El-Jay BABY

12/04/2024

21/01/2024

SHE DESERVE IT WHEN.........

Fellas, if you have a woman that holds you down while you are broke, then she deserves some of your riches when you get them. If you have a woman who is with you while you having nothing, she deserves everything once you are able to get it. If you have a woman who is with you while you are no body, she deserves to be brought around when you become somebody. If you have a woman who is with you while you are struggling to accomplish your dream, trust me she deserves to be part of your dream and success when you attain it. And if you have a woman who remains besides you no matter all your flaws, crazy acts and behaviors, trust me she’s a KEEPER and a WIFE MATERIAL. Don’t take her good heart, love and care for granted. Don’t take advantage of her kindness. Don’t use her and don’t waste her time. Be real with her and give her all the love she deserves. - EL JAY

17/01/2024

ISSUES OF THE HEART
You and your partner were great lovebirds, and then all over a sudden the relationship ended. Either you were in wrong or s/he was the one in wrong. You tried asking for forgiveness but they didn’t forgive you. They decided to dump you and they moved on with their life. But you remained loving them. The too much love you had for them never faded away.

Now that months or years have gone by, they’re coming back to you apologizing and asking you to take them back. You are so much excited because that has been your daily prayer. You don’t wanna hesitate in accepting that person in your life. You don’t wanna waste any single second because you think that they might change their mind.

But please don’t rush. Relax and take your time. However much you really need them so badly, take it slow. Ask yourself why that person has decided to come back to you? Is it because they have been hurt? Is it because they’ve realized that they made a wrong decision of dumping you? Is it because they have realized that you are their true love? Is it because that they are seeking financial help from you? Is it because they are so lonely, they want to complicate your life again or they want to infect you with diseases they acquired from the people they have been with?

They have to give you sounding reasons why they have decided to get back to you. Never quickly take back someone in your life no matter you still love that person so much. You need to make sure they are DISEASE FREE because if NOT, they’ll give you s*xually transmitted diseases they have. Remember some disease can be treated, some will stay with you forever and some will KILL YOU. So, send them for a test. If they don’t want then don’t bother taking them back.

PS: Get me right on this. I’m not saying that people should start taking back their exes. It’s not a MUST. It’s all about one’s decision. Actually it depends on what you want, what they did to you and the love you still hold for them.

I know some people say that “taking back your ex is like eating your own vomits.” I think it’s not true because people are so different. If you have an ex that is pleading for a second chance and promising to be different this time, you can take them back if you are single and still loving them. I know some friends will laugh at you for making that decision but don’t mind about them. It’s your life and your heart. You don’t have to do something to make everyone happy. You have to do what makes you happy.

Now some of you are saying that how will I know that s/he is not coming back to break my heart again? There are no specific signs that will show you. Someone won’t come with a label on him/her saying that “THIS TIME I’M SO DIFFERENT & I WON’T HURT YOU.” Everything is all about trying. But try on your own risk. Don’t give in your whole heart. Actually delay to accept that person in your life again. That will help you to test their patience and seriousness. Remember actions speak louder than words, so watch their actions.

Some of you are gonna ask questions like; why coming back to me? Why realizing my worth now? Why did they leave me if I was good enough for them? But the thing is they have realized their flaws. They have discovered your worth. Yeah, somebody can be with you when they don't know your value. As in when they take your love for granted. And when you let them go that's when they realize your worth. But when they come back to you asking for forgiveness, it doesn't mean they are so bad and they are not worth to be forgiven. If you also still love them, you can take them back and if you lost the feelings then you don't give them a second chance.

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17/12/2023

THAT'S A REAL MAN BABY

Any guy can have s*x with a girl, can feed her well, can buy her things, can do things to make her feel special. But, it takes a real man to stay with her, to make her better, to help her grow, to guide her to be on the right path, to deal with her crazy behaviors, to support her passions, to pursue her dreams with her, to build something with her, to show her loyalty, to give her honesty, to keep the promises he made to her, to be there for her, to handle her at her worst, to lend a shoulder to cry on, to lend a hand to wipe her tears, to lend an ear to listen to her problems, to offer a pair of arms to hold her, to let her know she isn't alone like a friend would, to show her she has someone she can depend on like a brother would, to take care for her and share his life with her like a lover would.

