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Today’s tragedy in New Orleans has left me breathless. The loss of young lives brings back the ache of losing my own chi...
02/01/2025

Today’s tragedy in New Orleans has left me breathless. The loss of young lives brings back the ache of losing my own child—a wound that never truly heals.

The streets of New Orleans have been such a big part of my healing journey. I’ve found peace in the French Quarter, hope on Bourbon Street, and little pieces of myself in the city’s rhythm. But today, those same streets feel heavy with loss.

My heart aches for every family now living this nightmare. I grieve with you, for your loved ones and for the futures that were stolen. This loss is a weight we all carry today, and my prayers are with everyone who feels this heartbreak.❤️‍🩹⚜️

As the year comes to a close, I find myself reflecting on a journey I never thought I’d survive, let alone grow from. Lo...
28/12/2024

As the year comes to a close, I find myself reflecting on a journey I never thought I’d survive, let alone grow from. Losing my child to su***de shattered my world in ways words can’t describe. For years, I was stuck in that moment, frozen in pain and guilt, unable to move forward. I lost myself in the grief, and for over a decade, I struggled to find the will to keep going. My own su***de attempt left me questioning everything: my worth, my purpose, my ability to ever feel joy again.

But somehow, 2024 became the year it all came together. Not in a perfect, polished way—but in a way that feels like me. It’s as if all those broken pieces of my heart finally found their place, forming something stronger and deeply grateful for life.

If you’re in the darkness right now, please hear me when I say this: Hold on. Healing isn’t linear, and it isn’t quick, but it is possible. You are worthy of life, of love, of joy.

I don’t want to forget the past, but I won’t let it hold me back anymore. In 2025, I’m moving forward with love, light, and gratitude.✨

Merry Christmas from 1975, when I truly believed closing my eyes would erase the humiliation of being forced to model a ...
25/12/2024

Merry Christmas from 1975, when I truly believed closing my eyes would erase the humiliation of being forced to model a Morton Salt Girl bra and panties set—because nothing says holiday cheer like awkward child lingerie. Also, shoutout to the cardboard fireplace for setting the perfect tone 🎄🙄🤣.

Merry Christmas🎄
24/12/2024

Merry Christmas🎄

Does anyone else feel like your trauma/grief forces you to question everything about who you are and why you do what you...
16/12/2024

Does anyone else feel like your trauma/grief forces you to question everything about who you are and why you do what you do? It’s like the only way forward is tearing it all down and rebuilding from the ground up.

My loss happened in 2011 and I recently realized how long ago that was yet I’m just now regaining a sense of self. It takes so long to come to realizations, peel back layers, do the soul searching and all the things, and figure out where to even start again.

How many years has it been for you, and where are you in your journey? Let’s chat about it in the comments 👇

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Today, my son Garrett would have turned 32. Instead, I’ve spent the last 14 years learning how to celebrate his life whi...
24/11/2024

Today, my son Garrett would have turned 32. Instead, I’ve spent the last 14 years learning how to celebrate his life while grieving his absence.

Garrett was the kind of person whose laughter filled the room, whose curiosity knew no bounds, and whose heart was bigger than the world ever gave him credit for. But 18 was as far as his journey went. Su***de stole him, leaving behind a thousand unanswered questions and a grief I carry every single day.

14 birthdays without him. 14 years of wondering who he would have become. Would he be married? A father? Would he still love the same songs we danced to in the kitchen? Would he know how much I still love him?

Every year, I face this day not only to remember Garrett but to remind the world of the silence that kills. Su***de is not just a personal tragedy; it’s a societal failure to listen, to see, to act.

So today, I’m not just celebrating my son—I’m asking you to step into the uncomfortable. Look at your loved ones and ask how they’re really doing. Support resources like the 988 Su***de & Crisis Lifeline. Talk about the hard things. Because silence may have stolen my son, but it doesn’t have to steal anyone else’s.

Garrett, I love you. I miss you. You mattered then, and you matter still. Happy birthday, my boy. Keep shining where you are.💫

***deawarness

New Orleans was my sanctuary when I felt broken beyond repair. The vibrant streets, the comforting rhythm of the city—ev...
04/11/2024

New Orleans was my sanctuary when I felt broken beyond repair. The vibrant streets, the comforting rhythm of the city—everything here reminds me that life has cycles, and from deep sorrow, we can find meaning.

Sometimes, healing means finding new spaces to let your heart breathe. ⚜️

My favorite song in the whole-wide world is Radiohead’s “Weird Fishes.” So it’s only fitting that I incorporate the infa...
23/10/2024

My favorite song in the whole-wide world is Radiohead’s “Weird Fishes.” So it’s only fitting that I incorporate the infamous ‘s famous koi at the entrance to my house in New Orleans.

