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The Beauty of Women and How They Lose It See why most ladies don't find it easy to marry when they need it.. No matter their beauty, prayers nd tears

16/05/2024

As salaam alaikum wa Rahman tullahi wa barakatuh

1. Do not put your spouse in a difficut situations like this: perhaps there are easier route than this.

2. Help your woman stay fit for days like this.

3. Be ever patience with her regardless and always offrs help when necessary

4. Never be shy of the people around to offer your spouse help and never get tired of TRYING to help them

5. Remember they are humans never get tired of their humanly traits when they frustrates your patience. Perseverance.

6. Women should learn to be obedience to their husbands

7. Men should know their wives mumu button, that when you say it boom she complies

8. Understanding women and enjoying being with them that way

9 Never lets third party or kntruder or public deter you or make you ashamwd of being at her aid

10. Ofcourse show her love and mercy at alltimes and regardless of her feedback etc.

16/05/2024

Women are the most difficult being to decode. How can a woman says she divorced her husband because he's too good and perfect.

Too good and perfect? Divorce him
Too terrible and imperfect? Divorce him....

So, the question is, what do they really want?
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🇧🇷 Kaka's ex-wife revealed the reason she divorced him was because he was TOO PERFECT of a husband.

"Kaka never betrayed me, he treated me well, he gave me a wonderful family, but I was not happy, something was missing. The problem was, he was too perfect for me"

As it implies that the former AC Milan and Real Madrid player was perhaps somewhat boring. Kaka was always characterized for being a very classy guy on and off the field, but apparently that was not enough for their marriage to last and, in 2015 the couple announced the breakup.

Their marriage lasted 9 years and they had two children. However, Caroline Celico is currently married to businessman Eduardo Scarpa, with whom she seems to have found the happiness she was looking for. Meanwhile, Kaká, a soccer player who won absolutely everything in his career such as the World Cup, Champions League, Serie A, La Liga and other tournaments, has now married his partner of the last few years, Carolina Dias Leite.

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26/05/2023

Looking at this you can see how much importance Islam places on a woman's body as it is not something accessible to just anybody. It is sad that for some women today you don't even need to request for permission to see a certain part of her body as it has been displayed all over social media. What is left to see all of her nudity is just a thin piece of clothing. I can imagine how shocked some sisters will be reading this to learn that a man needs her permission to see her neck and hairs, something that has been all over her social media platforms for decades now. Wallāhi whatever pushes you to abandon the hijāb and expose your aura to the public is from the doings of shaitān. Allāh says:

"O children of Adam, let not Satan tempt you as he removed your parents from Paradise, stripping them of their clothing to show them their private parts. Indeed, he sees you, he and his tribe, from where you do not see them. Indeed, We have made the devils allies to those who do not believe"

May Allāh increase us in understanding.

TO BE CONTINUED

26/05/2023

If a person is able to do this 'looking' without her knowledge it will be better, but if he has to request for it then it is within her discretion to either grant it or refuse. I will advise women to only grant such a request to persons who look responsible and serious about their intention who they themselves are interested in so they don't end up showing themselves to every Bakr and Zayd who may try to exploit this to stare at what a woman woukd have rather concealed from him. Looking at 'the' woman's face was and will always be sufficient for me as I expect any hidden deformity to be disclosed. The scholars used to say the face is center of a woman's attraction. Looking at rhe perversion in today's world one needs to be circumspect and use her discretion on this issue.

This 'looking' SHOULD NEVER BE DONE IN A SECLUDED PLACE and should not be done via social media exchange of images. Imagine you receive 10 proposal from men who request your images, then you will have shared your images to ten men who can keep it long afterwards. If he wants to 'see' you, he should come and do it in person. I have however read that some scholars permit it via video calls, but I personally have serious reservations about it, not in the capacity of a scholar but in my knowledge of the limits and vulnerablilities of the media. Video calls may never replace the inference your eyes can draw, and with current advancements in AI technology, filters can be used to manipulate what you see. Worse, who is to say the call can't be recorded? So what is best, is that the person comes and sees you with his eyes even if you are in Maiduguri and he is in Lagos. He may claim he wants to see a picture of you so he doesn't make the journey for nothing. Don't fall for that. Life is about taking risks. He wont be the first to make such a journey, after all a popular hadeeth even hints that such a journey is very common
ومن كانت هجرته لدنيا يصيبها أو امرأة ينكحها، فهجرته إلى ما هاجر إليه

Looking.....

