02/04/2013
Don't Ignore Your children?
(Thats all I hear and read about) But on occasion I DO IGNORE MY CHILDREN!
All children have unpleasant behaviors (whining, tattling, screaming, tantrums, name calling, etc...). I am No expert on Anything and don't claim to be. But I am a Mother of 5 lovely children ages 22, 13, 10, 7, and 2. Plus I have 2 Perfect little twin angels christopher and Caleb that lives in Heaven. I am a GrandMother of 2 beautiful Princesses, ages 3 and 8 months. They ALL have what society now a Days call Unpleasant behavior, but I call it "just being a normal child". I was reading this article last night "don't Ignore your Children" I will admit that ignoring your child does not help to meet their needs. But for Example* This morning at 4:30 am when my husband Lewis left for work my son age 2 stood at the door screaming and trying to open the door so he could go with his dad. i ask him if he wanted to go back to bed and snuggle with his mommy(because I so wanted to go back to bed) he screamed louder, so I ask him if he wanted me to hold him and rock him--Screams louder, so i ask do you wanna watch mickey mouse(which usually Always works) but not this time, he decides to kick the door and scream louder...I walked away and IGNORED him, he was still standing there screaming at 5;30 am when his dad called and said he was at work. I know that when he is in the mist of a tantrum he is using the tools he has to try to get what he wants, NOT what he needs, All his needs are met. I don't assume his strong behavior makes him bad, He is anything but bad, He is 2(Almost in 8 days). He is sweet and cute and wonderful and funny And he is just a normal 2 year old!The article I was reading last night said that to ignore your child in Any situation was teaching your child to ignore their peers and this destroys communities. REALLY?
I can bet the author didn't have children. If I ignore my 2 year olds tantrums i can bet you I'm not destroying our/his community, HE'S 2! And I have learned the hard way that when they start throwing a tantrum Just Walk Away and Yes Ignore Them! I meet all my childrens needs, they get all the attention, love, food and everything else they need. Most of the time they just want things their way.
I was told (By a pregnant Girl that had No Children Yet) That while ignoring a child is ineffective for helping them to meet their needs, responding to the unpleasant behaviors without teaching pro-social skills fails to support a childs emotional learning. Well Thats Bull Crap!!!!! I told her to come talk to me about parenting after she has become a parent of lets say a 2 year old! She said if I wanted Quiet to go put on head phones..lol..(Really) Excuse Me, I'm the parent and I dont wear head phones And i don't mind loud, remember i have 5 children and 2 grandchildren and We Do loud really Well! I even have a sign on the wall that says so.
If you have a 2 year old, he has already started tantrums and he is going to continue to do so for sometime. my advice Keep Kool and Ignore Him. As long as his needs are met, he is fine.
And Please if you have bad Comments- Keep them to yourself. However i do value Everyones opinion and would like to hear how others get through Tantrums.
