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ShataraDe’Nay Break the cycle of undefined and unclear relationships, heal from past wounds, and reclaim your power

Happy Easter ❤️🐣
31/03/2024

Happy Easter ❤️🐣

Silent nights aren’t silent anymore 😂💙Merry Christmas, y’all! 🎄
25/12/2023

Silent nights aren’t silent anymore 😂💙

Merry Christmas, y’all! 🎄

Shoutout to .bookclub for having me as a guest speaker on Sunday night! 🫶🏽I am so grateful for this opportunity. If you’...
23/08/2023

Shoutout to .bookclub for having me as a guest speaker on Sunday night! 🫶🏽

I am so grateful for this opportunity.

If you’re a woman who desires to learn how to prepare for the love you deserve by learning how to set, communicate, and stick to your boundaries, grab your copy of The Magic of Getting Uncomfortable: 8 Strategies to Help You Forgive Yourself and Others While Setting Boundaries to Elevate Your Confidence.

Do you struggle to come to terms with the fact that you have unhealthy relationships? Do you know you need to set bounda...
21/08/2023

Do you struggle to come to terms with the fact that you have unhealthy relationships?

Do you know you need to set boundaries but don't know how?

As a result of not setting boundaries, you constantly overextend yourself to people, which leaves you feeling drained, unappreciated, and often pouring from an empty cup.

I struggled with accepting that I lacked boundaries and had unhealthy relationships. To the outside, I was smart.

I was going to college and working; it seemed that I had everything together. However, on the inside, I was struggling and trying to seek happiness through other people that were not giving me the fulfillment within myself that I desired.

Yes, that was me, and you may be facing the same obstacles; however, taking a harsh look in the mirror changed my perspective and reality.

In The Magic of Getting Uncomfortable, I share strategies that will help you cultivate healthy relationships and step into your new era of self-confidence. In this book, you will discover:

1. How to confront your anxiety.
2. The ability to forgive yourself and others by eliminating guilt.
3. The power to create and set boundaries for yourself.
4. Strategies to identify the root of the lack of boundaries

By the end of this book, you will learn 8 strategies to start developing healthy relationships, confronting anxiety, learning the power of self-forgiveness, and discovering your inner greatness.

Grab your copy here: theshataraoliver.com or click the link in my bio!

Have you ever stuck around waiting for someone to change? You know what I’m talking about. Making excuses for his behavi...
16/08/2023

Have you ever stuck around waiting for someone to change?

You know what I’m talking about.

Making excuses for his behavior, telling yourself he will change, but you know deep down he won’t.

You think if you just love him hard enough and show him who you are, proving that you are relationship worthy, he will finally be the man you want him to be.

You keep giving him a chance after chance, and the more you forgive him, the more you keep getting hurt.

I feel you, sis. I’ve been there, done that, and brought the T-shirt for it.

If you really want to change who you are attracting and not find yourself in those relationships again, you need to learn how to set, communicate, and stick to your boundaries, and in order for you to do that, you need to know what you’re boundaries are and I want to help you do that.

For the entire month of August, I am holding space for 15 women to book their power session call with me to take control of their healing, reclaim their time and peace, and confidently choose healthy relationships.
Five slots are already gone!

So if you want to book your power session, call. The time is now because when the slots are filled, they are filled.

Click the link in my bio!

Do you know what August signifies? And no, girl, it’s not the cookouts, mosquito bites, and all that other stuff. August...
14/08/2023

Do you know what August signifies?

And no, girl, it’s not the cookouts, mosquito bites, and all that other stuff. August is the 8th month of the year which means new beginnings and renewal. What do you want your new beginning to look like?

Is it finally being able to set boundaries and communicate your needs in a relationship?
Is it finally ending your current relationship and getting to the root of why you keep attracting the same partner?

Is it learning how to forgive yourself for the mistakes that you made in the past?

This is the perfect time for you to schedule your power hour session with me to create a plan for your new beginning, identify the steps you need to take, and hold you accountable along the way.

