Latter Day Survivors

23/07/2024

102 likes, 11 comments. “Mormons and Child S*x Abuse”

23/07/2024

❤️🌼❤️Christine…

23/07/2024

DOES THE NARCISSIST KNOW THEY'RE LYING?....they act like they really believe what they're saying and get furiously indignant when you call them out on a lie. What's going on? In a sense, narcs lie to themselves. Yet, they know that it's not true. What's going on here?
Truth has a different meaning to a narc. True means "anything I say is true", and what I want to be true...and to a narc, it's not about what is factually true but what they can get others to believe is true. When you tell the truth it means they failed as a con artist and have lost control of you and your mind.
The problem is that at the core, the narc is a sadistic con artist.

22/07/2024

22/07/2024

Younger children, say toddlerhood through grammar school, thrive on hope to survive childhood trauma.⠀
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"I hope Mom will be in a good mood today. "⠀
"I hope they won't fight tonight." ⠀
"I hope they'll come to my final game. "⠀
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Codependency, often rooted in magical thinking and hope, is an excellent strategy for surviving childhood. However, it would be too painful to realize who we are being parented by and that we'd be stuck with them till we're 18, and we are six. ⠀
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Unfortunately, codependency stays with us as we mature, and we still hold out hope for abusive family members and abusive partners. ⠀
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A part of us knows and gets this, but before recovery, we are driven mainly by our inner child (aka our subconscious), and it runs our lives with rose-colored glasses and wishful thinking about abusive people. ⠀
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Our inner adult part, which reads the self-help books and shows up on some level, strengthens. We take the wheel from the inner child who needs help and parenting around letting go of people who aren't good for us.

This process is usually jump-started by a crisis or another moment when the abusive parent clobbers us or the abusive partner exploits or lets us down. ⠀
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You can find that inner adult. It's in there. Finding a group, twelve-step, or inner child work with a trained therapist is helpful.
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What do you think?⠀
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22/07/2024

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22/07/2024

Guest: Deborah Dundas, opinion section editorA chilling revelation has surfaced almost a month after the death of Canada’s literary giant, Alice Munro. Andre...

16/07/2024

Especially when you have wanted to tell your story from the time you were a little girl. That little girl desperately wanted to scream out to be kept safe. She felt complete terror from their threats if she ever did. She knew what they were capable of. She chose to protect the ones she loved most by keeping it deep down inside for many years ahead.
I promise there are safe people to tell your story to. I promise sharing may come with fear and anxiety, but it doesn’t belong within you. It’s not your darkness you are carrying it is those that abused you. I am here if you need someone to open up and tell your story to. I also can direct you to caring people that can help. No one should have to hide the story of abuse inside them. That is what the perpetrators want. To keep that story locked deep inside you continually telling you “you are bad”, “you did something wrong”, “there is something wrong with you”. “No one will believe you”.
Not telling may have protected you as a child, but keeping it inside and not letting the ugly lies they told you out, is what will destroy you as an adult. There is power in sharing your story and standing together with the truth!! We deserve to be filled with the truth, a beautiful soul, love and stories of our own happiness and lessons learned. Not the extreme evil, ugliness they forced upon us!!
Emmie Minou A victim of abuse. Please come forward and you won't be alone. We will be with you all the way.

16/07/2024

NARCISSISTS TEND TO MARRY UP AND DATE UP....
And here's why I think that is. By doing so, the narcissist wants someone who will make him look good....it's as if they are saying, “See who I'm with. I'm a heck of a guy.” Or you have something else he wants, such as your finances.
Or, the N thinks you are an upgrade over the other supply and he'll get more from you. It's never about what the N says it's about...such as love.
Then, since you are above him, he has to run you down privately, and perhaps to others when you don't realize it, simply because he knows you're the better person.
It's weird, but in his mind, you have to be demeaned, put down, and belittled SO HE FEELS AT YOUR LEVEL, or even better than you are. But, in reality, he knows the truth.
Don't narcissists have weird minds?

16/07/2024

ℹ️🌿 MOM PLAYS WHISTLEBLOWER: AN UNCONVENTIONAL ADVOCACY OUTLINE |

Feminist vigilante movie trailers play on as viewers wonder which actress often typecast as the wife will now get her chance for more. They can, at last, play the scorned woman out to kill a predator. This female lead fights outside of a leather-clad male gaze; she wars like an ambassador for the oppressed. A darkened heart still pumps on.

Mothers whose children suffer abuse are forced to choose the severity of their story. Some seize the circumstances compared to others who idle until it might die down. I came home every day of tech week for a sophomore-year play, telling Mom about new instances of cruelty from our teacher. As the verbal abuse ran on, she notated the words for my school social worker. Gasping as I spoke, she still retained a secretary-like focus.

