22/04/2020
Spiritual awakening is not a special feeling, state, or experience. It is not a goal or destination, somewhere to reach in the future. As the Buddha was trying to tell us (though few actually listened), it is not a superhuman achievement or attainment. You donât have to travel to India to find it. It is not a special state of perfection reserved for the lucky or the privileged few. It is not an exclusive club. It is not an out-of-body experience, and it does not involve living in a cave, shutting off all your beautiful senses, detaching yourself from the realities of this modern world. It cannot be transmitted to you by a fancy bearded (or non-bearded) guru, nor can it be taken away or lost. You do not have to become anyoneâs disciple or follower or give away all your possessions. You do not have to join a cult. You do not have to follow anyone.
Rather, is a constant and ancient invitation â throughout every moment of your life â to trust and embrace yourself exactly as you are, in all your glorious imperfection. It is about being fully present and awake to each precious moment, coming out of the epic movie of past and future (âThe Story of Meâ) and showing up for life, knowing that even your feelings of non-acceptance are accepted here. It is about radically opening up to this extraordinary gift of existence, embracing both the pain and the joy of it, the bliss and the sorrow, the ecstasy and the overwhelm, the certainty and the doubt. Knowing that you are never separate from the Whole, never broken, never truly lost.
Here are some simple principles and pointers:
1. THERE IS NO DESTINATION; THERE IS ONLY NOW
There is only THIS; the present scene of the movie of your life. Come out of the epic story of time and space, past and future, regret and anticipation, and the seeking of different states and experiences, even the search for spiritual enlightenment. Relax your habitual focus on âwhatâs goneâ, âwhatâs not here yetâ â things you cannot possibly control from where you are. Come out of the story of âMy Lifeâ and allow yourself to be fascinated by what is alive, here, right now. Be curious about this alive dance of thoughts, sensations, feelings, and impulses that is happening where you are. Remember, Now is the only place from which true answers can eventually emerge. The present moment is your true home, prior to time and space. It is all there is; the calm in the midst of the storm.
2. THINKING AND RESISTANCE CREATE SUFFERING
Pain is not the real problem; the real problem is our thinking about pain, our resistance to it, our attempt to escape it and get to an (imaginary) future. The real problem begins when we start ruminating on our pain, our sadness, our fears, our anger; brooding over our discomforts, rewinding and fast-forwarding the movie of our lives! We chew on yesterdayâs and tomorrowâs sorrows, rather than directly exploring and experiencing todayâs experiences as they arrive. We add an unnecessary layer of rumination and resistance to life, and this creates suffering. The invitation? Come out of past and future, seeking and striving, and meet life in the raw, right now, without judgment, and without the expectation that âpeaceâ, ârelaxationâ, âenlightenmentâ or any kind of shift will result. Meet the moment on its own terms; see it all as a gift. Show up, for the pleasant and unpleasant, the pleasurable and the painful, without an agenda.
3. THOUGHTS AND SENSATIONS ARE NOT PERSONAL, AND NOT THE TRUTH
See thoughts and sensations as neutral and impersonal events in awareness. Just like sounds that we hear, thoughts and physical sensations arise and disappear spontaneously, like waves in the ocean of You. They cannot be controlled, deleted, or escaped. Cultivate the same gentle attitude towards thoughts and sensations as you already have towards sounds. Meet all thoughts and sensations with an attitude of kindness and curiosity. See them as welcome guests in your presence.
4. YOU ARE THE SPACE FOR THOUGHTS, NOT THE THINKER OF THEM
Thoughts are not you, and they are not reality; they are only suggestions, possibilities, rumors, propaganda, judgments, voices, images, rewinds and fast-forwards coming and going â clouds in the vast sky of you. Donât try to still, silence or stop, drop, delete or control them. Be the space for them, even if they are very active right now! Remember, if you notice thoughts if you are mindful of them, you are not trapped in them. They do not define you. You are the silent container, not the container. Be what you are â thoughtâs unchanging embrace, the vastness in which thoughts can come and go as they please.
