Nigerians Speak (2025)

27/09/2024

MEN, TAKE CARE OF YOURSELVES

Society is structured in a way that often favours women over men. Laws and societal norms tend to provide women with more opportunities and rights compared to men. In some cases, men dedicate their entire lives to caring for their families, only to be abandoned by their children later on.

Many men today hardly take care of themselves, often prioritizing their families' needs over their own. In contrast, my experiences and interactions with people have revealed that women spend a significant amount of time subtly manipulating their children to gain their affection and loyalty.

From a young age, women may plant seeds of resentment in their children's hearts against their fathers, making it difficult for men to establish a meaningful connection with their children later in life.

To counteract this, men should take an active role in their children's lives. This includes being involved in their education, spending quality time with them, and building trust. It's important to take care of your physical health, eat well, rest in a clean environment, and avoid unnecessary stress. Additionally, maintaining strong relationships with family, friends, and community, and seeking guidance through prayer can also be beneficial.

Also, try to live one day at a time, forgive often, and don't struggle with any relationship that is bound to fail.

21/09/2024

SEE HOW MANY TIMES SHE GOT MARRIED!

Young girls of this generation are shamefully getting married at least 4 times before the proper marriage. The first marriage is to her pimp in secondary school, where she experiments with her first s*xual in*******se; thereafter, she graduates into becoming s*xually active.

The second marriage is when she clings to her "husband" in a tertiary institution, University, Polytechnic or Monotechnic, College of Education, or when she's learning a trade example Hairdressing, Seamstress, Interior decor, Manicure & Pedicure, Caterer, etc, where she's exposed to all kinds of s*xual activities.

The third marriage is during her National Service year(NYSC), this is when she opens up herself to be licked by all kinds of guys( husbands). The fourth is when she's looking for a job; at this stage, she's had a lot of betrayals and breakups or heartbreaks, and she becomes toxic and dangerous to any man that comes her way. She now thinks she has sense and a rotten belief that men are terrible creatures.

However, by the time she, by any chance or luck, had someone who declared intention of marrying her, she was already a 'Piece of S**t' inside-out. She'll now carry her baggage to the innocent man's house and start troubling him for no reason.
For your safety, health and peace, stop hopping from one bed(man) to another, it won't help you...

14/09/2024

WHAT IS A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP?

Our ever-evolving world is not just changing in terms of natural phenomena, but also in terms of human coexistence. It's not news that new phrases and words are gradually becoming a part of our daily lives, consciously or unconsciously.

One word that has become common, though with negative connotations, is "toxic." In Nigeria, this word is used in a way that is different from its dictionary definition.

It's widely known that if supposed friends, associates, or family members, particularly those in the privileged class, want to cut ties with someone, they quickly label the individual as toxic and remove them from their life.

In my view, and based on verifiable experience, most people labelled as toxic belong to the lower rungs of society (poor people) who may not be able to stand up for themselves or are dependent on this class of individuals for survival.

I stand to be corrected, but almost all men and women who live ostentatiously are rarely associated with the word toxic, even if they are not intelligent or have been diagnosed with schizophrenia. Instead, they are treated with respect and honour. Meanwhile, a person with a logical mind and intelligence might be labelled as toxic just to avoid responsibilities.

My plea today is simple: when you want certain people out of your life, do not demonize them. Communicate your position and respectfully remove them from your life. Be polite in doing so, and stop disrespecting people just because you are in a better position today. Things may change, and you are not infallible.

©David Bishop AGABI

08/09/2024

THE MEDIA IS A MAJOR PURVEYOR OF MISINFORMATION IN TODAY'S WORLD

Today's media, regardless of geography, age, and exposure, is a significant source of misinformation and a creator of socio-cultural, political, and religious destabilization. Sadly, the media seems to have departed from the ethical norms and standards of balance, unbiased reporting, trustworthiness, fairness, and integrity that were once upheld. This departure has reintroduced nationalistic, nepotistic, bigoted, and tribalistic attributes into the once noble profession.

In the West (America & Europe), there is a pervasive geopolitical sentiment of defending their states, borders, and territories and portraying non-westerners as threats in their content dissemination. In Asian nations, especially Arabian countries, there is a tendency to demonize religions outside of Islam. In Africa, plagued by corruption and entrenched rulers, the priority seems to be protecting the untouchables when reporting news.