This 1 hour intensive is designed to make an immediate impact by assessing your current challenge in one priority area and customizing a tailored plan of action to support your goals.

This option includes:
1. Pre-session questionnaire will help me get to know you better and understand your goals.
2. One-hour deep dive via Zoom: We will work together to assess your current challenge and develop a plan of action.
3. Follow-up email: This will include the call recording, outlined action steps, and any other resources we discussed.
4. Two weeks of additional support (via email): I will be available to answer any questions and provide additional support.

Click the link in my bio to schedule your call

Do you know my first time investing in a coach, I canceled my appointment three times? Yes, girl, three times. It wasn’t...
13/08/2023

Do you know my first time investing in a coach, I canceled my appointment three times?

Yes, girl, three times.

It wasn’t because I didn’t want to do it. It was just that fear was taking over me like a plague.

The fear of whether this is actually going to work. The fear of wasting my money? The fear of being the odd woman out? And even the fear of vulnerability? It had me canceling for the third time.

Listen, you can’t be more stubborn than me, not even on your best day. I refused to open up to anybody. I shut down. I isolated myself. I channeled my focus into any and everything else so that I wouldn’t deal with the real issue… me!

I Wasted time on something unclear wasn’t going anywhere left me feeling tired and drained and made me isolate from the people I loved and cared about. Before I knew it, I was losing weight drastically because I didn’t have an appetite. I found myself in the same exact place that I didn’t want to be, and not only that, but the people that were in my circle were doing the same exact thing.

Honey, we were all stuck on stupid!

You know what? I realized I was being consistent in the wrong damn thing. I was consistently disrespected, mistreated, not being loved correctly, and staying broken by choice.

What activated me to finally book a call with a coach was my decision- I refused to stay in the same place and repeat the same thing repeatedly. I remember thinking to myself, what do I have to lose .. money? I could always get that back. My copay was literally $40 a session. I could spend that on my nails and feet anytime.

What activates you? What will make you break free from unclear and undefined relationships? What will drive you to be better? Is it your daughter/ son? Is it your health? Is it looking at the women in your family and not wanting the same for your life?

Also, five slots are gone for the power hour session, and once they are gone, they are gone.

https://calendly.com/shataraaoliver/power-hour-session

Your family and friends are your tribe, not your therapist. A support system is a group of personal or professional indi...
12/08/2023

Your family and friends are your tribe, not your therapist.

A support system is a group of personal or professional individuals who can strategically and effectively aid and assist you in the achievement of a personal or professional goal. Your best friend may not be that person, but she can still be your best friend.

If you let me, I want to help support the vision for your life by providing you with realistic strategies to live a life you want and deserve. I know personal coaching seems risky and too vulnerable, and you don't know whether it's going to work or not. But the fact is -it will work if you work it.

I don't usually do this, but for the entire month of August, I am running a special power hour coaching session for $97 to take a deep dive into what in your life have you stuck and practical tips to help you pivot- ACTION PLAN just for you.

The offer ends in two weeks, and slots are filling up FAST. I only have room for 15 women, and I want you to be one of them click the link in my bio!

Anybody who knows me knows I don’t like chaos. I don’t like confusion. I like simple.And what I found out is that when i...
10/08/2023

Anybody who knows me knows I don’t like chaos.

I don’t like confusion.

I like simple.

And what I found out is that when it comes to relationships, the right one doesn’t have to be chaotic, it doesn’t have to be confusing, and it 100% can be simple.

But if I don’t make it simple, it will be chaotic, it will be chaos, and it will work my damn nerve.

Take this simple three-step strategy that I give my clients to get out of the cycle of being in chaotic and confusing relationships:

1. Understand what a healthy relationship looks like for you. If you’ve never had one, think about the ones you’ve had in the past and what you would’ve liked to see change.

2. Define what boundaries you need to set with yourself. In other words, what are your non-negotiables? Now a key to this is don’t operate in a preference (that’s something you can take or leave). I’m asking what your non-negotiables are. This is something that you will not allow to be altered or changed.

