17/04/2021
"Over the past couple of weeks, we’ve had two encounters that bruised my heart a bit. The first was when we were camping. We brought the girls to a local ice cream shop, and while we were waiting for our ice cream, I saw a little girl notice Ivy (which is happening more and more now that she’s older, more independent and more mobile... not always in the stroller or carrier.) I then saw this little girl say something to her mom while pointing at Ivy. I tried to catch the little girl’s eye and smile and wave. I then saw the mom glance over at Ivy, then turn back to her daughter and scold her. I couldn’t hear the words, but I could see both their faces and expressions. The mother was forceful, stern, even angry. The little girl looked confused and upset. She then began to cry. I couldn’t hear the words, but I know what was implied. “Don’t look, don’t stare, stop it, be quiet.”
I should have done many things in this moment, and I regret not doing anything. I feel like I failed Ivy this day. I should have brought Ivy over and said hi to the little girl. I should have introduced Ivy and asked if she had any questions. I should have told her about how Ivy can colour with her toes and play with her toes, and isn’t it beautiful how we’re all born different?
Instead I sat there and watched this girl cry after being scolded by her mother. We ate our ice cream and left.
That little girl learned a lesson that day. An impactful one.. Some people are born different, and that’s not okay.
Fast forward to today, when I brought Elena to her ballet class. Ivy and I waited outside the studio. This adorable little ballerina walked past and said, “Mommy, that baby has no hands!” The mom gasped her child’s name, as if what she had said was horribly rude, offensive, and embarrassing. This time I said something. I quickly said, “it’s okay! Would you like to say hi?” And while Ivy smiled and waved, the girl asked why Ivy didn’t have hands. “She was just born that way!” I then told her about how Ivy can color with her toes, and eat with her toes, and that Ivy even likes to dance too. Isn’t that cool?". Credit: https://www.instagram.com/vanessamcleod_