know your worth

23/10/2020

I wanted to take a moment to welcome everyone that is part of this community! There has been a number of new likes and followers to this community in the last couple of months.

This is a safe place and all are welcome.

I encourage you to introduce yourself and what you hope to learn or gain from being part of this community....

26/08/2020

Some words for today. These words have hit a cord as I continue my healing journey. All the feels in these words. Celebrate your worth. Reclaim your worth. Know your worth.

‘I’m not going to ask you to kiss me,
neither ask for forgiveness when I believe that you have done wrong,
or that you have made a mistake.
Nor am I going to ask you to hug me when I need it the most,
or to invite me to dinner on our anniversary.
I’m not going to ask you to go around the world to live new experiences, much less ask you to give me your hand when we are in that city.
I’m not going to ask you to tell me how pretty I am, even if it’s a lie or that you write me anything nice.
Nor will I ask you to call me to tell me
how your day was or tell me you miss me.
I’m not going to ask you to thank me for everything I do for you, for you to worry about me when my moods are down and of course I will not ask you to support me in my decisions.
I’m not going to ask you to listen to me when I have a thousand
stories to tell you.
I’m not going to ask you to do anything, not even to stay by my side forever.
Because if I have to ask you,
I do not want it anymore.’ - Frida Kahlo



Self Portrait Wearing a velvet dress, 1926 by Frida kahlo

26/03/2020

11 days. 264 hours. 15840 hours. 950400 seconds. I’ve been quiet. I’ve attempted to write something many times but my voice was silent. So I paused and went inward. Which is what I’ve been practicing for the last 18 months. Social distancing became a term that I’d hear every level of politician use. I’ve been social distancing for the last 18 months.

So this time has been very strange for me. I’m mostly calm with bouts of panic. But I silence the news feed, put away my phone, turn off my computer and I go inward. Ive tried to meditate but overwhelmed with all the support available online. I’ve just sat in my own silence.

Social distancing became something I did to heal after my separation. Healing from the idea of how I thought life would be, healing from being in a relationship that didn’t serve me for a long time, helping from old trauma wounds that were inflicted far before this relationship even starting. I’m still healing.

I have been reading that lungs hold grief.

By definition grief means:
‘deep mental anguish’,
‘a source or cause of deep mental anguish’ ‘annoyance or frustration’
‘trouble or difficulty’

We all hold grief deep in our bodies. Releasing it is not easy. It stays buried. Burying grief protects us - mainly our minds. Keeping it buried can lead to side effects that show up in different ways - chronic complaining, health issues, depression...

This time has been triggering for me. Hearing other people’s grief, pain and complaining about what’s happening in the world right now. I wanted to run away for the first few days. Then I felt frozen. Now I feels it’s opened me up again to turn inward and heal some grief I’ve buried deep inside me moment after moment. That’s been my motto for the last 18 months go inward and now is not the time to change my course. What’s coming up for you?

10/03/2020

I received this email the other day from my yoga studio. I had a a little chuckle to myself. The story I was telling myself was untrue. ‘Oh big deal 25 classes I should have been to more!’

I came back to the email a few hours later. I reread the email. I sat with it. I could tell myself you should of went more. There’s nothing to be proud of. That’s not an achievement. In that moment I changed the story I was telling myself.

Sure I could have gone more. What’s more important is that I showed up for mySELF 25 times in the last 4 months. That’s 25 more times than I had shown up for myself in the 4 months before. And that’s the achievement. I began making myself a priority. I began walking through of my FEAR. I began saying YES to my healing. I opened mySELF to feeling good.

This is the win. This is the achievement. This is the point.

08/03/2020

I cannot even describe my gratitude for the women that have come together to crest the design YOUR destiny retreat. I feel seen. I feel heard. I feel supported. I feel worthy.

Natalia from Inner Nurture is one of the women that has joined me on this journey. I hope you will too!!!

08/03/2020

08/03/2020

104 years ago women were granted the right to vote in some provinces in Canada.

52 years ago ‘divorce’ became legal in Canada.

43 years ago Federal Pay Equity legislation was passed.

35 years ago Indigenous women who married a non-indigenous person had their treaty and Aboriginal rights restored.

32 years ago abortion became truly legal in Canada.

20 years ago women were able take 12 months paid leave after becoming a parent.

Today we observe International Women’s day. A day to raise awareness to eliminate discrimination against women. For me it’s not just about discrimination because this is a human right not just a woman’s right. For me this day is about eradicating inequities towards women and looking deeper at the inequities of various demographic intersectionality on women. It’s about removing barriers for women to fully participate in the workforce. It’s about changing the narrative and how we speak about and to women. It’s about recognizing we are s*xual beings but we ARE NOT s*x objects. It’s about how we nurture the next generation of men. It’s about being unapologetically ourselves and carrying zero shame about this. It’s about governments creating policies and legislation that removes barriers for all genders and for driving towards changing the narrative.

