26/08/2024
The wife responds.
Online in-laws, we should make this a side hustle. Abi, how you see am?
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"I'm responding to my husband, the man that said he picked me from the gutters & upgraded my life.
Pls pardon my long write up, i intend to be as detail as possible because I honestly, do not know the kind of man that i married,. I honestly regret ever knowing this man let alone marrying him. Before this man here met me, I wasn't doing bad for myself. I had just graduated. Out of 6 children, I'm the 3rd child after 2 elder brothers & among all of us, I'm actually the most brilliant in school. My parents are both retired primary school teachers whom live barely On pension. Due to this, they couldn't afford to sponsor all of us to university level, since I'm the most brilliant in the family, all resources were put on me to further my studies with the hope & aim that, once i graduate with good results, it'll definitely be easy for me to get a good job, so i can in turn assist or librate my family from poverty. Even my elder brothers will often do odd jobs so as to, assist my parents at home to sponsoring & pushing me through school.
Finally i graduated as one of the best student in my department. While applying for a job, i decided to assist my parents to sponsor my siblings so they could at least complete their secondary school education while wait until i, finally get a good job. So, i started roasting fish beside a snack bar, this man here used to come to that place almost every day with different women to drink & most often, will buy from me, that's how i got to know him. Well to cut the long story, they came a time, he was really persistent that i marry him, according to him he was only into a reckless lifestyle bcoz he couldn't fine a good woman that fits his description for a wife, he made me understand he was ready to quit living recklessly if i marry him. After so much pressure from him, i finally accepted to marry him. We didn't date for long as we, immidiately got married 2 months later
My husband stated in his writing here that, even though he married me a graduate, i wasn't exposed & my fashion sense was low" yes, it's true. Well, I grew up different, i never really had time for social life. All i was interested in was my books, even back in school, had just 1 friend, just like me. So my husband here came up with the idea that, even tho he wanted a woman that wasn't exposed, he'll like that i gain little exposure & at least change my fashion sense. So he started taking me out to social gatherings, buying cloths for me etc.. This went on for about 8 months. All this time i wasn't working. Though my fashion sense improved .
I stayed home not doing anything for more than a yr. I'll run to this man for every penny & even though, i was married to a rich man, i was totally unable to assist my family financially. Even when my dad got ill & needed an operation, i pleaded with this man to help my family but he told me that, he doesn't have money. Meanwhile he was spending recklessly & fornicating with other women, even to the extent of bringing them home . Sometimes he'll ask me to go to the guest room & not come out until he says so. I was helpless. Marriage they say is "for better & for worse", I kept, enduring all these things hoping it'll get better someday but rather, it was getting worse & in the process i even lose my dad due to lack of funds for for his operation..
It was at this point that i made up my mind to look for job no matter what, even if it means going back to my formal fish business. So, i went to see a friend of my husband's whom, always had pity on me bcoz he knew exactly what i was going through in my husband's house, he had even attempted severally to advise my husband to treat me better. I pleaded with him to talk to my husband so he could allow me work & he assured me not to worry promising to help me find a good job that matches my certificate. Behold 2 months later i finally got a well paid job at a certain bank. So my husband wasn't the one that got me this job as he claims in his esay. He only keeps attaching himself, saying it's bcoz of his connections that i got the job bcoz, the person in question that, actually got me the job was his best friend. The same friend, he hasn't been in good terms with up till date bcoz he helped me secure a job. When i had my first salary from this same job despite his disapproval..
When i had my first salary I handed it all to my husband, i actually did this just to show respect & also as peace offering, since he was still annoyed that, i went to ask help from his friend. At least, he was happy that evening & we even celebrated. 6 months later, on a weekend, my husband woke me up early & was asking me what I've bn doing with money that i haven't given him his own share of my salary. i was actually surprised, but i politely tried to make him understand that, i was assisting my mom, especially my siblings in sponsoring them to school since, i actually is the only one in the family doing well at the moment.
He got angry saying, he paid my dowry in full, that i now belong to him & as such, he has the right to take decisions as head of his family & for that, i have to start giving him 60% from my salary every month. Saying i have 2 elder brothers & i should tell them to assist the family. I couldn't believe i married such a man, who doesn't even care about my family & always regarding them as "l0w lives" I do not want to go into all details, but can you imagine that, even after accepting to be assisting my husband with 20% share of my salary he has kept insisting that, i give him 60% bcoz, according to him, it's his connections that got me the job in the first place & that, he wants to invest on some business projects. He keeps asking me what i need money for, according to his believe, women do not need money for anything apart from buy cloths, bags & shoes etc..
My husband's constant nagging was becoming t0xic & unbearable. so i decided to park out of his house, went bck to my parents. Hoping that he'll realize himself after a while & later come & ask for my forgiveness. But instead he keeps calling up family meetings & when it doesn't go in his favour, he'll insult everyone in the meeting including my family & leaves in anger, adding salt to injury he came to this platform to make a report about me asking that i be exposed bcoz he picked me from the gutters & I'm ungrateful. This's exactly how he reminds me everyday, no day passes by without this man informing me how, he picked me from the gutters & upgraded me with his money. pls people be sincere, tell me where i ever went wrong!😭
Franklin! This is it, I'm no longer interested in this marriage. I just realized, this so called marriage has been a sham from the onset. You keep accusing me of being barren. Haha!! You make me lsugh! All these while I've been acting dump, for your information, i saw the hospital report you forgot in your left hand pocket of the blue jeans, For your info, for over 8 months now, I've bern aware that, you're the cause of our childlessness but you kept insulting & accusing me for reasons best known to you. i decided to act dump waiting for you to come around. But I've waited in vain obviously you can't change. Franklin ! I'm 100% fed up & done!!"
Credit: Realmz
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Online in-laws, let's have it!
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