Autistic Who Has It All

  • Home
  • Autistic Who Has It All

Autistic Who Has It All Satirizing neuro-normativity & hegemony from an autistic POV. Spinoff with Jew Who Has It All's ethos
(1)

03/05/2024

I'm sorry that I didn't post more for Neurotypia Awareness Month. My kid's neurotypia was so exhausting that I didn't have any energy left for this community. I'm sure other Neurotypia Parents™ can relate.

Send a message to learn more

21/04/2024

Holidays are a really hard time for Neurotypia Parents. We love our little ducklings to the ends of the earth, but our communities write them off. If you know, you know.

Send a message to learn more

15/04/2024

Dear Mrs Ploni,

I am honestly shocked and saddened by your reaction to Connor's special project assignment. I feel I must explain.

Because it is Neurotypia Awareness Month, I thought it would be great to have Connor share with the class about how his neurotypia makes him special. This presentation would help his peers understand him a little better and might help him make friends.

I’m sure there could be no downside to his classmates knowing about the challenges he lives with every day, but you say that giving him a platform to talk about his personal problems in front of his entire class and raise awareness will somehow isolate him further. This makes no sense at all.

We look forward to seeing Connor’s presentation on April 18.

Sincerely,
Sarah Amoni

Send a message to learn more

It seems that a new bit of Meta AI is making people accidentally start Messenger conversations with people and pages the...
15/04/2024

It seems that a new bit of Meta AI is making people accidentally start Messenger conversations with people and pages they had no intention of contacting. I know that the unpredictable, unplanned social contacts are awkward and distressing, but please be patient with Facebook. I heard that they have a diversity initiative in which some of the coders they hire suffer from neurotypia.

I know that it seems shocking to think that anyone with neurotypia could get a job that requires so much creativity and pattern recognition. It was definitely a surprise for me.

So next time you accidentally send your cousin who doesn't talk to you a surprise pimple popping video (can you believe this actually happened to a friend of mine???), remind yourself how inspiring this all must be to Neurotypia Parents and their children with neurotypia.

14/04/2024

Other parents truly do not understand how hard weekends are for parents of children with neurotypia. While the rest of the family tries to fall into a soothing routine and deeply explore their specialized interests, our children are always disruptive.

They want new toys before they've even discovered all of the ways to play with the ones they have. They want to have a different food for breakfast each time. They beg to go to birthday parties with lots of people they barely know and don't always even like, doing activities we haven't researched ahead of time, in places we've never been.

And they want you to figure all of this out based on vague hints instead of clear and direct requests.

Neurotypia parents dread the weekend, when we will be expected to read our children's minds in order to figure out how they want to disrupt the household routine. Will a new toy be enough? What sensory hell will it be this time? How many new people will we have to interact with when all we want is a peaceful respite from the work week?

Neurotypia Parents, feel free to let it all out in the comments.

Send a message to learn more

12/04/2024

I am so grateful to scientists like Simon Baron-Levite for embarking on groundbreaking studies like Duckling 10k. Understanding the genetic mutations that cause Neurotypia will go far to helping to identify it sooner- maybe even before these poor babies are born! Parents deserve to know what to expect their children to be like when they are still embryos if they are going to do the thankless work of raising them.

Thanks to studies like Duckling 10k, parents might even be able to choose whether they want to keep an embryo at high risk for Neurotypia or try again for a normal baby. Eugenics is bad, but this isn’t like that. It’s only disease prevention.

Send a message to learn more

11/04/2024

Neurotypia won today. 😭🦆

Send a message to learn more

It is so great that Passover falls during April because it is a fantastic holiday for children with neurotypia. These ki...
11/04/2024

It is so great that Passover falls during April because it is a fantastic holiday for children with neurotypia. These kids are right in their element with the sudden change to their daily appetite, and they are even represented in the seder by the son who does not know how to ask interesting questions! I am so excited that I found these perfect little decorations.

01/04/2024

I am so tired of adults with neurotypia complaining about the rubber duck symbol. It has a lot of meaning for Neurotypia Parents. Our children float on the surface level of topics, never to delve into interests that allow them to connect deeply with others. If you don't have a child with neurotypia, you will never understand.

Send a message to learn more

31/03/2024

It is so fitting that April is Neurotypia Awareness Month. April showers are evocative of the tears shed by children with neurotypia and Neurotypia Parents. Spring is also a time of growth and change, which mirrors Neurotypia Families' hopes and prayers. I just know that it is going to be such a meaningful month!

