Te'Aire Griffin

17/08/2024

We not having this nooooooo more! Been there done that and I got a shirt and receipts

Not the same girl! I allowed it and I take accountability and evolved

A man of his word is way more attractive, I stuck around and kept accepting it because I had low self esteem. Can I just be real...

08/07/2024

My birthday was 3 days ago and I didn't even tell ig! My bad IG, welcome to my Amen Year

Happy birthday to me! I pray for all the love, happiness, joy, favor, purpose, dreams fulfilled that God can bring. I haven't reached my peak yet and there is still so much untapped potential but I like this little life and I know there is so much more. Yet another year to blossom, thrive and become. If I could make a wish, I wouldn't but I decree over my 33rd year around the sun, a more intimate relationship with God, prospering in my entrepreneur endeavors, healing of my heart and soul, healthy relationships and friendships. To year 33, what it do??!

33 in the Bible is also the numeric equivalent of the word "Amen" or in other words, LET IT BE!

So God this year, let everything you have for me, Be! I come into agreement, yes and amen!
Let your purpose be, let your will be, let your plan be, let your promise be, let your covenant be, let your thoughts be...Let it Be!
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05/07/2024

Happy birthday to me! I pray for all the love, happiness, joy, favor, purpose, dreams fulfilled that God can bring. I haven't reached my peak yet and there is still so much untapped potential but I like this little life and I know there is so much more. Yet another year to blossom, thrive and become. If I could make a wish, I wouldn't but I decree over my 33rd year around the sun, a more intimate relationship with God, prospering in my entrepreneur endeavors, healing of my heart and soul, healthy relationships and friendships. To year 33, what it do??!

33 in the Bible is also the numeric equivalent of the word "Amen" or in other words, LET IT BE!

So God this year, let everything you have for me, Be! I come into agreement, yes and amen!
Let your purpose be, let your will be, let your plan be, let your promise be, let your covenant be, let your thoughts be...Let it Be!
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30/05/2024

I want you to believe this about you when you look at others doing all the things you wish and dream to do...

There is nothing [they can] do that [you can't] do. ~ Lady London

If you have seen it done, you can do it too! Believe that!

15/03/2024

Daily reminder....Showing emotions don't make you weak.

You aren't weak sis, stop holding it in. Strength is in what you release.

20/12/2023

Prayer for your children

Father God in the name of Jesus, according to ‭2 Corinthians‬ ‭4:4‬,6 ‭The god of this age has blinded the minds of unbelievers, they cannot see that they are lost or perishing. Remove the veil from their eyes so they can see the light of the gospel that displays the glory of Christ, who is the image of God. As God said let there be light, we say let light shine out of darkness in their lives, just like You made your light shine in our hearts, make Your light shine in their hearts to give them the light of the knowledge of God’s glory displayed in the face of Christ Jesus. With the keys to the kingdom You have given to me, we bind the spirit of error in their lives and loose the spirit of truth. Holy Spirit convict them of sin, righteousness and judgement. Draw them to God now. May they encounter the love of God that brings salvation! In Jesus name, amen 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

Pray this prayer until salvation manifests‼️‼️‼️ come back and testify‼️‼️

If you prayed this pray with me, comment "amen" in the comment section

09/12/2023

The woundedness and brokenness does not determine your worth! Where you are emotionally does not make you less valuable, less significant, less worthy.

You can have two realities and both be true. You can be wounded and worthy at the same time. Being healed, going to therapy, becoming a better person doesn't make you more worthy. These things help you see yourself better and show up as you really are.

To say I'll be worthy when states that people can undervalue you, treat you badly, walk over you because you aren't worthy or worth more than that yet because you aren't healed.

Just because someone is wounded doesn't mean they need less love or respect, they need it more now than ever now.

You are worthy because of who you are not where you are!

When Pastor Yolanda Summers said that last night it was a reminder.

