Three Dads over Coffee

14/02/2021

The three village idiots are back for a mesmerizing salon centered around a few main ideas:

- what's the best way to support our kids financially - both practically and educationally

- what are some ways to navigate through the tough feelings you have when you feel like emotional garbage?

It was a great chat where we uncovered some different points of view, new insights and as always, created time and space to make fun of each others packages.

06/02/2021

The three lamb shanks are back for another thrill ride to start off a Saturday morning.

- we start off talking sous-vide cooking. Scotty tells us how Southern Hillbillies do it (it's weird)

- then we get into death, mortality and how that looming inevitability influences are thinking and choices in the present

- plus there are the usual jokes about our junk It wouldn't be a Three Dads episode without them

30/01/2021

The three philosopher queens are back in full ornamental regalia for a deep (shallow) discussion.

This one is a winning childish dude jokes, snowmobiling stories and important philosophical principles to guide your thinking.

- We talk a lot about first principles thinking and why it's such a powerful tool in your life

- What is it? How does it help us challenge our assumptions?

- Bucking conventional wisdom

- Overcoming inertia charting your own direction.

This is a powerful framework you can incorporate into your life right now!

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23/01/2021

The three broken fence posts are back for a pretty deep discussion on some of the things we're dealing with:

- how different each of our kids are
- the challenges of online schooling
- our own limitations as parents
- aligning strengths and single parenting
- the importance and unpredictability of natural consequences

I'm not sure we came up with any great answers but it was therapeutic to say the least!

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16/01/2021

After a week away (because 2 of us slept in), the three intellectual giants are back!

You missed us...right?

- we chatted about COVID (sorry - we couldn't help it)

- then we moved on to talking about the importance of challenges and motivation

- somehow we ended up on how shi!!y Jay is as an accountability partner

- and we ended up on the power of a morning routine.

This is our solemn promise to you: your life will not be profoundly different as a result of listening to this.

But, you'll probably laugh and learn a thing or two that might be useful!

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24/12/2020

Something different for this episode!

I got the best Christmas present for my mom.

In the 80’s we spent 3 years living behind the iron curtain in communist Romania.

We were diplomats so our life was easy and blessed.

That experience was one of the most transformative of my life. It still informs my view of the world in a significant way.

- To see human suffering at that scale was unbelievable as people were basically locked in a prison the size of a country witnessing the cult of personality the state created around the dictator was akin to North Korea, although not quite as extreme

- To see how sclerotic the regime truly was was fascinating. The only thing that kept it in power was the idea that it was inevitable. Once people stopped believing that and starting rising up it all collapsed in week

- We were also there when Chernobyl exploded and saw how the state deliberately mislead its people about the dangers.

Since that time my mom has helped people from that region in so many completely selfless ways. She’s a saint.

Back in 1985 there was an edition of the Readers Digest with a big special feature called Escape from Russia on Foot.

It’s an absolutely remarkable story.

We had a tattered copy around our house when I was in high school for years.

One last point - my mom has poor eyesight and has been her entire life.

So...

After lots of digging I found a copy of that edition in good condition.

I’m also going to record myself reading it so she can re-listen to it whenever she wants.

And, I thought since I'm recording it, why not publish it as a podcast episode?

If you'd love to hear a thrilling story, nasally narrated, click the link in the comments!

21/12/2020

The three tortured, angsty hipsters return to delve deep on an interesting question posed by Scotty: What we talk to our wives about versus what we talk to our friends about.

Man, what emerged was a raw, honest and real conversation. And I think I'll leave it at that for now...

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21/11/2020

Strap in because the three spanish flies are back and setting off an explosion of "wisdom"

- we talk about Andy Storch 's new book and how he's gone all in on creating his dreams (check out the link in the comments)

- we also chat about how and why writing a book is such a great way to learn about a subject you care about

- we go deep on how to think and set boundaries and we try to prevent Scott from cutting people out of his life for being 3 minutes late

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15/11/2020

The three mimes are back for an interesting, albeit quiet episode.

- Scott talks about all the ways his body is falling apart since turning 50 a few weeks ago

- Uncover a mystery as old as time itself - why the hell do people walk with ski poles?

- We talk 'bout lurnin' and how wee git smrt.

- And lastly we talk about judging the f**k out of people and how to live and let live.

