02/06/2020
For all the graduates out there, a Stop and Smell the Butter essay from Summer 2017:
When I was a kid, I wanted to be an artist. Then a lawyer. A teacher. Like every Catholic school girl, I’m sure I thought for five minutes about being a nun. Then a photojournalist. A writer. For years and years, I said I was still trying to figure out what I wanted to be when I grew up. I put a lot of pressure on myself, trying to figure out what I should be doing with my life.
This time of year, young people everywhere are graduating high school and college and grappling with the same question. I wish someone would have told me back then that being and doing aren’t the same thing. You can do all sorts of things in life, and some of the things you do will result in money, so you can pay your bills and have things you want and do more things, some of them fun.
But what really matters is not the doing, but the being. It is the being that defines the quality of your life. Be kind. Be loving. Be curious. Be optimistic. Be generous. Be comforting. Be silly. Be wise. Be thoughtful. Be funny. Be empathetic. Be forgiving. Be challenging. Be accepting. Be adventurous. Be spontaneous. Be joyful. Be respectful. Be grateful. Be yourself. Be happy. Be alive.
“When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down “happy.” They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life.”
~ John Lennon