Ladies, such types of guys are very rare to find. If you are lucky enough that God blessed you with one, be proud of him, be honesty and faithful to him and love him back.stay blessed.
EL JAY

13/12/2023

Look at yourself now! You are
worried, you have a lot of troubles,
pains, you are brokenhearted, you
have no job, you lack tuition, you
are tired of being single, you are in a
relationship which is not
putting your heart at peace, you're
confused, you have many haters
and enemies, you keep on praying to
God but nothing changes...but
hey, don't lose hope. Everything is
happening in your life for a
reason. God has a plan for you and it
will come in the perfect
timing. He is silent but he is watching
you, he listens to your prayers
and he knows what to do for you. You
don't have to think that maybe
you were cursed or bewitched because
someday everything will make
perfect sense to you. You will get over
those worries and pains. One
day and you will be the happiest
person. Just believe and have faith
in God. He will change your life

05/12/2023

One spouse cannot build a marriage alone when the other spouse is committed to destroying it. Marriage works when both husband & wife work together as a team to build their marriage. Teammates do not compete against each other; they complement each other. Teammates do not pull each other down; they encourage & support each other. Teammates do not fight in the opposites direction; they face the same direction & fight the same opponent together. Marriage teamwork is not about me; it's about us, we & ours. There is no greater example of teamwork than husband & wife. Hand in hand together, let every couple work together for the success of their marriage. Marriage is not a solo performance. It is two and God being the Pillar

04/10/2023

BE SECRETIVE

The secret to making your relationship last is to
keep the things in y'all relationship a secret. Stop
sharing your relationship secrets (problems, fights,
each other’s flaws and failures, future plans and
goals, background stories and happy moments) with
anyone. Not everyone that is around you that cares
and wishes you well. Some are just pretending to be
good and well-wishers but they are very toxic and
they’re not worth to keep around. Keep your
relationship secrets with your partner. When you
get misunderstandings, sit down with your partner
and talk about it. If you are in wrong, admit and
apologize. If it needs you to adjust in some things
please do it for the sake of your relationship and if
things don't work out, sake counsel from a married
couple, a pastor or both of you visit a counselor for
help.BY EL JAY

23/09/2023

SIX areas that needs to be satisfied before you marry anyone.

1. Check their communication level: ensure that person is a good communicator, and they understand that communication is the bond that keeps a couple together. Communication is a mobile intimacy.

2. Check the progress he or she is making towards fullfilling their purpose in life: its not just about knowing where you are going, but also being sure that you are taking along the right journey partner.

3. Check their family upbringing and background: a fruit does not fall too far from the tree. Check for healthy and unhealthy patterns that are likely to show up in the future. A person is a component of their upbringing and family conditioning, ensure that you are picking battles you are equipped to fight.

4. Check their habits, addictions and their character: a large junk of who we are is a product of our habits. Check for a track record of discipline. Check for a track record of hardwork. Multiply their output today by two, that's who you will be married to in a few years.

5. Check for attraction. Yes we shouldn't be led by sight but by faith, but on the journey of marriage, attraction will come in handy in times of temptation, and in seasons where your faith in your suppose seems shaky.

6. Check their relationship with God: alignment by the Spirit is the soul of any marriage. It is pure joy to be with someone who is like-minded in thoughts, in faith, in Spirit and in values just as you. It lessens the loud and eliminates unnecessary differences that will destroy your compatibility in marriage.

I'm praying for your home.

05/09/2023

Dear Teenager,

You were lied to. You don't need a boyfriend or girlfriend to feel good or feel complete. I tell you the truth, you don't.

What you need now is to discover your purpose (the major reason you are on earth) and start living it out.

What you need now is God, Education and some good skills.

Keeping intimate relationship at your age is just a waste of time. You don't need it, yes you don't. You have a bright future, do not destroy it with unwise decisions.

Get God, get God, get God and focus on your education. It pays to find God early.

God wants you to shine your light in this dark world but that ungodly relationship will only dim your light. Say no to ungodly relationships.

Ecclesiastes 12:1 (KJV)
1. Remember now thy Creator in the days of thy youth, while the evil days come not, nor the years draw nigh, when thou shalt say, I have no pleasure in them.

I pray that you find God early. May you never be swayed away by the pleasures of this world, may you find and fulfill purpose in Jesus Christ name. Amen 🙏

SHÀLOM ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

25/08/2023

MARRIAGE IS GIVE AND TAKE (TO OUR WOMEN)