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31/10/2020

Hola! In this episode the three cuddle bearz get their man on in a big way.

- Jon regales us with his tale of what happens when a city boy ventures into the forest with a crossbow and bloodlust in his glowing eyes

- then we get into the idea of self-efficacy and how important it is for kids to be guided (and sometimes pushed) into developing new competencies

- lastly we wrap it up by riffing on cognitive dissonance and the ways we try to resolve it in our heads by justifying our actions

- oh yeah - then we talked about our un**es

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24/10/2020

The three banana hammocks are back for a brisk walk through the dark recesses of our souls.

- we open up with recap of Jon and Jay's 48 hour fasting experience

- then Scotty gets Zen as he recaps his 75Hard experience by dropping wisdom bomb after wisdom bomb

- lastly we get serious and talk about addiction from p**n to pot to food and the ways we beat ourselves up about our 'failings'

- As usual - nothing resolved but something learned and that's what it's all about

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22/10/2020

Alright ladies and jellybeans, we have another cracker for you this weekend from the tres padres!

We're going to tackle the topic of addiction in its many forms, including p**n! Addiction is something that effects us all, mostly directly so it should be an awesome discussion. We need to better understand what's behind this behaviour, how it comes into our lives and what we can do to keep it at bay.

We'll follow up on questions we've asked our kids and have a new one lined up.

Also, Jason & Jon have a bet this week; who can successfully complete a 48hr fast. The loser (Jason) needs to share a 3 minute long profession of adoration and adulation for the winner during our next podcast so I personally can't wait!

Tune in to find out what we come up with! Wherever you get your podcasts!

17/10/2020

The three gypsy moths are back for yet another discussion that went nothing like what we planned.

The idea was to talk about addiction and p**n - we'll save that for next week.

- Instead we talked about filling unmeet needs with material things

- Then we got into false dichotomies as a way to rationalize our own beliefs and behaviors.

- Jay talks about what it has been like to deal with quitting the 75Hard

- I'm sure there was some other s**t in there but I've already mentally blocked it out.

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10/10/2020

The three streetwalkers are back and on the prowl!

This episode started with a strange and awkward attempt to bust Jay's balls about failing on the 75Hard.

After that we get into some real issues that we're trying to navigate as dads.

Man it's great to have a couple of great friends to talk this stuff through with.

You'll recognize many of your own experiences in as we try to navigate ours and that's what this podcast is all about!

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01/10/2020

How hard do you push your kids?

How do you motivate them and hold them accountable?

The three California Girls are back with deep exploration of the most important issues of our time. Oh wait, that's some other podcast.

- We launch right in with a quick chat about the presidential debates before we - we had to stop when we all threw up in our mouths at the exact same moment.

- Then, because we're so current, we talked about an issue happening right in the moment, and how it can be tough to let our kids struggle and feel extreme discomfort.

- Lastly, we conducted a salon about kids, school and how and how hard to push them. I'm not sure we came to anything profound but it was a great discussion.

- lastly, we admired Jonny C's pre-camping beard. S.E.X.Y.

30/09/2020

Another great show coming up from we Three Dads!

This time we discuss something for the hell of it! In the world of seriousness and where things are so often purpose-driven, have we forgotten how to Play as adults? Can we be child-like? Perhaps it's an important element of adult life that is too often missed or forgotten.

Tune in to find out what we come up with! Wherever you get your podcasts!

26/09/2020

Our downloads keep climbing and we've somehow gotten some great reviews. Thank you!

The three tenors are back to plumb the depths of absurdity.

This one went off the rails right away:

- we talked about an unconventional way for Jon to keep the animals away while he;s camping next weekend.

- we, in the moment, invent a revolutionary leap in the personal pleasure device

- A decidedly lackluster 75Hard update as we crawl across the finish line

And we ended with a serious conversation about subjects we find it immensely challenging to talk to your kids about.

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23/09/2020

This week on Three Dads over Coffee we tackle a tough one:

With our kids, what issues trigger us?

What does that triggering look like? Do we get anxious, angry, sarcastic, or perhaps even avoid these topics altogether?

Is it a matter of not understanding what the child is saying or a deeper level of misunderstanding?

Is what they're saying not meeting our expectations or outcomes we desire for them?

What are these issues for you?

Tune in to find out, wherever you get your other favorite pods!

