All It Costs, Is Love

25/03/2024

THINGS NOT TO DO IMMEDIATELY AFTER A BREAK UP

1) RUN INTO ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP

Don't try to use a new relationship to forget an old one,

Relationship is not a App you install just to help you forget your Ex, after you forget your ex, what then happens to the INSTALLED App?

Don't let mourning confuse you.

2) ISOLATE YOURSELF FROM HELP

You just came out of a break up, it's only normal to be in some sort of pain or hurt, you NEED help at such a time, you NEED company, you NEED advice...

Isolating yourself for too long from friends who want to help you heal can end you in depression, and worse.
No matter how bad you are hurting, allow friends who care have access to you.

3) STAY IN CONTACT WITH YOUR EX

Except you never loved them, but if you genuinely and intensively did, it's advisable you cut connections with your ex AT LEAST for the mean time, so you can get over them,

Stop sending them messages,
Stop calling them.
Stop texting them and hoping they pick and come back to you, you are delaying your healing time, you are making it hard for your body, soul, emotions and all to adjust to their absence.

Some people are stil obsessing over their ex that left them 4 years ago, going through their social media pages everyday, stalking them, you will NEVER heal this way.

4) ATTEMPT TO END IT ALL.

Su***de is never the answer.

God knows why that relationship had to end, why not trust him and stay alive to see what he has in store for you in the future.?
Why not TRUST GOD?
INSEAD, AFTER A BREAK UP DO THIS.

1) MOURN

Yes oh.
Crying helps to release the pain and hurt.
So don't form "I am strong, I am strong".. Is a lie, cry now, or cry later, fact is you will cry.

Mourn the Relationship, look at their picture if you must and allow yourself the luxury of a good heart felt cry.

You'll find this to be therapeutic.

2) EVALUATE

After mourning, when your head is clearer, evaluate.

What went wrong?

What red flags did you miss?

Where did you go wrong?

Wh

22/02/2024

Secrets of lovers who don't break up

1. They know how to say sorry and mean it
2. And they don't hold on to grudges.
3. They don't make assumptions about their partner's feelings - they ask.
4. They make time for physical affection.
5. They stand together and refuse to let outsiders call the shots.
6. They don't play games with each other's heads and hearts.
7. They keep dating and treat date night as a sacred ritual.
8. They make daily sacrifices for each other.
9. They refuse to play the blame game.
10. They start as equal partners, and they stay equal.
11. They cuddle.
12. They regularly make important decisions together.
13. They always kiss good night - don't go to bed mad.
14. They give thoughtful surprises.
15. They always have each other's back.
🙏

20/02/2024

When a man and a woman get married and get to have frequent s*x, it is easy to neglect the little ways of affection and the focus becomes s*x. "You are already giving each other s*x. That is the furthest two people can go when it comes to physical connection, so why bother with lesser connections?" Some might think.
Some people get touched by their spouse only when s*x is the agenda. This wasn't the case when they were getting to know each other. Don't be such a spouse. Even though now you can get unlimited and unrestricted s*x from your spouse, don't forget to do these little, innocent, warm things...

1. Hugging your spouse. Something as simple as a hug.

2. Kissing your spouse on other places besides the lips such us the forehead, cheeks, fingers, back, neck.

3. Cuddling with your spouse.

4. Holding hands with your spouse even if just for a while.

5. Squeezing your spouse's hand to show care, unity, love.

6. Studying your spouse's body. Focusing on other areas besides p***s, va**na, c**t and ni***es.

7. Complimenting your spouse beyond his/her s*xuality.

8. Staying naked together, not because you want to have s*x, but because you are comfortable with each other.

9. Sometimes eating from the same bowl/plate.

10. Looking out for each other.

11. Making time to have quality moments together.

12. Talking about feelings.

These little gestures show affection in a big way. No one is ever too grown to receive or give affection; so stop trying to act like you're too grown for these little acts of affection if you want your marriage to be warm.

It is sad how when a man and woman are dating they treat each other so well as they look forward to marriage then when they get married they treat each other worse and more casual than they did when dating. Love should be progressive, not retrogressive. If your heart out of love led you to treat your spouse so well when you were dating, then your heart is not the problem; your pride is. You still have the same heart.