1. When a woman is humble, she becomes a natural charm to her husband
2. When a woman is submissive, she gets what she desires from her husband
3. When a woman is trustworthy, she can control her husband's finances
4. When a woman is hospitable, she can host her husband's meeting
5. When a woman is friendly, she becomes her husband's best friend
6. When a woman is jovial and playful, she can unlock her husband's sad mood
7. When a woman is appreciative, she receives unexpected gifts from her husband
8. When a woman is respectful, she can attend her husband's cultural meetings with him
9. When a woman is understandable, her husband feels free to tell her even the ugly
10. When a woman is peaceful, her husband comes rushing home each time
11. When a woman is tender hearted, she makes a great mother for her kids
12. When a woman is slow tempered, she knows when to approach her husband in times of misunderstandings and arguments
13. When a woman is not vulnerable, she is loved by her husband
14. When a woman does not keep secrets from her husband, her husband tells her all of his every moves
15. When a woman is prayerful, she becomes a powerful support system to her husband
16. When a woman is God fearing, she sets her home on the principles of God the Almighty
17. When a woman is selfless, her husband relies completely on her
18. When a woman is creative, she and the husband can figure out the future together
Unfortunately when you are not any of these, it becomes so hard for you to enjoy marriage.
Seek God's help to become any of the above, you can't do it on your own.

A GOOD WOMAN BUILDS HER OWN HOME

12/08/2023

𝐒𝐎𝐌𝐄 𝐒𝐄𝐂𝐑𝐄𝐓𝐒 𝐈𝐍 𝐌𝐀𝐑𝐑𝐈𝐀𝐆𝐄 𝐘𝐎𝐔 𝐎𝐔𝐆𝐇𝐓 𝐓𝐎 𝐊𝐍𝐎𝐖!

Written by: Anointed Tokpah Dossen
𝐒𝐄𝐂𝐑𝐄𝐓 𝟏:
Everyone you marry has a weakness. I mean, there must be something your partner isn’t good at and you dislike it. Only God does not have a weakness. So if you focus on your spouse's weakness you can't get the best out of his/her strength.

𝐒𝐄𝐂𝐑𝐄𝐓 𝟐:
Everyone has a dark history. No one is an angel. When you get married or you want to get married stop digging into someone's past. What matters most is the present life of your partner. Old things have passed away. Forgive and forget. Focus on the present and the future.

𝐒𝐄𝐂𝐑𝐄𝐓 𝟑:
Every marriage has its own challenges. Marriage is not a bed of roses. Every good marriage has gone through its own test of blazing fire. True love proves in times of challenges. Fight for your marriage. Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in times of need. Remember the vow “For better for worse” In sickness and in health be there.

𝐒𝐄𝐂𝐑𝐄𝐓 𝟒:
Every marriage has different levels of success. God may choose to bless Marriage “A” with a promotion for the husband, Marriage “B” own may be a cry of a new born baby while Marriage “C” may be an increase in businesses. Don't compare your marriage with any one else. We can never be equal. Some will be far, some behind. To avoid marriage stresses, be patient, work hard and with time your marriage dreams shall come true.

𝐒𝐄𝐂𝐑𝐄𝐓 𝟓:
To get married is declaring war. When you get married you must declare war against enemies of marriage. Some enemies of marriage are:

Ignorance
Prayerlessness
Unforgiveness
Third party influence
Stinginess
Stubbornness
Lack of love
Lack of understanding
Rudeness
Laziness
Disrespect
Cheating, etc
Be ready to fight to maintain your marriage zone.

𝐒𝐄𝐂𝐑𝐄𝐓 𝟔:
There is no perfect marriage. There is no ready made marriage. Marriage is hard work. Volunteer yourself to work daily on it. Marriage is like a car that needs proper maintenance and proper service. If this is not done it will break down somewhere exposing the owner to danger or some unhealthy circumstances. Let us not be careless about our marriages.

𝐒𝐄𝐂𝐑𝐄𝐓 𝟕:
God cannot give you a complete person you desire. He gives you the person in the form of raw materials. You have to turn that “Raw Material” into a finishing goods for your consumption.

God bless you! 😊

22/07/2023

NEVER
Never fall in LOVE if you are not ready to be patient, loving, caring, forgiving, loyal, understanding, trustworthy, and to adjust in some things. Otherwise you’ll be fooling yourself and wasting your time -by EL JAY BABY

15/07/2023

SINGLENESS IS NOT A CURSE

This goes to all those who are Single: Not everyone that you see in a relationship is happy and comfortable. Many are in pain, they’re stressed, ever in regrets, tears, torture, they have sleepless nights, they are lonely and others are not contented at all. Therefore, take your time in choosing the right person to spend your life with. Don’t rush because being single is not a curse. Keep praying to God to help you in finding the right person. — EL JAY BABY

23/06/2023

Dear sisterly,

I would be lying to you if I say fine guys are scarce.The truth is that they are scattered everywhere especially in academic settings.

And it is normal to get attracted to them or celebrate God's goodness in their lives.

But how about you learn how to bounce your eyes instead of innocently lusting after them?

How about you learn how to discipline your eyes and mind rather than creating s*xual fantasies of brothers who you might not even know?