3. Upholding your boundaries. The truth is that people are going to test your boundaries to make sure you gon’ stand by what you say you’re going to stand by.

Want to learn how to set boundaries in a one on one power session with me? Schedule your power session call with me, where we will create a step-by-step plan for you to not only learn how to set boundaries, but you’ll be able to stick to them as well. This is 100% customized for you.

Go to https://calendly.com/shataraaoliver/power-hour-session to secure your slot.

It's only for the month of August, and there are ONLY 15 slots available.

Hey friend, If you’re going to leave unclear relationships in your rearview mirror this year, we need to get started now...
05/08/2023

Hey friend,

If you’re going to leave unclear relationships in your rearview mirror this year, we need to get started now.

I’ve done it all, sis.

Not only did I find myself “getting under another one to get over another one,” but I’ve also made the mistake of going back to the “friends with benefits” because I didn’t want to deal with the REAL PROBLEM, and that was me.

When I finally took the superwoman cape off and was open to receiving help and invested in coaching beyond therapy, that’s when things finally started to change.

For the first time in my life, I didn’t feel guilty about asking for what I wanted out of a relationship and confidently left when I didn’t receive it.

Sis, if you really want the change try this and see how life changes for you!

If you want a coach that has the step-by-step blueprint to help not only give you the strategy but will hold your hand in the process of reclaiming your power back book your 20-minute power session with me here >> https://calendly.com/shataraaoliver/powersession

As little girls, we are conditioned to be the giver and accept what is given to us as women.I remember seeing some of th...
28/07/2023

As little girls, we are conditioned to be the giver and accept what is given to us as women.

I remember seeing some of the women in my family bend over backward for everyone. They cooked, cleaned, took care of the kids, and were always there for their husbands. But in the process, they lost themselves.

And because I mirrored that, I ended up feeling used, exhausted, depressed, and confused. I didn't know how I had gotten to this point.

It wasn't until I fell into a deep depression and became physically ill that I knew I had to change. I lost my memory, couldn't drive, had to take a year off work, and lost a lot of weight.

I realized that life is short. And if I didn't take control of my life and heal, I would be right back in the same place.

So I took the scary step of healing.

I had to pray, trust the process, and move forward even though I was afraid.

I'm holding space for you because I want to see you win.
I'm holding space for you because I want to see you thrive and be there with you to help hold your hand through the process.

That's why I created the Course Correction Self-Study Course.
In this course, you'll learn how to:
Heal intentionally
Set healthy boundaries
Thrive in your life

Slots are going fast, and I'm only holding space for ten women.

So don't wait. Click the link in my bio to Secure your spot today!

Quarter 3 is here and it's time to kick things in gear. Leaders, entrepreneurs, coaches, and speakers are moving from lo...
22/07/2023

Quarter 3 is here and it's time to kick things in gear. Leaders, entrepreneurs, coaches, and speakers are moving from local celebrities to household names with just one high-quality, well-written, information-based, or self-help book.

The writing is on the wall, every boss needs a book!

But first things first- book writing. Using the flipbook formula I wrote my book in 8 days. Yes, 8 days!

I literally flipped client testimonials, case studies, podcast interviews, blog posts, and speaking engagements into a published book!

Join me and hundreds of leaders, entrepreneurs, coaches, and speakers at the Flipbook Formula 5-DayWorkshop to turn your content into a published book!

🎯 Register today! www.theflipbookformula.com

Day 2 was one for the BOOKS.Today was all about Courageous Release.Today participants learned how to develop the courage...
19/07/2023

Day 2 was one for the BOOKS.

Today was all about Courageous Release.

Today participants learned how to develop the courage and confidence to let go of situations and people that don’t align with their life or vision.

If you haven’t got in the room, make sure you do >> www.changingcourse.net

Day 1 of The Changing Course Workshop is completed! Tonight participants learned how to: 1. Unlock the roadmap to clarit...
18/07/2023

Day 1 of The Changing Course Workshop is completed!

