The Maiden Myth Podcast

20/06/2023

✨️The Maiden Myth is currently streaming on ABFF PLAY as an Official Selection of their inaugural podcast competition! 🎉

We submitted our first episode and it was selected out of hundreds of submissions. Honored is an understatement.

Thank you to the jurors of for this award - also to and for a wonderful festival.

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Visit ABFFplay.com to watch and enjoy the other podcasts, films, and panel discussions.

SEASON 1 is currently streaming on ALL podcast platforms (including YouTube).

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13/04/2023

It may not come from where you expected it to come from, but the love, attention, validation, and more that you seek is available to you - whether single or not.

❤️

09/03/2023

Myth 11: You're too independent.

Have you ever been told that you are too independent and that's why you're single? 😫
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To be independent doesn't mean you refuse help - that's denial. To be independent simply means you don't rely on help.

But it's that word "too" that carries the real weight of criticism in that myth. Without it, the phrase just sounds condescending but with it, the phrase becomes an accusation that implies your refusal of help has deemed you undesirable, problematic, or (ironically) unwanted.

I have never heard this phrase used to describe a single man.

Why? Because without independence you have limited free will (if any), and you lack self-governance. A man is encouraged to be as independent as possible submitting only to God - not even the government (2nd amendment).
The woman however is expected, encouraged, (or in some spaces) required to bend her will or to be obedient and this generally works beautifully when she is literally dependent. Stuck.

However, the longer a woman has been single, the more independent she will inevitably be - who else gon' pay these bills?! Alas, we've found our conundrum for the single woman who desires to fit the mold of a dutiful wife. How much og her independence must she release to let love in?

My argument is, little to none.
But I ain't got no man. Lol
I may not be the best one to convince you.

I could've used this episode to argue why there is still a need for women to be helpless or explain the beauty of interdependence but I'm saving that for another time. (It's gonna be good). I thought it would be cool to interview women who are the epitome of independent - or perhaps interdependent - but happily married. Today, we celebrate how this attribute co-exists in a couple of marriages and how many women (around the world) are changing the dynamics of their marital unions.

08/03/2023

"If we realise that God's Spirit is the guarantee for the success of work done for God, we shall escape the vulgar error of measuring the importance of things by their size...They say that the seeds of the 'big trees' of California are the smallest of all the conifers. I do not vouch for the truth of this statement, but God's work always begins with little seeds..."

-Alexander MacLaren
(One of my favorite theologians)

So what is it?
Entitlement? Shame? Impatience? Fear?

I've never sat with why small beginnings are not my jam. Rather than focus on the "why", I've decided to actively fight the thoughts that make me feel like the work is in vain, the harvest will never be big, and the moment to celebrate has not yet come.

Thank you Lord! I prayed for a vision and to be given something to say to edify women like me and you answered my prayer.

Thank you to my family and friends for supporting me and filling me with words of encouragement that were needed as I doubted if I was indeed qualified to speak.
(Note: Surround yourself with wise counsel - there is safety there)

Thank you to the listeners of this podcast. Without you, this is simply a glorified voice memo to myself. Thank you for your ears, hearts, and feedback. May we continue to build this community.

Episode 11 is available now.

15/02/2023

In honor of Valentine's (and Valentimes) Day, here's a sneak peek of the podcast discussion tomorrow.
Can you (truly) romance yourself? 🗣 Lmk in the comments!

I'm a firm believer you can and I think I make a pretty strong argument in tomorrow's podcast. Tune in and lmk if you agree. 😆

LINKS IN BIO. 💥

Until then...
Buy yourself some flowers.💐
Make a nice meal. 🍲
Watch a rom-com (or a horror film). 🎞
Feed yourself affirmations. 🙏🏾

or...

Remind someone how awesome they are.
Gift a stranger with a nice card. (Add some cash for extra care ❤️)
Share an encouraging word.

And remember... EVERY DAY is the 14th doggone it!

19/01/2023

Desperate or Picky: The two most common categories single women get thrown into by society. If she refuses to settle, she's picky. If she compromises, she's desperate. Today we are discussing if there is validity to this and where we believe we sit on the spectrum.

We have a special guest, Tryphena Wade, actress and writer (00:00). We begin by recapping Episode 3 (03:48) and explore our new standards now that we're older (09:00). Sophia shares the craziest thing she had on her "desired man" list (16:10) and how some things may not be standards but simply preferences (32:05). But if you don't know the difference does that make you too picky? (37:45) Maybe us singles (women and men) who desire a mate are just looking the wrong way? (41:58) We end with the infamous question, "Who should pick up the tab?" (51:10)

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Desperate or Picky: The two most common categories single women get thrown into by society. If she refuses to settle, she's picky. If she compromises, she's ...