American Sex Podcast

14/04/2024

What’s the key to successful relationships & lifestyle experiences? I wholeheartedly believe it starts with education. And the D/s Summit is one of the best & most inexpensive options I’ve ever come across or had the privilege to be a part of. This info can be truly life changing for those exploring quink & I want everyone to know about it.

If you missed the summit you can still get the replays of the 20 classes + 18 other bonus courses & resources with the VIP Pass. But it’s only available till midnight tonight (Sun 4/14).

And it’s jaw droppingly inexpensive. On top of the 20 recorded summit classes here’s a list of the bonuses you get on top of that (a few class names changed, some comically to remain insta friendly! Yes, even tho these are *educational* resources, platforms have a hard time differentiating between education & entertainment!). The bonus classes/resources:

1. 5 ways to help your Partner by
2. Power Exchange by Sarah from
3. Glute Massage by
4. Femme Domme Masterclass by Emily Anne
5. Sub Space by Emily Costello
6. Punishment & Reward Workbook by
7. Digital Quink Contract by 🐝 Dee ess em Contracts
8. 3 Free Months of the Embrace app
9. Free 1 Month Class Pass at
10. Creating a Personal Risk Profile
11. Introducing Qink to Your Partner
12. Art of Durty Tawk
13. Exploring Your Dominant Persona
14. Fictional Lifestyle Novel ebook by Kelly Noel Ziva
15. Guide to Speaking Deerty for Dominants
16. Free Month Membership at
17. Training for the back door .lupine
18. A No B.S. Approach to K1-nk
😳🤯😁

I hope y’all see this before it becomes unavailable!

04/04/2024

Yep! Life is too short not to love & live happily & authentically! 🥰

25/03/2024

Guess what time it is! Time for the 2024 Dom/sub Dynamics Virtual Summit!

It’s all online and FREE!

Registration just opened up & the educator lineup is incredible! Midori, Sunny Megatron, Luna Matatas, Evie Lupine, Marla Renee Stewart, The Duchy, Princess Rara from Pink Kink Podcast, and so many more! 20 amazing educators teaching a variety of topics to help you improve your D/s relationships & better navigate & 🐝D💲Ⓜ️ lifestyle.

Grab your complimentary ticket below :)

06/10/2023

We're back from hiatus-- woo hoo! Episode 210 just dropped and you're gonna dig it! How to Handle Emotional Dysregulation in Relationship with Megan Bhatia:

Relationships, at their core, are about relating – with other people, our surroundings, our past, our future. But the truth is, most of us kinda suck at it! Enter the spiral of emotional dysregulation…

In this episode, Meghan Bhatia gets right to the juicy center of relating and its role in safety, power dynamics, and agreements in our relationships. Some of what we cover:

-Recognizing & managing emotional dysregulation
-Head knowledge vs. embodied knowledge
-Jealousy in non-monogamy
-Creating safety in our relationships for "No"
-Navigating feelings of rejection
-The dom and sub within ourselves
-When one partner's trigger sets off another's & more

From monogamy to polyamory, kinky to vanilla, and even in our non-romantic relationships, understanding the nature of relating can change *everything!* http://sunnymegatron.com/emotional-dysregulation-in-relationships-megan-bhatia

26/09/2023

🤔Curious about electric play but it seems too expensive to get into?
🤔Not sure how to get the most out of that beginner kit collecting dust in your closet?
🤔Apprehensive because of your body piercings?
🤔RED! Because you’re not into ouchy stuff?
🤔Don’t know enough to even decide if you’re curious? (but it seems scary!)

You might be shocked to learn how versatile the full spectrum of electro-play is. A few settings adjustments can open up a wide range of sensations taking you from (consensual) “OhhhNooos!” to toe-curlingly pleasant “Ahhhs.”

