Favvy's blog (2025)

25/08/2025

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She lay lazily on her bed, somewhat tired and desperately needing to simply stay still and do absolutely nothing.

She did not feel like tucking in the bedsheet she was lying on, she did not feel like standing up. She just remained there, exhausted. It was not that she had gone through a physically demanding day; in fact, the day had been rather calm.

Her eyes lingered on the blank notepad screen, and it stared right back at her, ignoring her silent plea. She was trying and failing at her attempt to will words into existence, to summon content onto that blank page.

It was not because she had nothing to write about. On the contrary, there were so many things she wanted to say but so little strength to put them down. She was exhausted, but not in the simple sense of the word. This was not just physical exhaustion.

She drifted in and out of consciousness, slipping into short naps and waking only to be met again with the blank notepad screen.

Truly, she was mentally worn out. But she would not voice it. Instead, she chose to write it, because once it was spoken, it becomes true, doesn’t it?

After wrestling with the weight of life, she finally sat up and wondered aloud, “Why is life hard? Was it always meant to be this exhausting? This draining? This much of a sport?”

And perhaps, somewhere, Dearest reader, you wonder the same too.

🖤.

23/08/2025

CHRONICLES OF LADY AVA: Perfect Day

> “It is absolute bu****it to have a really crappy day, and then something amazing happens at some point, and you pretend the whole day was perfect.”
~ Ava

Lady Ava believed that forgetting the messy parts of our day just because something good happened later isn’t just wrong — it’s self-delusion.

Do you ever have days where it feels like the universe is just against you?
Like… you stub your toe, wake up on the wrong side of the bed, lose your favorite pen, your barber ruins your hairline, the clothesline snaps and your freshly washed clothes end up covered in sand, you forget something important at home and have to double back, you misplace your last cash… and the list goes on.

Then, after all those unfortunate events, something epic happens. And boom, you suddenly call it “the best day of the year.”

Ava calls that “the height of hypocrisy.”

Dearest reader, but what do you think?
Do you agree with Ava, that one good thing doesn’t erase all the bad stuff that happened earlier?
Or do you believe that sometimes, one beautiful moment is enough to make a rough day feel worth it?

Let me know what you think in the comments below 👇🏽

🖤.

22/08/2025

Take a deep breathe.

When you’re pressured take a deep breath, and figure it out, one at a time" ~X

Who else sucks at working under pressure? Mehn, I dread it. But somehow, life keeps throwing me into tight corners and last-minute situations.

If there’s one thing I’ve learned from all my multiple last-minute shenanigans that often leave me tense, it’s simply this: take a deep breath.

When I feel overwhelmed or under pressure, I’ve learned to just pause, breathe, and relax. Because the thing about panicking is that it doesn’t solve the problem, instead it blocks you from seeing the way out.

Dearest reader, next time you find yourself drowning in pressure, remember this; pause, breathe, then take it one step at a time. You’ll find your strength in the calm.

🖤.

21/08/2025

BECOMING NOT BEHAVING.

"Until you become you should not behave" ~X

There's this thing we try to do where we want to behave our way into what we want. For instance, growing up I wanted to be a model, so I would practice how they walk. And like every time I fancied a thing or a role, I would jump on trying to physically behave like I saw it.

But the thing is, nothing is ever as it physically presents. You can’t truly be something by behaving, but by becoming. Being, having, and doing all come from becoming.

Dearest reader, life is not first about appearance, it is about essence. To live the life you dream of, you must work on who you are becoming within. That is what will sustain the outward expressions. Otherwise, the act will always be empty.

So instead of rushing to behave, pause and build. Let the roots grow before the fruits show.

🖤.

18/08/2025

The Peace Dilemma

Take this scenario: you’ve been busy all day, barely had any moment to breathe and relax. It's finally the end of the day and, as the clock goes tick tock, you realize you still have a pile of tasks to go. But there’s this one task that’s so important but it requires you to be at peace to be done right.

Now, genuine peace equals completing every other task(That freeing yada that comes with not having much on your plate) which would take time, time you don’t have, because it ought to be done before nightfall.

What do you do then?

Do you complete the pending tasks and end up not doing the important task?
Or do you do the important task despite the pending tasks and not meet the required standard because you’re not in a state of peace or rest?

Which do you think is the better option? Let me know in the comments.

PS: Mondays should be erased from the days of the week. Such a badass pain in the ass kind of day. Anyways, merry Monday.

If nobody told you today, you’re doing well for just the simple art of existing. In the words of one of my favourite poets, “Survival is a full time job.” carry on!

🖤.

17/08/2025

WHERE AM I STANDING?

"When you're on the right path, you need precautions. When you're on the wrong path, you need a prescription." ~ Mr. Pojo

So you see, it’s not just about what you want, it’s about the path you’re actually on.

Let’s break it down. Say I’m heading to Lagos, and someone else is also headed to Lagos. Now, imagine that I’m starting from Abuja, but they’re in Benin. Can we really be given the same set of directions?

We’re both aiming for the same destination, yes, but the routes we need to take will be completely different. Why? Because the path you’re on determines what you need at each moment.

Dearest reader, where you are per time defines the remedy, instruction, or adjustment you require. So pause and ask yourself: Where am I standing?

Only then can you seek what’s truly needed for your next step.

🖤.

15/08/2025

THE ENVIRONMENTAL FACTOR

"Your environment can be stronger than your intentions." — X

Behind every action is an intention, and the intention often carries more weight than the action itself. Most times, intention governs action. Yet, there are moments when our intentions and actions are not aligned.

Like the Apostle Paul said, "For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do, this I keep on doing."

