've been teaching for two & a half decades & I'm not ashamed to admit I need a space holder to get me past the mind.

If you're feeling overwhelmed, reach out to a trusted friend, a practitioner, a priest, a stranger even, you need to know you're not alone.

At minimum, please know you're not alone & please don't judge any thoughts or emotions you're having. Everyone's experience is valid & this is an extremely challenging time... 🌸

09/12/2023

I held a party the other week & grief came.

She wasn’t invited but she came anyway - barged her way in through the door & settled down like she was here to stay.

And then she introduced me to the friends she’d brought with her - Anger. Fear. Frustration. Guilt. Hopelessness...

And they sang in the loudest voices, took up space in every corner of the room & spoke over anyone else that tried to talk...

They made it messy & loud & uncomfortable.

But finally, they left.

And long afterwards, when I was all alone,
I realised there was still someone here.
Quietly clearing up after the rest...

I asked who she was & she told me, “Love.”

And I assumed that’s why she looked familiar - because I had met her before.
“Or perhaps,” she said, “it’s because I’ve been here the whole time.”

And I was confused then because I hadn’t seen her all evening...

But when I looked more closely,
when I looked into her eyes,
I realised quietly that she had been here.
All the time.

She’d just been dressed as grief... 🌸

08/12/2023

Someone can be doing better than you & still envy you, simply because your character holds better weight than their status... ♥

08/12/2023

A jealous family member is more dangerous than a hateful enemy... 🌸

08/12/2023

Blood is no longer thicker. Nowadays, strangers help us more than relatives... Relatives only accept you when you're successful...♥

08/12/2023

Sometimes The Almighty picks a flower that's still in bloom...
Sometimes the flower that is chosen, we feel He's picked to soon...
We're at peace knowing; in The Almighty's heavenly garden,
He has placed the ones we treasure...
You have changed our lives forever...
Little did we know this morning that The Almighty would
call your name. In life we loved you dearly, in death we will do the same...
It broke our hearts to lose you, you did not go alone. For part of us went
with you when He called you home today. You left us precious memories,
your love is still our guide. And though we cannot see you, you will
always be by our side... The family chain is broken & nothing seems the same.
But as The Almighty calls us one by one, the chain will link again...
Although it’s difficult today to see beyond the sorrow, may looking back in memory help comfort us for every tomorrow...🌸 :'(

08/12/2023

When it just don't matter anymore...

“Mind over matter...

matter over, I'm done!” 🌸

08/12/2023

Not invited = Don‘t go...
Not told = Don‘t ask...
Late invites = Decline...
You were never part of the plan. 🗣️Accept that..🤧

08/12/2023

If you succeed in cheating
someone,
Don’t think that the Person is
A Fool...

You'll Just Realize that
The Person Trusted You Much
More Than You Deserved... 🌸