Emotional Freedom Counseling & Therapy Clinic

08/08/2024

30/07/2024

Don't allow one season to decide your entire life.

-Therapist

28/07/2024

THEY'RE JUDGING YOU because you KEEP STARTIN OVER🙏🏽

I'M CLAPPIN Because You NEVER GAVE UP .💯💪🫂

27/07/2024

In business there are no friends. Only Interest, whether bilateral or unilateral. And if you are lucky, you might come in contact with someone that likes you, and decide to make an exception for your benefit.

- Georgia Peterkin

22/07/2024

Our desires for one thing often blind us to the lack of the other. It's important that you do not put yourself in the position to accept what we refer to as "bare minimum."

It is true, that you may possess something that a person need, and they will do as much and say as much as is needed yo keep you in their claws.
You need to be valued, you need to be respected, you need to be appreciated, not only what you have to offer.





-Georgia Peterkin

22/07/2024

What I Tell Myself - Vol 1: Daily Emotional, Mental & Spiritual Motivations and Mantras

We all face challenges in life, whether you are rich, poor, high, low, black, white, successful, or unsuccessful. There are challenges of every kind. Emotional, mental, psychological, spiritual, financial, health, relational. Many of which are associated with childhood trauma and abuse. The autho...

22/07/2024

WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT KISSING

1. Kissing is not just meant for s*x

2. You can tell how your spouse feels about you through the kiss. Are you being kissed back?

3. Kisses are a good thermometer to gauge your spouse's emotions. If your spouse is emotionally not OK, it will reflect on the kiss

4. After talking about issues, kiss each other. Kissing helps to heal

5. Kissing is good for intimacy as it says what words can't

6. Kissing invites love making. If you want more love making, kiss more

7. If you want to be kissed, maintain good oral hygiene. Brush your teeth at least two times a day

8. If you want to be kissed, watch what you say and your tone. Lips that say hurtful things are not desirable

9. After lo******ng, before you black out and sleep, kiss your spouse. It shows affection and that you were not just after an or**sm

10. Randomly kiss your spouse. Surprise kisses are sweet

11. Relax when kissing. There is a difference between being passionate and being forceful

12. Flow with your spouse's rythmn. Get to learn if your spouse likes tongue kissing or not. Make it enjoyable

13. Gentlemen, the more a woman is kissed the more she feels wanted and desired. Kissing is part of the watering that makes her feel special

14. Learn to kiss more than the lips. Kiss your spouse's forehead, cheeks, closed eyes, back, arms, hips. It brings you two closer

15. As you explore your spouse's body with kisses, you will unearth secrets about your spouse's body that were unknown. The skin is your ticket

Credit: Dayan Masinde



My Desired Relationship And Marriage

20/07/2024

A WOMAN'S DILEMMA

Every time a woman gets hurt in a relationship, she gets a little more broken and wounded. She is left to pick up the pieces of her emotional, mental, spiritual, psychological and even financial life.

She becomes a little more hardened, which makes it more difficult for her to trust again, love again and believe again. Which translate into a hard challenge for the next man to love her. Each person she gets involved with romantically, her hopes and dreams are invested in him. She sees only him- sometimes overlooking red flags, because those green flags are what she's been longing for.
While it's easier for a man to jump into another relationship -even if it's a "rebound situationship", a woman will isolate herself from the dating arena, due to the fact that her trust and love reservoir reaches an all time low. This, for many women takes sometimes years to be replenished. And, by the time her trust and love reservoir is filled, she very well might not be interested in travelling that uncertain love road again.

Men: When a woman gives herself to you, know that she thought about whether or not you are worthy of that privilege, she trust you with her nakedness and vulnerability. She trust you with her heart- that you would take care of it... sometimes she even trust you with her children and finances- that means she's expecting you to handle all she's entrusted to you, with care.
When you don't, everything in her and for her breaks, and she's now left to put it all back together, yet, remain strong for all those who are still depending on her strength.

Women are strong, yet very fragile. Please handle with care.