31/01/2024

A man can love you and not marry you.

A man can have $ex with you for years without marrying you.

But immediately he finds someone who brings stability in his life, he marries her.

Men are visionaries when they think about marriage, they do not think about wedding dresses, bridesmaids, anything the woman thinks is fanciful.

They think that this woman can build me a home.

Women are tender, they have the capacity to receive and reproduce.

You give her groceries, she prepares a meal, you give her money, she gives you peace, you give her s***m and she gives you children.

You give it discomfort, it becomes your worst nightmare and most men know it. This is why a man can stay with a woman for years and meet another in a month, then get married.

It's the stability they want.

$ex is a pleasure, love is an affection, RESPECT is stability
🙏

22/01/2024

BEST SLEEPING HABITS FOR MARRIED COUPLES

1. Wear something easy to remove, comfortable and s*xy. Make the work of your partner easy to peel off your clothes to reveal the naked you. Yummy lingerie, loose boxer. Sleep naked for best results.

2. Brush your teeth to encourage kissing.

3. Don't carry work to bed.

4. Minimize the use of phones or laptops. Your partner needs attention, the bedroom is sacred.

5. Move the baby to a separate room (if your finances allow you to and you have a home of more than one bedroom) when the baby is of age. The child might have been conceived in the bedroom but is not meant to live in your bedroom that is an exclusive island for two.

6. Gentleman have that one spot besides her lips you kiss each night; whether it's her forehead, fingers, shoulders, back or butt. Lady, stroke him with your gentle touch, your fingers speaking love

7. Make a habit of praising each other's body, it makes you both comfortable and relax. Talk those bedroom matters.

8. Pray together before you sleep, and when you wake up.

9. Apologize and forgive if any wrong was done during the day. Don't sleep with a grudge or anger.

10. Read your partner's body language. If you or your partner desires to make love, then rise to the occasion or wet up to the occasion; whether night or morning glory.

11. Have pillow talks, open your heart and lips and talk intimate stuff. Say how you feel; are you troubled, grateful, broken?

12. Cuddle up when you feel sleep is fast approaching, drown into sleep as your bodies intertwine.

13. Tell each other how much you mean to each other. Your partner never gets enough of your affirmation.

14. Incase one of you farts, laugh about it (some farts are unstoppable)

15. Cover your partner incase you wake up in the middle of the night and find your partner outside the duvet/ blanket.

16. Kiss your partner when you come back from peeing in the middle of the night

17. Hold your partner close and pray when your partner wakes up.

21/01/2024

8 THINGS THAT DESTROY A RELATIONSHIP!!

1. Lack of trust and insecurity..😣
2. Lack of communication..🙃
3. Unnecessary suspicion, you suspect him or her without any evidence.😔
4. Too much misunderstanding. Let it be known to you that too much misunderstanding in a relationship kills love.💔🙅
5. You are too proud to say I am sorry when you are wrong.😒
6. Unguided and harsh statements. Words hurt and words heal. Mind the words you speak to that person you profess to love, as your words can either heal or hurt them beyond your imagination.💔
7. Expensive jokes, mind the kind of jokes you crack with your partner, people think differently and can read a different meaning to your joke.
8. Over jealousy, if you are too jealous unnecessarily, your partner may not be able to stand you and may opt out of the relationship.
Final Note: If you aren't ready to trust, please don't go into a relationship and don't think about marriage.
You can always Consult me as your relationship/marriage Therapist.

21/01/2024

QUALITIES OF A GREAT WOMAN

✒️SHE IS INTELLIGENT
She opens her lips and oozes wisdom. One can have a hard and serious talk with her. She talks about personal development and growth.

✒️SHE IS EMOTIONALLY STABLE
Yes, she may be hurt, feeling low and going through much, but she's a master of her feelings. She remains calm and collected.

✒️SHE MULTIPLIES
She'll turn one hundred into a thousand, a thousand into a million. She doesn't sit pretty lazy waiting for things to be done fo her.

✒️SHE LOVES BEING LOVED
Yes, she is not waiting to be done for things, but when you love her and do good to her, she is receptive and appreciative. In as much as she loves to give, she welcomes being served and given too.