In 104 years we’ve come far but not far enough. I won’t be here to see what our world is like in 104 years. My hope is that the work that this generation and the next is doing will eliminate the need to have such a day for the all of the generations after.

Happy International Women’s Day.

08/03/2020

Happy International Women’s day - 50% off ticket to a 1 day women’s retreat.

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06/03/2020

design YOUR destiny Speaker Spotlight:
Diane Horsman - Divorce Consultant & Mediator
Diane’s mission is ensure people are informed and empowered. In her practice she is focused on helping couples and individuals achieve better divorce outcomes. She assists people in moving forward.

06/03/2020

design YOUR destiny Speaker Spotlight: Laideen has a passion for helping women break through their fears and anxiety around creating financial stability in their lifetime and for generations to come. From experience, she knows there is a lack of help available, and a lack of focus on women achieving financial wellness. Laideen’s mission is to empower other women like herself to achieve fulfilling lives by improving their finances.

06/03/2020

design YOUR destiny Speaker Spotlight: Ashley Mariani, M.S.W., R.S.W.
Mind Online Therapy

Ashley believes there is no perfect relationship and there is no professional that can teach you how to have one. Her mission is to help couples (including plural relationships), new parents, and those in the crux of transitions, feel relief from the layers of overwhelm and hardships.

She says her role gives her the opportunity to witness the lives of so many different people, each one leaving me with a valuable experience. She believes in meeting clients where they are at, and creating a warm, collaborative, and non-judgemental space in which to explore the personal and relational challenges that they are living. She honours every individual’s story, and values the richness of people’s diverse identities and experiences.

Remember: You are the Expert of your own life. - Ashley Mariani

06/03/2020

design YOUR destiny Speaker Spotlight: Natalia Ria
Embodying Inner Freedom

Natalia empowers women travelling on healing journeys from co-dependence to self-belonging. As a recovered people-pleaser, Natalia creates gateways for healing the self-abandonment wound and building a Home within the Self. Through feminine embodiment practices, breathwork, connection, touch and the cyclical power of the female body, Natalia helps women heal their inner child, reconnect with their aliveness and re-discover the profound joy of receiving. The sacred intention for her work is to end the legacy of emotional starvation, shame spirals and cycles of depletion experienced by women who come from lineages that carry the emotional abandonment wound - a debilitating lack of emotional nurturing.

03/03/2020

Bold. Impactful. Inspirational. Beautiful. Wise. Vital. These are the women of the ‘design YOUR destiny’ retreat.

Join us for A 1-Day inclusive retreat for women.

An experience that holds space for you. As women, we’ve been conditioned to hold space for others leaving little room or time to connect with our essence - our self. A safe and supported experience to gather your confidence and plant the seeds to design YOUR destiny!

Link in bio for details and tickets. Get your ticket today. Promo code: LEAP

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02/03/2020

The picture in this photo brings up so much for me - emotions, values, my essence. I got it during my first trip to a country I fell in love with literally - the people, the climate, the views, the life, the food, the ocean, the history. I bought it from a vendor at the resort I attended for a wedding. I had the person I purchased it from take it off the wood frame and I carefully rolled it up in my suitcase to bring it back to Canada. When I arrived home I brought it to a framer to find out it would require a custom made frame! I remember picking it up from the framer when it was ready - I was so happy. I hung it in my apartment living room and it brought me so much joy.

It’s stayed with me on my journey these last 13 years - moved with me to a few apartments, packed safely in storage for a couple of years and hung above my bed.

Recently, I took it down. I was tempted to put it away, maybe even give it away. It now reminded me of the ending of my marriage, my heartbreak, pain, empty hopes, trauma and being alone. I hesitated. I made excuses as to why I needed to keep it. Reminding myself of the joy it once brought.

One morning while cleaning my room I was about to put it ‘away’ out of sight, tuck it away in my closet. I opened the closest. I tucked it inside the left side. And I had this wave of emotion come over me and I quickly took it out again. In that moment I looked at it again and thought oh my - this artwork is a reflection of my current journey - to return to my essence.

It represents my beliefs and a return to my long held values. I now see Matriarchs (the original harvesters of the land), the feminine, the returning of my voice, my journey to love all of me, to turn inward to do the deep healing, to sit in my feelings, to walk through fear and be myself. Life is about shifting and evolving just as this artwork has for me. Has anything you’ve had in your life shifted and evolved with you?

