Building a marriage that lasts

30/06/2024

19/06/2024

Shout out to my newest followers! Excited to have you onboard! Jeremiah Njoroge, Stev Sonkord, Baba Riel, Ruth Mathaiya, Simon Mburu, Andrew Kipchumba, Samson Maina, Mark Kirubi, Mary Waweru, Francis Manyeki, Ben Gichia, Prince Teddy, Haron Nyaosi, Eva Kimoi, Muriu Kawambura, Amo Njosh, Kevoh Kev Gudix, Herman Mungai, Miriam Gakii, Pkalya Anthony, Mutembi John John, James Ngugi, Jane Kamau, Santo Nelson Kirimi, Kelvin Ochieng, Shan Ka Nyambu, Mwiinga MJ Jr Chiinga, Paul Mwenja, Ann Namalwa, Musyoki Cullistus, Victor Kioko, Rafael Sweta, Lyna Leah, Leny Yombode, Susan Abuya, Euteris Tessy, Newtoh Pce Maker, Ethan, Mercy Mbithe, Tlholo Mosa, Beatrice Lugadiru, John Chege, Martin Mulwa Singah, Alex Mutuku, Steve Harrison, Mukiri Jonathan, Jane Mbone, Mungai Sam, Wahome James, Leah Nkhoma

04/06/2024

Thanks for being a top engager and making it on to my weekly engagement list! Jotham Sibelenge, Samuel Same

31/05/2024

Shout out to my newest followers! Excited to have you onboard! Mercy Ogega, ዘሚኪኤል ኪደ, Kumordzi Peter Forgive, Elizabeth Kasina, Idika Franklyn, Rhoda Oshevire Mone, Dahiru Shehu Abdullahi, Christian Boy Martinz, Creespine Musu, Patrick Ouma, Shiku Jane, Reina Buleti, Samuel Muthee, Sure Bet, Job Macharia, Esther Wanjira Maina, Hilary Otieno, Karambu Laria, John Kalight, Mary Myra, Ben Wa Kavuthi, James Mbugua, Emmah Githinji, Joel Wanyoike, Peter Njeru, Josphat Mukanzi, Dickson Sandey, Samson Sedah, Yvonne Abuko, Caren Akendo, Chiddy Chilemba, Joshua Agwata, Everlyne Siror, Wesley Mosota, Maxwel Barasa, Elizabeth Wanjiru, Patrick Shimoli, Beloved Habil Were, Babake Gifty Vosolo, Ras D-jew, Lukaku Mbolingoli, Bakhti Mehmood, Poline James, Francis Kamau Nyumu, Angeline Nduku, Suleiman Dooso, Samuel Same, Tyrah Marley, Nancy Nduku, Mukesh Singh

30/05/2024

Figuratively speaking, marriage is like a lemon. Initially, the lemon's bitterness might be off-putting, just as the challenges and adjustments in a marriage can be tough. However, just as the health benefits of a lemon are plentiful and can greatly enhance well-being, the rewards of a strong, committed marriage are profound and enriching.

Here's a deeper explanation:
Bitterness and Challenges

Lemon: The bitterness of a lemon represents the challenges and difficulties you encounter when you first taste it. It's sharp and can be overwhelming.
Marriage: Similarly, the early stages of marriage, or any difficult periods, can be fraught with misunderstandings, adjustments, and conflicts. It's the part where you face the reality of blending two lives, which can be overwhelming and require significant effort.

Health Benefits and Rewards

Lemon: Despite its initial bitterness, a lemon is packed with vitamin C, antioxidants, and other nutrients that boost your health and well-being. When used correctly, its flavor can enhance various dishes and drinks, making them more vibrant and enjoyable.
Marriage: In the same way, once you work through the challenges in marriage, you discover its profound benefits. A strong marriage offers companionship, emotional support, stability, and a shared sense of purpose. The relationship can enhance your life, making your experiences richer and more meaningful.

Balancing the Taste

Lemon: To make lemon palatable, you balance its bitterness with other flavors like sweetness from honey or sugar, or the neutrality of water. This balance makes the lemon not only bearable but enjoyable.
Marriage: In marriage, you balance the difficult times with love, communication, compromise, and shared joy. This balance transforms the relationship, allowing you to enjoy the depth of your connection and the strength you build together.

Culinary Versatility and Relationship Growth

Lemon: A lemon's versatility in cooking—from enhancing salads to flavoring desserts—shows how its potential is unlocked when combined with other ingredients.
Marriage: Similarly, the versatility in marriage lies in the growth and experiences you share. Through cooperation, patience, and mutual support, you can unlock new potentials and strengths in your relationship, making it more dynamic and fulfilling.

Enduring Benefits

Lemon: Over time, you come to appreciate the lemon not just for its taste but for its lasting health benefits.
Marriage: Over the years, you come to appreciate your marriage not just for the companionship but for the enduring support, love, and shared memories that contribute to a fulfilling life.