It can be incredibly frustrating when our actions contradict our intentions. I want to do good, but I find myself drowning in a sea of bad. I feel it too, I’m sure you do sometimes.

Ever wondered why?

Well, my coach would say it's a situation where your head is disconnected from your heart. You say something, but you don’t really mean it. It’s like head knowledge versus heart knowledge. Head knowledge is just saying things without depth or conviction, while heart knowledge aligns your being with what you say.

There are several factors that make our actions and intentions incompatible, and one of them is environment. Our actions and inactions are often heavily influenced by our surroundings. Whether we like it or not, our environment is one of our greatest influences.

So, I may intend to do something meaningful, but growing up or living in an environment that doesn’t support that intent can easily sabotage it.

Dearest reader, it’s not just about having good intentions. You must also be mindful of the factors that can override those intentions. Maybe, just maybe, you’ll begin to understand why you often do the very things you didn’t intend to.

Don’t you think so?

🖤.

14/08/2025

DO YOU DOUBT?

"But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind."
~ James 1:6

I’ve learned that it’s indecisiveness that often brings a person to God in prayer—asking for something, yet doubting its possibility. It’s like someone speaking out of both sides of their mouth.

Growing up, I had this feeling that my father was superhuman, because whatever I brought to him, he’d readily provide a solution. Whether it was science assignments, debate topics, or even fees and bills, he always came through. I don’t think there was ever a time I doubted his ability to help, unless it was something he strongly disagreed with. That was the only time I’d feel scared.

Imagine coming to God with that same kind of audacity, believing without doubt that He’ll show up. Surely, He would. Don’t you think so?

Dearest reader, maybe the next time you come before God asking for anything, endeavor to have a little more confidence in Him. Stop fretting like a tornado blown whichever way the wind goes.

🖤.

13/08/2025

THE THING ABOUT EXPOSURE.

I never really realized how much being part of the protocol department in my church had shaped my personality — at least, not until I found myself in the middle of a completely disorganized crowd.

Recently, I attended a meeting, and honestly, I was baffled at the level of distraction and disturbance in the hall. Mehn, I was irritated. In my head, I kept thinking, "Where are the protocols sef?" (lol).

It made me pause and reflect on how the environments we’re constantly exposed to have a way of rubbing off on us without us even noticing.

Dearest reader, have you ever been in a situation where your own reaction shocked you? Something that once felt normal to you suddenly feels strange or even unacceptable? Like traveling, staying away for a while, and coming back only to realize you can no longer relate to certain things, all because of new levels of, exposure and enlightenment.

🖤.

12/08/2025

WOULD YOU CHOOSE YOU?

I’ve been watching this really wild series, YOU, where the main character is some kind of twisted psycho.

This guy? He would literally kill for the people he loves, no hesitation, no second thought. I even started calling him a serial killer in my head because, mehn, he does it too well. The way he cleans up and covers his tracks? Scary and impressive at the same time.

Now here’s the crazy part: all he ever wanted from his partners was understanding. He wanted them to believe that every terrible thing he did, every crime, every body he buried, was “for them.” To protect them. You know, yada yada, love excuses everything.

But of course, nobody ever got it. I mean, logically, who can really understand psychotic killing in the name of love?

Then plot twist, he finally meets his match. Someone just as capable. Someone who would kill for him. And suddenly, he’s horrified. Like, bro, what’s the problem? Isn’t this exactly what you’ve been giving out? Why is it different now that it’s coming back to you?

It made me think, sometimes, we hand out treatment, words, or attitudes we would never want to receive. Yet somehow, we expect life to hand us something gentler in return.

Same way I feel these two characters deserve each other, is the same way we all deserve the energy we give out.

Dearest reader, remember: Do unto others what you’d want them to do unto you. Before you speak, act, or decide, ask yourself, if the roles were reversed, would you be happy to receive this?

Would you choose a "you" ?

🖤.

11/08/2025

Fictional Men, Are You a Fictional Woman?

Lol...

My friend and I were talking about fictional men earlier today, joking about how they are everything — the real deal.

And after the whole conversation ended, the thought came to me: "You want a book boyfriend, right? Are you a book girlfriend?"
It was hilarious, the thought, but then again, it made me reflect on the qualities we want in others but do not possess ourselves.

You want a man who would burn the entire world for you? Would you burn the entire world for any man?

Now that I think of it, omor, I’m not so sure (chuckles). Burn which world? This one I did not create?

Dearest reader, let’s be real. Don’t ask of others what you cannot give, what you would not give, what is utterly far-fetched. Ensure you are requesting as much as you can give. Because at the end of the day, we all get what we deserve, right?

🖤.

10/08/2025

THE GIFT OF PEOPLE.

"The best gift you get from does older than you, is having a better perspective to how life works", X.

When I thank God for the gift of men, I thank God twice for the kind of adults I have in my space. For I'm no doubt blessed to have people who not just give me instructions, but rather a better perspective to life via their experiences.

Older people giving you insight on major things they've experienced, is everything priceless. Now, mind you, this isn't so you can religiously follow in their footsteps, and run from their missteps. Instead, it is that you take in all that data -- their failures, success, and everything in between, and make out your own lessons from it.

I hope you don't take for granted the privilege of having access to people who has gone before you. They don't necessarily have to be older in age, they could be older in experience, in skill, and in knowledge.

Dearest reader, in the words of Sir Isaac Newton, "If I have seen further than other men, it's because I stood in the shoulder of giants".

Access is a chance to grow exponentially, and, stand out. You must learn to embrace it, and redefine the raw data you're given.

🖤.

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