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02/12/2023

The truth of the matter is people really don’t care about how much effort you put into something, they just like to see the final product

23/09/2023

Watu wenye wako gulf na nchi zingine na mnadate watu wako mbali, Habari ndio hiyo

21/09/2023

KEY POINTERS
Falling in love with a married man could make your life complicated.
Dating a married man means you are involved in an extramarital affair. Eventually, it makes you anxious and ignored.
Continuing the dating could cause collateral damage to his family, causing irreversible damage to the involved parties.
Although difficult, termination of unhealthy relationships is beneficial.

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13. He’s not looking for anything serious

The secret relationship clearly shows that his relationship with his wife is more important than the dalliance with you. He wants short-term emotional or physical gratification rather than true love from you

14. It is illegal
From a legal perspective, having a relationship with a married man or woman is illegal. While there may be no legal case against you, he will stand to lose his marriage, his property, and may even have to pay financial assistance depending on how his wife chooses to proceed with the case.

15. Even when you win, you lose

Assume your “best-case scenario” where he leaves his wife and starts dating you. Things will still be far from perfect. Whenever things go wrong between you or you have a serious fight, he will think of (or even openly mention) how his wife handled it better. If things between you two take a serious downturn, he will always regret cheating on his wife and ending a relationship with her over someone he is not very fond of now. This is because your relationship’s foundation is based on deceit and trickery

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11. There will be another “other girl” someday

Even if you get together with him after he breaks up with his wife, there is every chance he may be unfaithful to you. In another scenario, if you have a serious dispute with him, he may leave you and go back to his wife. And as you don’t have options immediately available, you will keep relying on him.

12. You will be an outcast

You may be able to keep the relationship under wraps from his wife. However, you may confide in someone, or someone might find out that you have a secret relationship. Friends, roommates, or even the landlord may get a whiff of the relationship and talk about it either openly or in hushed tones. You will always be held responsible for getting in the way of marriage and labeled a “homewrecker.” You will face scorn and ridicule from friends, family, and colleagues for entering into a relationship with a married man.

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9. You’re replaceable, and your relationship is temporary

No matter what promises he makes or what dreams you have about your relationship, it is temporary. You are replaceable. If your affair faces the risk of being exposed, he will be quick to end it. If he finds someone more interesting, he will replace you. If he spends some good time with his wife for a few weeks, he will ignore you and stop talking to you.

10. His marriage isn’t what he makes it sound like

He may use you to address some of his marriage problems. He may tell you his wife doesn’t love him, or is toxic, or has personality problems. Remember that you know only one side of the story. He may not be a good husband and may blame his wife for your sympathy. He may have many problems that you don’t see yet. Over time, you will inevitably see his part in his marital discord.

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7. You risk collateral damage to his family and children

Remember, when you are in a relationship with a married man, more than one person is bound to get hurt when your romance tumbles out of the closet. If the married man is a father, you will end up causing pain to his wife and children. Staying in touch or continuing to flirt with him will make it difficult for him to establish a proper relationship with his children.

8. A part of you is doing it for the thrill

No matter how much you care about this married man, you can’t deny that your relationship is a “forbidden love.” Part of the reason you are attracted to him, ironically, is because he is married. It means, at some level, your infatuation with him is because he’s married, not despite it. The pleasure you get from every rendezvous, every whispered call or every dark date and all the stolen moments are part of the game that makes you want to be with him. You might even derive some thrill when his wife gets some idea of what’s going on. While it may give you a sense of pleasure, remember that you are causing pain to someone else. And keep in mind that you will likely feel that pain firsthand when the tables turn and your beau does the same thing to you.

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5. You can never fully trust him

Trust is the cornerstone of any relationship or matrimony. However, if you are dating or are in a relationship with a married man, you can be sure that the man you are dating is a liar. Even the most significant gesture or phrase may seem empty to you because you know he has said it to at least another lady before. He has cheated on his wife, and thus, you can be sure that he will cheat on you too – if not now, eventually.

6. You will not be his priority

When he has a family and a legally married wife, you will never be his top priority. If he has to choose between you and his wife or children, he will always choose his family. If you need help, he will not give up everything to help you because he is trying to keep you a secret from his spouse. You will always be his second option, which can hurt your self-esteem.

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3. You’ll always be anxious

Having an entanglement with a married person is like sitting on a bomb waiting to explode. Diffuse it now, or it will blow up in your face. Simple gestures such as hugs or romantic texts can have severe consequences. The danger of your relationship getting exposed constantly lurks. This fear will keep both of you on your toes, and you will be unable to enjoy each other’s company in a tense-free environment.

4. Your relationship will never feel “right”

Having an involvement with a married man may give you momentary pleasure, but it will lead to complications. After the initial phase, the relationship will constantly be a source of regret or worry for you. Even in the best moments together, you will always be reminded that he is a married man. When he spends time with you, he may ignore calls or lie to his wife that he is attending a meeting or spending time with his friends. In any case, you will always feel like you’re doing something wrong. And in fact, you are doing something wrong.

21/09/2023

Dating A Married Man: 15 Things You Need To Know

If you are in a clandestine tryst with a married man, and if things have landed in tricky territory for everyone involved, here are some points you need to know.

1. YOU'RE NOT THE ONLY ONE
Common sense suggests that if someone you are dating is willing to violate the sacred marriage vow, he is most likely be two-timing you or having flings or affairs with multiple women without hesitations
2. THERE WILL BE ALOT WAITING

The natural tendency of any courtship is to move forward. If not, it will stagnate and fall apart. Under normal circumstances, you may set specific goals, such as moving in or traveling together or getting to know each other’s family. For obvious reasons, this is not feasible for married men. He will spend time with you according to his availability and not when you want to. You may have to wait a long time for him to devote his time to you. You may even have to wait for him to call or text you because his wife may be around or may get a sense of what’s happening between you two. If you are waiting for his nuptials to break up or waiting for him to leave his wife, you’d better give up now because he is unlikely to do so.

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Is It Okay To Date A Married Man?
No, dating a married man is never okay. Marriage is the penultimate form of a committed and loyal relationship, while a liaison with a married man is considered a social taboo. You will have to face emotional, legal, and financial issues and become “the other woman” in a married man’s life.

18/09/2023

Good morning everyone, have blessed day ahead and a blessed week 🙏🙏🙏

17/09/2023

15/09/2023

: Celebrating the unsung heroes of our community, our bar waitresses!

In a world that is often divided and filled with judgment, it is crucial to find ways to spread love and acceptance. One often overlooked group of individuals who deserve our support and recognition are bar waitresses. These hardworking women play a vital role in our society, yet they are often subjected to stigma and unfair treatment. It's time for us to embrace and celebrate the contributions of bar waitressesWhen we embrace diversity, we open ourselves up to new perspectives, ideas, and opportunities. We allow ourselves to grow and learn from others who may have different backgrounds and experiences. By spreading love and acceptance to bar waitresses, we are sending a powerful message of respect, acknowledging their worth, and recognizing the value they bring to our society
Moreover, when we embrace diversity and show love and acceptance to bar waitresses, In conclusion, embracing diversity and spreading love and acceptance to bar waitresses is not only vital for their well-being but is also an essential step towards building a society that celebrates and values each individual. Let us be the change we wish to see and create a world that is truly inclusive and accepting.we create a ripple effect. Others are inspired to do the same, fostering a culture of inclusivity and compassion. By celebrating these unsung heroes, we not only uplift them but also reinforce the importance of treating all individuals with kindness and respect.

15/09/2023

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