In essence, while marriage, like a lemon, may start off with moments of bitterness, its lasting benefits, when nurtured and balanced, provide profound and enriching rewards that enhance your life in countless ways.

24/05/2024

Yes it's possible to build a marriage that lasts when the woman of proverb 31 meets a man of Ephesians 5:25

22/05/2024

Shout out to my newest followers! Excited to have you onboard! Rachael Ngila, Jose Mugwimi, Saigarai Laizer, Patience Oinu Momoh, Nyar Israel Wambui, Evangelist Ephraim, Wawire Oponyo, Constable Anthony, Patii Muriithi, Liz Nyakwar Tindi, Amara Nwaoye, John Ejukimene, Teresiah Wawira Kamunya, Steve Odallo, Francis Kamau, Winnieh Sonitah, Muthoni Kamsoo Beatrice, Talal Yaqoot, Betty Rasa, Peter Kinyua, Miracle Ukandu, Bilha Wanjohi, Wanja Rose, Rose Wamutitu, Okeh Kate Adaeze, Joy Mwende, Godfrey Chahilu, Dennoh Bakhary, Ngugi Samuel, Alice Njuguna, Gilbert Omondi, Mary Muthoni, Alicia Alice, Morris Mbogo, Kobushi David Wafula, Stephano Wa Rachael, Benard Moses, Peter Maganga, Sheriff NY, Lagare Koda, James Ngumbi Kiteme, Donnah Rollyns Tambasi, Chenai Muchemwa, Benard Musalia, Sylus Asizi, Janne Njoki, Wangari Peris, Mc Inno Lastborn, John Macharia, Nelson Momanyi

21/05/2024

Thanks for being a top engager and making it on to my weekly engagement list! Morris Mbogo, Benard Musalia, Esther Njeri

17/05/2024

FOUNDATIONAL GUIDELINES IN MARRIAGE ACCORDING TO THE WORD OF GOD

-Divine Institution:
Marriage is established by God (Genesis 2:24).

-Monogamous Union:
Marriage is intended to be between one man and one woman (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6).

-Covenantal Relationship:
Marriage is a lifelong covenant before God (Malachi 2:14).

-Mutual Submission:
Both partners are to submit to one another out of reverence for Christ (Ephesians 5:21).

-Procreation and Family and other reasons
Marriage is the context for bearing and raising children (Genesis 1:28, Psalm 127:3-5).
Its also good to note that marriage is also for companionship and also marriage gives a sense of security
Marriage is also for sexual pleasure

-Reflecting Christ and the Church:
Marriage serves as a reflection of the relationship between Christ and the Church (Ephesians 5:32).

NB:Brethren’s if your marriage has failed ,you are not at fault sometimes God closes a door to open a window for you. Yes its possible to find another partner and build a marriage that lasts.

“KÍURA RÚÚGA KWA REMA”God hates a divorce but He does not hate a divorcee. Shalom

08/05/2024

PRINCIPLES OF MARRIAGE
-Mutual Respect: Treating each other with dignity, honoring each other's feelings, opinions, and boundaries.

- Communication: Open, honest, and respectful communication is essential for understanding each other, resolving conflicts, and building intimacy.

-Commitment: A strong commitment to the relationship, prioritizing it above individual desires or temporary challenges.

-Trust: Trust forms the foundation of a healthy marriage, built through reliability, honesty, and fidelity.

- Teamwork: Viewing the marriage as a partnership where both partners support each other, share responsibilities, and work towards common goals.

- Compromise: Being willing to find middle ground and make sacrifices for the well-being of the relationship.

- Empathy: Understanding and empathizing with each other's emotions, perspectives, and experiences.

Forgiveness: Letting go of past grievances and showing grace and understanding towards each other's mistakes.

Intimacy: Cultivating emotional, physical, and spiritual intimacy through affection, connection, and vulnerability.

-Shared Values: Having shared values, beliefs, and goals that provide a sense of unity and purpose within the marriage.

-Independence and Interdependence: Balancing individual autonomy with mutual reliance and support.

-Continuous Growth: Embracing personal and relational growth, learning from experiences, and evolving together as individuals and as a couple.

-Quality Time: Prioritizing and cherishing moments spent together, nurturing the bond and connection.

-Appreciation: Expressing gratitude and appreciation for each other's contributions, efforts, and qualities.

- Adaptability: Being flexible and adaptable to life's changes and challenges, and facing them together as a team.

30/04/2024

Marriage has no manual
If you want to obtain a relationship you deserve,both spouses must be committed towards making marriage work.
Learn to accept your partner and don't try to model them into your idea of a perfect partner.
Get a life of your own and don't lose your individuality in the pursuit of a lasting marriage.
Building a marriage requires foundation of Christ, love,commitment ,discipline and more so seeking the kingdom of God first and everything else shall be added unto you including(a marriage that lasts).Mathew 6:33 Shalom🙏

A Counselor and a Community Development worker