I thought because I'm still healing somehow I wasn't worthy or worth all I wanted. For most of my life I struggled with worth, feeling adequate and good enough because of how I perceived me. Because I was still broken and making mistakes I didn't feel worthy of God's love, I didn't deserve it yet, I wasn't worthy of being treated better so I settled because I had flaws...imagine how that sounds. Doesn't make sense!

The fact is I like many of you am not as whole as I want to be but the truth is in our woundedness, we are worthy still.

Sis this is your reminder, you may be wounded but you are worthy still!

09/12/2023

The woundedness and brokenness does not determine your worth! Where you are emotionally does not make you less valuable, less significant, less worthy.

You can have two realities and both be true. You can be wounded and worthy at the same time. Being healed, going to therapy, becoming a better person doesn't make you more worthy. These things help you see yourself better and show up as you really are.

To say I'll be worthy when states that people can undervalue you, treat you badly, walk over you because you aren't worthy or worth more than that yet because you aren't healed.

Just because someone is wounded doesn't mean they need less love or respect, they need it more now than ever now.

You are worthy because of who you are not where you are!

When Pastor said that last night it was a reminder.

I thought because I'm still healing somehow I wasn't worthy or worth all I wanted. For most of my life I struggled with worth, feeling adequate and good enough because of how I perceived me. Because I was still broken and making mistakes I didn't feel worthy of God's love, I didn't deserve it yet, I wasn't worthy of being treated better so I settled because I had flaws...imagine how that sounds. Doesn't make sense!

The fact is I like many of you am not as whole as I want to be but the truth is in our woundedness, we are worthy still.

Sis this is your reminder, you may be wounded but you are worthy still!

06/12/2023

Mary did you know that when you kiss your little baby, you kiss the face of God...Mary did you know?

That hit different this year‼️

02/12/2023

At one point in my life, I trained myself to believe that it was okay to tolerate the bare minimum. A guy I was dating at the time convinced me that wanting more made me insecure, and out of fear, I believed him so I settled for less. He reassured me that what he was providing was the best he could do at the time and I needed to just wait.

I believed that by staying loyal and waiting, he would eventually give me more and realize, when he finally saw me that I had been there the whole time, but in doing so, I only taught him it was OK to treat me bad. After a while, I stopped demanding what I deserved and just accepted whatever he gave...better than nothing or not him at all.

This pattern was a theme in my life since childhood: I believed that I wasn't worth more so just take what you're being given. I taught him things about me that I didn't want to be true and eventually I realized that a good man would never want a woman who didn't know her worth. Was I the problem or him? Both'em!

You must heal to date differently 💕

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08/09/2023

You are right you don't need another conference‼️

You don't need someone else who has it all together telling you how much you dont...you know already‼️

I felt the same way in 2015, moving back from Chicago. If I never went back to church I was 💯

I was feeling a lot of shame coming back because I had to face the same people who told me not to go in the first place. I already knew what everyone was going to say, I had the whole conversation in my head, "I told you so" and I DIDN'T WANT TO HEAR IT!

In 2016 I heard about a conference GIVE MYSELF AWAY and I TOLD GOD I AM NOT GOING‼️ I don't want to be around those FAKE WOMEN. But God said go, ill meet you there.

I went and my WHOLE life has not been the same since. I encountered God in such a real and tangible way. This one conference shifted everything about me...my whole life leveled up.

What I want you to know is I been where you are and this time will be different. Check the comments, this is not just another conference, THE ELEVATED WOMAN CONFERENCE 2023 is the conference you need to experience elevation in the areas of your life that have been down and out, weak, stuck, held back, broken in pieces, seemingly beyond repaid, defeated, crushed.

So you don't have come to the conference but you'll be in the same place you are now next year unless you do something different! Register today‼️ONLY $100 for 4 life changing nights

07/09/2023

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Free to Be is about breaking the cycle! When a plane takes off, it has to go SOOOOOOOO fast that it breaks gravity to elevate to new heights.

