Here are 10 steps you can follow to communicate with your partners about including pleasure toys in your partner play:
🫦 Choose the Right Time
Find a comfortable setting where you both can have an uninterrupted conversation.
🫦 Be Honest and Open
Start by expressing your feelings and desires openly. You could say something like, “I’ve been thinking about ways we can enhance our intimacy, pleasure and connection.”
🫦 Share Your Reasons
Explain why you think pleasure toys could be a positive addition. Mention how they can enhance pleasure, add variety and improve your overall experience together.
🫦 Ask for Their Thoughts
Encourage your partner to share their feelings and thoughts on the topic. Ask open-ended questions like, “What do you think about the idea of using toys during our intimate moments?”
🫦 Be Reassuring
Make sure your partner knows that this suggestion isn’t about dissatisfaction but about exploring new ways to connect and enjoy each other.
🫦 Be patient
Give them time to process and think about it too, as you might have thought about this a lot longer than they have.
🫦 Start Slowly
Suggest starting with something simple and see how both of you feel. This can make the idea less intimidating and more approachable.
🫦 Respect Boundaries
Be prepared for any reaction and respect your partner’s comfort level. If they’re not ready or interested, acknowledge their feelings and let them know you appreciate their honesty. Explore other ways you might both get what you crave within both your comfort levels.
🫦 Offer to Explore Together
Suggest shopping for a toy together, either online or in-store, to find something that excites both of you. This can make the process more fun considering both of you.
🫦 Keep Communicating & checking in
After trying it out, have a follow-up conversation about how it felt and whether you both enjoyed the experience. Take it as a journey, be open minded without expectations.
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