27/09/2023
Idle mind is the Devil’s workshop.
I have a friend, Ate-Atehan ko sa work. Here’s what she told me about marriage. She’s been married 20+ years. She’s a Filipina and her husband is an American. No kids. Very successful in life.
“Never compare your husband sa iba, continue to love him.”
“Sa time namin, Friendster pa uso, makikita ko mga posts ng friends ko is mga pinupuntahan nila ng partner nila ibat ibang lugar, I felt insecure kasi nalilibot ko na States dahil sa work ng husband ko pero di niya ko tinotour. Like nagpunta kami sa NY pero di man lang niya ko dinala sa Statue of Liberty. At my young mind back then, naiinis ako.”
“Little differences naming nag aaccummulate dahil lang sa pagsscroll scroll sa net. Until God told me to continue love him when I was in the verge questioning His plans for us.”
“Many years after, I took myself out of the country, di siya kasama kasi naintindihan ko na, na di talaga siya mahilig sa travel. Nakakapag enjoy ako kasama mga friends ko, family ko and even learned to enjoy my own company. Pero occasionally naman, nagttravel kami together, it’s just not like the way I want, and it’s okay. My husband let me understand na we are very different, but our love is strong. I’m just glad that I did not let petty things to come on our way.”
“If I stopped loving him bec of our little differences, I wouldn’t know that…”
1. “I can enjoy life with or without him. He let me be my own person and never tried to change me. I’m blessed that my husband gave me freedom of anything what I want to do. He let me serve the church, go out with my friends etc,”
2. “He understands my culture and he doesn’t mind me taking care of my family in the PH.”
3. “We blend each other perfectly. I am very soft, he’s strong. So, whenever I need to be strong, he’ll know exactly the words I need to hear; And when he needs to slow down, I am there to for him to decide very carefully.
4. “When the doctor said I will never have a child, he was there telling me, “It’s fine. We are already complete.”
“So just continue loving him, pray for him, lay hands mo siya habang tulog and you’ll eventually realize na thank God di mo siya sinukuan. Because no one is perfect, laging may makikita kang mali sa partner mo and makakafeel ng insecurity. But may mga good things naman siya kaya siya binigay ng Diyos sayo.”
“Never compare your husband.”
