Aswani Magazine (2024)

23/10/2024

My landlord came over today unannounced right when I was about to My landlord came over today unannounced right when i was about to get in the shower so I put my rope on close it tight you couldn’t see anything to open the door so Could tell him the problem what was going on in the house you guys while I was explaining this problem my Guy friend whom I am dating showed up at my house I didn’t know he was coming.
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He was calling me, but my ringer on my phone was down so I didn’t hear the phone ringing while I was talking to my landlord and he seen me with my robe on as he was coming up the stairs. The landlord was leaving out. He got mad at me said he can’t do this no more don’t want me to make him look like a fool I really like him and I don’t want him to be mad at me and I need him to trust me. Can you guys tell me where I went wrong? And just to narrow things down you guys he’s basically mad because I didn’t answer the phone and I had a rob on?

11/10/2024

When he empties the dishwasher, he opens the cutlery drawer and throws all the knives, forks, spoons, and teaspoons in, whereas I sort each type into its own designated little area. It’s a job that takes me approximately 0.3 seconds longer and makes life easier every single time I need cutlery.
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One day, they’re going to find his lifeless body, neatly stabbed by knives, forks, spoons, and teaspoons in the correct order. No court in the land will convict me!!!

For balance, I need to add my own ‘sin’. I get in the car, put on my seatbelt, and then…. Check my phone is off, check my satnav, check I have the house keys, check my lipstick, and check my hair. Then I have a quick think to see if I’ve forgotten anything. If my husband is in the passenger seat, he’ll be rocking backward and forwards, stuffing his fist in his mouth and trying not to scream, ‘Just DRIVE!!!’ while contemplating shoving me out of the door, climbing into the driving seat, and making me walk.
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10/10/2024

Speaking truthfully about reality. Transgender ideology is not reality. I am not denying your humanity, I am simply stating that you are not the s*x of which you claim to be. You can not just become a woman by thinking, believing, and dressing up as a woman. You can get surgery, you can castrate your hormones, and you can legally change your name and identity. However, the chromosomes will remain the same. Men have XY, Females have XX.
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You have the right as a transgender person to get your surgery and change your identity, but two things come into play. You can not dictate to other people that they HAVE to accept the false truth that you are now the s*x of which you claim to be. In reality, you are not. The harsh truth is still the truth. If a 5-year-old boy comes up to me and says, “I’m Superman, and I can fly.”

Even though he might truly believe that he can fly reality is he can’t. Same thing with transgender people. If a man comes up to me and says “I am a woman.” Even if he truly believes it, it’s simply not true. Another example is if I was an EMT and I was responding to an emergency, a biological male said to me, “I’m having a miscarriage.” It’s impossible because he is biologically a male. Men can not get pregnant or have miscarriages. For all of humanity, boy meant boy, and girl meant girl. In conclusion, if changing your gender truly makes you happy, then go for it. I’m not gonna tell you how to live your life, but you can’t expect people and dictate to people that they have to believe in you and back up your false claim of gender. You can not magically change your gender. End of Discussion.
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28/09/2024

If you're interested in someone, start by saying “hi, how's it going? How's your day? You seem like a (mention a quality you've noticed, e.g., happy, calm, neat, friendly person).”
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Then, engage in a conversation by asking questions about their likes and dislikes. This will help you get to know them better and make a connection. , As you continue chatting, ask if they'd like to hang out sometime. Alternatively, you can express your feelings directly and ask if they'd like to get to know each other.

Remember, it's important to approach this with genuine interest in the person, without any ulterior motives. Just be yourself and have a friendly conversation.