Join Sunny Megatron on Thursday 9/28/23 for Electroplay for P* & P* (rhymes with Spain and measure!), a virtual class hosted by Sanctuary LAX’s Academy of Ertic Arts Online 🤗

In this class, Award-winning Clinical S_xologist & K1nk educator Sunny Megatron covers applications for every type of player, giving both the basics & walking you through advanced techniques too. You’ll get to see Neon Wands & TENS units in action, plus learn about:
💡Myths & Misconceptions
💡Health & Safety
💡How these devices work
💡Optimizing your solid-state wand for maximum intensity
💡Sensual electric play for erotic & solo fun
💡Scene ideas, creative games & alternate uses
💡Leveling up your e-stim game with p3rvertibles
💡Finding budget-friendly gear
💡What devices you shouldn't use & more

❓ What can you expect as an attendee?
A Note from Sunny: “In my virtual classes, I aim to create a comfortable, inclusive environment that accommodates various learning styles & allows you to participate according to your comfort level. Whether you prefer to have your camera on, join with just your voice, engage in the text chat, or remain completely incognito is entirely up to you!”

❓ What if you can’t attend live?
There won’t be a replay for this class so in-person attendance is required 🥰
RSVP Here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-academy-of-erotic-arts-online-electroplay-for-pain-pleasure-tickets-712713644697?aff=oddtdtcreatorb

❓Not familiar enough with e-stim or ways to use it for “Spain” or “measure” to even *know* if you’re curious?
This post expands on the class & electro play -- plus at the bottom, are links to some articles Sunny's written about wands and TENS play that will help you learn a little more: https://sunnymegatron.com/electroplay-for-pain-pleasure-online-bdsm-class/

*p.s. If you know folks who may be interested, please share class info far & wide! (discords, subreddits, social posts, fet groups, social media RTs, etc -- you've got blanket permission). Most intimacy education is banned from boosting/advertising on social media. It's rough out here in these s_x-ed streets! So, signal boosting & shares are always appreciated! Thanks much!*

While many use electroplay toys for pain, they can be powerful tools for pleasure too. In this online B**M class with Clinical S*xologist & Kink Educator Sunny Megatron, you'll get to see Neon Wands & TENS units in action and learn beginner and advanced e-stim techniques.

25/08/2023

Join me for my virtual class, A No B.S. Approach to K1nk, hosted by Bloom on Wednesday 8/30/23, 5pm PT/8pm ET🤗

❓What’s covered? Here’s the class synopsis:
Curious about k1nk? Or perhaps you’re an experienced lifestyler eager for new inspiration? No matter where you are on your k1nky journey, this class can help you explore your fantasies with confidence.

But first, you’ll need to unlearn everything you thought you knew about 🐝D💲Ⓜ️…

In this class, award-winning Clinical S_xologist & 🐝D💲Ⓜ️ Educator, Sunny Megatron, outlines frameworks for custom-building k1nky experiences that fit your specific needs & desires. She’ll also help you bypass the B.S. by debunking myths, “One Twue Wayisms,” and misleading stereotypes common within k1nk communities.

You’ll get an overview & insightful reframe of 🐝D💲Ⓜ️ (B0ndage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission, Sad0mas0chism) plus tips for playing with intention and in ways that are identity-affirming & empowering. You’ll explore practical strategies for consent & ethics, healthy communication, identifying interests & limits, creative scene building, partner negotiation, cultivating playfulness, safety, navigating community, finding trustworthy educational resources, and more.

This isn’t your typical 🐝D💲Ⓜ️ 101. While this class will give newcomers a solid introduction to kink basics, it’s also chock-full of valuable tools, strategies, and insights for people of all experience levels.

❓ What can you expect as an attendee?
In my virtual classes, I aim to create a comfortable, inclusive environment that accommodates various learning styles & allows you to participate according to your comfort level. Whether you choose to have your camera on, prefer to join with just your voice, engage in the text chat, or remain completely incognito is entirely up to you. Feel free to join in (or not) however you feel most at ease!

❓ What if you can’t attend live?
No worries, you’ll get a replay link the next day. It will be active for 1 week post-event so you can watch at your convenience 🥰

RSVP here: https://bl.ooo/m/no-bs-kink?us=ca&uc=fb

p.s. If you know folks who may enjoy this class, please share far & wide! I’m still suppressed on social media -- my posts aren't being shown to non-followers on Instagram (and not too many on TikTok either). In addition, most creators who post educational/non-titilating content about s_xual health, alt relationships, etc. are banned from boosting posts or purchasing advertising on nearly all platforms & sadly, that’s the case for me everywhere. It's rough out here in these s_x-ed streets! So, signal boosting and shares are always appreciated! Thank you!