29/02/2020

A 1-Day retreat for women.

An experience that holds space for you. As women, we’ve been conditioned to hold space for others leaving little room or time to connect with our essence - our self. A safe safe and supported experience to gather your confidence and plant the seeds to design YOUR destiny!

Have you recently walked away from a relationship no longer serving you? Are you contemplating ending a toxic relationship? Are you feeling overwhelmed? Do you feel a lack of direction? Are you moving two steps forward and being pulled one step back? Are your fears around finances, being alone and the process holding you back?

This 1-Day Retreat for Women will break down the natural fears, worries and sadness when a relationship ends. You will practice new ways to ground yourself through boundaries, quieting negative self talk, connection, community and female embodiment. Self reflection will be weaved throughout the day to explore who you are? What is your essence? What’s holding you back? How do you want to feel? And how can you take steps to get there.

This is a self love experience and out you on a path towards healing from your past, being present in the now and feeling joy for your future. What you gain from this one day will help you to find your way to design that new destiny!

There will be exploration, discovery, connection and community.

April 5, 2020
9 am - 5pm
Hosted at Ecology Retreat Centre in Orangeville, Ontario (nestled in the forest)

LEAP year promo is $120. Regular price is $149
A nourishing lunch and snacks will be provided.
Join us for an inclusive retreat for women to heal, nourish, reflect and gain the confidence to design your destiny!

29/02/2020

I was buried. I was lost. I felt unworthy. I didn’t know the woman in the mirror. I was sad. I was broken. I had no energy. I was angry. I felt sorry for myself. I wanted to run. I wanted it to all stop. I wanted to be loved. I wanted my soul back.

That was three years ago. Today I still struggle. I’m doing the inner healing and nurturing. My days are light. My nights are brighter. I’m loving myself more and more everyday. Today my seeds are starting to grow.

Relationships are fu***ng hard. They take energy. A lot of fu***ng energy. Never believe anyone If they ever tell you it’s all on you. It’s not. It’s on you to go inward and do your work NOT their work. Inner work can be really painful. Moving with that pain and sitting in that pain can help you to grow your seeds. As we move into the spring equinox I encourage you to go inward to the depths of your being and find the seeds that you need to nurture.

28/02/2020

Have you recently walked away from a relationship no longer serving you?

28/02/2020

Have you ended a toxic relationship and are struggling to move forward? Are contemplating walking away from a relationship no longer serving you?

This 1 day retreat is for YOU! Limited Promo price happening now!! Limited spots...get your ticket today!

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Have you recently walked away from a relationship no longer serving you?

27/02/2020

If you were on the fence about the Design your Destiny retreat - now is the time to secure your spot!

ANNOUNCING LEAP YEAR PROMO.

$29 off the ticket price

Now $120

You’ll walk away with the confidence to design your destiny! Link in bio for tickets

26/02/2020

🔆 leap year giveaway alert 🔆

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25/02/2020

Bold. Impactful. Inspirational. Beautiful. Wise. Vital. Introducing the women of the Design YOUR Destiny retreat. Join us for an inclusive retreat for women to heal, nourish, reflect and gain the confidence to design your destiny! Link in bio for details and tickets. Limited capacity. Get your ticket today. All details in my bio. designyourdestiny @ Toronto, Ontario

23/02/2020

Have you recently ended a relationship? Are you contemplating ending a relationship no longer serving you? This event is for you! Our mission is create an experience where you hold space for yourself with women facing a similar situation. A space you will feel supported, gather your confidence and heal.

Design your Destiny event is on April 5th. I am among some amazing speakers to help you design a positive path forward. Click below for details and tickets!

https://www.eventbrite.ca/e/design-your-destiny-a-self-love-experience-tickets-93673121829

19/02/2020

Have you recently walked away from a relationship? Have you ended a toxic relationship and are struggling to get clarity on how to move forward?
This retreat will offer you to hold space for yourself with women facing a similar situation. You will feel supported, gather your confidence and heal. We will see you there!

https://www.eventbrite.ca/e/design-your-destiny-a-self-love-experience-tickets-93673121829

19/02/2020

Design your destiny: a self-love experience is happening!

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19/02/2020

It is happening!!! A retreat curated for women. Have you recently walked away from a relationship no longer serving you? Are you sitting with a decision? Are you contemplating walking away from a toxic relationship? Are you craving real, deep, nourishing healing among other women? DM for more details. Limited spots.

19/02/2020

A new decade brings new energy to transform. In one word, what is your focus this decade?

19/02/2020

19/02/2020

A podcast is coming - real conversations with everyday women.

19/02/2020

conversations with everyday women podcast in the works