✒️SHE LOVES THROUGH FOOD
She will make attempts to cook the best meals. Tasty and delicious healthy foods for self and her loved ones and in the process, feed your soul too.

✒️SHE'S FUN
Though she's intelligent, she can also act silly, crack jokes, tease, laugh; she is great company. A livery and charming person to stay around.

✒️SHE KNOWS HOW TO CALL FOR HELP
When she's stuck or in trouble, she knows how to ask for help. She doesn't suffer alone. She knows not only how to ask for help and the right person to ask.

✒️SHE'S A REFLECTION OF GOD
You see her and see God, she's becoming more and more like God: loving, forgiving, graceful, strong valued and creative through God's Word and prayers.

✒️SHE IS CONFIDENT
Whether she is an introvert or outgoing, she has a high self esteem. You can't bring her down. She has admirable qualities and walks head up without being cowed.

✒️SHE FEEDS HER MIND, BODY AND SPIRIT
You will catch her often reading stimulating materials like books or novels, praying, eating the right foods, meditating and working out.

✒️SHE KEEPS RELATIONSHIPS
She will have strong people surrounding her, whether a best friend, a clique of girlfriends or a bunch of close friends. She values relationships with friends and family.

21/01/2024

10 SIGNS OF A TRUE GIRLFRIEND 💯👌❤️😘

1. True girlfriends are very jealous. If you are dating them, don't even flirt with another girl. (It hurts them a lot). ❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘

2. They act like they are very matured on the first outing. But once they are free with you, believe me, they will give you headache. (They do so because they trust you). ❤️😘❤️😘❤️

3. They don't need your money. Your sincerity to them matters a lot (that does not mean you won't buy something for them). ❤️😘❤️😘❤️

4. They get angry for every little reason. They just want to hear that word "I'm sorry "(it means a lot to them). ❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️

5. If they love you, they love you for real. But if they hate you, just forget it (go and download another love elsewhere). ❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️

6. They don't cheat (these ones are wife material, but very rare). ❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️

7. They Slay but they don't smoke, they drink alcohol little, they like clubbing little, once once.❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘

8. They have the heart of an egg, easily broken (so don't hurt them). ❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️

9. They help in planning your future with you because they want the best for you (marry them). ❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘

10. They love when you hug them, kiss them deeply and whisper to their ears "I LOVE YOU ".
❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘

21/01/2024

5 THINGS EVERY COUPLE SHOULD KNOW

1. Women are naturally intuitive while men are rational. Everything has to make logical sense to men. Intuition may not always be right, your wife may not be able to logically explain why she is recommending or suggesting certain things to you, but do not discard what she says. So learn to LISTEN to your wife.

2. You have to protect your territory as a man. Men are territorial in nature and in this context, your territory is your wife. Protect her, don't leave her unguarded and tend to her needs.

3. If you are a lady, your husband is not "another lady". If you are a man, your wife is not "another man". Don't relate with your spouse like you are talking with your fellow gender. Your wife is not "your guy".

4. When your wife is speaking, sometimes she's not asking for your solution. She just wants to talk. So don't cut her off while she's conversing with you, just enjoy the conversation.

5. If you are a man and you are not spiritual, you are in a dangerous place. Don't leave all the praying and 'spirituality' to your wives alone. You would make more progress in your family when both of you prioritize the precepts of God in your home.

Stay blessed ❣️

14/01/2024

TO HELP YOU REACH OR**SM

WHAT EXACTLY IS AN OR**SM

Or**sm can be defined as the peak or climax of S*XUAL excitement. Married couples should make it an objective to drive their partner to this peak during s*xual act.

The following steps will helps to build up the excitement that would help you reach Or**sm.

1: Look nice, smell nice and be clean. Stop carrying dirty pants around, learn to understand that va**na hairs need to be shaved or trimmed. It's so annoying that some ladies smell badly inside there which comes as a distraction.
You may chose to wear (nightwear, bra or panties.

Take note that every man is Attracted by what they see.

2: Chose a nice and comfortable place to help you have undistracted s*x. Eg. Hotel, living room, bathroom, bedroom, floor. Etc

3: Adjust the light to what suits you---- Darkness, dimlights or bright lights.