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-Georgia Peterkin
Therapist

18/07/2024

One day, someone is going to come into your life who can't get enough of you.
This person will wake up every day excited to hear your voice and see your beautiful face.

They will make time out of their busy schedule just for you because you genuinely matter to them.

They will treat you with the love, tenderness, and respect that you've always longed for.

Someday, someone will come into your life and make every heartbreak, disappointment, and tear before them will all make perfect sense.

17/07/2024

The Unspoken Pain: A Message to Men

In a world where traditional masculinity often emphasizes strength and stoicism, men are often encouraged to keep their emotions hidden, even from those closest to them.

But the truth is, men feel pain too - physical, emotional, and mental. And it's essential to acknowledge that this pain matters.

To all the men reading this, know that your feelings are valid and deserving of recognition. It's okay to not be okay, and it's crucial to understand that seeking support is a sign of strength, not weakness.

By opening up and communicating your emotions effectively, you can foster deeper connections with your partner, friends, and family.

Effective communication is the key to building and maintaining strong relationships. By sharing your thoughts, feelings, and concerns with your partner, you can:

- Strengthen your bond and trust
- Work through challenges together
- Enhance emotional intimacy
- Create a safe space for growth and understanding

Remember, your pain matters, and your voice deserves to be heard. Don't hesitate to reach out for support when you need it.







Your Therapist

16/07/2024

Here are 10 practical lessons concerning relationship:

1. Understand Your Worth
Practical Lesson: Recognize your own value and don't settle for less than you deserve in any relationship. Self-respect is the foundation of healthy relationships.

2. Set Boundaries
Practical Lesson: Establish and maintain personal boundaries. It's essential to communicate your limits clearly to protect your emotional well-being.

3. Embrace Self-Love
Practical Lesson: Practice self-love and prioritize your own needs. Nurturing yourself is not selfish; it's necessary for a balanced and fulfilling life.

4. Learn from Heartbreak
Practical Lesson: Use the pain of heartbreak as a learning experience. Reflect on what went wrong and how you can grow from it.

5. Let Go of Toxicity
Practical Lesson: Identify and distance yourself from toxic relationships. Letting go of negative influences is crucial for your mental and emotional health.

6. Communicate Effectively
Practical Lesson: Open and honest communication is vital in any relationship. Express your feelings and listen actively to your partner.

7. Accept Impermanence
Practical Lesson: Understand that not all relationships are meant to last forever. Accepting this can help you move on and embrace new opportunities.

8. Seek Support
Practical Lesson: Don’t hesitate to seek support from friends, family, or a therapist. Sharing your feelings and getting advice can be incredibly healing.

9. Focus on Personal Growth
Practical Lesson: Use the end of a relationship as an opportunity for personal growth. Invest in yourself, pursue your interests, and develop new skills.

10. Forgive and Move Forward
Practical Lesson: Forgiveness is a powerful tool for healing. Forgive yourself and others to release any lingering negativity and move forward with a positive mindset.

These lessons from "To the Man I Loved Too Much" emphasize the importance of self-worth, communication, and personal growth in navigating relationships and healing from heartbreak.

15/07/2024

The attitude to mental disorders is very contradictory: fear, romanticism, disgust.

Russian culture is marked by a fine line between sanity, creativity, and madness, with many iconic classic writers like Lermontov, Gogol, Nekrasov, Tolstoy, Dostoevsky, Mayakovsky, and Yesenin exhibiting signs of instability. Despite their profound insights and intricate plots, they also struggled with depression, mood swings, addictions, and tragic endings, topics rarely discussed in school.

In reality, constant living in acute emotions is painful and can be a severe neurosis, bordering on psychosis. One possible diagnosis is borderline personality disorder.

Today, blogs often label individuals as dangerous "abusers" - men who shower their partners with affection only to exhibit erratic behavior, and women who vacillate between love and hate, leading to destructive outbursts.

But if you can discuss treatment or break up with partners, what do you do when it is your mom, dad, or beloved child?

Join us for a webinar on Borderline Personality Disorder with Alfried Laengle, an experienced Austrian psychotherapist, MD, PhD, and author of Existential Analysis.

