Social Intercourse Podcast

09/05/2022

OMG, y'all! FINALLY another episode of Social In*******se is in the queue to be released - this Wednesday join Sarah and writer, s*x tech nerd, and kink educator M. Christian for a conversation that spans kink, expectations, gender & orientation, s*x gadgets, and....well, life! If you subscribed, it'll appear like magic in your podcast app on Wednesday - if you haven't, keep an eye out here for the link

21/03/2022

If you caught our episode with Rachel Kramer Bussel - and you're a writer - this might be just the call for submissions that you're looking for!

I'm editing these 2023 erotica anthologies for Cleis Press, on couples erotica, s*xy strangers and temptation (for Best Women's Erotica of the Year Volume 9) and love working with new and returning authors! I've published over 700 authors in over 70 anthologies so far and welcome new voices so please spread the word! See links in comments for writing guidelines or visit my site. I highly recommend submitting your proofread, error-free, unique stories as early as possible as my tentative manuscript drafts are already filling up, but all submissions received by the deadlines will be considered.

09/03/2022

Episode 22 has dropped! We're talking with activist & cybersecurity expert Steve about the impact of laws on privacy, community connection, and freedom for LGBTQQIA+ folks - from Section 230 through the EARN IT act - without lots of tech jargon. Listen in at https://bit.ly/SIEpisode22 or subscribe to Social In*******se on your fave podcast app!

(image description: white quote bubble on black background, with a small image of a microphone. The quote reads: "We as q***r people need to make sure that we don't define ourselves by that oppression - that we need to take joy in who we are, and that is something that's getting lost more and more as we're under attack" and "-Steve, on our responses to legal & governmental
attack, Episode 22")

23/02/2022

Our new episode is live! Join Maile & Sarah in conversation with Jenée Arthur, host of Daughter Father Dance podcast for a deep conversation about navigating differences in belief and opinion in all our relationships. Available on your podcast app or at https://bit.ly/SIEpisode21

(Image of a phone on a black background; the phone shows a rainbow graphic with Social In*******se with Sarah Sloane in text and an image of a coffee cup, and the sub heading "Episode 21" and "Jenée Arthur" underneath. Accompanying text reads Social In*******se "Digging the Differences" with Jenée Arthur, host of Daughter Father Dance podcast. )

18/02/2022

ICYMI: Best Women's Erotica of the Year editor joined us for a sizzlingly fun episode of Social In*******se - if you've ever wondered what it's like on the writing & editing side of erotica, listen in! https://socialintercourse.libsyn.com/social-intercourse-hot-pockets-finding-space-for-erotica-with-rachel-kramer-bussel-episode-20 or go direct through your podcast app!

(Img description: cover of the book with title "Best Women's Erotica of the Year Volume 7" and an image of a feminine-presenting Black person with braided hair and pink lipstick, resting her head on her hand and looking towards the camera)

09/02/2022

Social In*******se is back with a bang! Join Sarah & Theo along with special guest Rachel Kramer Bussel - writer, educator, and erotica editor extraordinaire! Rachel shares what she's learned in her 20+ years of creating, editing, and consuming erotica, and talks about the ways that erotica can help us better understand our own s*xuality - and inspire our pleasure for decades to come!

Social In*******se is back with a bang! Join Sarah & Theo along with special guest Rachel Kramer Bussel - writer, educator, and erotica editor extraordinaire! Rachel shares what she's learned in her 20+ years of creating, editing, and consuming erotica, and talks about the ways that erotica can...

08/02/2022

We're coming back this Wednesday! Join the Social In*******se team for a schmexy-wexy conversation with the amazing Rachel Kramer Bussel, writer, teacher, and editor of 70 (!!) erotica anthologies! You can subscribe on your podcast service of choice, or go right to the source at https://socialintercourse.libsyn.com/

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04/01/2022

Her Royal Hedgehogness Nyx reminds you that this evening is our Patreon member's hangout! Join us at 7 PM Central for a chillaxing zoom hangout - link is on our Patreon page at patreon.com/socialintercourse (or DM us directly!)