5. BREATHE INTO YOUR DISCOMFORT AND PAIN; HONOUR IT
Breathe into uncomfortable sensations; give them dignity. Honor them rather than closing off to them, starving them of warmth. On the in-breath, imagine or feel your breath moving into the neglected and tender area, infusing it with life and love. Fill the uncomfortable area in your body with oxygen, warmth, and dignity. Donât try to âhealâ the sensations, or even âlet goâ of them. They want to be met, honored, included in the present scene. Assume that even discomfort holds intelligence; that itâs not âagainstâ you. Know that true joy is not the absence or opposite of sadness or pain, but the willingness to embrace it all.
6. ACCEPTANCE IS NOT SOMETHING YOU âDOâ, IT IS WHAT YOU ARE
Acceptance doesnât mean that an unpleasant thought or feeling will go away; it may stay awhile. Donât try to accept it (as this is often resistance in disguise) but acknowledge that it is ALREADY accepted, already here, already part of the scene. Treat it as if it perhaps will always be here! This removes the pressure of time (trying to make it go away, wondering why itâs âstill hereâ). It IS here, now. Bow before THIS reality. Be curious. And allow any urges, any feelings of frustration, boredom, disappointment or even despair, to come up too and be included. They are all part of the present scene, not blocks. Even a feeling of blockage is part of the scene!
7. THERE IS NO âALWAYSâ AND NO âNEVERâ
In reality, there is no âalwaysâ and no âneverâ. Be mindful of these words; they are lies, and can create a sense of urgency and powerlessness; they feed the story of seeking and lack. There is no ârest of my lifeâ, no âfor yearsâ, no âall day longâ. There is only Now, your only place of power. Sometimes even thinking about tomorrow is just too much work. Be here.
8. YOU CAN ONLY GET âTHEREâ BY BEING âHEREâ
Often we focus so much on the goal or destination that we forget the journey, disconnect from each precious step, and stress is created, the sense that we are âNot There Yetâ. Yet joy can only be found in the here and now and has nothing to do with goals, destinations, or getting what you want. Take the focus off the 10,000 steps to come, the 10,000 steps you have not yet trodden, the 10,000 things that are missing right now, and remember the present step, this ancient living ground, your own intimate presence. Breathe. Feel the life in your body. Often we donât know where we are headed, and thatâs perfectly okay. Befriend any uncertainty, doubt, trepidation that you feel; learn to love this sacred place of no answers. It is alive and creative and full of potential.
9. EMBRACE YOUR STUMBLING; IT IS PERFECT TOO
If you realize that youâre lost in a story, that youâre disconnected, that youâve forgotten the moment, celebrate! You have just woken up from a dream. A great intelligence is alive in you, a power to realize and connect. You have stepped out of millions of years of conditioning. Donât punish yourself for forgetting, but celebrate your ability to remember! The moment doesnât mind that you forgot it! Forgetting is a perfect scene in the movie. Allow yourself to forget, sometimes! Be humbled by the journey rather than trying to be âperfectâ. Doubt, disappointment, and disillusionment will be constant friends along this pathless path. There is no destination in presence, no image of âsuccessâ to live up to. You cannot go wrong when there is no image of ârightâ.
10. STOP COMPARING; YOU ARE LIFE ITSELF!
You are unique; your journey is wholly original. We may all be expressions of the very same ocean of consciousness, but at the same time, we are all unique expressions of that very ocean, totally unique in our wave-ness! Donât compare yourself to anyone else! When you start comparing, you devalue your own unique, irreplaceable gifts, talents and truths and disconnect from your unique present experience. Donât compare this moment with an image of how it could, should, or might have been. Healing is possible when you say YES to where you are now, even if itâs not where you dreamed you would be âby nowâ. Trust, and trust sometimes that you cannot trust. Perhaps even your inability to trust can be trusted here, and even the feeling that you cannot hold the moment is itself already being heldâŠ
