Can you relate? 🤣
It’s maddening when your body reacts before you can. Learning how my nervous system works has shown me how to work with it instead of against it.
💛It’s time to heal your relationship with your body and emotions. Reclaiming You starts this January—details below! 💛
JustinandAbi.com/ReclaimingYou
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As a consultant, I’ve had the privilege of working with over 4,000 individuals. Time and again, I’ve heard people express deep frustration and disdain toward their addictive patterns. Most see these behaviors as an annoying hindrance rather than the signposts they are—pointing the way to liberation.
Addictive behaviors say little about who we are.
However, they say a great deal about what we’ve been through, what we’re experiencing, and what we need.
Our messiest reactions to life often reveal unresolved loss, pain, disconnection, and discomfort. They also highlight a lack of education and tools to address these underlying issues.
Instead of condemning ourselves for destructive actions, what if we embraced them as blinking red lights—signals urging us to address unmet needs for care, compassion, understanding, and love?
Join us on The Connected Life this week as we explore how our bodies are working with us to heal. (Available on YouTube, Spotify, and Apple Podcasts.)
And kick off 2025 with Reclaiming You, a deep dive into your nervous system and a journey to build emotional resilience. More details below!
JustinandAbi.com/ReclaimingYou
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The past lives in your body, influencing how you show up in your relationships today.
It’s not deliberate, it’s automatic.
Is Your Body Hijacking You (this week’s episode on The Connected Life) - will help you understand your body and the messages it’s been trying to send you.
In this clip, I’m explaining how our nervous system reacts in conflict—I’m not frustrated with Justin, because I do this too! It’s a way our nervous system tries to protect us. On our podcast, we both share honestly about our own messy moments, and we always meet each other with compassion. 💛
*Disclaimer: This clip is not a conversation about abusive dynamics.
💛It’s time to heal your relationship with your body and emotions. Reclaiming You starts this January—details below! 💛
JustinandAbi.com/ReclaimingYou
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There is often a gap between what we know and how we live.
This week's episode will help you understand yourself. The Connected Life podcast, Is Your Body Hijacking You?
💛Reclaiming You - Heal Your Nervous System & Build Emotional Resilience. Starts in January. Info below. 💛
JustinandAbi.com/ReclaimingYou
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For years, my body was trying to tell me something, but I didn’t know how to listen—and it led to me getting really sick. Healing began as I learned how to listen to my body.
This week on The Connected Life podcast, we’re sharing that journey: Is Your Body Hijacking You?
💛 Join Reclaiming You this January and learn how to create a healthy connection with your body and emotions. Info below! 💛
JustinandAbi.com/ReclaimingYou
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There’s a big difference between someone talking to me and someone talking at me. One feels like a real dialogue—a back-and-forth connection.
The other feels like they’re lost in their own world, unaware I’m even there.
Relationships thrive when we both feel present and involved.
This week’s podcast is packed with practical hacks to help you enjoy interacting with others more—just in time for all those catch-up conversations with relatives you’ve been lowkey dreading. 😂
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I spent decades in religious institutions where people felt stuck in destructive cycles they couldn’t escape.
Many believed they were horrible sinners, unable to get it right, and not spiritual enough to change.
I watched as people drowned in shame and self-loathing, unable to modify their behavior enough to meet cultural expectations.
Unfortunately, they were fighting a losing battle they didn’t realize was rigged against them.
Understanding our body and emotions is often dismissed as a lesser, humanistic approach to spirituality, rather than embraced as a vital expression of it.
Because of this, many lack foundational tools and understanding that could set them free.
Much of this rejection stems from using spiritual practices and beliefs to avoid unresolved emotional issues, psychological wounds, and unfinished developmental tasks. This creates massive blocks to healing and personal growth.
Our bodies and emotions are an essential part of our design. Learning to understand and work with them is not just helpful—it’s vital to living an abundant life.
Join us on The Connected Life this week as we explore how our bodies are working with us to heal. (Available on YouTube, Spotify, and Apple Podcasts.)