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30/12/2021

We're hiatusing until later January 2022, but if you're one of our Patreon supporters, we have a special hang out scheduled for Jan 4 at 8 PM ET / 5 PM CT - visit our Patreon page for more details! https://www.patreon.com/socialintercourse

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01/12/2021

Heather Corinna, founder of Scarleteen and author of the new book "What Fresh Hell Is This? Perimenopause, Menopause, Other Indignities, and You", talks with Sarah & Theo about how important it is for us to have accurate, empowering, gender expansive information about "the change" in our most recent episode! Listen to their wisdom (and the hilarity that ensues when three people talk about s*xuality & life) at https://bit.ly/SIEpisode19 (and order their book at https://bit.ly/SIwhatfreshhell)

Image description: quote bubble on a black background that reads "We are the biggest perimenopausal and menopausal cohort in all history - Gen X'ers and Millenials are basically all in it at the same time!" -Heather Corinna, on the need for accurate, non-gendered peri- and menopausal information, Episode 19.

24/11/2021

Episode 19 features the inimitable Heather Corinna - s*x educator, activist, founder of Scarleteen, and writer of numerous books including the recent "What Fresh Hell Is This? : Perimenopause, Menopause, Other Indignities, and You". Heather discusses their experience navigating the pinkwashing of menopause, how gender experience is often not reflected in the current literature & conversation around mid-life, and their work in s*xuality education for people of all ages.

Theo and Sarah chat with author, activist, and all-around amazing person Heather Corinna about gender, peri-menopause, s*xuality education for young folks, and some of our most embarrassing moments! Heather's Website: Scarleteen:   What Fresh Hell Is This: Wait, What?: Isabella Rotman: Early to...

12/11/2021

Education isn't just for the top (or dominant) person in B**M encounters - bottoms / submissive folks need that information, too, in order to help them understand what they want and what's safe (or not). Our guest, AJ Renard, talks about the importance of education for all (as well as other mythbusting topics) in episode 18, available for download at https://bit.ly/SIEpisode18 or on your favorite podcast service.

(Image description: a white quote bubble on a yellow background that reads "And essentially, my motto was, if I don't understand what safe looks like, I can't spot what unsafe looks like." - AJ Renard, on the need for education for all people (regardless of role), Episode 18".)

10/11/2021

This episode of Social In*******se is all about busting B**M myths, with Maile, Sarah, Mr BLK, and our featured guest AJ Renard!

The Social In*******se crew joins together with Mr BLK and AJ Renard, a mental health practitioner & kinky person, to discuss the myths and realities of B**M! Whether you're new to "all this", just curious, or a lifelong member of the perverati, there's something intriguing for you in this episo...

01/11/2021

Our most recent episode of Social In*******se was a chill-out conversation with host Sarah Sloane, where she rambled about identifying as solo polyamorous, and connects the dots on some self- and relationship-care techniques - including creating sacred space in our lives. Listen in at https://bit.ly/SIEpisode17 or on your fave podcast app!

(IMG: quote bubble with the words "We separate ourselves from all of the hustle and bustle for just a little while, to give us a chance to come back to center to figure out what's really important here" - Sarah, on the need to create sacred space, episode 17)

27/10/2021

Episode 17 of Social In*******se is live - and it's a solo session from host Sarah Sloane! Sarah answers some questions about her perspective on the field of s*x education and her experience of solo polyamory - and talks about sacred time & space to nourish our souls.

This episode is a solo session with Sarah, where she touches on her thoughts about the changes in the field of s*xuality education, what "solo polyamory" is for her, and a little touch of inspiration about creating sacred space for us to deeply nourish ourselves. Heather Corinna's book on menopause:...

14/10/2021

Just released! Social In*******se focuses on compersion this episode - but what's ? It's the warm, fuzzy feelings that consensually non-monogamous folks get when seeing their partners happy with others - but it's so much more than that! Michelle Vaughan, PhD, discusses the academic work that's being done to understand and better support folks who engage in & other forms of - and shares what she's learned in her own research (and the creation of the first academic measure of compersion!). Listen in at https://bit.ly/SIEpisode16 or on your fave podcast service.

13/10/2021

This episode of Social In*******se dives deep into compersion - the warm fuzzy feelings that consensually non-monogamous folks get in response to a partner's other partners - with researcher Michelle Vaughan, PhD, who co-authored the first academic study to measure compersion! Join Sarah and her guest co-host, Mr BLK, as they talk with Michelle about the surprises that she and her colleagues found as they analyzed their study data, and why compersion deserves more attention from academic & therapeutic communities.