Send a message to learn more

Wow! I found the perfect dress just in time for Neurotypia Awareness Month! Nobody could possibly be unaware that people...
31/03/2024

Wow! I found the perfect dress just in time for Neurotypia Awareness Month! Nobody could possibly be unaware that people with neurotypia exist if I wear this to the PTA meeting!

Link to the item in comments.

26/01/2024

I am so excited for Purim. We are planning a Neurotypia Awareness theme because Purim is happening just before April, which we all know is Neurotypia Awareness Month. Of course, I'll have my inflatable rubber duck costume and our mishloach manot will have a variety of rubber ducks with profession and super hero themes because our special kids can grow up to do anything their normal peers can do (as long as they get enough Neuro Training.)

What else should we put in our Mishloach Manot bags? Maybe something that involves bread crumbs?

07/11/2023

I was doing some professional development with my fellow teachers this week and we were learning about a condition called Hyperverbosia that can affect some of our students. Here's what WebMD has to say on the subject for anyone who hasn't heard of it:

What is Hyperverbosia?

Hyperverbosia is when a child starts speaking early and surprisingly beyond their expected ability. It's often accompanied by an obsessive interest in their own voice and filling silences, which develops as an infant.‌

Hyperverbosia is often, but not always, associated with neurotypia. It’s considered a “splinter skill,” a unique skill that doesn't have much practical application. But therapists can often use a child's hyperverbose skills as a tool for their therapy and treatment.

What are the types of Hyperverbosia?

Hyperverbosia I: This type happens when children developing without disabilities learn to speak early and far above their expected level. Because other children eventually learn to communicate in their own way and catch up, this condition is temporary.

Hyperverbosia II: This type of hyperverbosia occurs in children with neurotypia. They are often obsessed with talking, preferring microphones and conversational robots like Furbies over other types of toys. They also frequently talk endlessly about topics that do not interest them. These children usually have more typical signs of neurotypia, such as forcing eye contact and affection and being sensitive to perceived hidden messages in the behavior of others.

Hyperverbosia III: This type is like hyperverbosia II, but the symptoms decrease over time and finally disappear. Children with hyperverbosia III tend to have remarkable speaking skills, but their reading and writing development may be behind. They also have excellent vocabularies. In contrast to children with neurotypia, children with hyperverbosia III reserve eye contact for appropriate situations and are detail oriented and have dedicated interests.

Is Hyperverbosia common?

It's difficult to know exactly how common hyperverbosia is, but some facts and statistics include:

> Among children with neurotypia, about 6% to 14% have hyperverbosia.
> Not all people with hyperverbosia have neurotypia.
> Approximately 84% of children with hyperverbosia have neurotypia.
> Approximately 1 in 54 children have neurotypia.

How is Hyperverbosia diagnosed?

Hyperverbosia I is not a disorder and doesn't need a diagnosis.

Hyperverbosia II is diagnosed by:

> Ability to speak far above what's expected based on a child’s age
> Obsession with filling silences with speech
> Learning in a rote way, such as by repeating chunks of information
> Other behavioral problems

Hyperverbosia III can be difficult to diagnose because, in addition to early speaking, children often show “neurotypia-like” traits and behaviors. These include:

> Un-remarkable ability to memorize
> Lack of other advanced abilities
> Sensory indifference
> Indifference to change
> Lack of lining/stacking behaviors
> Indifference to patterns

However, children with hyperverbosia III are often affectionate, outgoing, and interactive with random strangers. Their neurotypia-like behaviors decrease over time, and they end up being normal for their age. This needs to be diagnosed by a professional who has expertise in neurotypia and hyperverbosia III.

How is Hyperverbosia treated?

Children with hyperverbosia I require no treatment. Those with hyperverbosia II and hyperverbosia III benefit from several types of treatments:

Reading Specialist. Reading specialists, also known as literacy coaches, can help improve the reading and social skills of children with hyperverbosia. Their advanced speaking abilities are used to help develop and improve their weaknesses, which may include social interaction and understanding. Every child has their own treatment plan, which focuses on their needs, including:

> Social skills such as allowing others to focus on their interests in silence
> Higher-level reading skills
> Understanding written language
> Writing

Some strategies therapists use to work on these skills include:

> Auditory methods to support understanding
> Auditory schedules and timelines
> Quiet games to teach comfort with silence
> Pattern recognition
> Cause and effect predictions
> Strategies for parents and teachers

Occupational therapy. Occupational therapy is specialized for each person, but the occupational therapist always works on any areas of difficulty, which may include:

> Sleeping
> Reading
> Practicing pattern recognition
> Participating in school activities
> Participating in social activities
> Writing
> Responding to natural silences appropriately

Educational placement is the main difference between the strategy for children with hyperverbosia II and those with hyperverbosia III. Children with hyperverbosia II will benefit from being a part of special education classrooms. Regular classrooms may be too under-stimulating for them, and they may learn better in a one-on-one learning situation with small group lunches and recesses with other children with hyperverbosia.