Special guest - writer, blogger, author of children's books and cartoons Natalia Remish.

As Counselors and Psychologists we must understand:
- Signs and causes of borderline personality disorder

- Actions to take and what advice to give if clients are experiencing symptoms or supporting a loved one







-Georgia Peterkin

14/07/2024

Even if no one is kind to you, you must be kind to YOURSELF.

You have a responsibility to treat yourself kindly at all times.

Your Therapist
- Georgia Peterkin

13/07/2024

"MEN ARE VICTIMS TOO"

The image below is also Domestic violence.
We do not talk about it enough. But men are also victims of intimate partners violence.
The issue is that because of male ego, shame and societal fears, they dare not file a complaint against their female abusers.
Thoughts such as; "how would my friends look at me if I did? What would they say? They would laugh at me, they will not respect me anymore. Who would believe that a woman did this to me?" -are some of the thoughts that keep men from speaking up about their abuse.
Domestic violence does not discriminate it can happen to anyone of any gender at any time.

Psychological abuse, which is one of the most common forms of domestic violence experienced by men, usually targets his masculinity. Other types of abuse that are common for men are; verbal abuse, gaslighting, and threats.

It's time to change that narrative and make it safe for men to speak up about their abusive relationship as well.






-Georgia Peterkin

12/07/2024

"Check yourself. Sometimes you are the toxic person. Sometimes you are the mean, negative person, Sometimes you are the broken person, and the person with trust issues. Sometimes the problem is you. And that doesn't make you less worthy of love, respect and appreciation. it means, you must keep on growing. Keep on checking yourself. Keep on motivating yourself. Mistakes are opportunities. Look at them, own them, grow from them and move on to intentionally do better, be better. You're human, it's okay. But make sure to have that navel gaze and man in the mirror moment.

09/07/2024

THINGS THAT CAUSE REGRET AT OLD AGE

When younger, we make various choice's without the future in mind. Sometimes those choices bite us in our mid-life. These are some of the things one might regret when they're older.

1. Marrying the wrong person

When you're young, check your motives for marrying. Don't marry to copy your peers, or for social standing or out of pressure. Marry for love and companionship, marry the right person, marry your best friend. For if you marry the wrong person or for the wrong reasons, you will have to put up with that person the rest of your life. Things might get worse between you two; then depression, physical abuse, affairs, pain, shame, court cases, bitterness will define your mid-life years all because you chose the wrong one. Things will get worse when children are involved. Make the right choice of a spouse when you are young.

2. The opportunities you did not seize

When you are younger many doors will open, you will get many chances. Many young people let these opportunities go because of fear, laziness, or pride; yet well younger and with more energy is the best time to start a venture and a name for yourself. Some think the opportunities are too big for them. Take advantage of them or one day when you're older you will want to go back and grab those missed chances.

3. The bridges you burned

When we are younger, we care little for relationships, what most think about is getting money and moving up the ladder of success at all cost. Many use and trample on people to progress, they take relationships for granted, messing up bonds, sleeping with people for personal gain. But these bad actions will catch up with you ahead. When you will realize how empty life is without love and friends. When you will have success but no one around you or no one to trust you.

4.The child you aborted

You are a young lady, you get pregnant and you are scared. You take the aborting option quickly thinking of that moment then. But when you are much older, you will look back and wish you kept that baby. When you will be rich and successful you will wish that child you gave up on would be around to enjoy the fruits of your hard work. Being a single mother doesn't mean you can't make it in life or you can't find a man in future.

5. The child you rejected

Young man, you impregnated a woman, she told you she's pregnant with your child. You rejected her and the baby and ran. But years later when you're 50 something, you will wish you were responsible, you will wish you manned up and became a father to that child. You will see that child excel and become an adult but will have no claim to that grown child who you rejected from the beginning. You will regret being a Dead Beat Dad by choice

6. The marriage you destroyed

So you get married to your good fiance; the first months in marriage were good but shortly after, with your money and charm, you started having affairs. You became unfaithful. Your spouse begged you to stop, your children started hurting, your marriage was collapsing. One day when you are older, it will hit you how foolish you were to destroy the good marriage you had began to build for mere temporary thrills in affairs that did you no good. You will realize the damage you caused to your children and spouse.

