The Love No Limit Show

11/02/2024

Hey Lover,

This is a reminder to stop chasing emotionally unavailable people.

I spent a good bit of my adult life chasing people who were emotionally unavailable. I’ve come to understand that I was addicted to the chaos of it all— the push and pull, the fight to prove that I was deserving of love and care, the breadcrumbing.

ALL. OF. IT.

Turns out I was self-abandoning. And the person I needed to be investing so much time, energy and love into was me.

Let’s talk about it in the comments!

If you’ve found an emotionally available partner, how did you get there?

If you find yourself being attracted to emotionally unavailable people, what are you doing to change that behavior?

Here’s a Sunday Sermon from from Dr. Nicole LePera (How to do the work . The Holistic Psychologist).

Xoxo,
Jo

31/01/2024

The more I take note of current relationship conversations, the more I realize that most people are not looking for a romantic partner— they are actually looking for a parent (or to be re-parented).

And I get it.

Many people are living with unaddressed childhood trauma and want someone to provide them the love, care, and safety they didn’t receive as children.

The truth is: most of us are asking way too much of our partners. And, most of us need to be willing to give ourselves what we continually hope someone else will give us.

I love this set of notes from Todd Baratz, LMHC
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27/06/2023

Soon. ✨

27/10/2021

27/04/2021

SO EXCITED for the opportunity to- first of all- witness the magic of IN OUR MOTHER’S GARDEN film, and THEN to speak with multi-hyphenated, multi-disciplinary creative Shantrelle P. Lewis ( ) about the making of the film and all the beauty conjured through telling these gorgeous, nuanced Black girl stories.

My conversation with Shantrelle P. Lewis will air on the HMAAC website, Sunday, May 2nd at 6 pm cst.

is offering a special screening of the film this Saturday- May 1st! A perfect pre- Mother’s Day outing! Swipe for deets on purchasing tickets.

21/04/2021

21/03/2021

See you at 4 pm cst? ✨

14/03/2021

Celebrating the AMAZING bell hooks today on IG Live!

I’ll be joined by a couple of friends to chat about our favorite quotes from hooks’ All About Love: New Visions.

Grab your favorite snacks, maybe a cocktail (because WHEW it gets real!) and join me!

SUNDAY | March 14 | 4 pm cst | IG LIVE

I took this quick video of bell hooks at a private chat curated by the good folks at

09/03/2021

Join me THIS SUNDAY 3.14.21 @ 4 pm cst via IG Live () as I chat with friends about bell hooks' All About Love: New Visions. Here's a taste of what we'll be chatting about: https://youtu.be/FQOS4qa5BV0

06/03/2021

Even with all I’ve been through this year, I still believe spring to be a time of renewal and new beginnings. I’m celebrating and the magic of spring by re-reading bell hooks’ seminal text All About Love: New Visions.

As I say often, I’m committed to doing the work of being a better lover to myself- first and foremost- and to those I care deeply for, and I believe this book from hooks helps me reframe and reimagine the lover I want to become more than most other books I’ve read.

Want to join me as I flesh out this gem of a book? Want to read along with me and join the amen corner? Want to hop on the live chat with me to share your ideas about the text?

Meet me with your copy of All About Love: New Visions next Sunday for a chat on IG Live.

3.14.21 | 4 pm cst | IG Live

03/03/2021

For women’s history month, I’m facilitating a public conversation where I (and guests!) will re-read and respond to bell hooks’ exceptional text ALL ABOUT LOVE: NEW VISIONS

3/14 + 3/21 | 4 pm cst
IG Live:

Come thru!

10/02/2021

A lil pre- V Day conversation for the baddies- because we are our best lovers. ✨

TONIGHT! 9 pm cst. IG Live ( + )

Oh! And check ‘s page to enter to win a pleasure box! 💦

14/12/2020

This Wednesday | 12.15.20 | 8 pm cst, I’ll be chatting live with my boo Dr. LaWanda Hill ( ), and we’ll be talking all things self-pleasure.

If you’ve been following me for some time you know that I believe pleasure is a human right. Self-pleasure is our greatest path towards fulfilling pleasure with others, and it’s absolutely a form of self care.

Join us on IG live this Wednesday! Click the link in my bio to read my thoughts on the importance of solo-sex. And if you have questions about self-pleasure, slide into my DMs. 😏

18/09/2020

Moonlight meditation from

Here’s to new beginnings. ✨

31/08/2020

... Speaking of self-love...