Tonight participants learned how to:
1. Unlock the roadmap to clarity and empowerment
2. Gain the tools to break the cycle of unclear and undefined relationships
3. Heal past wounds
4. Embrace a future filled with purpose

Tonight was a game-changer for SURE.

Make sure you get in the room because real friends don’t let real friends go through their healing alone!

go to www.changingcourse.net

This is your sign, friend—don't you dare give up.My first free workshop had 16 people. Within a month, we grew to 28 reg...
14/07/2023

This is your sign, friend—don't you dare give up.

My first free workshop had 16 people.

Within a month, we grew to 28 registrants.

Three months later, that number doubled to a whopping 74 people!

Another three months passed, and we reached 139 women seeking their breakthroughs.

Let that sink in for a moment.

That's why no one can tell me what God can or can't do because I am a LIVING testimony.

Let this serve as a powerful reminder not to throw in the tile when you don't see the instant results you want.

I am truly grateful to look back and see how far I've come.

Now, I'm hosting another free 5-day workshop called Changing Course, where I focus on helping driven and ambitious women break the cycle of being in unclear and undefined relationships, take control of their healing, and reclaim their power.

I need your help.

Share this message with five amazing women in your life and help me reach my goal of empowering 500 women to achieve their breakthroughs.

Don't let this chance slip away.

Grab your seat at www.changingcourse.net.

This is your sign, friend—don't you dare give up.

My first free workshop had 16 people.

Within a month, we grew to 28 registrants.

Three months later, that number doubled to a whopping 74 people!

Another three months passed, and we reached 139 women seeking their breakthroughs.

Let that sink in for a moment.

That's why no one can tell me what God can or can't do because I am a LIVING testimony.

Let this serve as a powerful reminder not to throw in the tile when you don't see the instant results you want.

I am truly grateful to look back and see how far I've come.

Now, I'm hosting another free 5-day workshop called Changing Course, where I focus on helping driven and ambitious women break the cycle of being in unclear and undefined relationships, take control of their healing, and reclaim their power.

I need your help.

Share this message with five amazing women in your life and help me reach my goal of empowering 500 women to achieve their breakthroughs.

Don't let this chance slip away.

Grab your seat at www.changingcourse.net.

It’s going down tonight at 7 pm est!!!! Join us live !!!
13/07/2023

It’s going down tonight at 7 pm est!!!! Join us live !!!

I just secured a powerhouse speaker and my star client for the changing course workshop. We shifting shifting ! Make sur...
12/07/2023

I just secured a powerhouse speaker and my star client for the changing course workshop. We shifting shifting !
Make sure you get in the room! Click the link in my bio!

I just secured a powerhouse speaker for the changing course workshop. We shifting shifting! Ms.  will teach on Activatin...
11/07/2023

I just secured a powerhouse speaker for the changing course workshop. We shifting shifting!

Ms. will teach on Activating The D.E.C.I.D.E Formula: Develop the resilience to embrace change, overcome the fear of uncertainty, and transform your life.

Secure your seat at www.changingcourse.net or click the link in my bio 💕

Shoutout to God 👏🏽👏🏽Y’all have no idea how thankful I am to be able to serve these amazing women next week. I am truly g...
10/07/2023

Shoutout to God 👏🏽👏🏽

Y’all have no idea how thankful I am to be able to serve these amazing women next week.

I am truly grateful!

Do me a favor and share >> www.changingcourse.net

Take a moment and IMAGINE 500 women getting a BREAKTHROUGH in their LIFE... I’ve never taught 500  women at one time, bu...
10/07/2023

Take a moment and IMAGINE 500 women getting a BREAKTHROUGH in their LIFE...

I’ve never taught 500 women at one time, but it’s been a goal of mind for a while, and I decided that I am going to go after it.

So I created the 5-Day Changing Course Workshop.

So I’m coming with an “ask” to join me and help me continue reaching more women who are ready to break the cycle of undefined and unclear relationships, take control of their healing, and reclaim their power in 2023.