I hope they bring a smile to everyone who walks past them as they stroll along the sidewalk in front of my house. And thank you Jeremy for taking the time out of your busy schedule to stop by 🫶🐟🐠⚜️

The past and the present are having a conversation here 💙💚⚜️
21/09/2024

The past and the present are having a conversation here 💙💚⚜️

🌀Here’s the thing about hurricanes in South Louisiana…there are more good things that come from them than there are bad ...
12/09/2024

🌀Here’s the thing about hurricanes in South Louisiana…there are more good things that come from them than there are bad things. My office has a whole-home generator, so Gris got to spend the day at work with me. He greeting a few delivery people at the door without hurting anyone, and he behaved very well considering he’s set in his ways and likes the house to himself when I’m gone.

So far my house has had no electricity for over 24 hours, but the humidity is kinda low, so it’s bearable. At a time when we’re so divided, it’s good to see humans working together to survive the aftermath of a hurricane🥰

Stop scrolling and just picture your friend, partner, child, family member ending their life. You’ll never ….NEVER…see t...
10/09/2024

Stop scrolling and just picture your friend, partner, child, family member ending their life. You’ll never ….NEVER…see them, talk to them or touch them again. Close your eyes and picture it, then keep reading.

Every 40 seconds someone dies by su***de, leaving people just like you in their wake.

Sept. 10 is World Su***de Prevention Day. I want you to consider doing 2 things:

1. Think of the people you love who are depressed. If they take their life, will you feel you did all you could do? If not, reach out to them every day. Listen to them. Offer to help them however they need so they feel supported.

2. Consider donating $5 (or whatever you’re comfortable with) to 988 Su***de Crisis Lifeline. Not sure if you know this but before 988, people had to call 911, and that would alert the police who would show up at your house and take you to a hospital for a 3 day hold, often times resulting in zero counseling.

I hope you never have to experience “grieving at a molecular level.”

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(And to my beautiful son Garrett who I know reads all my digital communications, as long as I live and breathe, I will speak your name.)

***depreventionmonth

Today marks the start of National Su***de Prevention Month, a time that’s deeply personal for me. My son Garrett was jus...
01/09/2024

Today marks the start of National Su***de Prevention Month, a time that’s deeply personal for me. My son Garrett was just 18 when we lost him, and not a day goes by that I don’t miss him. He was full of life and dreams, but he struggled silently with a pain he hid well.

In the wake of Garrett’s loss, I struggled too, and I’m a survivor of a su***de attempt myself. It’s been a long journey to find my way back, and art has been a huge part of that healing process.

As a way to give back, I’ll be donating the 2024 proceeds of my book Oak Cradle, my grief journey written by Chantel L. Carlson with photographs by me, to the 988 Su***de & Crisis Lifeline (link in bio, available at most book sellers.) If you’re a survivor and an artist, I encourage you to share your work too. Art can express what words sometimes can’t, and it can connect us in our grief and healing. Let’s use this month to open up, share our stories, and support each other.

📢And if you or someone you know is struggling, please remember that help is just a phone call away. You can reach out to the 988 Su***de and Crisis Lifeline. You’re not alone, and there is hope.🙏

***deawareness ***deprevention

I don’t often talk about my career here, but let me share something with you. My previous job, where I spent three years...
24/08/2024

I don’t often talk about my career here, but let me share something with you. My previous job, where I spent three years, was one of the most challenging and toxic experiences of my life. It took a serious toll on my mental health and well-being. But instead of letting it break me, I used it as motivation to rise above the challenges and find a place where I’m not just allowed, but encouraged, to apply my skills.

The women I worked with during that time were my lifeline. I honestly don’t know how I would have made it through each day without their support. Although we no longer see each other daily (and I miss them!), we still keep in touch weekly and continue to uplift one another.

If you’re struggling in a toxic job, know that you’re not alone. It’s tough, but it doesn’t have to define you. Use it as fuel to find a place where your talents are recognized and valued. Surround yourself with supportive people, focus on the positives, and remember that better days are ahead. Life can be incredibly challenging, but the strength you gain from overcoming these obstacles is what life is all about. Keep going—you’ve got this.💪

New Orleans is hard and easy at the same time 💜💛💚
21/08/2024

New Orleans is hard and easy at the same time 💜💛💚

Dog walks, errands, visits. Wherever I go and whatever I do, I get to see this everywhere I go😍
30/07/2024

Dog walks, errands, visits. Wherever I go and whatever I do, I get to see this everywhere I go😍

As hard as it is to live in New Orleans, I’m never bored. Always something sumptuous to photograph, eat, hear, watch, or...
15/07/2024

As hard as it is to live in New Orleans, I’m never bored. Always something sumptuous to photograph, eat, hear, watch, or interact with. ⚜️

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