Its your time to elevate but you have to run fast enough to get your ticket to break through what keeps holding you down, holding you back, holding you in the same place!! Break through the excuses, break through the comfort, break through the noise! Breakthrough what was designed to keep you in place.

Your life will never be the same after leaving ELEVATED WOMAN conference.

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02/09/2023

The titanic didn't sink because of what was above the surface but what was below it.

We try to change and fix what's seen, like our appearance, personality, our type, our actions, I'm not going to call him no more, I'm going to stop smoking, I am going to stop having s*x etc but these aren't our threats. Our threats are the things we cannot see, its in the why...what happened to us that makes us do what we do.

The unseen causes the greatest damage. It's our blind spots that leads us right into heartache and disappointments. It's the unseen in our patterns that nothing changes. What we see is not the problem, it's only a manifestation of what is below.

Can I challenge you this week to just sit with what's unseen? Sit with yourself, that was so hard for me in healing. I was always telling myself to get over it, you alright, pick yourself up so I didn't make time nor have the capacity to process, feel or reflect.

Always running, going going going, not feeling like nothing is wrong so nothing is wrong, I'm in a relationship or I'm brunching, hanging out with my friends, I have a good job, money in the bank, my 4 and no more or my man my man my man or whatever your thing is, is a temporary fix that makes you escape or not deal with the real matter at hand so you can truly be free and transform your life.

We cant continue to hide all of the stuff no one can see and not deal with it, it only makes us and the situation worst.

The first step to healing is awareness, being aware of you.

Are you ready to deal with the things within your soul that is keeping you bound? Are you ready to deal with your iceberg so you can truly have the life you desire and deserve? Are you ready to deal with the things hindering your success and fulfillment in your relationship with God, yourself, others and financially?

If you are ready register below for The Elevated Woman conference, let's deal with the unseen forces that be...the wounds and hurts in your soul that keeping you for elevation

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25/08/2023

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14/08/2023

Your inability to walk away from that relationship exemplifies a poverty mindset. Poverty is a mindSET not a money issue!

Hear me out! I was talking to this guy and I liked him real bad 🤦🏽‍♀️ he was bad for me but I was so afraid to let him go. He was the worlds worst prize but I feared if I lost this I would be alone forever (poverty mindset). I was afraid God would take too long to bring someone else around...no one would come next and if they did it would take forever, I can't mess this up...what if no other guy shows up, this is my last chance

Can I be this real with yall??!!

I was afraid that letting him go or him letting me go, there is no one else...I'd be left with no one

Truth is he wasn't nothing special but my poverty mindSET was playing a tricks on me

Evidence of a poverty mindset is when you see lack (shortage) vs abundance (plenty)

The poverty mindset sounds like there are no good men out here...

The poverty mindset sounds like if I leave him, I won't find no one else...

The poverty mindset sounds like this is the best I can do...

The poverty mindset is so limiting....poverty is the same as scarcity

I was there so I get it...I thought the mans of Gods were scarce, sparse...(you know) so because this is all that's left or there are only a few good men, settling is what I just have to do (because you fear they will run out or they already have)...

You don't have to fight someone else for their man, it is not cheaper to keep him, you don't have to hold onto what is not good for you out of fear of I won't have anyone...

Listen...change your mindset, there are good men out there, there is a real good one for you and you have to heal so you can be ready to recieve him who has the love you desire and deserve 💕

If this is you and you know you need to heal, it's time for you to be FREE! FREE from the poverty mindset...and this is in your relationship, imagine whereas the poverty mindset shows up

come get elevated!

14/08/2023

Only Yahweh Jesus so we are clear can satisfy

I haven't tried everything but what I did try was only drips into an empty soul

Imagine trying to fill a 6ft pool drop by drop, drip by drip and it makes no impact or maybe temporary impact. People can't satisfy you, careers can't satisfy you, relationships can't satisfy you, alcohol can't satisfy you, labels can't satisfy you

Only Jesus satisfies

I wish the drug addict would receive this. I wish the homos*xual would receive this. I wish the woman who chase men would recieve this. Because you are searching and the world is telling you, keeping getting high or get a s*x change or get under a new man

These material things can't quench the thirst and longing in your soul.