See you next week!
Sunny, xo

05/08/2023

Join Sunny Megatron & Bloom Community virtually on Thursday 8/10. If you can't attend live you'll get a replay link too :)

More info in the comments ...

17/03/2023

Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons joins us on Ep 201 of American S*x Podcast for a conversation about the ways racial inequity hurts the sx lives of BIPOC folks. Although many view sx as an escape from the stresses of real-world issues & a common experience we all share -- it’s not that simple. Political, cultural & systemic societal forces have everything to do with the ways we experience pleasure. Some of what we unpack in this episode:

--How the belief that only men who have money deserve sx impacts BIPOC communities
--The importance of distinguishing between pleasure worthiness & entitlement
--Why sx ed in schools & adult pleasure education are key
--Tips for navigating cultural pressures in relationships while prioritizing pleasure, boundaries & survival
--Why good sx can be an act of revolution & resistance
--How race, capitalism & sx intersect in complex ways
--What we can do as allies & PoC to shift the culture, subvert systems & more http://sunnymegatron.com/bipoc-s*x-pleasure-revolution

07/02/2023

🥰😍🥰I’ve got something awesome and FREE for you! Registration is officially OPEN for the Dom/sub Dynamics Virtual Summit!

The summit kicks off on February 20th and goes for 5 action-packed days.

I’ll be presenting along with a bunch of other awesome educators like .lupine *xpositivesafiya & more -- 15+ incredible speakers with topics ranging from confidence in the bedroom to dealing with chronic illness, and everything in between.

This summit was created to help you improve your D/s relationship & D lifestyle

You can get your free ticket at http://bit.ly/sunnydssummit You’ll get other perks too! Yep, FREE!

I can’t wait! Who’s excited?!

23/12/2022

Midori joins us to discuss Japanese k1nk & why recognizing fundamental differences in various cultures around the world is the key to understanding the how & why behind k1nk.

We talk about differences in consent & safety, how differing social norms & hierarchies influence our collective play styles, and how these insights can enhance our own relationships.

Most of us aren’t great at recognizing our way isn’t the only way. But even if you plan on never venturing outside your local k1nk community, a global perspective can broaden your understanding of the psychology behind what we all do, no matter where we do it.

Midori joins us to discuss Japanese B**M & why recognizing fundamental differences in various cultures around the world is the key to understanding the how & why behind kink. We talk about differences in consent & safety, how differing social norms & hierarchies influence our collective play styles,...

25/11/2022

Fact: The BD$M world has a race problem. Q***r, Black, k1nk educator, Phrygian Monk joins us on ep 197 to talk about it. This conversation stemmed from one of their no-nuance November observations: “Kinktok is heavily segregated and pretty racist – like 1950s level.” They bring all the nuance and then some. We discuss why it’s essential for everyone to consider how different forms of play relate to POC ki****ers, why we should take a pause before condemning all forms of race play, why many ki****ers of color never feel fully safe playing with white folks, what those in the community can do to foster genuine inclusivity and be actively anti-racist, and more.

Fact: The B**M world has a race problem. Q***r, Black, kink educator, Phrygian Monk joins us to talk about it. This conversation stemmed from one of their no-nuance November observations: “Kinktok is heavily segregated and pretty racist – like 1950s level.”  They bring all the nuance and ...

28/10/2022

Having difficult conversations with one partner is hard enough. When consensual non-monogamy is part of the equation it can feel overwhelming. In this episode, therapist Kate Loree gives insight and actionable strategies for working through uncomfortable emotions in polyamory/CNM like jealousy, envy, insecurity, and feeling disempowered. She also provides valuable tips on identifying & managing triggers with our partners and metamours. Some of what we touch on:

--Attachment injury
--Triggers
--Grounding techniques
--Getting into your “resilient zone”
--The EPIC communication model

Therapist Kate Loree gives communication strategies for working through jealousy & insecurity in polyamory/CNM. Attachment injury, Triggers, Grounding techniques, emotional resiliency, The EPIC communication model are some of our topics.