Sharing is caring, yes?

https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/advice/a1602/solo-sex/ via Afrosexology

29/08/2020

Too often, sadly, we spend our time giving others the love we should be giving ourselves.

bell hooks (and her book All About Love: New Visions) provides an amazing roadmap towards self-love and all the other love we want to create and strengthen.

12/08/2020

Live chat with education activist Cassandra Jones !

12/08/2020

21/04/2020

From our host :

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By popular demand (okay like 10 people asked 😂), I’ve decided to do a weekly live chat to recap this new season of Insecure. I couldn’t think of a better person to join me than my good girlfriend Dr. Lawanda Hill (), who is a licensed psychologist. Her amazing work focuses on women’s sexual health and overall wellness for Black women + other women of color. ⁣⁣
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During this laid back chat (‘cause this AIN’T work), Dr. Hill and I will discuss how the characters on Insecure (and how we in real life) can healthily navigate some of the scenarios presented on the show, like:⁣⁣
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Is it okay to forge a relationship with someone who is dating your ex?⁣⁣
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How quickly should we expect people we are dating to open up about family trauma and drama?⁣⁣
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How do we stop self-sabotaging behaviors? ⁣⁣
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How do we navigate shifting relationships with our friends as we change and move forward in our lives? ⁣⁣
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How do we set healthy boundaries when communicating with exes as we process the loss of a romantic partnership, or should we not communicate with them at all? ⁣⁣
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And how do we get rid of the Tiffany in our lives? Because 🙄.⁣⁣
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So, yes, a good girlfriend chat where we can vent, laugh, and have a lil fun while we . ⁣⁣
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Tuesdays | 7 pm CST | IG Live⁣⁣
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Don’t have your girl over here filling in her brows for nothin’, COME THRU! ⁣⁣

01/01/2020

From our host :

This is a photo of my tribe and me. I am beyond grateful for the ways they continue to awaken me to love.

One of the reasons I started writing and speaking about love is that I found so much of what we read and hear about love lacks depth and space to define love beyond romance.

That said, I hope you are walking into 2020 cultivating self-love, platonic love, familial love and communal love in ways that challenge you to be a better lover in every way.

Happy New Year from !

22/12/2019

From our host :

I hope that as you finish up your holiday shopping you remember to give yourself some pretty incredible gifts as well.

is a gift that keeps giving, and her greatest gift to us is instructions like these.

This is honestly, truly the only message I need on my vision board for the new year and the new decade.

Sending you magic and joy, lovers. ❤️

21/12/2019

A love note from our host . ✨

20/12/2019

One topic we discuss often on is the power of reparenting our inner child.
Great points here from .holistic.psychologist
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There is a lack of awareness as to why people get into “toxic” or unhealthy relationship dynamics.

This leads to a lot of shame. Which doesn’t need to exist because we only know what we’ve been modeled.

The collective mantra is “Why don’t you just leave?” We don’t understand that people can’t just leave what they know.

Our relationships are the spaces in which we heal.

They’re also the spaces where our original wounding took place. If we were not seen, heard, and allow to authentically express, we become wounded. For many of us, this is beyond our awareness.

We carry this unconscious wounding into adulthood.

Our minds are drawn like magnets to people who carry the same traits as those who wounded us.

With unresolved trauma, people who mirror or parents behavior activate our nervous system. We confuse this with lust and strong attraction. This is the compulsion to repeat our past.

A deep subconscious desire to enter that relationship to finally find a secure attachment. To finally find a safe space. To resolve the past.

We can’t see red flags.

And if we can, we often override them with our wounded logic.

Our work is begin our own healing process. To become conscious to our own behaviors and patterns. Our work is to forgive ourselves for finding the familiar as we navigate what healthy relationships actually look like.

We are all unlearning.

What are you re-learning about relationships?

19/12/2019

According to this text (which is a must read) there are three types of attachment styles: anxious, avoidant and secure.
People with an anxious attachment style are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner’s ability to love them back.
People with an avoidant attachment style equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.
People with a secure attachment style feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.
We can also exhibit a combination of these attachment styles in relationships. For instance, we can be a combination of anxious and avoidant.
Share what you believe to be your attachment style in the comments!

17/12/2019

”that sees you, that seeds you.”
We love the musings of here at ❤️.