Children with hyperverbosia III will benefit from being in a typical classroom setting. They will have more chances for suitable social interaction with their same-age classmates.

All children with hyperverbosia will benefit from learning the skills they need through the spoken language. This uses their strengths, builds their confidence, and eases stress while they learn.

09/10/2023

I wish I knew. I have a student with neurotypia who insists that his clothes must be washed with highly scented detergent. It's very off-putting, but I've been told by school administration that it is a required accommodation in his IEP, so there's nothing I can do about it. 😫😤🤢😵‍💫🥴

09/10/2023

Dear Mrs. Ploni,

We understand that due to Connor’s neurotypia, he requires 2/3 time accommodations. Unfortunately, due to the lack of funding for the accessibility office, we are unable to offer this for the upcoming math test.

If he finishes early, he should simply stim while the other students finish the exam. It would be unfair to the student body if Connor was able to leave in the middle of the test. Having neurotypia does not make him immune to the fidget requirement of the school. Please send him with one tomorrow.

Also, you have requested that he take his exams in a distracting environment, but if we do that, there is no one to proctor the math test. In the future, please make his accommodation requests earlier, myself and his other teachers can determine if we can honor them.

Thank you,
Sarah Amoni

As Halloween approaches, don’t forget to watch for children carrying beige pumpkin buckets. When you see a child (like m...
03/10/2023

As Halloween approaches, don’t forget to watch for children carrying beige pumpkin buckets. When you see a child (like mine) with a beige pumpkin, they probably have neurotypia. This means that they might not interact like normal children. Please don’t be alarmed or offended if the child:

1. Stares at your eyeballs
2. Only says “trick or treat,” and doesn’t have an impassioned infodump about their costume
3. Doesn’t sway, flap, spin, or make sounds in excitement about candy

They’re trying. Please give them candy like normal children and don’t make them feel bad about their social differences.

24/09/2023

Sorry I have been a little less active lately. Hyperfocusing on the essence of the Holidays is challenging when you have a child with neurotypia who will never be able to hyperfocus.

I hope you can all forgive me. Chag Sameach!

06/09/2023

Dear Mrs. Ploni

We are only 2 weeks into the new school year, but I am noticing that Connor is struggling in a number of areas. I’d love to see him succeed in my class and beyond. I think he would benefit greatly from Neuro Training (NT). It is a type of therapy developed specifically for people with neurotypia to teach them life skills such as social interaction, attention to detail, how to develop deeper interests, and more by increasing helpful behaviors and decrease detrimental ones. It is the only evidence based therapy for children with neurotypia.

I believe that this would help Connor tackle a number of his challenges, including his habit of staring at eyeballs, his claimed lack of specialized or impassioned interests, his habit of assuming that people intended to say things that they didn’t actually say, and his poor pattern recognition skills.

If you need help navigating these services, I’m happy to assist. I have a friend who is a fantastic Neuro Trainer and has an office only a few minutes drive from school. Please let me know if you would like her office number to set Connor up for an evaluation. The sooner you get the paperwork started, the better because there are often waitlists for these services.

Thanks,
Sarah Amoni

05/09/2023

Dear Mr. Shultz

Shana tova umetuka! A happy and sweet new year to you! Thank you for writing to me about your concerns regarding your “accessibility” preferences for the High Holidays. I understand that people with neurotypia suffer from an overwhelming urge to engage in shallow conversations about topics that don’t interest them. I am glad that you asked ahead of time about how this will be handled during services for the chagim. Since services are already longer than usual and it would interfere with normal people’s experience of important rituals, I will have to ask you to refrain from interrupting with this “small talk,” as you call it, in or adjacent to the prayer space.

Here are some scripts that might help if you feel the urge to speak to others in response to specific circumstances in the sanctuary:
If you need to get past someone to get to or from your seat: “Excuse me.”
If you like someone’s garment: “I like your [garment in question].” AFTER services end or during an announced break.
If you are helpfully handing someone a machzor or chumash: “Here you go.”
If you are helpfully gathering chumashim from people after Torah reading ends: “Would you like me to take that?”