My dear, learn to commot your eyes. Be focused.

The bible has warned us against the lust of the eyes.

You won't find your man by staring/admiring every single guy that comes your way.

Not every good-looking man is good for you. Let God be the one to choose the best for you.

This purity journey is not an easy one but it worth it. You must be ready to pay the price and dare to be different.

The lord will help us to discipline ourselves.

© El

08/06/2023

NOTHING CAN CHANGE THEM !

If they are determined to leave, there’s nothing you’ll do that will make them stay. You’ll quit some of your friends, your family members and your job, you'll change your dressing code, promise the impossibilities, drop some of your habits, and do many things you have never done for anyone, but trust me still they’ll leave and all your effort will be in vain. So don’t press it so hard, don’t stress yourself, don’t lose sleep and don’t do weird things. Just take it slow. Trust me you’ll heal, learn, and eventually you’ll find someone else worth your heart and love & you’ll be happy again. It’s a matter of time… EL JAY

10/04/2023

No matter all the worries, troubles, heartaches, disappointments, illnesses, and all the hard situations you are encountering in your life, choose to smile and to be happy, choose to live and to enjoy the grateful life that God has given to you, have fun, eat well and thank God for the gift of life. All your pains and troubles are temporary. They are like a storm and it won’t last forever. It will come to an end with time and you will enjoy the new seasons. Yeah, that’s how life is; it’s full of ups and downs. They are inevitable. We all have to face them. But what matters most is how you go through them, your persistence, optimism, determination and confidence, and your faith in God. EL JAY

02/04/2023

Dear: YOUNG MEN 🫵🫵 PLEASE READ‼️

I don't want flowers, I need prayers
I don't want make-up's, I want Bible
I don't need you to tell me you love me when I'm sad, I need someone who would remind me of God's love.
I don't want a boy who could give me food and any other things, I want a Man who would pull me closer to God.
I don't want a boy who is faithful to me, I want a man who is faithful to God.
I don't want a boy who would give me gifts, I want someone who would give me Bible Verses in the morning when I wake up instead of those long sweet messages.
I don't need a Boy who would satisfy my flesh and world, I want a MAN who would help my soul, who would lift my soul.

That isn't cheap, it's actually a very high standard because I believe that in every 20 boys there is only 2 Men who could do it. I don't need a Handsome and wealthy one, I want a praying Man, a Man who would glorify God.

These kind of Man are very rare, so hard to find. Be glad and be thankful if you have one ❤

Be wise Ladies for the only Man who could give you true happiness is a Man of God 😍😇
Shalom."

28/03/2023

28/03/2023

LET IT BE FROM YOUR HEART
TRUE LOVE doesn’t happen fast like the way we see it in movies. It takes work, time, sacrifice and commitment. Don’t start throwing around the word “I LOVE YOU” or expecting your partner to say it until you’re both sure you mean it. Let it happen naturally. Don’t fake it because you want to win someone’s heart or to make him or her happy. Say it in the right time, to the right person and prove it out to him/her.
EL JAY

16/03/2023

DO UNTO OTHERS WHAT YOU WANT OTHERS TO DO UNTO YOU
You are dating a married man with kids, you are the reason his wife sleeps late at night, waiting for him to come home late, you are the reason his wife cries every night, you are the reason he does not come home to his family, you are the reason he does not take care of his family, you are the reason he does not eat at home any more, You are the reason he has not touched his wife for months, Yet every day and night, you kneel down and pray to God to give you a faithful husband when you are making another woman's husband unfaithful.

You pray for a caring and loving man when you have succeeded in diverting the LOVE and care of another woman's husband. You pray for a good home when you are destroying another woman's home. Ask yourself this question: "WITH THIS KIND OF ATTITUDE OF MINE, WILL GOD GRANT MY REQUEST?" WILL I BE HAPPY WHEN I GET MARRIED?

To me I know my God does not grant selfish request and prayers, (James 4:3) "God said in His word that we should do unto others, that which we will want them to do to us (Matthew 7:12).

DEAR LADIES, Wake up, wise up, grow up and say NO to sugar daddies, although they must come to you but let your NO be a NO and they'll go back to their wives. Do not be deceived by money and material things, you have nothing to benefit, for everything is VANITY upon VANITY (Ecclesiastes 1:2)
EL JAY BABY

13/03/2023

THE 5 TRAITS OF A VIRTOUS WOMAN

What differentiates a VIRTOUS woman from other women are life 's difficulties and challenges that she has overcome to evolve into the kind of woman she is today.