7. The God you disowned

When you are much older you become wiser, God becomes more real as you see life in a more meaningful way. But don't wait to get older to start enjoying a relationship with God. Know God when you are young, build your future with God. Don't be a young rebel who runs back to God when age catches up.

8. The body you messed up

You have only one body to live with all your life. The ci******es, the alcohol you are abusing, the drugs you are taking, the unhealthy food you're consuming; all that will destroy you slowly. When you are 50 and lifestyle diseases catch up with you, you will wish you took care of your body when younger, that you exercised more; but now the damage is done.

9. The time you wasted

The time you are wasting when younger in worry, wrong relationships, laziness, being a couch potato, giving excuses and pursuing meaningless things; you will never get it back.

10. The dreams and talents you shelved

Are you talented when young; are there things you love to do and you are good at them? Nurture those talents, exploit them, don't give up even if you encounter set backs, don't give up on your dreams. If you give up, when you're older you will look at your peers who stuck to what they love and made it and think to yourself, "That could have been me". Pursue a career, study a course you love. Don't waste years of your life in a field that doesn't fulfill you.

11 The name you defamed

When you are older, a legacy is very important, the value of your name is crucial. You will ask yourself what is your reputation, what are you leaving behind? Your legacy is a sum total of your actions since youthful days. We write our biography by how we live life everyday. When you look back your path and you see the mud you threw at your own name, the shame you attracted and the little value you have added to the world; you will regret.

12. The wealth you threw away

Are you riding on good money during your productive years? Earning good money? Don't throw away that money in clubs, reckless living and wasteful shopping. Invest with that money, widen your revenue stream, make that money work for you and keep it safe to take care of you in your older years. Leave an inheritance for your loved ones so that you will never say "I wish I knew better"

13. The good love that got away

Is there that great person in your life loving you good? Don't push that person away, or else that person will walk out your life and you will never ever find someone that incredible and who connects with you all your life. It will torment you to grow older with thoughts of "What if I was still with that person?"

14 The parents you despised

When younger, it is easy to show contempt to your parents; what do your parent's know? They are old-fashioned, shady and small -minded. But your parents are still your parents whether you agree with them or not, whatever their style. Don't let your parent die or age separated from you, reconcile and make up. When you get older, you will realize why your parents wanted to be close to you. The older you get, the more you see the value.
Thanks for reading

To realize
The value of a sister or brother
Ask someone
Who doesn't have one.

To realize
The value of ten years:
Ask a newly
Divorced couple.

To realize
The value of four years:
Ask a graduate.

To realize
The value of one year:
Ask a student who
Has failed a final exam.

To realize
The value of nine months:
Ask a mother who gave birth to a stillborn.

To realize
The value of one month:
Ask a mother
Who has given birth to
A premature baby.

To realize
The value of one week:
Ask an editor of a weekly newspaper.

To realize
The value of one minute:
Ask a person
Who has missed the train, bus or plane.

To realize
The value of one second:
Ask a person
Who has survived an accident.

Time waits for no one.

Treasure every moment you have.