4: Foreplay should begin with spontaneous endearing conversation accompanied by loving pats, hugs and kisses.
Sir, foreplay is a must, women are more moved by what touches them, what they see and what they hears, unlike men that are been moved by what they see. Therefore, don't Rush your woman as if she is running to elsewhere.

5: Gradually learn to undress each other. Do you know a woman finds it Romantically rewarding, if her husband is the one that will gently undress her. Just as a man feels happy if the wife is the one that will tell her husband my king, I want you to s*x me. stop rushing her as if someone is about to caught you in the act. Even God knows you are doing it and he has not trouble of what you are doing.

6: The husband must continue Stimulating the woman's c**toris untill she is high before pe*******on. Eg. He may gently start fondling the c**toris with his tongue or finger.kissing and caressing her lips, tighs, buttocks, c**toris, l***a and other parts of her body untill she is s*xually excited. This will signalled with an increase in va**nal lubrication to enhance pe*******on and sweetness.

7: The wife should also continue Stimulating her husband's p***s by rubbing and caressing the p***s especially the cap or the tip and gently touching his tentacles.

PLEASE NOTE: Or**smic Excitement in women are slower and last longer than in men. The women's Build-up during or**sm can be compared to the heating of an electric iron, whereas that of the man can be compared to switching on of an electric bulb. This is why you need to take your time and not to rush her.

8: At a point where the husband judges that his wife is at the height of her cloud 8 now he can pe*****te. Do you know that one of the most pleasurable thing during s*xual in*******se is the woman's feelings of the man's p***s entering into her va**na. Not s*x toys or as man are fooled to Believe that toys are far better than the real p***s. Oh, my Goodness, you need to know the benefits of that pre-fluids that comes out from a man's p***s before entering.


9: Talk to each other each and express your feelings during the act.

14/01/2024

15 HABITS OF COUPLES THAT LAST:

1. They're affectionate even outside the bedroom.

2. They don't gossip about each other.

3. They hug and kiss to start the day and hug and kiss to end it.

4. They move towards the bedroom together each night.

5. They continually do small things for each other.

6. They celebrate in their partner's accomplishments.

7. They stand together and refuse to let outsiders call the shots.

8. They set aside time to regularly check in with each other.

9.They keep dating and treat date night as a sacred ritual.

10. When they argue, their goal is to come to a consensus, not to "win".

11.They are intimate about everything.

12. They say what they mean and mean what they say to each other.

13.They listen intently before replying.

14. They refuse to play the blame game.

15. They make daily sacrifices for each other.

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13/01/2024

HOW TO KEEP YOUR MARRIAGE BED WARM

1. Kiss and make out with your spouse often

2. Go to bed at the same time as much as possible, not one finding the other asleep

3. Stay faithful to your spouse

4. Have pillow talks. Intimate conversations before sleeping

5. Don't argue. Always ask yourself "Are you speaking to your spouse with a smile?"

6. Put away the phone in bed. No Facebook, WhatsApp, news or business when it's intimate time

7. Praise each other's body, character and achievements in bed

8. Sleep naked if you can. If it's too cold, wear something attractive

9. Play love songs or worship music in the bedroom to set the mood for warmth

10. Make love as often as you can. Sweat

11. Take time to pray. Take turns. Today it's his turn, tomorrow hers

12. Cuddle up. Stroke each other's skin

13. Get playful and naughty. S***k, tease, gently pinch, flirt, dance, rub your butt on him, poke her butt with your p***s

14. Share the same blanket/duvet

15. Sleep holding each other. Cuddling. His hand between her breasts

16. Brush your teeth. Fresh breath makes closeness easier

17. Dim the lights. This makes your hearing and touching senses focus

18. Talk with breaks of kisses. Whisper

19. Wish each other a good night

20. Greet each other with a good morning kiss.

12/01/2024

THERE ARE FOUR TYPES OF MEN IN THIS WORLD

1. Am man who doesn't want to raise another man's child but goes ahead and marry a woman who has a child and tell her to leave the child at her parent home, instead of simplying marry a woman without a child at all.