In Nigeria, many prominent media organizations are deeply involved in corrupt practices and accepting bribes, leading them to only report what their paymasters wish them to say or show. This issue spans across print, broadcast, electronic, and new media.

The noble profession, considered the fourth estate of the realm, with the responsibility of scrutinizing the activities of the executive, legislative, and judiciary, has been marred by numerous flaws, leading it to forget its role as the guardian of society. Today's media has been tainted by irrelevant arguments, misinformation, corruption, and tribal sentiments that threaten its integrity.

Furthermore, the presence of unqualified individuals and impersonators in the profession contributes to the dissemination of fake news and sensational content, often leading to discord and tension in society.

In addition to immoral activities within the profession, one of the most troubling issues is the pervasive use of outright lies. This must stop. We must not manipulate people's emotions any longer, and we must cease using lies to defend the indefensible, particularly when it comes to matters about the police, security, and defence establishments, politicians, religious leaders and business class.

©David Bishop Agabi

07/09/2024

Dear Men!
Please, if you want to enjoy peace in these troubled times we're passing through in Nigeria, don't argue politics with anybody & reduce the way you listen to the radio or watch TV news.

01/09/2024

"A CALL TO RESTORE THE LOST GLORY & DIGNITY OF UNIVERSITY OF CALABAR (UNICAL)"

I am deeply concerned about the rapid decline in standards and the prevalence of fraud at the once prestigious University of Calabar, especially in light of the recent embarrassing revelation by NYSC exposing long-term result tampering.

This indicates that the decay is not limited to undergraduates, but extends to postgraduates and PhD students as well. As an alumnus, I worry that if these issues are not addressed promptly and effectively, prospective students may be discouraged from choosing UNICAL as their academic destination through JAMB.

Another significant issue is the proliferation of immorality, particularly prostitution among female students and cultism among male students. This has the potential to derail the future of our young people by drawing them into these dangerous activities.

Through this message, I call on the relevant authorities to come up with strategies to combat these problems using legal means and restore the University of Calabar to the esteemed position we aspire for as a leading institution of learning and leadership.

©David Bishop Agabi

27/08/2024

"KNIT YOUR KNOWLEDGE WITH GLOBAL HAPPENINGS"

Understanding our complex world requires a deep knowledge of global geopolitics, history, and international relations. This broad field of study helps us grasp the political and structural patterns of nations and regions regarding global economics and development dynamics. It also involves understanding the economic and development dynamics of states in terms of legal and trade systems, migration policy, and other policy frameworks.

It's important for people of all ages, especially younger generations, to have a firm grasp of the historical backgrounds of nations in terms of growth, development, or underdevelopment.

Acquiring this knowledge helps illuminate minds and allows for well-informed perspectives on security, defence, and the capabilities of nations. This knowledge can be utilized for peace and conflict resolution management mechanisms.

©David Bishop Agabi

27/08/2024

"ILLNESS MAKES MEN APPRECIATE LIFE"

In recent times, man can only be slowed down from his insatiable quest for wealth, caring for family and loved ones, academic pursuit, political relevance, business adventure, vain glory and firmness when his life is at a crossroads with sickness.

As strange as this may sound, the only time a man appreciates the food placed before him, becomes empathetic, acknowledges God's kindness and goodness in his life, understands the essence of living, admires peace, and becomes kind and humble is when he's put down by an ailment that threatens to take his life.

Man, in a world bedevilled with all forms of calamity and chaotic situations, blindly indulges every day in the quest of "making it" and lording over others. However, when sickness strikes, he begins to see his real self and how helpless he is in this mysterious world. Having boasted of power, strength, and connections, thereafter, he begins to see meaning in things that previously made no sense to him.

It may amaze you that most men can only read the Holy Bible or sing praises to God only on their sickbed; some see reason to be friendly only when the situation of their health deteriorates and becomes critical, while others can only reveal very personal secrets when they feel they may not make it alive.