19/09/2020

It's happened yet again! The three public scratchers are back with another contribution to humanity!

Bold claim? Probably.

- We kick it off by Jay whining about being sick. No love was shown.

- Next up we talked about how tough it can be to ask for help and to receive compliments

- Illogically following that was a quick chat about the difference between recognition and appreciation. Check out Mike Robbins awesome Ted Talk on the subject

- After about 30 minutes we got to the main topic which was social media and our kids.

- We shared our experiences and beliefs and came up with some takeaways that might help you with your kids.

- The good news is the conversation prompted Jay to delete his Instagram account.

- Somewhere in there Scott opened up about wearing a speedo in public, even in the fall. I might not even be kidding.

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17/09/2020

Another cool/wierd/in-depth conversation coming out in the next few days! Find it wherever you listen to your podcasts. Of course, subscribing is the best way to make sure you don't miss it.

This week we will talk about our kids access to the internet and social media. To be sure, most kids are schooling primarily online these days. But beyond this, what is the impact of their personal or "free" time spend online? What are our concerns for their privacy? What can we do to facilitate a healthy approach to such tools in their lives?

12/09/2020

The Three Tourtieres (look it up you non-Canadians) are back with a vengeance! And bad gas.

What mysteries await you, our beloved listeners, today?

- We recap our 75Hard challenge and the fact that it's becoming a slog. Jonny is getting downright speedo-worthy from all his fasting

- JMack does a a superficial and completely non-valued added review of the Aftershokz Titanium bone conducting headphones

- We might have actually just come up with a brilliant new concept for a new microphone - you'll need to be the judge and jury

- And most importantly, Scott shares an incredibly powerful moment with his son and what it meant to him and what it means for dads.

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09/09/2020

Ok folks, we've got another great episode of Three Dads over Coffee coming out over the weekend.

This time we kick off what we call "The Best of Fatherhood." Not that everything we say isn't brilliant, but here we hope to distill a few of the best things we've learned and discovered about being dads so far.

And Jason is going to talk about some stuff too!

Tune in wherever you get your podcasts!

05/09/2020

This week, the 3 Horsemen of the Apocalypse are back for another stampede through the town of Incomprehension!

we update our challenge progress

we reflect on just how much closer we are than we think to making huge changes in our lives

Next up we tackle the idea of tearing down historical statues

Which leads to a great conversation around the idea that maybe the best way to teach our kids not to idolize people is help them stop idolizing us as parents.

We didn't know where this would go, and we're glad it went where it did!

30/08/2020

I (Jason) wanted to make this episode for a few reasons.

So many guys are afraid of seeing a therapist.

They think it makes them weak.

Or that they're broken.

Or that they can solve it on their own.

All elite level athletes have someone in their corner that has expertise they don't have.

Who help them see their blind spots and call them on their s**t.

I've been seeing a therapist.

I want to share the experience with you so you get some insight into what its like.

Maybe it will help you see how it could strengthen you as well.

29/08/2020

The three silverbacks (or maybe just hairy backs) return a focused exploration of our failures as fathers.

Ok, that's not quite right!

We have a great discussion about how to help your disinterested teenagers discover what they truly value.

None of us are sure how to do it and we all got some great ideas from one another!

And that's what having these conversations is all about!

And a QUIZ! What's a life hack to:

- peel paint
- get rid of any and all bugs in your house
- lubricate your eyes

You know you want to know! Listen and Scotty will show you the way!

27/08/2020

Folks, new episode coming out soon. We're going to start something new this week. A pre-determined topic! Holy cow, who ever thought it was possible for us to make a decision about what to discuss, and stick to it!

This week we're going to take a deeper dive into Values. Why do values matter? How can we, as fathers, help our teens and preteens discover their own values?

Regardless of what we discover, it will be a great conversation!

23/08/2020

I forgot to mention the most important thing we talked about on the podcast.

A debate about whether or not a hot dog is a sandwich.

What say you?

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22/08/2020

The three philosopher monks are back with and talking through some new ideas:

- First we riff on our 75 Hard updates (and Jon's 69 Day Challenge)

- Next up we go deep on the idea of sacrifice and how to flip it on it's head (we got the idea from a book about monks)

- After that, Scott is so intrigued, he commits to forsaking his ill-fitting dad jeans and wearing only a monastic habit (and a speedo for swimming) from this point forward.