What broke you can't fix you.

After getting high I was still broken, depending on man to make me whole, complete, to love me, fill me, satisfy me. What he gave still wasnt enough. After a few puffs and a nap, my heart was still broken.

I don't know what you are going after to be satisfied but I want to tell you, it will only be drips in an empty six foot 10 feet wide pool. The vastness.

But what I have found is God is like a massive water tank that backs up to our pool and unleashes his fullness which doesn't just fill you but overflows you

Once he does that, you are finally satisfied. He is enough and he still gives to us. Only he will satisfy you. Only he can quench the thirst in your soul. Once he fills you, you won't run back to the drip because you have the tank that never runs dry

11/07/2023

🎶"Bag lady, you gon' hurt your back
Dragging all them bags like that! I guess nobody ever told you, All you must hold on to
Is you, is you, is you.....One day all them bags gon' get in your way.....Bag lady, you gon' miss your bus, You can't hurry up 'cause you got too much stuff"🎶

Whew child, was Erykah Badu speaking facts or naw!? Are you a bag lady? What are you carrying thats holding back? What are you going to miss out on because your carrying the bags of your past?

25/06/2023

I was scrolling down ig and I saw this post and I had to share.

Dating for me was an epic fail, kissing a lot of frogs, hitting relationship dead ends and many situationships that affirmed deep beliefs that I wasn't worth it, I wasn't good enough, and I asked for too much.

Then I started my healing journey and I learned about the iceberg. The visible things are one thing but what's underneath is much greater. I tried to change myself, my outward appearance, I tried to be like others, reading books about how to be the mean girl every man loves but truth be told there were much greater forces at work I nor anyone else could see.

I soon realized that the problem was me. It wasn't that I wasn't good enough, I was simply broken and I had a lot of unresolved pain, hurt and trauma that was influencing how I showed up in relationships that constantly pushed relationships away from me and the men who I wanted to love me who were most likely no good for me!

It's one thing to know you have trauma, the power comes in knowing how that trauma is impacting you and making healthy relationships feel out of your reach.

Do you see any of these ways in your own dating life and patterns?

I give you the permission to date differently by dealing with the trauma that is keeping you single.

It's time to turn the tables in your love life. You have everything else and your love life is jacked up, it's time to be whole in every area of your life.

👣 Hey, HealHer | From Daddy Issues to Dating Differently let's heal for real 💕

17/05/2023

When you worry, you are worshipping the devil. Tiphani Montgomery

Just wanted to make it plain so you will be fully aware of what you are doing and so repulsed by it that you stop cold turkey‼️🦃

Do not worship the enemy with worry. Worry says I trust the enemy more than God. Worry bows you to Satan and not God. Worry says I trust what I see more than God. Worry says Satan has a greater track record than God. Worry says Satan is right and God is wrong. Worry says God will fail. Worry says God is a liar. Worry says God cannot. Worry says he will let me down and he will fail me. Worry says he will abandon me. Worry says God is not who he says he is. Worry says I don't trust you God, I trust satan.

STOP WORRYING HONEY! God will come through for you like before, like he did for you and others, check his track record in Scripture too. He has never lost a patient. He has never lost a case. He has never lost a battle and he never will.

Turn all your worries into prayers! 🙌🏽🙏🏽💕 (Phil 4:6-9 msg)

Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life? (Matt 6:27)

I have been guilty of worry but today I vow to the Lord before I worry I will worship. I have repented and will avoid WORRY like I did covid. Masked up, away from anyone who could possibly have it, 6ft distance, washing my hands constantly. Apply it in the spirit realm, read the word, guard your heart, stay away from worry wards, people who are always worrying especially when you are trying to get something through to God or pulling it into the earth realm.

