25/10/2022
Craving depth? 💫
Humans are social creatures–relationships that matter are water for the soul. 🪴
Without them, your roots will struggle to dig deeper, and you may not find nurture quite so easily.
The thing that can be easy to forget sometimes, is we are not simply jellyfish to be taken by the tide of what’s around us. 🌊
You don’t need to wait for the people you happen to go to class with, or happen to go to work with, to get more depth in your interactions.
If you crave more depth, you can be the depth. ⚡️
Oftentimes, those of us who care the most, or those who tend to be ambitious or big thinkers–can fail to see our role in things.
Exactly because you see so much around you, because you seek deeper depths, you can forget that you, too, can swim. And that when you do, usually others follow.
The point? Don’t wait for someone to show their true colors. Bring it out of them. Ask them about themselves. About their thoughts on a topic of interest to you. About things that matter–not just what they’re doing later.
Start in a class or in a shared office space. Or during a lunch hour. Sit with new people every other day. Get uncomfortable.
Especially if you’re afraid or nervous or uncomfortable doing so. Because, often, others will be shy as well. And then no one says anything. And then you end up here.
The truth is, people aren’t used to being honest. Not with themselves, not with others. They’re not used to thinking deeply about things. And those that are, like you, certainly aren’t used to sharing these thoughts out loud.
So if you’re craving it, you have to remember: you can always be the first. And you’ll have to, for this to work.
— An excerpt from our most recent Extremely Personal Advice column, where our founder responds to someone struggling to find deeper connections after an experience studying abroad.
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