26/09/2024

I had a tough time dealing with cheating, both as the one who cheated and as the one who got cheated on. I struggled with attachment and validation due to childhood abuse, which led me to seek validation through s*x in relationships. When I was cheated on, I found it hard to let go and often tried to save the relationship. I couldn't bring myself to end things, as I believed that people make mistakes and can get lost in emotions. My past experiences with abuse by a pastor made it hard for me to trust in traditional values and commitments. This led me to become anxious, needy, and codependent in my relationships. If I felt my partner might be cheating, I would start seeking validation elsewhere, which ultimately led me to cheat. This pattern of behavior left me feeling terrible, and even when I tried to make amends, the relationships still ended. I realized that I attract troubled individuals because of my issues, and each breakup felt like reliving the trauma of my childhood. However, I'm now working on resolving these issues.
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Before my last relationship ended, I noticed that I had become codependent over the past year. Despite my efforts to change, it was too late, and my partner ended up cheating on me multiple times. I also engaged in flirting and emotional connections with others, which I now realize is a form of cheating. Although I don't necessarily agree with the statement that emotional cheating is as harmful as physical cheating, I understand that it's still a breach of trust. My ex's infidelity made me question the nature of relationships and the importance of physical and emotional connections. I also realized that I tend to attract partners who resemble my troubled past, which complicates my relationships.

I've faced immense challenges from a young age, including childhood abuse and the loss of a sibling. These experiences left me feeling invalidated and pushed me to seek validation from others. I've struggled with feelings of being misunderstood and pushed away by those who truly cared for me. Looking back, I realize that I tried to fit in with the wrong crowd and distanced myself from genuine friends.

I've come to understand that my past experiences, maladaptive coping mechanisms, and unfulfilling relationships have contributed to my struggles with cheating. I also recognize that my most recent partners had personality disorders, which affected our relationships. I wish I had known about these issues before getting into relationships with them, but I only learned about them after the fact. I finally decided to end things with my most recent partner, who had a daughter with me. Despite wanting her to focus on co-parenting, our custody agreements are now in disarray.

25/09/2024

Life has been very interesting lately as I'm trying to make friends from all around the world, but there's a problem. Many of the foreigners I meet think that my country, Ghana, is a scam. I don't blame anyone because they have good reasons for saying that, and some of them aren't real foreigners.
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I think maybe I haven't met the right person to make friends with because I see a lot of black people married to white people in my country, and I don't see any problem with that.
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If any foreigners are interested in being friends with me, please just follow me and I will follow back. Then we can talk to see how it will work for us. Thanks.

24/09/2024

To be quite honest,

I would never give anyone the pleasure of speaking to me again or a response for that matter. The reason I say that is because of what you advised. This may be harsh but I’m going to be that friend and not candy coat reality for you.
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This person treated you like whatever day your trash day is. You’re an old toy that was broken and thrown away. The reason is that they ignored you for months and also moved on. Do you wanna know …I’ll tell you. Your ex and their other “fool,” I mean half, are having issues. But guess what? That toy is malfunctioning and needs new batteries. They are quite low. So tada 🎉 …
Dr. Love
The ex arises from the deepest darkest unknown. You know why because they are testing to see if you care, to see if you’re going to respond so you can be a bandaid 🩹. But just like a bandage 🩹 eventually, you rip it off and throw it away, right? Ahhh ha, now you’re understanding. Sorry to say they were just looking for a “ 🩹”. .. Do Yourself a favor don’t ever respond to someone who treats you like that and then all of a sudden knows how to talk again. That’s so fake and disgusting.
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Hopefully, this helped ❤️