26/05/2023

Instead of checking important thinks like his spirituality, responsibility and attitude to other people in his life, some women will be on the look out for how romantic he is. How he speaks, how much safeer is in his tasleem and the perfection of his intonation while speaking english. How often he calls, how long he stays on the call and how quick he responds to whatsapp messages. None of these are even in the slightest relevant to a man's performance as a husband, may be as a boyfriend but certainly not as a husband. Unfortunately this is what is in the head of many telemmundo sisters and if you are not a man principled enough to keep your ground, you may be forced to dance to their tune or risk losing their interest.

●'Looking' at your fiancée
Islam allows a man to look at certain features of the wife he wants to get married to to help him either fuel his interest in her or spot a thing he may have found difficult to live with after the marriage is sealed. This is not a mandatory part of every proposal but a recommendation. He may choose to do it or forego it and she may choose to let him have his way or refuse. He may look at everything from her neck region above, hands and feet. He may request to be shown or, if possible hide somewhere and see it for himself. He coukd for instance try to hide behind a tree close to her father's house to see her in the customary way she dresses at home without the hijāb (every sane person knows that a lady will be decently dressed in her parent's house). This is on the condition that he sincerely wants to marry her and fears Allāh in what he does, and is careful enough to avoid what looks like perversion (imagine they catch ustadh behind a tree looking at imam's daughter) or bring disrespute to his dignity, otherwise he should lower his gaze. You know we can't hide our intentions from Allāh.

If a person is able to do this,

26/05/2023

This does not mean we have no respect for marriage or the woman, Muslims are not just cut out for theatrics and pseudo-respect. It's just a proposal and nothing more. We are humble enough to not see ourselves as the savior of the woman such that she will be the luckiest to have us, and we do not think of her as the beginning and end of womanhood. Whatever Allāh wills will come to pass. So you propose to her and put your trust in Allāh. She either agrees or doesn't and life moves on. In fact a woman may reject your proposal by morning and by evening you are trying your luck elsewhere. There is no big deal to it whatsoever. Just be honorable and gentlemanly about it.

Say or write words that do not betray your honour and dignity or demean the woman you are proposing to (like those who sound like they are doing her a favor). Make sure you are ready for marriage before you propose and there is something unique about you that makes you presentable. Try your best, without being fake, to make a good first impression. You don't need to become a Romeo or Williams Shakespeare just to propose. Be articulate and precise, don't beat around the bush.

The problem is that many go about it like they are trying to get a girlfriend and that is what all these premarital relationships has done to people's minds. The women think a good proposal is one that comes with a lot of drama, exaggerations and falsehood..."you will be the only woman in my life, I promise to never hurt you, I will sail to the end of the world with you..." so if I stood in front of you now and told you all these you will believe me? When I know it is possible I will hurt you in the first 24hrs of the marriage? We really need to debug the head of some people in this generation. Marriage is a contract, and when people are getting into a contract they are serious about it not hinge on irrelevancies. Instead of checking important thinks like his spirituality, responsibility and attitude to other people in his life,

26/05/2023

Khitbah (part 2).

Before I continue let me quickly mention that whenever I address an issue I never use a tone of wanting to force the content down your throat. Whether you implement it or not is ultimately your choice. I don't deceive myself that the 1000 people who read it will immediately accept all that has been said. In fact my major drive is that 1 person out of the 1000 persons that may be guided by it. That is the major target, those that will be positively influenced. Majorly I write to
◇Ensure Islamic ideals do not become obsolete amidst the wave of secularisation
◇Argue logically that Islamic rulings and recommendations are not outdated or oppressive but are, taking the generality of the human population, in our best interest
◇Make you see the present or future consequence for a Muslim abandoning the way of Allāh and His messenger and embracing the ways of men.

