07/07/2023
I felt frustrated, angry and irritated when things happened has not met my expectation. I was looking for a utensil holder recently and bought one online recently, but when I received the holder, I felt that it is so ugly. At that point in time, I was having thoughts of why it is not what I expected when there are many positive reviews and high ratings, am I just being unlucky? The frustration was not pleasure and It does not only happens for an object, it can be interacting with people or an outcome of an event. Like I received several queries which I feel that anyone with logical thinking will be able to get it and I do not understand why they are not bothered to think deeper.
After much thought, I realised that everyone has their own ruler. This ruler is used to judge, measure, or set expectations of the things that one is going to interact with. The unit of the ruler is specific to the person and it is determined by experience, teaching, family and friend influence. I think it would be difficult to find two identical rulers even if two people went through the same things.
So I have to accept that everyone's expectation and perspective is different, and have constant communication to bring both to a common ground without any compromising of anyone's stand. If that could not be done, then just move on and accept that the time has not arisen.
There would be times when it is super irritating and I just do not want to communicate, I would just do whatever I have to vent my feeling out alone and decide what is the best next course of action.