This was a great chat that helped us start to solidify some interesting and important ideas!

16/08/2020

The three spectacular boxes of hair are back for an early morning debacle.

We can't stick to a script so here's what went down:

- We talk about focus and the importance of accountability and support in pushing farther, faster (we're killing our big ass goals!)

- We talk about how Jonny leaned hard into discomfort this week and knocked something important out of the park

- Then we talked about how, as dads, we think about teaching our kids in a way they are willing to hear.

There's a lot of actionable advice that applies to any dad wanted to take it to the next level!!

10/08/2020

The three meat bags are back with a different flavour this week!

Jonny C. is taking an entirely undeserved vacation and Scotty's friend Greg joined us.

We talk about photography, presence and helping people's light shine through.

We then move to Jay and Scott's 75 Hard Challenge adventure and what we're learning about ourselves.

And lastly, and most importantly we talk to Greg as a black lawyer in America about Black Lives Matter, racism and the role we can all play in creating a different present and future.

Thanks for joining us my friend. We loved our conversation!

01/08/2020

The three lovers come together for a deep dive on Scott's love life.

As soon as I finish writing this, I'm going to spiritually cleanse myself. It will take days and many tears.

Actually, before that, we talk about the 75 Hard challenge we're embarking on.

That should provide endless fodder for growth and mockery in the coming weeks.

We cover dating, authenticity just having fun and of course...Tinder.

In fact, Scott spent half the podcast swiping left as we chatted.

BTW - if you're a dad looking for a band of brothers that will

25/07/2020

The three boxes of hair go deep on this one.

We talk about self-compassion.

How beating ourselves up holds us back.

How screwed up the stories we tell ourselves about giving ourselves a break can be.

How self-compassion opens new doors.

And trying to figure out how the hell to incorporate more of it into our lives.

Oh...and Scott does the best outro yet!

And when I say best, I mean worst.

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18/07/2020

The three icemen are back for glacial, painful exploration of the dark recesses of our souls.

Scotty talks about his writing challenge and what's he's been noticing so far.

Jay does a somewhat pathetic book review of an amazing book he just finished.

And Jonny C pi**es and moans about his broken wrist for 75 minutes. Which is really saying something as the podcast is only an hour.

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11/07/2020

The three enchiladas are back together again - things are how they should be.

In this episode, JMack relays some of his counselling revelations to his captive audience.

Then we have a great conversation about meeting new people, talking to them and building relationships.

That leads to an interesting chat about how to think differently about "networking" which just feels gross.

And lastly - we set up our next episode! It's going to be great.

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05/07/2020

A little mixup today and the third horseman of the apocalypse is MIA. We missed you Scotty!

In this episode Jay and Jon talking fasting, failing at fasting, and failing at breaking our fasts.

It's an excellent synopsis of how to completely screw up fasting in all its forms.

To learn some stuff about fasting that might actually be useful, check the show notes on the podcast.

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03/07/2020

The three zombies are back for a wide ranging and sometimes painfully awkward discussion.

Jon and Jay throw down the gauntlet and make an intermittent fasting commitment.

Great shame will befall those who fail. And we have failed many times before.

Scott's nickname is now "Eggo" for how much he waffled.

Somehow tranquilizing elephants came up too.

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20/06/2020

20/06/2020

We can't always see the finish line from where you start.

That describes this conversation to a T.

We start with Scotty talking about setting some personal challenges and then end with The Big Brown Beaver.

Are those two things related to one another?

Listen & subscribe to find out!

Thanks for the laughs as always Scott and Jon

15/06/2020

The Three Muskateers are back for another rambling excursion through the dark recesses of our minds:

- JMack (I'm sorry for referring to myself in the third person) talks about a huge realization he had in counselling this week

- We then revisit our conversation from a few weeks ago about race. What are we learning and what are we doing?

- Then Scott walks us through how profoundly inept he is at driving his boat. Stay off the lake if you live in Georgia!

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08/06/2020

Episode 6 is now LIVE! Another wide-ranging, ill-informed discussion by the Three Amigos!

In this episode we talk about:

How we've talked to our kids about race, protests and riots
Changing the stories we tell ourselves
Imposter syndrome
When to keep pushing or change direction
The importance of who you surround yourself with.

And don't forget to listen all the way through to the big finish...you'll be sorry you did!

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