2. A man who marries a graduate with a degree or diploma only to tell her to quit job and tell her to take care of the children. If you wanted a house wife why not marry a class 2 dropout instead of killing the dreams of someone who has worked so hard to reach that far

3. A man who is drunk but goes ahead to marry a church girl and make her life a living hell. If you are a drunkard marry your fellow drunkard and drink yourself to madness without stressing anyone

4. A man who after impregnating a lady, he denies of being the owner of the pregnancy. Later, after the lady has struggle alone and now the child is a bit older, he now wants to be involve with the child. If the child was not yours while still in the womb, why is it suddenly yours?

11/01/2024

DON'T TELL ANYONE.

In A Relationship, Whether Married or still in Courtship, there are things you should not tell another person. You never know who will be the Judas over your relationship. There are high secrets you have to keep only to yourself.

1. Don't tell anybody how weak your partner is. Someone may use it against you/them.

2. Don't tell people how much you quarrel with your partner, make them see it as perfect from the outside while you settle issues from the inside.

3. Don't tell even a best friend how much you get as pocket allowance from your husband, if they ask tell them that he's giving more than you expected.

4. Men don't tell your friends how good your wife is in bed, that's a secret between you and your wife.

5. Don't ever tell your mother the way he or she is acting in the marriage, you won't like the outcome if she's a jealous mother-in-law.

6. Ladies, a friend may be eyeing your hubby and that's why you shouldn't tell them what moves him most.

7. Even if your pastor is not worthy to know how many times you quarrel with your husband, most of them will use it as a sermon. Just talk to God alone.

8. Don't tell the children that their father/mother is a bad person. It can make them hate them.

9. Don't tell anybody about your partner's past mistakes, it is too risky for your marriage.

10. Don't tell anyone to try seducing your partner to prove their loyalty. They may end up winning their love. Prevention is better than cure....

09/01/2024

BEST TIME TO MAKE LOVE TO YOUR SPOUSE

Yes, you should make love anytime you both want to but here are strategic times you don't want to miss and means the whole world to your spouse. Make your spouse feel super special during this period, enjoy love making like never before and help them overcome s*xual temptation out there and stick to you -their honey pot, sweet sugar pie and paradise zone forever *winks*.

1. Before they travel.

2. After they return from travelling.

3. Second to fourth days before and after menstruation for those with regular period and wants love making without the drama of pregnancy, condom, pills or injection.

4. Ovulation period for those seeking babies.

5. All through 9 months pregnancy day in, day out as your power can carry. (Don't vomit on uncle during the first trimester sha).

6. When they are not happy.

7. When they feel so lonely or depressed.

8. On a cold rainy night.

9. Early harmattan morning.

10. During celebration e.g new job, business breakthrough, promotion, award of contract, etc.

11. When you are looking super s*xy and he can't take his eyes off you.

12. When you are super charming and she is prowling all over you.

13. After settling your "quarrel".

Alright, there you go baby, go rock your lover's bed. Here you go uncle, start doing some press up and weight lifts, you need some energy to do your job during this period, laughs.

Seriously, there is no time limit or barrier to anytime you want to make love to your spouse.

Follow your schedule, rhythm passion, time table or whatever.

Don't neglect those special moments either, love making during those periods are more meaningful, deep and affectionate but each family differs. Just do what works for you.

I want you to experience uninterrupted bliss, joy and peace in every way you can in your marriage.

Keep the ball rolling!

Singles, this is STRICTLY FOR THE MARRIED, don't practice!

08/01/2024

DON'T TELL ANYONE.

In A Relationship, Whether Married or still in Courtship, there are things you should not tell another person. You never know who will be the Judas over your relationship. There are high secrets you have to keep only to yourself.

1. Don't tell anybody how weak your partner is. Someone may use it against you/them.

2. Don't tell people how much you quarrel with your partner, make them see it as perfect from the outside while you settle issues from the inside.

3. Don't tell even a best friend how much you get as pocket allowance from your husband, if they ask tell them that he's giving more than you expected.

4. Men don't tell your friends how good your wife is in bed, that's a secret between you and your wife.

5. Don't ever tell your mother the way he or she is acting in the marriage, you won't like the outcome if she's a jealous mother-in-law.