The following are the traits of a VIRTOUS woman;

1. STANDS IN FAITH

Nomatter what situations, and challenges that she faces, be it sickness, depression, loss of a loved one, financial crisis, she stands in faith, and on God's word. She knows and understands that only God 's word must prevail over everything tragic that befalls her.

2. PRAYER

She fights all her battles on her knees, in prayer, and not with screaming, yelling, name calling, and gossip. She prays for her ministry, home, business and her associations.

3. COURAGE AND CONFIDENCE

She believes in herself, and in her ambitions, and is not moved by people 's opnions of her. She faces life with courage in one hand and God 's strength in the other. She is courageous and confident, and not fearful of life.

4. BUILDS HER RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD

She knows and understands that the greatest relationship that can stand the test of time is the one she builds with God, she is fully aware that she must not rush into any relationship with any man without cultivating a deep and meaningful relationship with God. She knows building a relationship with God, will help her find the one for her

5. KEEPS HER HEART OPEN TO THE WORD OF GOD

She knows that investing her time and resources in building into herself in the word of God will help her shield her from the arrows of the enemy, and will help her maintain fellowship with God.

May God give you strength to overcome all the battles you are currently facing VIRTOUS woman❗

SHÀLOM ❤️

04/03/2023

NO CONDITION IS PERMANENT
Treasure Every Moment with Your Spouse. You might be facing hard times in your life. You might be going through a stressful season struggling to keep food on the table, working hard & long hours to pay your bills & to keep a roof over your heads. You might be challenged by the balance of raising God-fearing kids & trying to keep up with the pressures of daily living. Don’t be discouraged; soon you'll look back on these stressful times as precious memories. Regardless of what you’re going through, treasure every moment with your spouse, laugh at your challenges & take pictures & videos of your difficult moments with your family. Right now, you are making unforgettable memories that you’ll treasure in a few years to come. Every day with your spouse & family is a precious gift from God. "This is the day the LORD has made. We will rejoice & be glad in it." Psalm 118:24.

03/03/2023

Find someone who isn't afraid to admit that they miss you. Someone who knows that you are not perfect, but treats you as if you are. Someone whose biggest fear is losing you. One who gives their heart completely. Someone who says i love you and means it...Last but not the least, find someone you wouldn't mind waking up with you in the morning, seeing your wrinkles and your gray hair but STILL falls in love with you all over again!
El Jay

25/02/2023

IT'S HIGH TIME YOU MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE

When I look back at all the things I have been
through in my past most especially about love
relationships, indeed nothing lasts forever in life.
Things change and people change. You will
never know whether someone you truly love and
treasure is temporary in your life that any day or
time they’ll leave and you start a new life and
even create new memories without them. You
will never know that the love and care you give
to that special person will one day be seen as
nothing. You will never know whether their
promises are real or fake. You will never know
whether those I love and miss you(s) will fade
away one day and turn into I hate you and other
insults. You will never know whether the sweet
name-callings like my prince charming, my love,
babe, sweetie, honey, my honey pie, and many
others will turn into ugly names like as***le,
bitch, w***e, do**he bag, scumbag , You will
never know...
BOTTOM LINE: When you find someone and you
develop true feelings for them, please love them
and give that relationship your best so that you
don't live with regrets in case they ever walk out
of your life. Enjoy and cherish every moment you
get with them because you have no guarantee
about tomorrow. And if they ever bang the door
to leave your life, please don’t block their exit.
Let them go. And when they leave, don't be so
hard on yourself because breakups are also part
of life and they heal. Let them go explore this
harsh world and then stay with your peace and
live your life. —still VEGAH ONE

27/01/2023

It's today ooo don't miss out 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

10/01/2023

THEY IGNORE YOU NOW BUT THEY'LL NEED YOU LATER, THAT’S LIFE

Sometimes people will undervalue you, it just happens in life. People are sometimes selfish creatures, and though they may not always have the worst of intentions in mind, they don't seem to see things until they need to see them. Not everyone is able to look at things with a compassionate eye, whether it is because they were never taught to do so, or that it be they choose not to think of anyone other than themselves. Keep your eyes on God

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22/12/2022

10/12/2022

Never miss a girl with the following
"Qualities” ...
When she walks for miles to see you.
When she says “sorry” even though she didn't do
anything wrong.
When she cries because she still loves and
misses you.
When she still tries to get you back.
When she no matter how much you have hurt
her still loves you.
When she stops her argument with you to save
your relationship.
When she continuously makes you feel special
and tries to make you happy.
When she is upset but does not tell you as she
thinks she is annoying you.
When she wants to leave you because of your
rude behavior but she is not able
to do so.
Guys, don’t ever let her go, because you may
never find someone like that ever again.
And above all she fears God in all things.

Elorm