22/09/2024

Listen up because I’m only going to say this once. Do you want to know how to forget someone you’ve been in love with for three years? First of all, let me tell you something straight: life is too short to be hung up on someone who isn’t part of your journey. There is a long time, yes, but the clock doesn't stop ticking because your heart is broken. You are not a robot; you’re a warrior. You have power within you. Your obsession with one person is making you less of what you ought to be – a force of nature. Let me be brutally honest: you need to start by understanding your h. Yre a king (or queen), destined for greatness, but the isolation of heartbreak is tarnishing your potential. You must seize control of your destiny.
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First, discipline. Think of every single day as a battlefield. Get out of your bed, hit the gym, or use Slay Fitness on the Slaylebrity VIP social network and build your empire. When you're busy creating something bigger than yourself, your mind won’t have time to dwell on the past. The future doesn’t belong to those who wade in nostalgia; it belongs to those who take action, right now!
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Second, mindset. Your brain is the most powerful weapon you have. Start feeding it with positive affirmations and empowering thoughts. Read books that elevate you, and immerse yourself in knowledge and wisdom that propels you forward. You're a powerhouse of potential; don’t let a mere emotional setback desert you in mediocrity.
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Third, build your circle. Surround yourself with winners, people who inspire, challenge, and elevate you. They won't let you wallow in the cesspool of depression. Instead, they'll lift your standards and show you that there is a world out there far grander and richer than you could ever imagine. You’ll find that your past heartbreak will become insignificant when compared to the grandeur of what lies ahead of you. If you have the means, level up to Slay Club World Concierge.
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Lastly, relentless tenacity. When you fall, you rise. When you break, you rebuild stronger. No one in this world can have power over you unless you allow them to. You are the master of your fate, the captain of your soul. Look the pain in the face and say, "You don’t own me." And mean it.
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Do you think the likes of Alexander the Great or Julius Caesar were moping around lamenting their lost loves? AbsNothey were out there conquering the world, and so should you. The process of forgetting isn’t simple, but understand this: each day, you’re not moving on from them, you’re moving on to a better version of yourself. Embrace the pain, letand it fuel your ambition. Use it as jet fuel for the rocket that takes you to heights you never dreamed possible.
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This is your time, your moment. The past is history, and your future is the greatest story yet to be written. And guess who’s holding the pen? YOU.

19/09/2024

Oh darling, you’ve gotta give it a go. (I’m entering my Edna Mode persona.)
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Like with all things, practice is key.
Dr. Love
You might well be a terrible kisser, who knows, certainly I don’t, and by the looks of it you don’t really know either. You got to give it a shot, be the one that takes charge with the lick locking and don’t wait for your boyfriend to kiss you, be confident.
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Once you’re confident, the next to realize is that you’re boyfriend isn’t going to leave you because you can properly, if anything he’ll help guide your lips in the right direction, he’ll do the work until you get the grasp of things. And in all honesty he isn’t thinking about what your lips are doing, he’s just think about his lips being on yours.
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You follow this advice and with time you’ll be a spectacular kisser.

13/09/2024

"Okay.
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Let me chime in here because a lot of these people don't know what they are talking about or they have done this to their friend and are validating themselves. You can't control anyone and your ex and friend can sleep with whoever they want since they are single. That is the hard truth in life, but if they cared about you and respected you they wouldn't have done it in the first place. I mean, over 7 billion people in this world, and they chose each other, lol.
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Let me tell you they knew that sleeping together would hurt you if you found out and decided that they didn't care. This fact should tell you that neither bbelongsin your life anymore. This is what you do… Hope for their happiness because emotions are real and validated and to have to see that or hear about it will only hurt you. says Aswani.. Do you deserve that? You don't have to be negative or cause a scene, but obviously, having s*x with each other was more important than your feelings, and if that's the case, I can only imagine what else you can't trust them with. There are friends and women/men out there who wouldn't do this to you. I promise. Go find them. You have seen their true colors and that is they don't care about your feelings. Doesn't make them evil people in general or incapable of any good, but it does show you your feelings come second to their lust and that isn't a true friend who is supposed to be all about moral support, emotional support, and if possible physical support (loan money or sleep on their couch). That's all you need to know.

Again, wish their relationship happiness, but don't make yourself suffer. You deserve better than that, and better people around you you who want to bring you up instead of bringing you down. It would hurt anyone to sleep with someone they once thought or currently love.

Another thing. I have been on both sides of the fence here. In high school, I was sleeping with my really good friend’s ex, and when he found out, he was completely crushed. I had never seen him cry before, and to be honest, I knew what I was doing before I hopped in that bed. I just didn’t care as long as I got mine at the end. I knew this would have to hurt him in some way which is why I would never tell him. He found out because she told him so she could hurt him, meaning she knew what she was doing, too. I wasn't a good friend to him. I know this because I wasn’t a good person in general when it came to my lust. Now, that girl is long gone because I didn’t care about her, but I miss all the days I would be yelling our favorite anime punchlines.