Michelle Vaughan, PhD, chats with Sarah and our special guest host, Mr BLK, about compersion! We talk about the COMPERSe scale - which is the first ever scholarly work to explore how people experience compersion in ethically non-monogamous relationships - and the misconceptions and challenges around...

29/09/2021

We’re so excited to have Blane and Lotus RopeWolf as our guests this episode! Among other topics, you’ll hear gems of wisdom about relationships - like this one, from Blane.
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29/09/2021

Our guests for Ep 15, Blane & Lotus RopeWolf, join us for a conversation about intimacy, rope, pleasure, liberation, and joy. From talking about spankings to discussing relationship challenges (and their newly formed throuple), these two amazing humans expand our ideas of what it means to work, play, and share a life with our beloveds.

We're honored to have Blane & Lotus RopeWolf, who share their life, love, and work, as our guests for Episode 15. They share their experiences in growing a relationship, their takes on the importance of authentic education & community building, and their explorations as two polyamorous q***r...

20/09/2021

In our most recent episode, Theo drops some truth bombs on how to approach that add joy and pleasure to our lives - including this bit of advice. "Break up early and often. If you're starting to date someone and it feels like work, and it feels like "I'm not getting the things that I want", you don't have to work at it - you can just stop." Listen to the episode at https://bit.ly/SIEp14 or on your favorite podcast apps!

15/09/2021

Our most recent episode got deep into talking about what each of us would like to change in the kink / ENM communities - and gatekeeping was a topic of discussion. Listen in at https://bit.ly/SIEp14 or your favorite podcast app!

(img description: quote bubble with the text "The more "requirements" that we put on whether somebody engages with kink community, the more limited that community is going to be." -Sarah, on gatekeeping in communities, Episode 14)

15/09/2021

Join the Social In*******se team for a mostly unfiltered Q&A where we dig into your questions about dating, politics, polyam & kink communities, charitable orgs, and more...all while enjoying our tasty adult beverages!

This episode gives our intrepid co-hosts a chance to sit back, have a tasty adult beverage, and answer questions from our listeners! We talk about dating, polyamory & kink communities, what (if any) political offices we'd run for, and what charities we support - and more! Samuel L. Jackson Mothe...

10/09/2021

It's not all about the technique - it's about understanding ourselves and those around us, and applying what we know to consensually benefit everyone involved. https://bit.ly/SIEp13

(img description: quote bubble that reads "I would reject the idea that knowing how to *do* an activity translates into the ability to do that activity in a way that is mutually pleasurable and consensual." - Sarah, on technique versus ability, episode 13)

07/09/2021

In our most recent episode, Megan Stories shared about the difficulties of talking to a partner about what she really wanted. Listen in at https://bit.ly/SIEp13 or on your favorite podcast app!

(Img description: quote bubble with the text "Why am I not willing to tell this person what I want? The reason was because her imagination was not big enough to imagine the things that she was not actually up for." - Megan Stories on communicating her needs to partners, Episode 13)

01/09/2021

Megan Stories, kink writer & informal educator, joins Theo and Sarah for a conversation about what we wish we'd known when we started exploring s*x & kink, how we came to terms with what our desires were, and how Megan is creating the community that she wishes she had when she came into s*x positive community.

Megan Stories joins the conversation this week with Sarah & Theo; we talk about Megan's writing and her path from feeling a disconnect in the kink community to creating a community that is mutually supportive of each other's creativity (and kink!). We also discuss some of the things that we wish...

31/08/2021

LISTENERS! This is your chance to ask questions of the Social In*******se Podcast team; on Thursday evening, Maile, Theo, and Sarah will be recording a podcast episode to answer your questions. Send us your questions by commenting here or DM'ing us, and we'll get to as many as we can!

(ps: we are not aware that we are cats. If we are, in fact, cats, please do not tell us.)

23/08/2021

A label (like q***r, or pan, or as*xual) is a great place to START the conversation about needs, wants, and desires; as Maile notes, each person's understanding of themselves is unique, so dig in & ask more questions

18/08/2021

Listen in on our latest episode with Kitty Hyatt
/ Revolution Kitty as she drops some knowledge and experience of navigating the world as an as*xual kinky person! Find it at https://bit.ly/SIEp12 or your fave podcast app

(Image of a quote bubble with the text "S*xual Freedom is fu***ng however you want, and NOT fu***ng however you want. It's about being able to choose." - Kitty Hyatt, on s*xual freedom, Episode 12

18/08/2021

Kitty Hyatt joins the Social In*******se team for a conversation about the value of labels, her experiences as an as*xual kinky person, and her hopes to create communities that help every person feel seen and understood!