14/10/2022

As*xuality & kink?! Isn’t that a contradiction?! Nope! As*xual kink is quite common. In fact, a significant segment of the kink subculture identifies as being on the ‘ace’ spectrum. On ep 195 of *xPodcast , Evie Lupine joins to talk about it. A few of the things we discuss:
• As*xuality vs. Responsive Desire & how to tell the difference
• How someone can be as*xual but still have & enjoy s3x
• Why the kink community appeals to many aces
• What IS s3x? Do we have the definition all wrong?
• The relationship between s*x & B*D*S*M + why some allos*xuals prefer “platonic kink”
• How as*xuality factors into the “Kink at Pride” discourse & more
Are there as*xual folks in your community or life that you’d like to understand better? Maybe you’ve considered this identity for yourself? Does it blow your mind that many ace identified people practice k1nk & enjoy s3x? We cover a lot in this episode that will help you answer those questions!

Are there as*xual folks in your life you’d like to understand better? Maybe you’ve wondered if you could be on the as*xual spectrum? Does it blow your mind that many ace identified people practice B**M & enjoy having s*x? We got you! Evie Lupine joins to talk about it. We discuss: -As*xuality vs...

30/09/2022

In ep 194 of American S*x Podcast, Sunny Megatron continues her deep dive into the murky, messy, nuances of k1nk. She examines some of the most popular k1nk “rules” pertaining to consent & safewords + the grey areas that cause community friction:

-- “Never renegotiate during a scene”
-- “When there’s a problem someone will use their safeword”
-- “Never do heavy impact without a warm-up”
-- “Safewords can be abused”
-- “Safewords are for s3x & BD$M”

This episode will help you diversify what’s in your consent toolbox, assess risks in intimate situations, evaluate exceptions to BD$M rules, differentiate personal preferences from useful & inclusive best practices & more.

How do you feel about these kink community rules/beliefs? “Never renegotiate during a scene,” “Expect your partner to use a safeword if there's a problem,” “Never do heavy impact without a warm-up,” “Safewords can be abused,” “Safewords are for s*x & B**M.” We examine the grey ar...

16/09/2022

Safe words aren't as deep & complicated as we make them out to be. They aren’t necessarily as simple as we think either. In k1nk and s3x safe words are simple communication tools that stop the action & trigger a predetermined protocol. What they mean, how they're used & what you do after is up to you. How do you decide that? Episode 193 of American S*x Podcast will help you figure that out.

This conversation was inspired by a listener suggestion to unpack some of the fiercest kink community debates about consent, how k1nk *should* be done, and the general customizability of k1nk. Sunny Megatron explores different ways you can evaluate B**M rules and decide if, when, and how much to customize them to fit your own needs. She does this entirely through the lens of safe words and consent. This is also the first show back from summer hiatus and in the intro, Sunny announces some big changes for the future of both American S*x and their family.

Safe words aren't as deep & complicated as we make them out to be. They aren’t necessarily as simple as we think either. In kink & s*x, safe words are simple communication tools that stop the action & trigger a predetermined protocol. What they mean, how they're used & what you do after is up to y...

27/06/2022

“The BeeDeeEssEmm Test” is infamous in the k1nk community and beyond. Since 2014, thousands have proudly posted results on FetLife profiles and used it as a roadmap, educational tool, and kink negotiation starter. It’s even made its way vanilla culture as the focus of social media challenges and mainstream magazine writeups.

But is this kink subculture phenomenon all its cracked up to be? While some find it helpful & validating, many say it’s othering, stigmatizing, and normalizes red-flag behavior disguised as “qink.”

Midori & k1nky therapist Joe Zarate-Sanderlin join us on ep 192 to deconstruct the BeeDeeEssEmm test question by question. We also explore its wider impact. Why do so many overlook basic vetting criteria regarding this test that they’d normally scrutinize other educational sources with? Who wrote this kink test, why, and what are they using the massive amount of data they’re collecting about our deviant desires for? Turns out, that’s a bit of a mystery…

The B**M Test is infamous. We post results on FetLife & use it as a roadmap, educational tool + kink negotiation starter. It’s even gone vanilla as the focus of social media challenges & pop magazine writeups. But is it all its cracked up to be? Many say it’s othering, stigmatizing & normalizes ...

20/06/2022

K1nk stigma is alive and well in the mainstream, in our own communities, and even in professional/academic spheres. In episode 191 of American S3x Podcast, Sunny Megatron busts some of the most common keenk myths + provides clinical & academic resources for therapists, academics, and skeptical naysayers. She deconstructs the following k1nk myths:

--K1nk is always s3xual & platonic kink doesn't exist
--Qink is considered abnormal by psychologists & the scientific community
--There's a dramatic difference between academic/clinical understanding of k1nk (always more accurate) & community education
--Dark age play is abusive
--K1nk practitioners engage in unhealthy self-harm by proxy and/or glorify abuse
--K1nks are caused by unresolved trauma … and more!