Now let's continue shall we?

●How to propose
There is no legislated term or sentences designated for proposal neither is there any ceremony or specialness attached to it. The ultimate aim is to convey the message that you wish to get married to a lady and you wish to know if she (or he in the case of her father) accepts your proposal. So, you can do it verbally or in written form, in person or through a trusted friend. We don't kneel to propose and we don't give wedding rings either to signify engagement or marriage. Imagine if we attached ceremonies to it and you get rejected 10 times by a woman. You will have to go through the process 10 times over. You can imagine how much I feel for those who kneel to propose and get rejected and we get to watch the horrible scene.

This does not mean we have no respect for marriage or the woman, Muslims are not just cut out for theatrics and pseudo-respect. It's juproposal and nothing more. We are humble enough to not see ourselves as the savior of the woman such that she will be the luckiest to have us, and we do not think of her as the beginning

24/05/2023

Ideally, a daughter and her father should share such close bonds on the matter of finding a spouse that whichever route the proposal comes from they both talk about it before a final decision is reached
As a lady, if a man proposes to you, it will be beautiful if you could table it before your Dad so that while you may be beclouded by emotions he will be able to do a background check with a clear head then you both discuss and decide whether he is worthy or not. This solves a lot of headache since by the time you are eventually giving him an answer it is one agreed upon, one that is unlikely to meet a stumbling block. What I wish for, and I ask Allāh by hus beautiful names to make it a reality, is that ny daughter is able to tell me if she has a crush, let alone someone who has proposed to her. Even where such a beautiful bond doesn't exist, it is pertinent to inform him as soon as possible so that you don't end up investing so much love in a man only to be turned down by your parents. Many heartaches can be avoided by such a proactive measure. This was the way our culture operated before westernization came to take over everything and those who now preach about this ways sounds archaic.

Parents should be brought into the picture as soon as possible otherwise, my brother, you may just be wasting your time feeding another man's horse (metaphorically speaking).

To be continued.....

24/05/2023

We only say the dangers far outweighs any benefit as it is usually a decoy for two unmarried people to enjoy some degree of marital privileges such as companionship which they aren't entitled to. So, have our marriages become better off generally since we syarted courtship? Have the divorce rates plummetted? Whatvis to stop me from pretending all through? How does this internship which lacks the true realities of marriage expose how a person will behave in marriage? Courtship should be an internship program for boyfriend girlfriend relationships not a union as delicate and unpredictable as marriage. If after 5 years of courtship you finally find the courage to inform her Dad and he objects to the marriage you will have wasted 5 whole years of you time, emotions and resources all for nothing!

That's why if I propose to a woman and she delays in informing her parents I automatically assume she isn't serious. If you want a boyfriend you can take one of these jobless men for one but I am here for serious business, I won't play backyard love with you. If you are suspicious of my character or do not find me worthy enough then you shouldn't accept my proposal. But once you do, I need to be known by every honourable member of your family as the one who intends to get married to you so I know my fate, rather than be playing "I love you, I can't wait to have you" in the backyard like some teenager high on puberty hormones. This is the genesis of the point where many men lose their respect in the site of their wife. It is not every man that is cut out for some of these irrelevancies that people now hold so dear.

Ideally, a daughter and her father should share such close bonds on the matter of finding a spouse that whichever route the proposal comes from they both talk about it before a final decision is reached
As a lady, if a man proposes to you,

24/05/2023

In fact we used to joke those days that if a man asks for you number give him your Dad's. So all these new generation objections should not be considered weighty enough to throw away a practice we have always known.