If I was the great man I want to be I would have declined. Seeing past my d*** and found someone else to horn around with, and trust me, there is no shortage of men she could have gone to either. I didn't realize my actions until…You guessed it. Until it happened to me years later. It hurt like no other because I loved her. Wish your friend and ex happiness, but do not show your friend this is okay behavior. There are consequences for our actions and I hope that their fling (for however long it lasted) was worth the friendship. If they grow old together, it was, Moison to people who care about your well-being. Not just physically, but emotionally too. Please don't normalize this like the rest of these posters have."

10/09/2024

This is a funny and messed up situation. Why do you allow it? What's so special about this ex that you allow this ex to dictate your life, even after the relationship is over. Something happened, and it broke your relationship. Your ex is still angry. I want to believe you apologized. Now, you go on and live your life, living and learning from experiences. And your ex should do the same. I don't get what this whole drama is about. You can either cut this ties off, and block ex from your life completely, or live your life stuck in this mess. Your choice.
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10/09/2024

I think it depends.
Dr. Love
While being in a relationship could be nice, there are some downsides. For one, you’d have to make sacrifices. Two, you may spend so much time with your partner that you can’t spend time with anyone else.

Also, teens are still young and have time to think about dating. You can still enjoy your life while you’re young. You can even take that time to learn and focus on yourself. However, teen dating could maybe even be a good thing. Dating will come eventually, so you can get experience and you’ll have an idea of what to expect and how to know who is the one. Also, you’d have someone to be there for you, take care of you, look out for you, etc.
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It depends from person to person, but if you wanna spend your teenage years with a partner, then you can.
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08/09/2024

If you are fighting alone... you should give it up. If you are fighting together, you keep at it.
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A relationship only works when both sides work at it. One-sided relationships are toxic and unhealthy. So, if he's already given up, this is not something you can do alone. You cannot fix your broken relationship by yourself. It is wrong to be made to feel like you have to do it by yourself.

Now. Here is where things get... unusual.
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Do you need to be having s*x? Do you need to tie your happiness to another person, instead of being responsible for it yourself? There isn't anything wrong with being alone. If the relationship ends, and you both go your separate ways... you don't have to wait for him to change his mind, and you don't have to jump right into another relationship. You don't have to hold a grudge against him if it is true that you both are at fault.

I'm not saying that it is likely he will come crawling back in a week. However, what if six months later, he does call because it took him that long to get everything straight in his head? You say you love him... at least you used to. If you don't love him, why drag this out a day more? But, if you do love him... what difference would six months make if he came back ready to make a new start of it with you?
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Be like water. Flow through your life. Work around obstacles, and wear down the rough spots in your life... ready to pour down in a torrent when necessary. That's Bruce Lee.

27/06/2024

I think it is fair to say that our hearts heal, but we tend to love with a limp from that moment on. Scars are scars, both physically as well as emotionally.
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Love is a tricky thing.
Aswani
For some people, a heartbreak can quickly make that love turn to hate, and that hatred helps shield them from the full brunt of the painful loss. This is a bad way to move on, and it can ruin a person with bitterness. But I've seen it all too often.

For others, placing someone else to love in their place helps them move through the pain and into life again. They move on with a little help. And then some of us understand all too clearly how much we loved a person, how much it hurt us to walk away (or be walked away from), and we will always feel a twinge of sadness for what might have been.
Dr. Love
We'll go on to love other people, and maybe love them even more than the one who is now gone, but like every relationship we will ever have with another human being on earth, it will be as unique as the two people in it, and thus something completely different than it was when we loved the one who is now gone.

06/05/2024

You can capture this body of mine, take away my freedom, and enslave me. You may even have the power to capture my soul and sentence me to the realm of eternal darkness. But my dreams you cannot touch. They are my will―the very essence of who I am. In them, I laugh. In them, I cry. In them I love. And in them.....I live. My dreams are untouchable and unceasing. ... Love those who hurt you the most, because they are probably the ones closest to you. They, too, are on a path, and just like you, they are learning to walk before they can fly. Imagine if everybody you hurt in life turned their backs on you. You would be playing a hell of a lot of solitaire. Love them no matter what 💖✨🍭
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