Ep 191 is B**M Myth Busting with Sunny Megatron (& includes clinical & academic resources for therapists, academics, and skeptical naysayers). She covers these kink & B**M myths: Kink is always s*xual & platonic kink doesn't exist, it's considered abnormal by psychologists, ki****ers engage in unhea...

06/06/2022

Many of us go through periods in our lives when we’re not happy with the amount of s 3x we do or don't want. On Ep 190 of *xPodcast, Cyndi Darnell gives tips for changing our relationship to pleasure and navigating intimacy when one partner is perpetually ‘not in the mood.’ Some of the things we touch on:
• Mismatched Libido
• Responsive vs spontaneous desire
• Arousal vs libido vs desire vs attraction
• How gender & orientation factor in
• Reasons people have desire changes & discrepancy
• Common myths about desire & arousal that keep us stuck
• How to talk to partners & work together to find common ground

Sunny also makes an exciting announcement about the new, k1nk-focused digital publication, Zipper Magazine!

Many of us go through periods when we’re not happy with the amount of s*x we want. Cyndi Darnell gives tips for intimacy when were never ‘in the mood.’ We touch on: Mismatched Libido, Responsive vs spontaneous desire, Arousal vs libido vs desire vs attraction, How gender & orientation factor i...

23/05/2022

Kink isn’t a replacement for therapy, but it can be therapeutic. On Episode 189 kink-knowledgeable therapist Andrea Glik, LMSW talks about therapeutic kink. She explains the impact trauma has on our nervous system, how depression can be a survival response, the stress response cycle, and the difference between glimmers and triggers. We dive into how B..D..S..M. can be used to heal trauma, how she integrates clients scene experiences into therapy sessions, how kink can be therapeutic for both subs and doms, plus how healing can manifest through CNC, little space, subspace, aftercare, and more. Even if you don’t consider yourself a ki****er, this episode will help you discover how trauma and shame affect your s3xual identity. It’s also a must-listen for mental health providers and those struggling to get their therapists to understand the importance of kink in their lives.

Kink isn’t a replacement for therapy, but it can be therapeutic. On Ep 189 Andrea Glik, LMSW explains the impact of trauma on our nervous system, depression as a survival response, the stress response cycle, the difference between glimmers and triggers, how B**M can be used to heal trauma for both...

25/04/2022

All relationships are susceptible to hurdles & conflict--resentment, attachment injuries, navigating mental health, unhealthy coping strategies, overcoming societal conditioning, trauma, and more. It’s hard enough between 2 people; in polyamory, we have multiple partners to factor in plus unique issues like jealousy and couple’s privilege.

On episode 187 of American S*x Podcast, Kate Loree draws from her years as a polyamorous relationship therapist to talk about strategies for compassionate communication, cultivating self-awareness, breaking unhealthy patterns, and reconciling conflict in consensually non-monogamous relationships.

On episode 187 of American S*x Podcast, Kate Loree draws from her years as a polyamorous relationship therapist to talk about strategies for compassionate communication, cultivating self-awareness, breaking unhealthy patterns, and reconciling conflict in consensually non-monogamous relationships. Al...

11/04/2022

The kynk community has a reputation for being accepting & inclusive. When it comes to race, however, we have some work to do. Recent research published in the Archives of Sxual Behavior found at B..D..S..M events people of color were 16x more likely to feel discriminated against & 17x more likely to feel fetishized than their white counterparts.

On ep 186 of American S*x podcast, Luna Matatas discusses insight she’s gleaned from the monthly Race & Kink discussion series she co-hosts with Marla Renee Stewart. What actionable steps can allies & accomplices take to tackle these issues head-on? How can we truly make our communities & events welcoming beyond saying “all are welcome”? What are we doing right? How are we missing the mark?

The kink community has a reputation for being accepting & inclusive. When it comes to race, however, we have some work to do. Recent research published in the Archives of S*xual Behavior found at B**M events people of color were 16x more likely to feel discriminated against & 17x more likely to feel...