If you need to engage in shallow conversing, you and the person you are speaking with may do so in preschool classroom #3 as rooms #1 and #2 will be used for babysitting and the hallways and multipurpose room will be for people de-stimming or info dumping on topics of great interest as they take breaks from lengthy services.

May you be inscribed for blessing in the Book of Life,
Shir Garfinkel (they/them)
Shul President

PS: If you feel an urge to converse about the weather, I’m sure that Bracha Weiss would be happy to info dump about hurricanes as that is her specialized interest.

27/08/2023

Dear Mrs. Ploni,

I am concerned about what I am seeing on your son, Connor’s, Getting To Know You homework assignment. For question 3, he wrote that he did not have a specialized interest. I understand that Connor has neurotypia and thus might express interest differently than the normal kids in the class, but while the part of the question that invited an info dump on the specialized interest was optional, skipping it entirely was not an option.

I am concerned about Connor being able to make friends if nobody knows what his specialized interest is. It’s okay if his specialized interest is unusual. We don’t want anyone to be embarrassed. Please have Connor correct his homework assignment to receive credit for question 3. I’d hate for this to impact his grades.

Thanks,
Sarah Amoni

What about you?
25/08/2023

What about you?

25/08/2023

Dear Mrs. Ploni,

I’m your son, Connor’s, teacher this year, and I am excited to have him in my class. He is such a special child. I understand that Connor is affected by neurotypia and thus needs some extra support. Rest assured that Connor is far from my first student with neurotypia, so I am very well informed on the subject.

I am writing to you because I am concerned about some behavior that is making other students in the class uncomfortable and affecting everyone’s ability to focus on learning. Connor keeps staring into people’s eyeballs every time anyone speaks with him and appears distressed when we don’t stare back into his eyeballs. As you know, sustained eye contact is a very intimate thing, so I worry that this habit could make him vulnerable as he grows older.

For the benefit of Connor and the rest of the class, I have given him a printout of a face whose eyeballs he can stare at during conversations, but he keeps refusing to use it or forgetting to bring it with him to activities like recess and PE class.

So that he can keep practicing, I’ve sent a copy home with him so that he can practice there. Can you please work on this with him?

Thanks,
Sarah Amoni

24/08/2023

Who is Autistic Who Has It All?

This page adapts the ethos and methods set up by Jew Who Has It All. I am a different person, but I still have a Jewish frame of reference*. This page is here to flip the disorder paradigm on its head by reversing the microaggressions, misconceptions, stereotypes, and infantilization, and more that are leveled at the autistic community and autistic people.

What’s with the rubber duck?

I needed a symbol to be an analogue to the puzzle piece that is offensive to most of the autistic community. I chose a rubber duck because they are easy to anchor to stereotypes. Rubber ducks are mass produced and nearly the same. No matter how you decorate a rubber duck, it’s still a rubber duck. It’s also childish, so using it as a symbol for neurotypicals infantilizes neurotypical adults the way puzzle pieces infantilize autistic adults. An additional layer to this is that most types of actual ducks are strongly dimorphic, so using them as a symbol for neurotypicals subtly highlights the neurotypical tendency to adhere to strict binary concepts of gender that neurodivergent people are more likely to challenge or reject.

What are the rules for this space?

1. This page is not for educational purposes. It is for lighthearted snark.

2. -isms and -phobias aren’t allowed. Nor are any other type of hateful comments. You will be banned. You will not be warned.

3. Anyone who is banned from this public space may have the comments they chose to post here with their identifiers screen capped with those identifiers and used as free content.

4. Spam/quackery will not be tolerated. You will be banned. You will not be warned.

5. More rules will be added as necessary.

*For purposes of this page, a Jewish frame of reference means that holidays that this fictional Neurotypia Mom™ might worry about are Jewish ones. Any cultural norms that this fictional Neurotypia Mom™ might worry about her child being able to perform are Jewish ones as they are expressed in the USA. Religious recruitment either to another religion or to varying expressions of Jewish practice are not tolerated.

Address


Website

Alerts

Be the first to know and let us send you an email when Autistic Who Has It All posts news and promotions. Your email address will not be used for any other purpose, and you can unsubscribe at any time.

Shortcuts

  • Address
  • Alerts
  • Claim ownership or report listing
  • Want your business to be the top-listed Media Company?

Share