12/12/2025
Wisdom Hunters
December 12, 2025
First Love
By: Boyd Bailey
We love because he first loved us.
1 John 4:19
Henri Nouwen realigns my world with his profound words on first love: “Our true self is in God. As we are told again and again in John's Gospel, we can love others because God first loves us. The spiritual life is coming into touch with that first love, which says that we belong to God. As Jesus said, 'Just as I don't belong to the world, neither do you'– but you, rather, belong to the Lover who gives you to yourself. We can be a liberating and creative presence in the world only if we don't belong to the world, if we don't depend on the world for our real identity.”
We understand our first love is our Savior, Jesus Christ, because He loved us first. But how do we stay connected to His vibrant, divine love? As Nouwen reminds us, we must resist letting the world define who we are and whose we are. I need to regularly return to the quiet place where His voice is louder than applause and kinder than criticism. I anchor my heart in Scripture, practice gratitude, and cherish holy relationships that remind me of Who I belong to. Each day offers a chance to release the world's labels and embrace God's refreshing love. When my identity is rooted in Him, rather than in performance, achievements, or others' opinions, I am free to love courageously, serve generously, and live with holy confidence. This is the freedom of belovedness: being secure enough in His love to invest in His kingdom generously.
I think about my wife Rita and the preciousness of our first love. Vibrant. Giddy. Energized. These three words quickly come to mind and flood my emotions. We couldn’t find enough time in our schedules to be together, but we made time, which made my guy friends a little jealous. “Where is Bailey? Oh, he is with his sweetie…again!” My first love on earth was like a force that none of my other relationships could match in the intensity of its control over my heart. If the one who was to become my bride caused all my affections to surrender, how about my affections for Christ? How can I nurture my first love for Christ through intentional intimacy?
If my affections for Rita, my bride-to-be, are so strong, how much more should my heart burn for the One who rescued and redeemed me? Loving Christ means nurturing that initial love through daily intimacy—prayer that lingers, Scripture that renews, worship that stirs, and obedience that costs something. I keep my affections for Jesus alive by remembering what He's done, by serving others with His love, and by choosing Him again each morning. Just as my marriage thrives on intentional time and gratitude, so my relationship with Christ deepens when I slow down, listen, and delight in being loved by Him first. Emotional and spiritual romance requires attention. And the more I taste His goodness and sweet love, the more my heart desires nothing else.
How is the relational temperature of your first love with Jesus? Warm. Cold. Hot. Perhaps a fresh breeze from the Holy Spirit will warm the flames of your love for the Lord. Find solace in these words from Spurgeon: “When the Holy Spirit fills the heart of a believer, He makes it burn with holy affection, deep gratitude, and an intense longing for the presence of Jesus.” Empty your cup of self and surrender to the Spirit’s fullness. The rekindling of first love affections comes as you come close to Christ. You are His beloved, loved by Love more than any other.
“If ye then be risen with Christ, seek those things which are above, where Christ sitteth on the right hand of God. Set your affection on things above, not on things on the earth” (Colossians 3:1-2, KJV).
Prayer
Lord Jesus, rekindle my first love for You. Warm my heart with Your Spirit’s fire. Restore my passion, purity, and joy in Your presence. Be my greatest affection and delight. In Your name, I pray, amen.
Application
What is one way you can add fuel to the fire of your first love, Jesus?
Related Reading
Jeremiah 2:2; Hosea 6:1; James 4:8; Revelation 2:4-5