It is important that men note that after you propose to a woman (and she accepts), the period between when you inform her and when she informs her parents of your interests is (typically) a period of wastage because you are hanging in limbo. It has become customary among us for a man to propose to a woman, then they spend some time together checking out one another and they call it 'courtship'. Let me categorically mention that this is not khitbah and Islām is free of it. It is just a period two people waste each others time, during which any of them can pull the plug as their emotions dictates and within the twinkle of an eye the whole relationship ends. How many hearts have been broken, chastity and dignity lost and minds unwholesomely attached for life all in the name of courtship. The argument often brought forward is that the period of courtship allows for two people to find out about one another, how suitable they will be as couples. Courtship is therefore like a marriage internship program where people either qualify from or are found unworthy of 'employment. This argument has implications:

1. Since we are finding out about one another it simply means there is nothing official to it as if I find during courtship a character I don't like I can just call it off. Why then will I invest my time and emotions in something so temporary especially since I know it is most likely we will discover faults in one another once we stay in close proximity?

2. We do not say there may be no benefit in it just as alcohol may have some benefits in it. We only say the dangers far outweighs any benefit as it is usually a decoy for two unmarried people to enjoy some degree of marital privileges such as companionship which they aren't entitled to.

24/05/2023

*Khitbah* (Part 1)

The period of Khitbah is the period within which two people are 'engaged' to be married. It means there are neither any objection to the marriage from either the lady in question or her guardian (waliyy) which usually (but not always) is her father (unless he delegates the guardianship role to someone else or circumstance such as death or incapacity warrants that). The period itself has no significant underpinning in Islamic jurispudence as the two persons to be married have no legal claim to one another neither are there any special expectations from them both. They are still non mahrams within the period and are expected to lower their gaze from one another. They may have interactions if there is a necessity for it but certainly not in seclusion and if they were to commit Zina they will be floggéd the same way any two non mahrams will be floggéd. What people do and call khitbah these days is just an extension of the boyfriend/girlfriend relationships which has become a norm in our society but Islām is free of all that.

Let's discuss some related issues to Khitbah:

●Route of proposing

A man may choose one of two routes to initiate his proposal to a woman. He may approach her or her father to express his interest or do both in any particular order (I did both starting from the woman). It is expected that either of the routes end at the same place, that her father agrees to give out his daughter to you in marriage and the daughter does not object. I have read the objection of some of our sisters, especially the 'educated ones' to a man informing her father before her of his interest in her. Well, your personal objection doesn't automatically criminalise this approach, after all you are still at liberty to say no when you are eventually informed. It is just your objection. Some consider that a honourable act. In fact we used to joke those days that if a man asks for you number give him your Dad's.

22/05/2023

1. Divørced: She can’t keep a man 😢

2. Råpëd: What was she wearing??🥴

3. Childless Marriage: She is bårrën 🥺🤰🏿

4. Doesn't give birth to a male child: it's all her fault, there's no son in her wømb 🙃

5. Rich and Independent: she's a prøstïtutë 💃🏿

6. A båd child: It's all the mother’s fault because she spøilt him😢

7. She wants to play some sports: You're a girl!! It's too difficult for you, that's not your purpose in life 🙎

8. She is single and drives a car: she would drive away all potential suitors. 🚗🙍

9. She speaks her mind: She is bøssy.🙄🙎🏿

10. Unmarried in her /30s/40s: She is irrespønsible. 😐🤦🏿

11. Married: Becomes her husband's property.🙍

12. Chëâting spouse: Its her fāult, She made him do it, she should be prayerful 💔😞

13. Widøwëd: She kïlléd her husband to take over his properties. 😥

14. Remarries: She didn’t Møürn her lâte husband enough😔

15. Dømëstìc Abüse: What did the woman do?. 😩

It ain't easy being a woman in this part of the world..😞

Respect to Every women out there!!!!😍

18/05/2023

THE DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. Yaum Arba'a. 28th day of Shaw'waal, 1444AH (Wednesday, 18th May, 2023).
HAVE YOU LOST HOPE IN ALLAH?

BismilLah.

There is this one sin that we keep falling in again and again…and again. We keep on repenting and seeking forgiveness, but we fall into it again and again. You give up. You submit to doing more sins. You think you’re hopeless. You fill your heart and mind with dark/desperate/hopeless thoughts. You think you’re worthless. You drown in negativity and desperation. In the end, those with no or weak eemaan commit su***de. AstaghfirulLah.