And kick off 2025 with Reclaiming You, a deep dive into your nervous system and a journey to build emotional resilience. Link below -
JustinandAbi.com/ReclaimingYou
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Listen to this week's podcast, “Is your body hijacking you?” Comment “Episode 310 and I’ll Dm you the link.
Change your relationship with your body. ♥️ Reclaiming You starts in January! Info below -
JustinandAbi.com/ReclaimingYou
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It’s wild how spending just 2 extra minutes intentionally engaging someone can deeply impact how loved they feel. Hellos and goodbyes seem like small things, but they create so much relational safety.
When someone greets us warmly, it signals to our brain: “You’re safe, wanted, and important here.” This activates feelings of belonging and even releases oxytocin, the feel-good chemical that helps build trust and connection.
Goodbyes, on the other hand, can feel vulnerable. Our attachment system is wired to notice any potential loss of connection, even in small separations. A thoughtful goodbye can calm that vulnerability by saying, “Even though we’re apart, this connection is still secure.”
Hellos and goodbyes are more than just moments—they’re anchors. They remind us, “We’re in this together,” and “Even when we’re apart, you still matter to me.” When we handle them with care, they bring safety, trust, and resilience to our relationships.
Our podcast this week is called, Relating to humans 101 and it gives you a bunch of relationship hacks to create rich and meaningful relationships.
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“Sure wish you called more.” “Good to know you’re still alive. " " Really nice to see you this one time out of the whole year.” Oof, I cringe just writing these. 😬
Beneath guilt statements like these are often genuine desires to connect and a vulnerable emotion that the other person is struggling to communicate.
The problem is that often, when we’re on the receiving end of a guilt statement, we instinctively want to respond defensively. “Well, Mom, the phone goes two ways,” or “We literally just saw each other.” “Yeah, you live halfway across the country; I can’t come to see you whenever. I have a job, you know.”
Here’s a way I interrupt this cycle.
I usually reflect on what I hear them actually say. “Oh, Dad, is that your way of trying to communicate that you’ve really been missing me? I know it’s hard when we don’t get to see each other as much anymore.”
I give them honest and kind feedback about how I experience their statements. “I bet you want to let me know that you’d like to be close to me; I’m so thankful that I have someone in my life who wants to be connected. When you say that statement, I feel like I want to withdraw more because I feel guilt and shame, which makes me want to avoid the relationship more. It would help me want to come close if it felt like you enjoyed the time we do have together.”
Appreciation and vulnerability interrupt the guilt cycle and set us up to have a more honest and connected conversation.
This week on the podcast, we did an episode on Relating to Humans 101.
We share some of our favorite hacks for creating more connected conversations and how to navigate around some of the pitfalls in relational dynamics that we can find ourselves in.
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The best connection happens when people are present, yet it has become so normal to live distracted. Most of us all have some form of ADHD from social media alone. It's no surprise that this creates challenges in our relationships.
I’ll admit, I want others to be present with me, but I also catch myself struggling to stay present.
On this week's podcast we share some of our favorite hacks for creating more connected conversations and how to navigate around some of the pitfalls in relational dynamics that we can find ourselves in.
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Does anyone else kind of hate small talk? 🙋🏻♀️
As someone with ADHD, I need to find something interesting to talk about or listen to, or else social interactions can feel like torture. So, I typically look for something that they are sharing, and then find something about that that I could be interested in.
Take Justin’s Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle collection, for instance—I’ll be honest, it’s not exactly my area of interest. 😂But I am curious about deeper meanings, so I might ask if he has any nostalgic childhood memories tied to TMNT or what makes collecting toys fulfilling.
If I’m feeling stuck, I rely on a few standby questions that usually spark my curiosity:
- What’s a moment that changed the trajectory of your life?
- If you could re-live one moment from your life, what would it be?
- If you could live in a TV show or movie for a week, which one would you choose?
I’m always looking for shared interests—something we can both connect over to make the conversation feel engaging.
This week on the podcast, we’re talking about how to make connecting with people more enjoyable—for you and them. It’s practical, insightful, and honestly, something every human could benefit from. 😂
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