6. Ladies, a friend may be eyeing your hubby and that's why you shouldn't tell them what moves him most.

7. Even if your pastor is not worthy to know how many times you quarrel with your husband, most of them will use it as a sermon. Just talk to God alone.

8. Don't tell the children that their father/mother is a bad person. It can make them hate them.

9. Don't tell anybody about your partner's past mistakes, it is too risky for your marriage.

10. Don't tell anyone to try seducing your partner to prove their loyalty. They may end up winning their love. Prevention is better than cure....✍️

08/01/2024

AFTER S*X WHAT NEXT.

It's possible for any man to ask for s*x in a relationship, but is left for you as a lady to know that s*x, can't keep him..(S*x isn't enough)

There are two major factors ladies complain about s*x in a relationship:
(1) After giving him my body he left me..
(2)He left because I refused to have s*x with him..

NOTE: Both those who gave and those who refused to give are complaining...
( What's the difference)

Ladies Listen, S*x isn't enough, its not the only thing you can offer a man.
If You Don't Have Anything To Offer A Man Outside S*x, Please remain Single...

A man can't stay with you because his having s*x with you....

Relationship is not buying and selling.
There are much to life than Monkey style, Doggy style, Missionary style, Apple n juice style, step pillows style, etc ...

Are you sound intellectually? Spiritually? Physically? Mentally? Emotionally?

Men love intelligent ladies...
Men love ladies with ideas..
Men love respectful ladies...
Men respect ladies that know what domestic work is
Men love and appreciate a woman who is good and excellent in multi-tasking
Men respect and honor ladies that wakes up very early in the morning to make sure that the kitchen is set.
Men respect ladies that keep their eyes at home than those that their eyes are always outside
Men love bravo ladies

S*x is very cheap these days, anybody can buy it.
You need to build yourself beyond s*x.
Leave make-ups and be a productive lady.
Men are looking for ladies with ideas and solution not those who paint their faces with different colours.

What a man wants is beauty with brain not make ups with b***s or hips. Because all these will fail but what you have upstairs will remain.

Your husband complains because you think that you know it but you don't know it. Just do what your own husband wants and not what men want. Hope it help our generations

31/12/2023

Mjita, you’ll meet the simplest girl. Who has her life well put together. Has zero demands. Who will love you for who you are and not put you under any pressure.

In return, you’ll have to respect her, show up, make an effort, and always be there for her.

Not every girl wants financial liberation from a man. Some want emotional stability.

If you're a guy who’s still hustling, find that woman who’s gonna be your emotional Rock when things don’t go your way. Who won’t make you feel less of a man when you have bad months. And yes they do exist.

Forget about social media pressure. When you see posts talking about “indoda must”, ignore them, they’re not for you. Yours is to find the kind of woman who’s gonna support you. Coz without her, your hustle will be in vain.

And in most cases, the type of women who have lots of demands have nothing to offer in return. Those women have their own types of men. You’re not one of them.

Focus on your hustle with the right woman alongside you 🤟🏽

31/12/2023

How true is this?

You see that guy who is replying faster than your boyfriend. He is also replying slowly to his girlfriend. Stay where you are!!🚶🚶

🤣😂🤣😂🤣🤌🤔

31/12/2023

"Do unto others as you'd love them to do it into you."

This phrase says it all when it comes to love and relationships.
The very same thing that you don't want your spouse to you unto you, don't do it.

The good deeds and traits and or acts that you need your partner to do unto you, do them yourself. Be the example and surely they'll reprocitate.

31/12/2023

Relationships have taught me that 'love' isn't about saying "I love you"🥺🥺🥺it's understanding the importance of the three words 🥺🥺😭, 'loyalty' isn't only about being completely committed to each other but it is also about refusing to give up on each after an argument 🥺❤😭, 'trust' is not about sharing passwords and checking each other's phones 🥺🙁, but it's about sharing laughter , sorrows and being transparent with each other ❤🥺😍, 'communication' isn't about talking everyday or everytime, it's about not letting yesterday's argument stop today's conversation 🥺🥺🥺, lastly a relationship is not about impressing people 🙁👎💔, it's about understanding the person ❤🥺, their flaws and imperfections and still love them unconditionally. ❤