If you fall in these categories of Muslims, then Stop This Now! It's an insult to ALLAH AstaghfirulLah.
Never buy into these satanic influences! Never. The battle is not over. You didn’t lose. You have the power to come back stronger and more triumphant than you ever were. ALLAH’s Mercy and Forgiveness are there for you! Yes, for you! The only loser is the one who whispers to your thoughts of hopelessness and desperation, and that's sheitaan.

If you are reading this, then think of it as a message from The Most Merciful! Listen to HIM as HE says:
“O My servants who have transgressed against yourselves by sinning, do not despair of MY MERCY. Indeed, I forgive ALL SINS. Indeed, Is ME the Forgiving, the Merciful.” ( Qur’an 39: 53). Allahu Akbar. ALL SINS ALLAH SAYS EVEN IF SHIRK OR IDOL WORSHIP, HE WILL FORGIVE AS LONG AS YOU REPENT

Listen to HIM, as HE says again:
”....when those come to you who believe in MY verses, say, “Peace be upon you. Your Lord has decreed upon HIMSELF MERCY: that any of you who does wrong out of ignorance and then repents after that and corrects himself – indeed, HE is Forgiving and Merciful.” (Qur’an 6: 54).

Now, what's your excuse? Smile and say AlhamdulilLah. _May ALLAH, Al Hayyu, Al Qayyuum, the living and Maintainer of life keep guiding us all and protect us from any satanic influences Aameen.

16/05/2023

I knew the food would last about six weeks, and as predicted, my son did not show up at my door until week seven. I knew the food had finished. I repeated the same process again, telling him to tell his wife to see me when he got home._

_By the third time we did this, I let her do the cooking whilst I supervised her. I never mentioned anything to her. By the fifth time, she had gotten a hang of things, even better than I imagined. On her way home, she hugged me passionately and said “Thank you Mum, you saved my marriage and you never even scolded me.” I am told that with my son’s encouragement, she is now contemplating on opening a restaurant._

_Rather than being the catalyst to scatter my son’s marriage, I opted for encouraging them in love for them to attain better understanding..............._

_Encourage someone in love today, you just might be saving something very fundamental._

*So impacting...........*

16/05/2023

*Message to UMMUS, MOTHER INLAWS, NEW WIVES and TO BE WIFE (learn what is mandatory and necessary)*

_Barely three weeks after my son’s wedding and honeymoon, I noticed his rather unusual “stopping by” at my place on his way home in the evenings. I thought he was just missing his original home. I asked him why but he gave no reasonable answer. He always asked for food when he came around, that was rather odd for a newly married man._

_On his fourth visit, he came with one of his friends who was well known to me. I confided in his friend, who simply told me that our new wife “cannot cook”. In fact, on the days he doesn’t stop by, he eats at that his friend’s house or he eats out. This was fire on the mountain, the choice was between me encouraging him to eat outside with another woman and eventually end his marriage or save the day. I opted for the latter._

_When he showed up again on Friday evening, I told him to tell his wife to see me on Saturday morning, we needed to go somewhere together, it was a woman’s thing. She came as I requested and I told her I was entertaining my Church Society members and needed to cook for them. She was to assist me with the shopping for the cooking. I noticed the fright on her face._

_After returning home from the shopping, I told her she wasn’t cooking because the people involved had very peculiar tastes, she was however to pay attention to all that I did in the kitchen. We finished (or I finished) all the cooking in about four hours. I made four different soups that I knew my son loved, made stew and laced everything with chicken, fish and beef. I added some steaming joll of rice to it. After finishing, I told her to divide everything we cooked into two equal portions. She was surprised when I told her to take one portion with her when she was going home. I knew the food would last about six weeks, and as predicted, my son did not show up at my door until week seven. I knew the food had finished.