I can only applaud those men who, even with their class and relevance in the world, still find time to socialize irrespective of age, s*x, and academic standing; those who help others no matter how small, and those who find time to comfort others when they are down. Man, help yourself by helping others; you cannot be more than yourself.

©David Bishop Agabi

08/08/2024

"HOW'LL YOU BE REMEMBERED AFTER YOUR CHILD OR SPOUSE INHERITS YOUR TELEPHONE NUMBER & SOCIAL MEDIA ACCOUNTS WHEN YOU DIE?

Nigeria, despite its late entry into global telecommunications and information technology, its vibrant population have quickly become major users and contributors on social media platforms such as Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, WhatsApp, Instagram, YouTube, etc.

It is undeniable that the social media space has had a significant impact on the world, influencing socio-cultural, traditional, political, economic, and technological environments. While some understand its influence by coordinating and managing their content on their platforms, many are still navigating through its complexities and getting confused by the day.

Given this, there's no gain saying that one of the most debilitating factors that lead to many issues and problems that gave rise to social changes is the idea of "Attention Seeking", a situation where many people, both young, old, male and female, compete fervently for who become the most influential person in regards to several followers. On this, many have thrown caution to the wind by dramatising themselves naked and portraying all kinds of antisocial behaviours to popularise themselves, hence making themselves relevant in the digital space.

Whereas, given the sociocultural dysfunction in our present society, many still conduct themselves in a very honourable and decent manner via the contents they chunk out to the public.

Meanwhile, hitherto, as valuable, sacred and misnomer as these social media digital spaces portray us to the public by forming a positive or negative image, who do you think you can hand these over to on the occasion of your demise? Do you think your child or spouse, your brother or sister, your friend or family member will be proud to use it having lived the kind of life you live?
Do you think it should be given away after all these years of usage and forming part of your image?

Think through this properly and how you'll be remembered before you turn any picture, video or text, especially those who are in the habit of abusing their body.

26/07/2024

The reason women love & prefer their sons to their daughters is because having been brainwashed by their "so-called" loving Mom the boys are the ones to always stand up against their Father, irrespective of what the woman does.
Kindly go back to your father on your knees if you're a victim and if he's still alive or pray hard and confess publicly if he's dead or bear the cost.

23/07/2024

People employed as Staff members of the National Population Commission (NPC) from 2007 till date haven't witnessed nor do they know what the Census is all about, yet they draw monthly salaries and allowances. How can a country grow with this kind of anomaly?

We pride ourselves as the most populated black nation in the world whereas, we lack the courage and foresight to put the right template, roadmap, foot and plan forward that could engender growth, development and advancement simply because of ethnic biases, religious affiliation and hatred.

Needless to say, there are many Agencies, Parastatals, and Department of government that need to be merged or scrapped as a result of duplicity of functions or have simply become obsolete yet the Federal Government continue to annually inject huge budget sums into it.
As a country, all these imply that we love to major in minor and reject things that position us for growth if we need it by the way!

21/07/2024

I celebrate the class of Ph.D holders from 2014 till date in Cross River State; whereas, I'm tempted to submit that the more Ph.D they acquire the less developed & impact we see. This for me is the opposite of the Ph.D holders of the 1970s-'80s and early 1990s.

Perhaps, some may view my statement as biased, whereas, the message is that we prioritized ourselves in acquiring papers without duly contributing our quota or content to the development and advancement of whatever profession we so choose in the world, rather we prefer to crown ourselves with this insignia just to be worthy of political positions or brag among our peers not necessary to advance the cause of growth or advance the academic discourse.

This for me, is a misnomer and one of the reasons Africans are lagging, we hold onto many (un)necessary titles without any substance or impart, and above all with character and integrity.

Nonetheless, it's not strange to see a Ph.D holder today talking carelessly with no civility, courage, or carriage, and physically, mentally, and psychologically out of place as compared to their contemporaries, my hope and trust are to see virtue, character, distinction, and honour in this category of people and not the other way around.

03/07/2024

I kept wondering why some men are so insecure that they suspect every man that have a conversation with their wife, including their best friends & colleagues.

08/06/2024

I noticed that children who grew up in homes where rice & stew was a one year luxury are always grateful & appreciative, while those who grew under affluence & wealth often felt humanity owe them a duty of service & honour.

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