Read the Full Article: https://cptsdfoundation.org/2024/07/10/mom-plays-whistleblower-an-unconventional-advocacy-outline/

16/07/2024

Californians will once again see marriage equality on their ballot this November with Proposition 3, a law that would enshrine the right to same-sex marriage in the state Constitution, formally undoing the language of Prop 8.

In 2008 California voters outlawed same-sex marriage by passing Prop 8–the infamous ballot measure largely funded and peddled by the Mormon Church, its members, and volunteer missionaries.

In 2004, Gavin Newsom the mayor of San Francisco ordered city officials to issue marriage licenses to same-sex couples. Newsom and the San Francisco District Attorney at the time, Kamala Harris, officiated an estimated 4,000 same-sex marriages in the city until the state Supreme Court froze their powers.

Lawsuits followed that challenged the California Supreme Court ban, and the court overruled itself—reaffirming Californian’s right to marry.

With more than $20,000,000 dollars in funding from the Mormon Church’s Prop 8 campaign machine, two weeks after the court struck down their ruling, voters passed Proposition 8 with a 52% majority.

Remarkably, the Mormon Church’s win didn’t last long after the U.S. Supreme Court ruled California’s Prop 8 marriage ban was unconstitutional.

In 2015 the high court struck down the national “Defense of Marriage Act”, which had prevented the federal government from recognizing same-sex marriages, marriage equality was the law of the land with the U.S. Supreme Court’s landmark Obergefell v Hodges decision.

The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints is still haunted by their 2008 campaign against same-sex marriage. The church originally denied funding the project, but later revealed it secretly funneled more than $20 million dollars of its member’s donations into the campaign.

Now, sixteen years later, “zombie laws” from Prop 8 still haunt the constitution and California lawmakers have placed Proposition 3 on the ballot to completely erase the remaining scars of the Mormon Church’s political efforts. The initiative would officially recognize a “fundamental right to marry” and remove language that defines marriage as solely between a man and a woman.

11/07/2024

The heartbreak in these chapters…. The hope in new beginnings…

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05/07/2024

Let it shake. Brave, brave, brave.

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01/07/2024

Voices of Hope 🙏

01/07/2024

The Gottmans have gifted us with the four horsemen of the apocalypse in a couple's intimacy. (check out the Gottman Institute)

1) Stonewalling
2) Criticism
3) Defensiveness
4) Contempt

Contempt is at the root of this post, as it often manifests as self-righteous energy aimed at those around us, regardless of whether we are close to them.

For those of us who overreact in situations or bring bazookas to toothpick fights, where did we learn that? Did you grow up with it? Do you value it?

For those of us with a partner who does this, you probably feel like you're in trouble even where there isn't a fight.

Self-righteous energy is often learned and is the reserve of childhood pain that is aimed at others directly or in our private thoughts.

We must look at it and figure out where it came from.

How did your parents treat each other?
Did you grow up in a family of screamers?
How did one of your parents treat others when they made mistakes?
Did you and your siblings start to do it to each other?

The problem is that being self-righteous feels good at the moment—we have control and the upper hand, but we don't have intimacy or the kindness we were born with.

Those caught up in it often have to decide what they value and recognize they were set up for contempt and self-righteousness.

It's essential not to pass it on.

What do you think?

27/06/2024

When you experience abuse, life as you know it ends. Not subtly. Not over time. Life as you know it, immediately ends because your mind and body now has an experience it was never meant to endure.

The brain and the body are innocent. Period. When they are impacted by traumatic events, in their best efforts, they become hyper vigilant to make sure those events never happen again.

Does it seem extreme? Maybe.

Is it uncomfortable to witness? Probably so.

But, how do you think the abuse felt?

It is concerning how often people use words and time to suggest people should be responding differently to experiences they should have never endured.

I am not saying you can’t heal from abuse. You can. I am saying when you make a judgment call on an innocent persons response to heavy s**t that was not their fault, you are becoming a burden to their healing.

You think the survivor doesn’t want all the coping to be over? But, in a world where people misuse terms like “Time heals all wounds” and “Victim mentality” to sugarcoat the reality of abuses aftermath?

Dear Survivor,

Your healing has nothing to do with other peoples timelines. It has nothing to do with their expectations of how your mind and body should work. It has everything to do with you making decisions for yourself, honoring your mind and body, and nurturing the parts of you that got hurt in ways they were not prepared for.

You did not deserve the trauma. You do deserve to heal.

I’m so glad you’re here! 🫶🫶

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24/06/2024

You can’t make something senseless make sense.

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