21/09/2022

_*Avoid soft toning
your speech*_

❣ ﻳﺎ ﻧﺴﺎء ﺍﻟﻨﺒﻲ ﻟﺴﺘﻦ ﻛﺄﺣﺪ
ﻣﻦ ﺍﻟﻨﺴﺎء ﺇﻥ ﺍﺗﻘﻴﺘﻦ ﻓﻼ ﺗﺨﻀﻌﻦ
ﺑﺎﻟﻘﻮﻝ ﻓﻴﻄﻤﻊ ﺍﻟﺬﻱ ﻓﻲ ﻗﻠﺒﻪ
ﻣﺮﺽ ﻭﻗﻠﻦ ﻗﻮﻻ ﻣﻌﺮﻭﻓﺎ

O wives of the Prophet!
You are not like any
other women. If you
keep your duty (to
Allah), then be not *soft
in speech*, lest he in
whose heart is a
disease (of hypocrisy,
or evil desire for
adultery, etc.) should
be moved with desire,
but speak in an
honourable manner.

_(Al-Ahzab: 32)_

▪Imam ibn Kathir in
his explanation of this
ayah said: Allah's
command here applies
to both the wives of the
Prophet _(peace be
upon him)_ and other
believing women.

A woman from
among the pious
predecessors use to
put pebbles in her
mouth to changer her
tone as she speaks,
thereby making her
voice unpleasant to
strange men.

Another story was
told of a woman who
always imitate the
men's voice when she
intends to buy
something from a male
seller.

There lived a chaste
and righteous woman
who was upright in all
her dealings but one:
she has a natural soft
tender voice and very
open with words. she
doesn't effect it even
with strangers. Once
she went to the market
to buy her needs, after
few discussions with
the seller, the man was
carried away by her
speech and he placed
his hand on hers. She
snatched her hands
away and yelled at him.
*"Whats wrong with
you, why would you do
that"*
He replied: *"Your
speech drag my hands
to yours"*
From then she knew
her mistakes and
corrected her ill
behaviors.

Dear sister do not
tone your voice or make
it so soft as to kindle
the evil desire of men.
Always speak
honorably and with a
chaste voice.
Do not be of those
women who act as the
agent of satan.
# Dear sister avoid
using your voice as a
bargaining tool to win
over contracts,
discussions and the
likes.
That magical voice is
for your husband alone.

# Some Sisters have
such natural voice
however they should
fear Allah with regards
using it before
strangers............
much as possible

23/07/2022

AS-SALAAM-ALAIKUM

DEAR MUSLIMAHS BEHOLD
"Anytime I see a muslim sister
displaying her beauty for ignorant
men to comment on her
"Please I want to advise u to stop
posting that kind of pictures on
ur wall. U ar truly beautiful
and u should see that as a mercy
of Allah on u, It was not ur
choice to be beautiful, He could
have made u the mst ugly lady
if He wanted.

"But He gave u
beauty to Test u if u will be
carried away by it and disobey him
or u will appreciate it nd follow
him.
"My dear sister, as a muslim lady
u ar a unique creature of Allah
and He hates that u follow the
ways of life of unbelievers. In the
sight of Allah, u ar very beautiful
when u use ur Hijab nd dress
like a muslim lady.

"But in the sight of Shayton nd his fans, u ar
beautiful wen u expose all D sensitive shapes nd curves of ur
body
"That is why they will keep
praising u. It is now ur choice
whether you wnt to be beautiful
in the sight of ur creator nd his
angels or to be beautiful in the
sight of Shytoin and his fans
"Dear noble and respectable sister,
See all precious tins ar always
covered frm anyhow pple, look
at Gold, Diamond, gemstones
etc..
They ar hidden far away to be
owned only by people who deserve
them

"The samething with a muslim
woman, she is too precious to be
displayed for all Tom,dick and Harry.
"All the guys praising u on ur
wall ar just satisfying their own
lustful eyes but they ar all
committing sins against Allah nd
you are also committing Sins by
giving them ur picture to satisfy
their lust.
I decided to tell u all these
so that u to save u frm
the Dangers of this act.
"We are so weak against the wrath
of Allah and He can destroy us
anytime He pleases.

That is why we have to fear him and avoid his
anger.
May Allah give you graces to
understand this msg nd to
follow it
May He forgive all ur
sins nd mine, May He fill your heart
with IMAN and bless ur days in
this world, May He giv u long life nd mak u one of best muslimahs
may He grant u nd me Al-jannah.
Aameen

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