Sunshine Bae Skaiky 🤍

28/06/2024

WHY I DON’T REACT TO EVERYTHING.
I’m 'Slowly' Learning That I Don’t Have To React To 'Everything' That Bothers Me.
I’m slowly learning that I don’t have to hurt those who hurt me.
I’m slowly learning that maybe the 'ultimate' sign of maturity is walking away instead of getting even.
I’m slowly learning that the energy it takes to react to every bad thing that happens to me drains me and stops me from seeing the other good side of things in life.
I’m slowly learning that I’m not going to be everyone’s cup of tea and I won’t be able to get everyone to treat me the way I want to be treated 'and that’s okay.'
I’m slowly learning that trying so hard to ‘win’ Everyone is just a 'waste' of time and energy and it fills me with 'nothing' but emptiness.
I’m slowly learning that not reacting doesn’t mean I’m okay with things, it just means I’m choosing to 'rise' above it.
I’m choosing to take the 'lesson' it has served and learn from it I’m choosing to be 'the bigger' person.
I’m choosing my 'peace of mind' because that’s what I 'truly' need. I don’t need more drama. I don’t need people making me feel like I’m not good enough. I don’t need fights and arguments and 'fake' connections. I’m slowly learning that sometimes 'not' saying anything at all says everything.'
I’m slowly learning that reacting to things that upset me gives someone else power over 'my' emotions.
I can’t control what others do but i can control how i respond, how i handle it, how i perceive it and 'how much of it' i want to take personally. I’m slowly learning that most of the time, these situations say nothing about me and a lot about the other person.
I’m slowly learning that even if I react, it won’t change anything, it won’t make people suddenly love and respect me, it won’t magically change their minds.
Sometimes it’s better to just let things be, let people go, 'don’t' fight for closure, 'don’t' ask for explanations, 'don’t' chase answers and 'don’t' expect people to understand me.

26/06/2024

You never know what someone is going through behind closed doors.
Many are fighting just to be alive the next day. People are fighting to fall asleep, to get away from their thoughts, others are fighting not to fall asleep because they're not sure if they will wake up.
The pressure of life is holding so many captive. Seemingly happy and successful folks are silently dealing with hurt, rejection, peer pressure, they're fight to keep up appearance in society, or among who they frequent. The struggle to please everyone except themselves is wearisome. Guilt, shame of the past, abuse of all kinds, rejection and abandonment, low self-esteem, inability to conceive, self hate, broken promises, hopelessness, and fear of the unknown is the order of the day for many seemingly happy people.

They handle so much -yet still smiling, accommodating, helping, showing up, participating, functioning all while going undetected.
Why? Because of fear that no one will understand. They will be judged, they will be criticized, ridiculed and talked about. Even fear losing their job, position, children, relationship, friendship ect... and any of those things can very well be the only thread that they are holding on to as a life vest.

LET'S...

• Pay attention more
• Be compassionate
• Be empathetic
• Be patient
• Be kind
• Be respectful
• Be helpful
• Be loyal
• Be sincere
• Be understanding
• Be selfless
• Be reasonable
• Be trustworthy
• Be prayerful
Always remember that a little kindness, a friendly smile can make a huge difference in someone's day. You might prevent someone from taking his/her own life.

-Georgia Peterkin
Counselor/Therapist

26/06/2024

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20/06/2024

Ladies, if you are thinking about getting back into the dating scene, let me give you some advice. Whenever you meet somebody new, pay attention to behavioral patterns that they establish with you firsthand. Do take good notes of what he does consistently, and when he does it. This is not to clock him, but rather it is a tool to be used as accountability for consistency. For example, does he call or text you in the morning before he gets his day started? That is a pattern. Does he make time to reach out to you on his lunch break? That is a pattern. Does he make plans to see you during the week or weekend? That is also a pattern. Now things do come up, and the unexpected does happen, so that doesn't mean acting on impulse to a missed call, or delay in response to a message, but if you start to notice frequent inconsistencies in his behavior without justification, then that means that there is most likely someone else behind the scene that has captured most of his attention, and caused an obvious shift in his focus to be directed away from you. That is a break-in pattern, right? Red flag. If you bring this to his attention, yet he plays it off as if you are being needy or insecure, then you are probably dealing with a narcissistic person. They lack empathy and will find cunning, and clever ways to manipulate the situation to shift the blame on you. You know how you feel, but they will play the accusatory card without real facts, so trying to rationalize your point is pointless. It pays to pay attention, Queen.

06/06/2024

The wait is over! June 30th, 2024 grab your copy on Amazon, Barnes n Nobles and Ingram.

It's been a very very long journey trying to get this book out. But God guided me through it and I am forever grateful to Him.

This is a book for everyone, men women, and teenagers alike.