28/03/2022

U.S. law interprets consensual kynk activities as harmful, criminal acts. This makes prosecuting s*xual assault cases within the context of B..D..S..M difficult. How do you prove non-consensual sx occurred if kynk isn’t considered sx in the eyes of the law, it’s assault? The NCSF worked with the American Law Institute to establish a legal definition of consent in kynk & just unveiled the New Model Penal Code on Sxual Assault.

On ep 185 of *xPodcast, the NCSF’s Susan Wright & BebeBlueEyes explain how this gives legal power to SA survivors, how it’ll be adopted state-by-state, about the new consent model EPP/Explicit Prior Permission & why implementing it as community standard is integral to changing case law, what you can do to help, how NCSF can assist you with criminal SA cases involving consensual kynk, and more. If you're kynky this is a MUST LISTEN! You need to know how the legal definition of consent is changing.

The legal definition of consent in B**M is changing & ki****ers NEED to know about this! Currently, U.S. law interprets consensual kink activities as criminal acts making prosecuting s*xual assault cases in B**M difficult. How do you prove non-consensual s*x occurred if kink isn’t considered s*x i...

14/03/2022

On ep 184 of American S*x Podcast, Sunny Megatron & Kate Loree look at B.D.S.M. thru an atypical lens. We chat about misconceptions we shed as people who stumbled upon k1nk later in life & how that perspective is helpful now in our careers. We discuss the headspace & strategy needed to customizable your B.D.S.M., plus dive into the science & psychology behind k1nk--why do mas0chists like suffering? What happens to the body & mind during the altered states of consciousness/subspace? How do people use k1nk to be more grounded, regulate the nervous system, explore intense emotional states with little risk, and more? There’s a lot more to B.D.S.M. than ropes, padd1es, and fl0ggers!

Why do masochists like suffering? What happens to the body & mind during the altered states of consciousness subspace & topspace? How do people use kink to be more grounded, regulate the nervous system, explore intense emotional states with minimal risk, and more? There’s a lot more to B**M than r...

28/02/2022

On Ep 183 of American S*x Podcast, we talk with Sinclair S*xsmith about dominance & submission. While most are aware that Dom/sub play is common in k1nk, we also have a very narrow view of what it entails. D/s isn’t always cruel & authoritarian. We talk about the many ways people engage in D/s & how they find strength by surrendering to powerlessness, including:

--The different types of D/s & selecting areas of control
--Building healthy dynamics
--“Subs hold all the power”
--Balancing fantasy & reality
--“Giving up” safe words
--D/s as an “intimacy fet1sh”
--Deconstructing power

On Ep 183 of American S*x Podcast, we talk with Sinclair S*xsmith about dominance & submission. While most are aware that Dom/sub play is common in kink, we also have a very narrow view of what it entails. D/s isn’t always cruel & authoritarian. We talk about the many ways people engage in D/s & h...

14/02/2022

This week's episode opens up an incredibly important convo we NEED to be having.

And this couldn't be more timely now that we know how corporations w/massive control over information can be used/abused to influence public opinion & distort what's happening in our own backyards (looking at you, F-book).
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What does the Joe Rogan/Spotify controversy have to do with the freaky things you do in the bedroom?

Surprisingly, A LOT!

This Rogan situation uncovered bigger issues regarding corporate control of information & influence over censorship. In 2022 posting about s3xual health, LGBTQIA+ activism, or thirst traps online is risky due to SESTA FOSTA, bank restrictions, and impending legislation like Earn It. Discussions about structural inequity and/or content made by marginalized creators are suppressed by biased algorithms.

Indie podcasts & audio apps are among the last least censored mediums and a central hub for these kinds of discussions & dissemination of information. How could one corporation's aggressive ambition to dominate audio entertainment threaten that & more? How did Spotify become the largest podcast platform & what’s next? This episode is a wild ride taking you from Joe Rogansville all the way to your s3xual freedom.

https://sunnymegatron.com/spotify-joe-rogan-s*xual-freedom/

What does the Joe Rogan/Spotify controversy have to do with the freaky things you do in the bedroom? Surprisingly, A LOT! This situation uncovered bigger issues regarding corporate control of information & influence over censorship. In 2022 posting about s*xual health, LGBTQIA+ activism, or thirst t...