DON'T YOU WORRY ANOTHER DAY!!

29/03/2023

The cross reveals and the couch processes.

I remember praying to God to reveal me to me. I really wanted to know who I was, what made me tick, how I was showing up and what was in my heart.

I told God specifically I didn't want to be like a vacuum and when I met him he asked why I didn't use certain things in me or attached to me and I didn't want my response to be because I didn't know about it, I didn't know how it worked or i didnt know it was there...basically failing to ask or seek God.

God began to really show me me but it wasn't until I was ready to see. I was already in counseling and through my prayer time I learned so much about me. In dating I saw myself in ways that would not have been apparent had I not been in relationship with others (romantic or plantonic). So what God was revealing to me I brought to my counselor and she was shocked that I was discovering so much.

Listen Holy Spirit is the ultimate counselor but he gives people to help us walk it out. Moral of story, God will reveal those deep things and help you connect the dots and after he does, you got to put the work in, process those pains and Unpack those bags.

Prayer without application is pointless and faith without works is dead.

29/03/2023

The cross reveals and the couch processes.

I remember praying to God to reveal me to me. I really wanted to know who I was, what made me tick, how I was showing up and what was in my heart.

I told God specifically I didn't want to be like a vacuum and when I met him he asked why I didn't use certain things in me or attached to me and I didn't want my response to be because I didn't know about it, I didn't know how it worked or i didnt know it was there...basically failing to ask or seek God.

God began to really show me me but it wasn't until I was ready to see. I was already in counseling and through my prayer time I learned so much about me. In dating I saw myself in ways that would not have been apparent had I not been in relationship with others (romantic or plantonic). So what God was revealing to me I brought to my counselor and she was shocked that I was discovering so much.

Listen Holy Spirit is the ultimate counselor but he gives people to help us walk it out. Moral of story, God will reveal those deep things and help you connect the dots and after he does, you got to put the work in, process those pains and Unpack those bags.

Prayer without application is pointless and faith without works is dead.

18/02/2023

I AM ENOUGH ALWAYS

YOU ARE ENOUGH ALWAYS

With no additives, no overcompensating, no name brands, no labels, no titles, no degrees, no accomplishments, no money, no status.

You at the core of you, is enough. You with nothing else, stripped down, to your essence is enough.

If you don't know this, you will always believe it will take something external for you deserve something and be worth what you are asking for. Being enough comes from within not from others and how they may have mishandled you.

Settle within you on this Saturday that I am enough!

WHEN YOU DONT FEEL YOU ARE ENOUGH YOU WILL DO THE MOST!

💕 Share this on your page to remind someone who feels they have to dtm (do the most) to feel wanted, loved, recieved, accepted.

04/02/2023

Can I be honest with you?

My healing didn't start in dating or romantic relationships. Although in romantic relationships I became aware of me. In romantic relationships so much of the woman I didn't like was exposed, dug up...I felt he made me this way but it started way before him. So many of my insecurities around my worth, was I enough and my fears of would he leave, surfaced and were ever present. It was also in romantic relationships I realized my patterns and I knew something needed to change. Unfortunately, while dating I wanted to change for Him but when I was single, I wanted to change for ME.

Healing started with my friends, where I was challenged to grow and also felt safe to grow without being rejected. There was still shame but i was curious to take a deeper look. Many people wait until marriage to heal but the greatest time to heal is when it's just you. I knew I needed to change, grow up and evolve because of how I interacted with live in family and my best friend. Child a hot mess. No more blaming someone else, the microscope turned inward. In dating we don't always feel safe enough to expose our flaws, we usually present the best parts but with family and friends we let it all hang out. In your singleness, I want you let it all hang out because ignoring it only causes self inflicted pain.

