
18/09/2025
If you bribe your children with gifts today, donât be shocked when they grow into entitlement.
At some point, I thought , Maybe I should just reward my children with gifts for every chore they do as a motivation to g*t them to enjoy doing it or be more willing to do it. But then I paused,
Chores are not a âFavourâ to the family, theyâre a responsibility. Just like brushing their teeth or doing their homework, helping at home is part of growing up.
If I turn it into a trade, e.g. wash the plates = get a toy, then Iâm teaching them to work only when thereâs a payment. Thatâs not responsibility, thatâs business.
So hereâs the balance:
1. Chores = responsibility
2. Gifts = love
I donât buy them gifts because they earned it. I buy them gifts because I love them, and sometimes, I just want to see them smile. That way, they learn: âI do chores because itâs my duty, and I receive gifts because I am loved.â
Thatâs how we raise kids who understand both responsibility and gratitude instead of growing into entitlement.
If you bribe them with gifts today, donât be shocked when they grow into entitlement.