Ready to join the MOVEMENT?

Come and Join me here >> www.changingcourse.net

“Let the rest of this year be the beginning of anything you want.” I wasted time entertaining relationships I knew weren...
10/07/2023

“Let the rest of this year be the beginning of anything you want.”

I wasted time entertaining relationships I knew weren’t going to be serious, knowing it wasn’t going to be any commitment, while at the same time having trouble letting go because I was holding on to the history.

Let’s not even consider trying to break the soul tie at the same time.

Deep down, somewhere, somehow, I realized blaming myself wasn’t working because what I really needed was:

‼️To learn how to love myself unconditionally
‼️Develop healthy boundaries
‼️Understand my self-worth
‼️Establish healthy communication skills

When I finally forgave myself and figured out the secret to mastering being in a healthy relationship, that’s when things began to change.

I’m so glad I developed a healthy relationship with myself back then because my goal is to use those lessons to help my clients:

💋Break free from uncertainty 
💋Develop the courage and confidence to let off situations and people that don’t align with your life or vision. 
💋Take your power back and heal from the past.

In my upcoming 5-day Changing Course workshop, I share more about how to break the cycle of undefined and unclear relationships, take control of your healing, and reclaim your power.

If you’re ready to experience your breakthrough, click the link in my bio to secure your seat!

Another woman joined and registered for the changing course workshop. I love to see women taking back their life! You re...
10/07/2023

Another woman joined and registered for the changing course workshop. I love to see women taking back their life!

You ready to take back yours?

Go to www.changingcourse.net to secure your spot!

This is why I do what I do! This was from Day 1 of the 5-Day Changing Course Workshop! Don’t waste time get in the room!...
08/07/2023

This is why I do what I do!

This was from Day 1 of the 5-Day Changing Course Workshop!

Don’t waste time get in the room!

Secure your seat at www.changingcourse.net

I'm looking for 500 women who are ready to learn how to create, set, and stick to healthy boundaries within their famili...
06/07/2023

I'm looking for 500 women who are ready to learn how to create, set, and stick to healthy boundaries within their families and relationships.

I've never taught 500 women at one time, but it's been a goal of mine for a while, and I've decided that I am going to make it happen.

Introducing the 5-Day Changing Course Workshop, where you'll break the cycle of undefined and unclear relationships, take control of your healing, and reclaim your power.

Imagine being part of a select group of empowered women united in their mission to redefine their boundaries, regain control, and thrive in all aspects of life. Don't let this opportunity slip away.

Ready to join the MOVEMENT and be one of the 500 women who will shape their future?
Enroll now at >> www.changingcourse.net

Secure your copy of The Magic of Getting Uncomfortable: 8 Strategies to Help You Forgive Yourself and Others to Elevate ...
20/04/2023

Secure your copy of The Magic of Getting Uncomfortable: 8 Strategies to Help You Forgive Yourself and Others to Elevate Your Confidence by clicking the link in my bio!

If you’re ready to get to work order your copy of The Magic of Getting Uncomfortable: 8 Strategies to Help You Forgive Y...
20/04/2023

If you’re ready to get to work order your copy of The Magic of Getting Uncomfortable: 8 Strategies to Help You Forgive Yourself and Others to Elevate Your Confidence by clicking the link in my bio!

I chatted with a good friend of mine today about all the things I would do once I made a certain amount of money, my bus...
17/04/2023

I chatted with a good friend of mine today about all the things I would do once I made a certain amount of money, my business hit some big milestones, and I reached a certain status in my career. 

Mid-convo, God checked me and said, "Don’t forget to see the joy in THIS process." 

My toxic trait is - I like stuff to go my way on my timeline!