I've healed on levels no romantic relationship could give me. Because when I was dating, I wouldn't allow myself to be that vulnerable and I had abandonment issues so my roommate/best friend cracked the safe and helped me to tear down walls just by allowing me to make mistakes and then do the work; I was scared if the guy I was dating saw me forreal he wouldn't stay, I didn't feel good enough to fight for or to stay to be better for. I didn't have the freedom to blossom because of fear, what will he think after I showed him who I was, that was a risk i wasnt willing to take. But with my friends it was different. I needed to be built up, I needed my confidence to expand and I needed the love and acceptance from friends and of myself before I could feel safe in dating.

To be ready for love, we do the work before love. Now I am open to love and ready to recieve in a way I wasn't ready to before. I have a community called Hey, HealHer | From Daddy Issues to Dating Differently where I want to be for you what my friends were for me so you can grow in private and blossom in front of everyone. This way you can give the man of your dreams the best part of you because you did the work before he came.

PS doing the work before him, brings less martial friction that comes because of inner issues that we make marital issues. A whole you leads to a whole relationship

01/01/2023

Happy New Year! I am so excited for all 2023 has in store!

So much healing, flourishing and thriving to come! Your best days are ahead...the life and love you desire and deserve are on the other side of healing 💕

01/01/2023

Happy New Year! I am so excited for all 2023 has in store!

So much healing, flourishing and thriving to come! Your best days are ahead...the life and love you desire and deserve are on the other side of healing 💕

31/12/2022

Today I taught a powerful message called Yo Mama [Don't talk about my mama]

The mama talk on wounds and issues is so taboo that it hides in plain sight and attacks. As soon as someone talks about mom we are defensive and/or shut down.

The mama wound is what causes a lot of women to shrink, feel inferior, compare, compete, lack boundaries, be small to be loved and so much more.

The Mother Wound is holding a lot of women back not your ability to commit to a New Year's Resolution.

It's your time to move from stuck to unstoppable. From SURVIVING to THRIVING. From insecure to secure.

Thriving is your portion. Flourishing is what you were created for and there are so many things in life that try to stop that.

Now that you know, you can do something about it. Break patterns, cycles and habits. Dismantle negative beliefs. Rewire your thinking. Rewrite your story. Be your authentic self, that's who is waiting for you.

Join my group Hey, HealHer | From Dead End Relationships to Dating Differently to learn how to heal Mother and father wounds. So much to come in 2023!!!

Next stop HEALING, THRIVING, FLOURISHING 💕

19/12/2022

Is every man bad or the ones that you are choosing? Why are you choosing these men?

I know why, join me tomorrow for this webinar at 7pm.

Register here for free
https://calendly.com/teaire-griffin/maybe-now-he-ll-love-me-webinar

19/12/2022

God uses so many things to reveal you to yourself‼️‼️

We live with a shadow self, a self we cannot see that calls all the shots, influences your decisions, and guides your life.

Are you aware?

Are you going to continue to show up like you been showing up based on your shadow self or in other words your subconscious self or are you going to become aware, cut strings with the past to take back control of your life?

As long as you are unaware of you, not on your journey of self discovery...YOU ARE NOT IN CONTROL BUT UNDER CONTROL.

17/12/2022

When you aware you respond differently.

You make a lot of assumptions and judgments in pain, that you don't make when you're healed. Keion Henderson

Free webinar this Tuesday, sign up NOW
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17/12/2022

When you date someone or marry them, you aren't just marrying that person but you are choosing to love that person's pain, unresolved issues, purpose, generational covenants....we date and marry that person's history.

That history matters because it will tell you without saying a word how that person loves, relates, reacts, responds and then why.

Do you know your history? Before you can join someone's future it is vital to understand their past. Truth be told, the history you don't confront repeats itself.

Stop the cycle by knowing the why, what, who and where. When you recognize and are aware of your history, you can make changes for a new and better future.

register for this free webinar today. Talk to you Tuesday https://calendly.com/teaire-griffin/maybe-now-he-ll-love-me-webinar