Neurodivergent Granny

25/11/2023

And this is one of the reasons why 2 of my doctors advised AGAINST a long-term T-break for me:

A Washington State University study found most cannabis users who reported getting a good night’s sleep have quit using prescription or over-the-counter sleep aids.

03/06/2023

A new plan...

28/05/2023

Here's a little story about how my children felt about my ability to keep plants when they were young while I share the progress of my garden over the last month.

29/12/2022

Get yours while they're free to download!

In this book, three of the author's special interests converge: Food preparation, family, and writing. Maggie didn't know she was autistic until she was 54. After her diagnosis of autism, OCD, and Sensory Processing Disorder- over five decades of her life began to become clear. She also allowed h...

13/11/2022

What is Neurodivergent "masking" and how did I personally learn how to do it?

06/11/2022

It's the first in a NEW SERIES about dissociated celebrities!

Check it out and share with your friends in Georgia, please!

HershelWalker

There aren’t many public figures who have come out about their diagnoses of Dissociative Identity Disorder, but I’m considering starting a series here about those who have. Our first su…

04/11/2022

Here is a bit more of an educational evaluation of Hershel Walker's published information.

02/11/2022

Educational Purposes only. If people are going to be talking about Dissociative Identity Disorder in the press, it is time for me to say a few things.

23/10/2022

Writing with headmates can be particularly fun!

18/10/2022

My main TikTok account was attacked and banned this morning without any explanation whatsoever.

I'm exhausted fighting that app.

I will not be continuing to produce content where I'm unwanted.

I am taking a break, and may or may not continue this brand.

I don't like being attacked.

Find me at on Insta, or here on YouTube:
YouTube Channel:
https://youtube.com/channel/UCcwdYWeysmgCU7aNpHgw_nw

14/10/2022

What does a doctor appointment with a new physican look like when an older adult gets a life-changing diagnosis? Something like this:

03/10/2022

What does it sound like when we are trying to sleep?

26/09/2022

So many!!

19/09/2022

😂🤣👏🏼

Since people want to color-code children, I suggest taupe for children who sadly lack autism. You must intensely stare into their eyes, with your own very wide eyes. Do not blink.

Inspired by Tone it Down Taupe

Image: black background with a taupe pumpkin in the center with wide black and white cartoon eyes, and matching taupe text that reads "children who sadly lack autism should use taupe pumpkin buckets on Halloween... This signifies that a child sadly lacks autism. Everyone has a right to know that a child is allistic.

This is satire.

11/09/2022

What type of fidgeting was accepted in your home?

31/08/2022

This happened just now.

Why 22k people want to watch me, I do not know, but I hope they want to buy my book when it is published!

🤣😂🤷🏻‍♀️😉
(And thank you!)

25/08/2022

What happens when a 54 year old autistic person stops masking?
They may stop talking.
I did.

24/08/2022

I feel seen.

AuDHD (combined autism and ADHD for me is not as simple as not being able to complete tasks.

I can complete the tasks, but there are neurotype related factors that add complexity to the way my brain believes is the best way to carry out those tasks.

Yesterday, my Alexa (smart device) reminded me to gather the dirty clothes from all rooms and take them to the laundry.

Yes, Im a PDAer and I use a reminder device (I’ll write a post on how I manage this later)..

I was working at the time and felt a pang of annoyance. Ohhh a task! A demaaand! Nooo.

But then my self compassion entered the chat and said “KF, we can manage this. Let’s just be literal about it and get the clothes to the laundry. Don’t worry about washing or sorting, just do the task so it’s done.”

I could do that. I could be literal and just get the clothes to the laundry and dump them. Yep. Definitely.

I felt a weight off my shoulders and proceeded to gather all clothes up and into baskets to take to the laundry.

As I was doing so, I saw specks of cornflour goop dried onto the bathroom floor and remembered I still hadn’t cleaned up that mess outside from a few days ago after playing with the children.

Internalised shame.

“KF, we don’t shame ourselves for being connected and present with the babies”

When I stood up after bending down to collect clothes off the floor, I saw hair in the basin from the childrens’ father after he shaved.

Internalised resentment.

“How can I work when my house is such a disorganised mess?!”

Internalised anxiety, panic, guilt and stress.

As I passed through my bedroom to collect clothes, I thought about writing a piece on how my bedroom is similar to my room in my teens due to ADHD and I sat down at my writing desk to open my laptop.

ADHD.

I realised I was supposed to be doing a task and got back to it. Seldom do I realise I’ve veered off, and tasks won’t be completed.

I then found myself collecting blankets from the floor and folding them, and remembering I had to order mattress protectors. And there I was back in my office ordering mattress protectors which led into browsing sheets and comparing fabrics which led into sewing TikToks which led into chatting with a friend on messenger.

Then I realised I was sidetracked and got back to it.

I finally managed to get all clothes back to the laundry, when I found myself experiencing anxiety over sorting the clothes into colour coded piles for the wash and having one shirt that didn’t belong in any pile.

I had a hard decision to make. Which pile would I put it in? What do other people do? I wonder if I could ask on social media how people wash their clothes according to colour? Do they put greys with whites? Would I be shamed for asking? Nah, can’t ask because the responses might be triggering..demanding.

Autism jumped back in, enraged with PDA and ADHD and wanted to tell them to both shut the eff up and get back to colour coding!

I started to give myself a hard time over it all and then started to engage self compassion again. “Come on, KF. You’re doing great. We got this..”

I realised..I wasn’t supposed to be colour coding. I was meant to do the task literally.
But my autistic brain wanted more. It always wants more. It wants perfectionism. First it would be the colour coding, then it would be the dusting and the scrubbing under chairs where nobody sees.

I used to do all of this. My hands would bleed, cracked open from cleaning products as I had my couches turned upside down to scrub underneath.

I have to be so very careful managing basic tasks.

It isn’t that I can’t do the task. It’s everything that comes along with it.

It’s exhausting, can take hours, can lead to shame and guilt, means I’ve often been reprimanded and labelled as lazy or insubordinate.

Imagine this experience without the understanding and knowledge that I am neurodivergent.

Autism-the perfectionist that likes order, ADHD-veers off in a thousand directions, and PDA-recognises patterns that are a threat or a negative internalised experience and beckons me to avoid them.

This example is a teeny tiny one that was nowhere near as complex as other moments.

A task is never just a task.

-KF x

(Image is a white woman in the 50s loving doing her laundry and doing a dance about it. Get real. I never would have survived that era. Did you know women were often institutionalised for not enjoying housework?)

22/08/2022

This

Language Matters

Autistic: Not "aspie."
Autistic: Not "Aspergers."
Autistic: Not "on the spectrum."
Autistic Person: Not "person with autism."
Autism: Not "ASD."

Support Needs: Not "high or low functioning."
Support Needs: Not "special needs."

Intellectually/Developmentally Disabled: (which are not the same thing:) Not "MR" or any other outdate or ableist alternative.

Non-speaking/minimally speaking: Not "non-verbal."

Supportive Education: Not "special education."
Communication: Not "behavior."

Language matters.
Listen to those who are speaking about their experiences and listen to the community who have their own demands on how they want that language to be used.

30/07/2022

Parents of autistic children should think very hard about WHY autistic adults are uncomfortable with your pages on social media.

We are uncomfortable about our co-beings in neurodivergence being exploited for your social media capital.

Wait until they are old enough to consent and control their own social media.

Kinda like how we should manage non-autistic children.