Rather it's a breakup, weight loss journey, or business, I've always prayed for God to move stuff quickly because I didn't like the process of:

1. Feeling it to heal it
2. Starting over
3. Grieving the dream 
4. Being accountable and growing up

I made a decision to see check my emotions and experience joy even in the process. Daily I stand in these truths: 

1. There is purpose in the process
2.  Everything is an opportunity to learn
3. God is working in the background to bless you
4. God has ALWAYS been there, so why will he stop now- HE WON'T

Let this be your reminder to KEEP GOING 💕

Hi Cyclebreaker, If you have a desire to be in a healthy relationship, you definitely want to pay attention to how they ...
13/04/2023

Hi Cyclebreaker,

If you have a desire to be in a healthy relationship, you definitely want to pay attention to how they are treating themselves because that could tell the story of how they would treat you.

I’ve done it all.

Not only did I “go with the flow,” but I’ve also believed in the “let’s see where things go” without even being upfront with what I wanted, and it left me at square one.

However, when I started sticking to the boundaries that I set with dating and left when they weren’t honored.

I was able to stop attracting relationships where I felt drained, and I started to thrive in love and in life.

I encourage you to try this and see how it works for you.

In my book The Magic of Getting Uncomfortable: 8 Strategies To Help You Forgive Yourself and Others While Setting Boundaries to Elevate Your Confidence, I go into detail about setting and honoring your boundaries and how you can stop settling for mediocre relationships where your needs aren’t honored.

Go to www.theshataraoliver.com to secure your copy!

If you have ever ignored the red flags, raise your hand. I know I’m not the only one!There were times when I was mad tha...
12/04/2023

If you have ever ignored the red flags, raise your hand.

I know I’m not the only one!

There were times when I was mad that I wasn’t trusting myself, only to realize I didn’t know what to do when I even saw the red flags. I felt upset, embarrassed, and hurt.

I knew there had to be an easier way to be with someone who I could trust.

If you’ve been feeling like:

✔️You’ve been settling, and it makes you feel frustrated.
✔️You attract the same person, just a different face, and you feel like things are not changing.
✔️You’re never been chosen, always being seen as the homegirl and nothing else.

Know that there’s hope on the other side.

Being able to:

❤️Be with someone you have chemistry with.
❤️Be in a relationship where you two bring out the best in each other.
❤️See the red flag and leave IMMEDIATELY! ..and you can do it!

In my program, Building Boundaries Bootcamp, I teach my clients how to set, stick to and communicate their boundaries so they can create fulfilling relationships within themselves and live life on their own terms.

Schedule your call here >> https://calendly.com/buildingboundariesbootcamp/claritycallsession

Alexa, play Lauryn Hill That Thangggg… “Girl, you know you betttaaa watch out.” 🎶I really just wanted to be chosen. I ne...
06/04/2023

Alexa, play Lauryn Hill That Thangggg… “Girl, you know you betttaaa watch out.” 🎶

I really just wanted to be chosen.

I never seemed to pick the right partners, and even when I thought I did, they turned into situationships where I only felt like I was good for one thing and one thing only: S*X. I honestly started believing that if I could do that right, they'd keep coming back. He'll call again because I know that if he doesn't want anything else, he'll want that.

That's when I realized what was keeping me stuck:

1. Scared of being alone and feeling like I wouldn't find anyone better than who I had.

2. Not truly believing I deserved better, so I kept settling for less.

3. I was familiar with the cycle, so I decided to stick to what I knew even if it wasn't good for me.

So here's what I did, and what you should do too:

- Identify the thoughts that hold you back, and replace them with empowering, positive beliefs about yourself and your future.

- Found a coach. With my coach, I was able to gain clarity, set goals, and create actionable steps to break free from these unhealthy patterns.

- Took responsibility for my actions and stopped blaming others, and focused on my role.

That's why my mission is to help women stop choosing and attracting unhealthy relationships that leave them questioning their worth and feeling like they have to settle. It's time for you to do the work on yourself so that you can thrive in life and love.

So, I'm making space for five women who want to start choosing themselves, do the inner work to heal intentionally, learn how to trust themselves again, and truly understand self-love.

If this is you, schedule your clarity call with me so we can discuss your next steps. If you genuinely have the desire to do things differently, take a chance on yourself. Click the link in my bio to get started.

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