Our guest, Kitty Hyatt, joins Maile & Sarah to share her experience as an as*xual, aromantic kinky person & educator; we touch on the myths & misconceptions around as*xuality, decoupling s*x from our expectations & ideas about kink & relationships, and ways that human beings can...

10/08/2021

Episode 11, with Darren Campbell, touched on how we can better understand - and live - our values. Listen in on your fave podcasting app, or at https://bit.ly/SocialIn*******sePod.

Image description: contains a quote bubble that has the text "Goals are the tangible things that we shoot for in order to better live our values" - Darren Campbell, on values in action, Episode 11. patreon.com/socialintercourse

04/08/2021

In our conversation with Darren Campbell, he advocates strongly that men and masc folks are responsible for their own emotional work to de-toxify masculinity - and should be calling upon others to do that work, as well. Curious how this can happen? Listen in to Episode 11 of Social In*******se Podcast! https://bit.ly/SocialIn*******sePod

(image contains the quote "I don't want to turn the improvement of men into another emotional labor project for people of other genders" - Darren Campbell, on creating a framework for men's empowerment, Episode 11)

04/08/2021

Episode 11 is where we break down what it means to de-toxify our ideas about being masculine! Darren Campbell, s*x & relationships educator and coach, joins Sarah & Theo for a candid conversation about transforming our relationships with masculinity - in ourselves, our partners, and our communities.

Our guest for this episode, Darren Campbell, chats with Theo and I about what a non-toxic vision of masculinity could look like, and ways that we can all detoxify our ideas about what it means to be a man - for all genders. Darren's Website: Darren on Twitter: Twitter: darren_infinity (NSFW) or darr...

03/08/2021

There are moments of sheer hilarity and occasional amusement in our conversations, but just as importantly, there are difficult points, too. Why? Because talking about things that aren't easy helps us learn & grow, feel seen and see others.

27/07/2021

Our conversation with alt relationship / alt s*x writer & educator Janet Hardy touched on ... wait for it ... writing! You can check it out in your fave podcast app, or at https://bit.ly/SocialIn*******sePod

(text: "If your'e a very good writer, then writing sucks. It's hard. It's lonely, and it's scary. And it's hard. And that's the nature of the beast." - Janet Hardy, on the reality of writing, Episode 10)

21/07/2021

"We evolve by making mistakes, seeing what the mistakes are trying to tell us, and integrating that into our world view."

This truth bomb courtesy of Janet Hardy, alt s*x & alt relationships writer and editor, during our conversation on Episode 10 of the podcast. Want to listen in? https://bit.ly/SocialIn*******sePod

21/07/2021

Join us for a conversation with Janet Hardy, noted author of The Ethical Slut and over a dozen other titles on alternative s*xuality & relationships, about her new project, "Slut and Sons". We also touch on her thoughts on parenting as a polyamorous, kinky person, as well as her experience with her father's death with dignity, and even the sometimes grueling process of writing a book.

Our tenth episode features Janet Hardy, acclaimed educator, publisher, and author of The Ethical Slut (and dozens of other titles). We talk about Janet's memoir project, "Slut and Sons", parenting as a kinky person, death with dignity, and how the communities (and our own interests) have changed ove...

07/07/2021

Sunny Megatron joins us for our new episode of Social In*******se that dropped today! Listen in wherever you download podcasts, or at our page https://bit.ly/SocialIn*******sePod **m

07/07/2021

Our new episode with Sunny Megatron is live! We talk about her new podcast, "Open Deeply", and how creating authentic vulnerability can help us feel more connected - and less alone - in our experiences.

In this episode, Sunny Megatron joins us to talk about her new podcast, Open Deeply, and how being authentically vulnerable helps us to feel supported, connected, and more whole. We also touch on s*xuality education, supporting other educators, and the ways the past year has changed us all. And as a...

04/07/2021

Congratulations to our winner, - thanks for listening and entering the giveaway, and we hope you love your new bubble wand from Crystal Delights!

29/06/2021

There's still time to enter!

You know you wanna win your very own Rainbow Bubble ***o from - all you have to do is DM us the code words from Episode 8 (released today!) by July 3 to enter! Download it on your favorite podcast app, or visit https://socialintercourse.libsyn.com